SP's Vs. Clubbing!!!!

[Guest My***tLixx]

If you spend anytime reading the newspapers lately, any time the term "Escort" is used, it always has a negative connotation, no matter whether the article is speaking of the SP or the client who frequents them.

 

Personally, I see more value in getting to know an SP through phone calls and/or emails - being selective with the SP's you see; knowing their likes and dislikes and vice-versa, to ensure a very fun and wild time together....

 

...compared to dancing with some plain, random girl you've just met at some club, spending two hundred bucks that night on booze for her and her already-wasted friends, maybe you can take her home, maybe not...before she passes out!

 

I frequent SP's because to me, it is on almost every level, superior to picking up some random club girls...there's fantasy, excitement, anticipation, and a variety of fun debauchery to indulge in - and believe me, when you connect with someone, that's the best...SP or not! :icon_wink:

[CristyCurves 169032]

Unfortunately until the end of time we ,sp's,will be frowned upon by the general public,as well as those who indulge in the services of.There will always be judgements made about our characters,alot will consider us "trouble",little one can do other than life your life,hold your head high and conduct yourselves like the ladies and gentlemen you are and poop on those who feel they are above anyone,I personally hate judgemental so and so's,they usaually have closets that are overflowing with

hidden secrets.

Why would any man want to troll the bars anyway when it is so much easier just to pick up the phone or email in complete privacy,a beautiful companion who is ready and willing to address all your needs without any hassels,then quietly leave with no expectations from either party,just good memories.

[Secrets of Victoria 7208]

I agree with you here.

We get a bad rap at times, especially from the so-called 'club girls'.

 

Club girls just get paid in another way, booze!

 

She may be beautiful, she may let you take her home, she may let you get into action with her, but maybe not.

SP's care about how they conduct themselves, especially in public, and you are

guaranteed to have a great time with an SP over a club girl, more so if it is an SP you have seen before.

 

A lot of guys have the attitude, 'well I can go to the club and get laid for free', thats not always true. Drinks, food, drinks for her friends (as girls go to clubs in packs) it all adds up at the end of the night, with no guarantee that you are going to get anything! Lol

So how free is that?

Being with an SP, you are going to have engaging conversation, subtle touching and looks, and a great time once you get down to it.

 

I think that sure beats the off chance that you get the club girl home before she passes out or barfs all over you.

Believe you get your moneys worth with an SP.

 

If you spend anytime reading the newspapers lately, any time the term "Escort" is used, it always has a negative connotation, no matter whether the article is speaking of the SP or the client who frequents them.

 

Personally, I see more value in getting to know an SP through phone calls and/or emails - being selective with the SP's you see; knowing their likes and dislikes and vice-versa, to ensure a very fun and wild time together....

 

...compared to dancing with some plain, random girl you've just met at some club, spending two hundred bucks that night on booze for her and her already-wasted friends, maybe you can take her home, maybe not...before she passes out!

 

I frequent SP's because to me, it is on almost every level, superior to picking up some random club girls...there's fantasy, excitement, anticipation, and a variety of fun debauchery to indulge in - and believe me, when you connect with someone, that's the best...SP or not! :icon_wink:

[The General 11309]

As much as we hate to admit, I think the challenge of the search and success is often important to the adventure. Sure, we might be looking for the sexual encounter, but we always want to think that our good looks and charming appeal are what captivates the lady. That is why, in my opinion, the bars scene still is alive and well.

 

Logically, it doesn't make as much sense, but who says logic drives our behaviour all the time. We often have to act the part at work, and once we get outside, sometimes we want that bad boy behaviour to guide us... Just one person's opinion.

[Athos 108589]

I'm old enough that the only club I think I'd be allowed in would be a bridge club. And there are no hot young things to be plied with booze at those.

 

Seriously though ... I'd just feel embarrassed going into a club and would feel like everyone would be wondering about the perv!

 

The only sort of club I'm likely to go to would have live music, preferably jazz!

 

Porthos

[LeeRichards 177238]

As The General indicated.....this really depends what the individual is looking for !!! Is it the fun of the chase of the bar and lounge scene ?? Success :) or most often crash and burn :( and if so try again next time ..... I have been there in my younger years and trolled I guess and it was fun !! Good luck fellas.

 

Now if you are looking for a quiet, discreet, intimate moment with a beautiful lady then why yes an encounter with an SP is IMO the safest and most rewarding experience. Being a middle aged man :icon_rolleyes: I personally wouldn't have it any other way at this point in my life. I have met some very wonderful ladies !! and continue to see them when I can.

