Client Pictures

[mrrnice2 157005]

I had reason this morning to think about this question, in regards to protocol, best protocol, appropriateness, being appreciated, that sort of thing.

 

In the beginning of my Cerb days I began to do something that I still continue to do, and that is to communicate with an SP who I was planning to meet by PM's or email, quite substantially, well before a meeting. This gives me a sense of the person that I am going to meet, and I presume the same is true from her perspective. What I did do as well however, was to send a family type picture of myself, with the comment that it probably would be nice for her to have an image of who it was that would be showing up at the door.

 

The initial reactions I got were of surprise that I would do that, and then of appreciation, and indications that it is very rare that a client does that and that it was nice. I did however have one SP say when we met that she also really enjoys the anticipation of not knowing what a client looks like so that when she knocks on that door she has the same butterflies that I as a client have.

 

So, I am just wondering what others think. Would you as a client send a photo to an SP that you have made arrangements to meet with? Would you as an SP like to have that provided or would you prefer the surprise factor? I certainly have an opportunity to see what the SP looks like from her photos, so is it true that what is fair for one is fair for all?

[futileresistenz 28253]

I recently have thought about this, too. How it seems unfair that we as clients have a pretty good idea of who will be peeking out from behind that opened door when we meet, but that the lady is completely in the dark, I would venture to guess, most times. I brought it up to the lady on my last visit that I had intended to send one, and can't quite remember the response, only that it was one of a dismissive nature, something like "Oh, but that's not necessary."

 

I appreciate that most SPs are surprised each time on first dates, hopefully positively or at least not shocked too much and reeling backwards! :D ;) I can also see how they might even want to be surprised, hearts aflutter at who they are seeing. Can't wait to hear from the ladies (or gents) on this one!

 

P.S. To answer your question, mrrnice2, I have considered sending a photo, and would accommodate a request, if the lady indicated she might like to have the mystery lifted a little.

[mrgreen760 37785]

I have, only seemed fair to me.

 

Peace

MG

[Jhena Grey 25615]

Some guys have sent me pictures and I appreciate it. But I've never asked for one.

 

Gena

[Meg O'Ryan 266444]

I have received some pics in advance but like Gena, I have never asked for one. I must add that sending a pic of your junk is not endearing LOL

[LeeRichards 177238]

I would and I have a few times .... once the connection and level of trust is there....and with ladies I have every intention of meeting if the stars align.

 

I sent Meg a picture of my junk and she sent it back with a frown face and a mustache doodled on it ;) haha yup kidding

 

I also sent a picture to one lady of my pet moose that I keep freaking running into with my truck !!

[Guest S**a*Q]

Are you tired of all the penis pictures flooding your inbox???

Here's a surefire way to ensure that Mr. LookAtMyJunk won't being doing that ever again.

 

When your first penispic comes in, we'll call him Mr. A, there's not too much you can do. HOWEVER, this is the most important part as you MUST keep the photo. Tuck it away in some dark recess of your phone, but you will remember it's there.

 

*Days go by... or moments, who knows...*

 

Text message, oh goody! DUN DUN DUN. It's a penis. Thanks Mr. B. *sarcasm*

 

Go into the deep, dark recess to where you hid Mr. A's cockshot and use it. :D

Send Mr.B a photo of Mr. A's wonderful/sad cock.

 

You can also include a little note or something if you'd like, but sometimes photos speak louder than words. :D

 

*(You also now have the choice of two photos, one to keep and one to turf, or two to send onto the next idiot who thinks his junk is photo worthy...

and is delusional enough to think we really want to see a photo of their "normally just average" (if that) junk.)

 

Unless whoever sends you the photo, loves wang as much as we do, the cockshots should stop.

 

FIGHT FIRE WITH FIRE!

 

Advice by SMQ

[Athos 108589]

Generally I don't, but would if requested and I had made up my mind that I was definitely making a booking with the lady.

 

That sort of request certainly wouldn't prevent me from booking.

[smitty_McFlung 290]

That is an awesome idea...never thought of that, I would have no problem if a lady asks me to send a pic....and from Meg's comment...why the heck would a client send a pic of his junk?? lol

[fortunateone 156618]

OK, the voice of doom, but before thinking to send a pic, regardless of where the camera is pointing, is be fully confident that the only person with access to the sp's account is the sp herself. And then also keep in mind that email accounts can and have been hacked, for a variety of reasons. And not every sp is trustworthy with personal information, sad to say. So just be aware of her good reputation before you provide too much information.

 

I do not ask for a picture, and this is because how someone looks does not matter one bit to me. How they sound, how they treat me in conversation, and in person, that matters to me. Someone can send a picture of anyone's face (or dick), and it doesn't mean it is them. I have a healthy amount of paranoia or caution, and might see someone sending me pics as a flag of someone who is looking for a dating relationship or expects me to be overwhelmed by their hottedness and ask them to hang out with me for free.

