never thought this would happen

[george123 100]

I am well not really sure what mind frame I am in. Have seen an SP here about 6 times now. I think that I am actually starting to fall for her, I want to see her again, but I feel that I am getting too attached to her. Has anyone ever had this issue? and if so how did you deal with it... lost.. that I am

[Guest i***k***]

I am well not really sure what mind frame I am in. Have seen an SP here about 6 times now. I think that I am actually starting to fall for her, I want to see her again, but I feel that I am getting too attached to her. Has anyone ever had this issue? and if so how did you deal with it... lost.. that I am

 

At first I would get pretty attached as well... If I were you I'd take a break and potentially see someone else. I don't mean stop seeing her completely just change it up a bit and slow things down. Remember the girls aren't here to be your significant other but to "pretend" to be your girlfriend.

 

Hope this helps.

[esoterica 624]

I am well not really sure what mind frame I am in. Have seen an SP here about 6 times now. I think that I am actually starting to fall for her, I want to see her again, but I feel that I am getting too attached to her. Has anyone ever had this issue? and if so how did you deal with it... lost.. that I am

 

It happens a lot. Very often. It's hormones - we were evolved to fall in love with people we are intimate with. Luckily, I fall in love a lot.

[Alexander1234 100]

Which SP, that lucky, let me see, pm me I wanna see her:-D

[george123 100]

I certainly do know that they are to "pretend" .. I have seen other SP's in the area, just the connection with this one I feel is strong.. she is obviously just really good at her job.. think I will get out of the hobby for awhile, and try to get my head straight.

[PistolPete 61421]

All I did was take a good 3 month break from seeing her(but saw other SP's during that time frame:lol:).

 

Have gone back to see her and you know what...it is mind over matter...feelings have gone. But good luck to you.;-)

 

 

I certainly do know that they are to "pretend" .. I have seen other SP's in the area, just the connection with this one I feel is strong.. she is obviously just really good at her job.. think I will get out of the hobby for awhile, and try to get my head straight.

[drlove 37204]

The important thing here is to keep things in perspective. While you may have a fantastic time with this lady, remember that at the end of the day, it is in fact, a business arrangement and not a personal relationship. Case in point; I have been a regular client of a few different escorts, some of whom I've become close to, and have considered as "friends". That is, we have exchanged personal info/names/experiences with one another, and some have even gone on to do special things for me such as take me out for lunch and spend (a bit) of free time with me.

 

However, while we may genuinely "like" one another, there is never any doubt in my mind as to the fundemental nature of the arrangement, which is the providing of a service with no strings attatched. While it is not impossible for true romantic feelings to develop between two people in such a situation, it is few and far between. I'm not saying this to burst your bubble; I just don't want to see you get hurt. If you really want to know how she feels about you, ask her to see you off the clock. You'll have your answer, and know where you stand either way. Good luck!

[Loki318 1631]

I saw one sp exclusively for a period of ...well many many years ,,,

Monday and Thur night every second week some even over nights went out to things dinner movies but never any where too open where we would meet her friends... took a couple of trips together even had a few "meetings" "off the clock" ...even at one time considering moveing, to be closer to her so could spend more time together...

I spent a lot of money on this girl and bought a lot of things for her cloths cell phone custom car work and more, then my finances took a down turn very suddenly and just as suddenly she became "busy" and didnt have time to see me as much !!!

It was 3 months or more;hadnt seen her at all we had been in touch by email and the occasional phone call ; I called and said I had some extra cash acain, and there was this pause and she asked how much I had and before I answered she quickly informed me that her overnight price and gone up! Well that told me exactly where I stood. I didnt see her that time and havent "seen" her sence but still keep in touch...

Maybe she will be my recouvery celibration HMMMM :)

 

Good luck with your situation my advice is talk to the girl it has been know to happen but I think you will find a break and play in the field is more what you need :)

 

Loki318

[Jay-423 100]

Thanks for your important reminder Loki!

They are wise words born from experience and reality. "All the world is a stage..." and we but play along happily with the wonderful presentations of some of these lovely ladies. It is hard sometimes not to fall for "the play". Isn't that what we came for in the first place? Isn't it fantacy that we want really?

[george123 100]

Thank you all for the responses. I am not 100% sure what I am going to do yet. Tempted to ask her out off the clock and see how that goes. This is in NB not too many providers here. May take a drive to Halifax some weekend to try to help shake the feelings.

 

 

Thanks for your important reminder Loki!

They are wise words born from experience and reality. "All the world is a stage..." and we but play along happily with the wonderful presentations of some of these lovely ladies. It is hard sometimes not to fall for "the play". Isn't that what we came for in the first place? Isn't it fantacy that we want really?