 

I will say this however...it is not as simple as picking up the phone. I spend a lot of time getting to know the ladies I am going to meet prior to meeting them or at least a few emails to gain a nice comfort level and chemistry. If I was thinking of just looking in the paper and dialing up a total stranger then I personally would probably just go to a lounge and buy a lady a drink ;) and crash and burn haha

[CristyCurves 169032]

As The General indicated.....this really depends what the individual is looking for !!! Is it the fun of the chase of the bar and lounge scene ?? Success :) or most often crash and burn :( and if so try again next time ..... I have been there in my younger years and trolled I guess and it was fun !! Good luck fellas.

 

Now if you are looking for a quiet, discreet, intimate moment with a beautiful lady then why yes an encounter with an SP is IMO the safest and most rewarding experience. Being a middle aged man :icon_rolleyes: I personally wouldn't have it any other way at this point in my life. I have met some very wonderful ladies !! and continue to see them when I can.

 

I will say this however...it is not as simple as picking up the phone. I spend a lot of time getting to know the ladies I am going to meet prior to meeting them or at least a few emails to gain a nice comfort level and chemistry. If I was thinking of just looking in the paper and dialing up a total stranger then I personally would probably just go to a lounge and buy a lady a drink ;) and crash and burn haha

 

Well Lee in the end after you do your "research" it is as easy as picking up the phone,texting,or emailing!There are some men and women who can come to know each other after a brief conversation,email,or text and feel comfortable enough to want to "engage",then there are others who want to "research" their companion,all is fine,what ever works, but in the end it only takes a call or email to solidify the meeting,thats what was meant in my post!To those who like the bar scene ,to each their own,all I was saying to get the same result and better, choosing an sp makes more sense to me,but what ever floats your boat and makes it sail!

[aubreyxxx 20240]

What a good topic! I agree in the fact that for being the most oldest undeniable profession in the history on man-kind people cannot change their perception on a career that not only provides a very intimate,sensual, inviting, nsa environment when if chosen the right provider you get what you ask for.

Some things just never change and I think this is one of them sad to say

 

But I must say before I became a member of cerb I did feel somewhat embarassed or ashamed because I too thought the same way that the ''every day'' person looked upon us. But with the respect, descency and friendships I've developed on cerb I now see we are vital!

 

Anyways just my 2 cents :)

 

Additional Comments:

What a good topic! I agree in the fact that for being the most oldest undeniable profession in the history on man-kind people cannot change their perception on a career that not only provides a very intimate,sensual, inviting, nsa environment when if chosen the right provider you get what you ask for.

Some things just never change and I think this is one of them sad to say

 

But I must say before I became a member of cerb I did feel somewhat embarassed or ashamed because I too thought the same way that the ''every day'' person looked upon us. But with the respect, descency and friendships I've developed on cerb I now see we are vital!

 

Anyways just my 2 cents :)

 

Umm and I totally just noticed I went way off topic and didnt discuss anything about clubbing.. oh well ya get my drift haha

[tokan 16826]

I for one would favour visiting a SP over going to a club, especially since I am somewhat of a shy guy in public. I did some clubbing back in my univeristy days and can honestly say it just wasn't my scene. I much prefere the company of a few close friends than to go cruising at the bars. Also, as has been mentioned when you go to a club to pick up you can easily spend a lot of money and end up with nothing at the end of the night. When you visit a SP, especially a cerb member, you know that you can look forward to a great time with a wonderful lady.

[LeeRichards 177238]

Well Lee in the end after you do your "research" it is as easy as picking up the phone,texting,or emailing!There are some men and women who can come to know each other after a brief conversation,email,or text and feel comfortable enough to want to "engage",then there are others who want to "research" their companion,all is fine,what ever works, but in the end it only takes a call or email to solidify the meeting,thats what was meant in my post!To those who like the bar scene ,to each their own,all I was saying to get the same result and better, choosing an sp makes more sense to me,but what ever floats your boat and makes it sail!

 

Okey Dokey

 

I met my first wife trolling at the bar .... shoulda picked up the phone that time .....

 

I don't have a boat so I don't sail....but my floatation belly as it grows bigger is helping me float ;)

[Guest My***tLixx]

As much as we hate to admit, I think the challenge of the search and success is often important to the adventure. Sure, we might be looking for the sexual encounter, but we always want to think that our good looks and charming appeal are what captivates the lady. That is why, in my opinion, the bars scene still is alive and well.