 

If I was doing incall in a house, or meeting someone outside in public, however, a picture would be ideal and really a nice gesture of trust.

[roamingguy 300292]

Personally I'm a tad uncomfortable with posting a photo. By in large the ladies I've seen have character and integrity. But I have run into a couple ladies, who through emails seemed respectable, but had very little if any character and integrity in person. I'd hate for them to have a photo of me...once let lose on an email, or the web, it's there to stay

I do give the lady I'm to see a description of me, and as I've said before, I happily provide verification information. Now if a lady I've seen, and we have an established rapport asked for a picture, then I would consider it. Mind you why would any lady want a pic of my ugly mug LOL

My two cents

RG

[Athos 108589]

Personally I'm a tad uncomfortable with posting a photo. By in large the ladies I've seen have character and integrity. But I have run into a couple ladies, who through emails seemed respectable, but had very little if any character and integrity in person. I'd hate for them to have a photo of me...once let lose on an email, or the web, it's there to stay

I do give the lady I'm to see a description of me, and as I've said before, I happily provide verification information. Now if a lady I've seen, and we have an established rapport asked for a picture, then I would consider it. Mind you why would any lady want a pic of my ugly mug LOL

My two cents

RG

 

I agree with this .... In general, as I said, I'd be willing to do it, but only where I was very confident of the lady's professionalism and integrity.

 

Porthos

[SamanthaEvans 166766]

I've always been surprised when someone sends me a photograph of himself, but I'm happy to receive photos. I feel much more comfortable about it if we've exchanged some e-mail, maybe even talked on the phone, and then he sends the photo instead of the first time he contacts me. That seems like a statement of trust, to me.

 

As others have said, I don't really care what a man looks like. I wouldn't break a date on the basis of a photo of his head and shoulders or his whole body, fully clothed.

[Nicolette Vaughn 294340]

I think men sending pictures is very rare but I've had 2 or 3 people send them when they are intially building up a dialogue with me.

 

I don't have a preference either way and I certainly don't requre them it's just a surprise to me when I do get them. I personally prefer a bit of mystery but no south of the border shots please. They won't do you any favors because I'm not casting for a porn star actor. LOL.

[roamingguy 300292]

I should add something. Most (not all) ladies don't show photos of their faces for privacy reasons too. But you know something, part of the excitement and anticipation, at least for me, of the very first encounter, what does she look like. If everything appearance wise is known ahead of time, before the very first meeting, a lot of the mystery and excitement is gone, and that is part of what attracts me to this lifestyle

A morning rambling

RG

[spud271 47779]

I do tend to send out a picture through e-mail to the women I would like to meet. I find that the woman should know what I look like and hopefully by doing so will put them at ease for our first meeting. Much like mrnice2, I do prefer to communicate for some time before our first meeting. I just want to make sure that I am comfortable with the person I am about to meet.

[Secrets of Victoria 7208]

I have received pictures from a couple of gentlemen, and although not asked for, they are genuinely appreciated.

It does help when trying to identify someone in a very public crowded location to meet.

Usually, I just ask for a description of the gentlemen so that I may recognize them, that works.

Also I will wear something that will stand out in a crowd, such as a nice pin on my sweater/blouse/dress or bright colorful scarf, and will sit somewhere that I can be seen.

 

I am in full agreement with the other ladies, pictures of your junk will not impress me, nor will it help me recognize you unless you are prepared to show that upon entry to a crowded public place, lol.

After all, it's not how deep you can fish, it's how you can wiggle that worm that will get me to take the bait.

 

Pictures are not necessary, but appreciated when received if tasteful.

[backrubman 64800]

I do tend to send out a picture through e-mail to the women I would like to meet. I find that the woman should know what I look like and hopefully by doing so will put them at ease for our first meeting. Much like mrnice2, I do prefer to communicate for some time before our first meeting. I just want to make sure that I am comfortable with the person I am about to meet.

 

I agree but it also necessary to maintain a "balance" here. As much as we want to ensure the lady is compatible as I plan to spend 4 or 5 hours with her, and possibly a lot more on repeat visits we can't exchange seeming endless emails or take up a lot of the lady's time, that's why I am such a fan of the introductory luncheon and then sending along a "tasteful" picture is almost necessary to enable that to occur.

 

Anyone have any thoughts on restaurant meeting recognition protocols? I usually wear two different coloured lanyards which is unusual enough for them to be sure it is me and at the same time not unusual enough at all to be conspicuous.

 

I only found one lady I didn't get along very well with, and quite frankly I think she has problems with her own self esteem and I unintentionally intimated her not immediately or quickly enough realizing this.

[roamingguy 300292]

I agree but it also necessary to maintain a "balance" here. As much as we want to ensure the lady is compatible as I plan to spend 4 or 5 hours with her, and possibly a lot more on repeat visits we can't exchange seeming endless emails or take up a lot of the lady's time, that's why I am such a fan of the introductory luncheon and then sending along a "tasteful" picture is almost necessary to enable that to occur.