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[Guest f***2f***]

Yes...I had the same problem with falling for an sp...it's thrilling but I was kidding myself...

It's easy to do though with a sweet girl who's giving you sweet loving.

Explore the off the clock thing for sure...see some other sps too...this will be a good cure for you.

[Guest d*.y*s]

The donation to the SP affords us to have the GFE without the strings attached. Why mess that up?

[bladerunner 100]

Get a normal girlfriend, SP'S are SP'S Period, if you want a relationship do it the normal way not because your paying someone, man the East Coast is very different.

[Loki318 1631]

If she knows your feelings and you do ask off the clock she may say yes thinking that she will loose your income if she says no but watch out for the GF and SO type of expenses that come a short time later....

 

Sorry if I am coming off a bit cynical here I am just thinking back a few years and be leave me GF and SO type of expences Help or gifts or what ever they are called add up to a LOT more than your "regular donation"!

 

Man I didn't realise I was this bitter I think a Need a thearipist .....:bddog:

 

Loki318

[bladerunner 100]

Guys, what is wrong some pf you need to get a life, a SP is a SP you are paying for a service, then move on in bigger cities you don't even hear this kind of crap, go see a sp if you need one or get a girl friend or just make some friends its not hard, just some friendly advice, I will glad to move back to Quebec it can;t happen soon enough.

[Cara Silver 32412]

Well, I'm disappointed you guys think SPs are all shallow! This is our business but I personally am charmed by clients all the time. You guys are sweet and generous and we appreciate that so much. It's rare, but I do develop little crushes on some clients.

 

The problem is that it's impossible for me to see a client as anything but a client. It's extremely difficult to forget how you met a client and that your relationship revolves principally around money. The happiness we feel when we see you is genuine, because most clients are lovely, respectful, funny, and talented (tee hee). We love you guys as clients.

 

I've known many girls who have dated clients. It generally goes sour because the guy quickly becomes jealous and possessive. The client/SP connection that they once had is now intolerable when it comes to other clients. It can be pretty scary for us.

 

Just my two cents. It's best to be realistic about this. Hope this helps!

 

xoxo Amelia

[Emma Alexandra 123367]

Well, I'm disappointed you guys think SPs are all shallow! This is our business but I personally am charmed by clients all the time. You guys are sweet and generous and we appreciate that so much. It's rare, but I do develop little crushes on some clients.

 

The problem is that it's impossible for me to see a client as anything but a client. It's extremely difficult to forget how you met a client and that your relationship revolves principally around money. The happiness we feel when we see you is genuine, because most clients are lovely, respectful, funny, and talented (tee hee). We love you guys as clients.

 

I've known many girls who have dated clients. It generally goes sour because the guy quickly becomes jealous and possessive. The client/SP connection that they once had is now intolerable when it comes to other clients. It can be pretty scary for us.

 

Just my two cents. It's best to be realistic about this. Hope this helps!

 

xoxo Amelia

 

I agree with some of what Amelia says but not all. I have dated some gents and it was great...it does take a certain type for sure to deal with dating an Sp. You have to be very open and understanding.

The whole point is that i'm trying to make is that nothing is impossible and we are not all sour bitches that just want your money we have hearts too...hahaha

kisses,

Emma A

[sirsmitty69 391]

Well don't let the door hit you in the ass on the way out of NS.

 

The reason you see this here and not in"bigger markets" is because for the most part we like people around here. That goes for SPs as well. When you connect with a person and have fun its great. Once you start treating people like chattle, then you get the "big market" cold shoulder. Trust me, some of these ladies are fantastic people to know. Just remember to seperate your "vacation" time from you regular life. Its easy to fall in love with an SP because of how they make you feel. Don't mess it up by wanting to possess. Well thats my piece.

 

Guys, what is wrong some pf you need to get a life, a SP is a SP you are paying for a service, then move on in bigger cities you don't even hear this kind of crap, go see a sp if you need one or get a girl friend or just make some friends its not hard, just some friendly advice, I will glad to move back to Quebec it can;t happen soon enough.

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[Emma Alexandra 123367]

Get a normal girlfriend, SP'S are SP'S Period, if you want a relationship do it the normal way not because your paying someone, man the East Coast is very different.

 

Guys, what is wrong some pf you need to get a life, a SP is a SP you are paying for a service, then move on in bigger cities you don't even hear this kind of crap, go see a sp if you need one or get a girl friend or just make some friends its not hard, just some friendly advice, I will glad to move back to Quebec it can;t happen soon enough.