 

Logically, it doesn't make as much sense, but who says logic drives our behaviour all the time. We often have to act the part at work, and once we get outside, sometimes we want that bad boy behaviour to guide us... Just one person's opinion.

Great insight, we go to clubs because we are essentially hunters. We go to SP's because we are also gamblers, and we go where the odds are definitely in our favor!

[roamingguy 300292]

Well I've said this before, but the only difference between "free" sex and paying for it, the free sex costs a lot more in the end. The lady at the proverbial bar may be expecting a relationship, wheras the guy is expecting a no strings one time sexual encounter, as an example. Although for me at least, seeing a lady in this lifestyle I find is much more than sex, it is the companionship in it's entirety And an encounter with a lady that doesn't need to be plied with drinks is much more attractive than one with a lady who might end up intoxicated from the drinks she's been bought. The benefit, well one of the benefits of this lifestyle, is the uncomplicated, no strings attached of seeing a lady. No worries of her calling you, wanting more dates, or a relationship. If you and the SP hit it off, you can see her again. Conversly if you, or her (or both) don't hit it off, you both move on, no harm, no foul, no strings attached

But at the end of the day, this lifestyle is supposed to be mutually beneficial uncomplicated fun

A rambling

RG

[Phaedrus 209521]

There's really no contest on this one, as far as I'm concerned. I've never been a fan of spending huge amounts of money on over-priced sugary alcoholic stuff, or of hanging out in places where the music is too loud for any kind of conversation at all (yes, I was old before my time). And I've come to loathe that point where you end up thinking, "Stuff it, you'll do" and engaging in embarrassing drunken fumbling with someone who's almost certainly thinking the same about you. And then the hangovers, and regret, and wondering whether or not you should call... not that much fun, much of the time.

 

By contrast, I can go and see a SP because I definitely *want* to (whether because of her posts, pics, recos, or something else entirely), and do so sober, and enjoy the experience. And not have a hangover. And know that the money went somewhere worthwhile, rather than just magically disappearing into the beer gremlin's bottomless pockets again.

[Aspen Wilde 31370]

Well I'll tell you one thing. You'll never catch me at a club! (Okay, not a straight club. I'll go to the gay bar once in a blue moon just to dance.)

 

I like having conversations without having to yell, I like silences, I like privacy, I like getting to know people without being under pressure, and damnit, I like to be the one who decides when and where and with whom I will share my personal space.

 

I would hazard a guess that all the delightfully sexy introverts convene more on the internet than in the club. It's much more spacious here. There is room to talk, to flirt, to step back and breathe, to lurk, to peruse, and yes, to plan encounters suited to the needs of both (or all) parties. And we can play the music we would like to hear, at a volume we can tolerate, while browsing CERB and chatting with sexy strangers. Sounds like a good deal to me!

[LeeRichards 177238]

Well I'll tell you one thing. You'll never catch me at a club! (Okay, not a straight club. I'll go to the gay bar once in a blue moon just to dance.)

 

I like having conversations without having to yell, I like silences, I like privacy, I like getting to know people without being under pressure, and damnit, I like to be the one who decides when and where and with whom I will share my personal space.

 

I would hazard a guess that all the delightfully sexy introverts convene more on the internet than in the club. It's much more spacious here. There is room to talk, to flirt, to step back and breathe, to lurk, to peruse, and yes, to plan encounters suited to the needs of both (or all) parties. And we can play the music we would like to hear, at a volume we can tolerate, while browsing CERB and chatting with sexy strangers. Sounds like a good deal to me!

 

Well allrighty then ! I guess I won't be meeting you Julie in a karoke club with the sound too loud with people horribly attempting to sing a song you already hate !! Hmmm?? ;) ie.... "Achy Breaky Bleedy Heart"

 

I part time bartended on weekends for a few years in a nightclub and they hosted the odd Karaoke night for fundraiser benefits... and by the jesus if I hear another freaking karaoke song I am going to buy some rope and learn how to tie a noose ;)

 

oops Hijack sort of

[backrubman 64800]

Well I've said this before, but the only difference between "free" sex and paying for it, the free sex costs a lot more in the end.