 

Anyone have any thoughts on restaurant meeting recognition protocols? I usually wear two different coloured lanyards which is unusual enough for them to be sure it is me and at the same time not unusual enough at all to be conspicuous.

 

I only found one lady I didn't get along very well with, and quite frankly I think she has problems with her own self esteem and I unintentionally intimated her not immediately or quickly enough realizing this.

 

For the restaurant meeting protocols couple ideas.

1) Reserve the table in your name, get there ahead of time, tell them a lady is coming to join you. When the lady arrives she can say she is with the "Smith" or "Jones" (you get the idea) reservation.

2) Get there ahead of time. Text her where you are in the restaurant

3) Wear something very distinctive and unique, that stands out

4) Put a gift bag on the table, maybe with a "happy birthday" card so the table stands out

Or a combination of the above

Some quick ideas

RG

[spud271 47779]

I agree but it also necessary to maintain a "balance" here. As much as we want to ensure the lady is compatible as I plan to spend 4 or 5 hours with her, and possibly a lot more on repeat visits we can't exchange seeming endless emails or take up a lot of the lady's time, that's why I am such a fan of the introductory luncheon and then sending along a "tasteful" picture is almost necessary to enable that to occur.

 

Anyone have any thoughts on restaurant meeting recognition protocols? I usually wear two different coloured lanyards which is unusual enough for them to be sure it is me and at the same time not unusual enough at all to be conspicuous.

 

I only found one lady I didn't get along very well with, and quite frankly I think she has problems with her own self esteem and I unintentionally intimated her not immediately or quickly enough realizing this.

 

This is easy to address, some of us really do not have time for lunches. In my case I don't have the time to do these things. Not that I would not like to, but, my work is the most important thing in my life. If a woman chooses not to communicate with me, then I do not spend time with them. Those who do communicate with me, have become close friends and we actually enjoy our time together. I find it very insulting your comment that I am wasting a SP's time by texting or e-mailing a lady who I have made a connection with.

[backrubman 64800]

I find it very insulting your comment that I am wasting a SP's time by texting or e-mailing a lady who I have made a connection with.

 

Ouch! Sorry you choose to find that insulting as my comment wasn't aimed directly at you and I only wanted to point out that some balance is necessary as many ladies have related experiences with endless e mailers that never do actually commit to a meeting. So while it was a general comment and not specifically aimed at you, I find my self thinking about apologizing specifically to you as you were "very" insulted and took offense, but no insult was intended so I choose not to. In fact my message started with the words "I agree", so I was specifically agreeing with what you had to say.

 

I am sorry you don't have time to socialize a bit over lunch, to me it is just as enjoyable and a necessary prelude to other activities you do seem to have time for.

[etasman2000 15994]

Since my picture has been use to scare young children into eating their spinach i rather avoid the whole picture thing.......

[castle 38816]

I haven't...but then I've never been asked. Honestly I'm not even sure if I would were I asked to. I'm one of the most non photogenic people you will ever meet. This isn't to say I look bad. What I see in the mirror isn't half bad at all but it's very rare that I see a good picture of myself. I'm very self conscious when it comes to photos (which might be why most photos of me are bad, unless I'm caught off guard lol). I just don't feel like my photos are a very fair indication of what I really look like.

 

However on the topic of "cockshots"......I did have someone once, out of the blue, text me some very....interesting....pictures involving different types of phallic produce....carrots, cucumbers, etc.......(this was a gf in my personal life so don't bother PMing me to find out who it was). My point is she did ask me to reciprocate in kind.....and who am I to argue? I did indeed reciprocate in kind (minus the phallic produce of course :p ). But that is the only kind of instance where I would even consider sending someone a picture of my junk. If someone came right out and ASKED for it. But otherwise sending someone an unprovoked, unrequested picture of your dick just strikes me as being more than a little mildly retarded. I mean sure I can appreciate the kind of pleasure ladies can get from penises, and the things we can do with them. But let's face it guys, the penis isn't exactly the most appealing thing in the world to just look at lol.

 

 

For example, if I was conversing with someone for the first time via PM or e-mail and she all of a sudden said "BTW, here's a picture of my pussy!" and provided me with an unrequested close up of her nether regions.....I dunno.....I love vagina as much as the next straight guy......but that would strike as more than a little classless and would make me second guess seeing this person if that was her idea of respect or discretion.

 

I'd probably be into it if it were someone someone I've already seen a few times and have built a rapport with, or even someone I haven't met but with whom I've built an online rapport with, we men like our little surprises don't we? But one should never assume that the other person likes "little surprises" (pun intended).

[roamingguy 300292]

For those who want a cock shot, here's a picture of a cock for you

 

 

Just a little, yes very little humour folks

RG

[April Dawn 12207]

I can count on one hand the number of clients I have seen who havent sent a face pic. I have never asked for it but I appreciate the gesture behind it alot.

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