 

why are you on this board if you don't like us...? Very strange..i have to agree with sirsmitty on this one....don't let the door hit you on your way back ....funny i always had a thing for French men too...to bad.. off to my happy place now...lol

kisses,

Emma A

[Guest f***2f***]

The thing he doesn't seem to get is that most of us do have a life and a relationship. This is extra curricular and fantasy...and we love our sps cuz they make us feel good and treat us right.:mrgreen:

[Akhenaton 221]

I think sometimes it may be difficult to separate the fantasy GF from the sps "true" sentiments, but after all they are providing us with the "dream girl" type relationship we crave, so in that sense it's not to hard to imagine that the sp could also get wrapped up in it (acting a certain way may lead to the associated feelings...? not sure I am explaining this right...) so if you see an sp only once, well, it's often just a cool fantasy, but once you see them a few times, you can actually "escape" into the fanatsy, and actually "be" in the fanatsy, feelings and attitudes included. Does this mean its all artifical ? well my feelings are that if you connect with someone, be it an sp,mp, gf, f or so (even colleague for that matter) there will always be "an once of truth" to it, just enjoy it, respect it, and give it the place it deserves in your life... this hobby, like any hobby IS a part of your life, some folks live in their hobbies and only exist in their real lives, is that wrong ? I don't think so, so long as they are fiunctional when they need to be, and do not cause harm to others.

 

Maybe dating an sp can be hard (I personally have never dated an SP, simply because it never came about, not because I would be opposed), I dated a dancer once or twice, that was ok, the issues where not with the biz per se, more with the "night owl" aspect of their activity cycles, which comes with the turf I guess (I work during the day, they sleep, as I am getting ready for my evening, they are in their morning, when I go to sleep, they go to work...etc...) this is not any different then living with somebody who is doing shift work, or worse night shift and you are on the day shift.

 

my 2 cents.

[bladerunner 100]

A sp is a sp when you are paying someone to be a freind that is not real some of you here, let it be known they are here for the money for some of you who don't get that, its a job for them, they don't care about your feelings or being a friend , and some of you want them to be your girl frind, LOL Get A Life !!!! wake up smell the roses.

[Akhenaton 221]

Actually, I did get your point BR, I think I might not have explained mine right, however to each his own. As to having a life, that's what's nie about the fantasy life, we actually get to have two !!

 

Cheers.

[etasman2000 15994]

A sp is a sp when you are paying someone to be a freind that is not real some of you here, let it be known they are here for the money for some of you who don't get that, its a job for them, they don't care about your feelings or being a friend , and some of you want them to be your girl frind, LOL Get A Life !!!! wake up smell the roses.

 

dude!

 

this sentiment has been beaten to death on this forum either here on this thread or others.

 

SP are people. people have feelings. even if it is a 'job' we get attached to each other. it is normal to develop deeper feeling especially when you interact with someone on a regular basis be it an SP, a bus driver, mail man, or Joe the pizza delivery.

 

i have an SP on this forum whom i would call a friend and since she is female, a girl friend. i strongly suspect the feeling is mutual. and the irony is we-never-met nor has she received any monetary nor social benefits from me. in fact i suspect i benefited more from our relationship.

 

if all you are looking for is a 'meat puppet' [1] you would be better off investing in a Real Doll.

 

for the rest of us, we will take the rapids of emotions that come with being close to another human being.

 

 

[1] William Gibson's Neuromancer

 

[Mod: if i cross the line feel free to ban me!]

[Emma Alexandra 123367]

dude!

 

this sentiment has been beaten to death on this forum either here on this thread or others.

 

SP are people. people have feelings. even if it is a 'job' we get attached to each other. it is normal to develop deeper feeling especially when you interact with someone on a regular basis be it an SP, a bus driver, mail man, or Joe the pizza delivery.

 

i have an SP on this forum whom i would call a friend and since she is female, a girl friend. i strongly suspect the feeling is mutual. and the irony is we-never-met nor has she received any monetary nor social benefits from me. in fact i suspect i benefited more from our relationship.

 

if all you are looking for is a 'meat puppet' [1] you would be better off investing in a Real Doll.

 

for the rest of us, we will take the rapids of emotions that come with being close to another human being.

 

 

[1] William Gibson's Neuromancer

 

[Mod: if i cross the line feel free to ban me!]

 

your right Et...and you haven't crossed any line...we are people first ..mothers,sisters,gf's even wives for some....then being an sp is what we do to not only make our life better but to make other people's lives better as well...people who think otherwise shouldn't be on here really...but at least we get to know what others think of us and if they call you know what we'll say...."sorry i'm booked"

kisses,

Emma