 

I agree, always right on RG! But there is one important difference you missed (or at least failed to mention directly which is worthy of mention): If your professional companion has a bad headache, she will cancel and reschedule :)

[cat 262460]

I can say with all honesty, I've never had sex with a gentleman after a night out on the town that he paid for. I can walk out my front door any given night without a plan, find someone to buy me dinner, drinks with perhaps dancing or seeing a performance to follow but I don't go home with them. Ever. Strange for free never works out well for me, I prefer clear and concise expectation and outcomes...

cat

[The General 11309]

I have no problem with taking someone for dinner, or drinks, etc. and don't expect anything in return, per se. However, should this individual accept this offer, and only do it because they think they are getting a free ride, and under no circumstances would they have an interest in that individual, sexual or otherwise, then I would have difficulty respecting that. So, to me there is fine line between the two, but important what line that is on.

 

I can say with all honesty, I've never had sex with a gentleman after a night out on the town that he paid for. I can walk out my front door any given night without a plan, find someone to buy me dinner, drinks with perhaps dancing or seeing a performance to follow but I don't go home with them. Ever. Strange for free never works out well for me, I prefer clear and concise expectation and outcomes...

 

cat

[cat 262460]

I have no problem with taking someone for dinner, or drinks, etc. and don't expect anything in return, per se. However, should this individual accept this offer, and only do it because they think they are getting a free ride, and under no circumstances would they have an interest in that individual, sexual or otherwise, then I would have difficulty respecting that. So, to me there is fine line between the two, but important what line that is on.

 

I agree, accepting the offer only to ensure the evening is paid for is reprehensible. It would be a distinct waste of an evening for me and the man, to spend it with someone I didn't find interesting or enjoy getting to know. I can always pay my own way and will do so if all that is out there are trolls or drones. The exchange needs to be mutual. If down the road if the acquaintance wants to move the relationship into a physical realm, then he can book an appointment to come and play. That does happen and those relationships are often far more fulfilling because there is already a genuine connection established beforehand.

cat

[PhantomKnight 7914]

I've always had luck picking up in bars, but the chase can get boring after a while.

 

Guess it's time to pop my SP Cherry!! :bddog:

[spud271 47779]

Personally I've always had great luck picking up in clubs! Especially in Europe. I find the club scene isn't quite the same here as to what I am accustomed to, clubbing to me is an entire weekend thing. You just party from 4pm on Friday till 6pm on Sunday...then go to work on Monday morning! :D

[Exotic Touch Danielle 31729]

I would think that spending time getting to know an sp would be much easier and safer than going out to a club meeting some random girl you know nothing about and taking that risk of her being crazy and stalking you and if you are involved ruining your relationship with your spouse...with us at least you know what happens stays between us and we are always safe...and at least you dont have to spend all kinds of money buying us drinks and not knowing wether or not we will spend time with you lol that is guarenteed xo

[Lexy Grace 103697]

I would think that spending time getting to know an sp would be much easier and safer than going out to a club meeting some random girl you know nothing about and taking that risk of her being crazy and stalking you and if you are involved ruining your relationship with your spouse...with us at least you know what happens stays between us and we are always safe...and at least you dont have to spend all kinds of money buying us drinks and not knowing wether or not we will spend time with you lol that is guarenteed xo

 

I have to agree with Danielle 100%. We play safe, know our place as a companion and we are a for sure guarantee that some fun is going down. You haven't wasted money on the chick that's at the club every weekend, getting free drinks, loaded and has no idea what she may or may not have done in that state. Then you end up with more than a happy ending because you made the choice of the drunk party girl. SP's can party and have lots of fun but we all have enough sense I hope to protect ourselves and the people we spend quality time with.

 

All my Love,

Lexy

[Amelia Fox 9064]

I absolutely love going out to clubs,dancing meeting new people,being young,having drinks and socializing. To be honest I have met many cuties in the club scene and no one has ever associated "partying" with Sp's.

I believe the prejudice comes into play with strip clubs and SP's. For some reason people seem to think if your a stripper your an escort also and that is so not the case.

 

I think if your young out at a club,and looking to pick up you do not exchange numbers,even real names,or sleep over. Just do what you came to do and leave.. Then no creepies following you,harassing you lol. I practice safe sex always regardless of location and/or alcohol consumption.

 

Keep it simply about that moment!

[Guest qwert123]

I have never had a decent conversation with anyone in any club. Plus, the loud music and crazy lightings constitute an environment that I really dislike. There's just too much drama involved from my personal experience. Bookstores on the other hand..

 

I'd have to go with SPs any day of the week. :)