When Calling an SP..

[ottawa38 120]

When an SP/MA's only method of contact is by phone, is it rude to ask for basic details, like rates, location, services...etc...

 

and then not make an appointment right away? I feel like it is a bit of "tire kicking," but at the same time I need information to make a decision.

 

Any help would be appreciated.

[Kubrickfan 12836]

Seems reasonable, but you probably want to make sure that info isn't easily accessible on a website, or on Cerb., etc.. That can be one of your phone questions.

[DukeSSk 3430]

I always check CERB profile, past advertisements/schedules posts, and website (if available). I prefer PM/email for first initial contact since I'm fairly introverted, so typing allows me to think and at the same time think of how my message could be interpreted/perceived. Obviously, it's difficult to get an idea of tone, emotion, and body language. So, once an appointment is fixed, I plan on calling just to say hi and final confirmation.

 

I can't say that I've gotten in touch with a phone-only SP; I actually haven't seen a profile with phone-only yet...

[Malika Fantasy 144625]

It's normally fine by me...but asking what services is somewhat rude in my eyes...I assume that since you have my phone number, you saw my adds and what I offer.

 

I am personally not going to say that I do LFK, DFK, COB etc, all the acronyms. asking if the SP consider herself safe GFE or what are her limits is fine...but don't ask all of the acronyms.

[ottawa38 120]

Asking about specific services does seem to be a little too much. I was thinking more non-specific services (GFE, Massage, etc...). I suppose part of the fun is finding out in person...laf

 

Thank you for your responses.

[Nicolette Vaughn 294340]

When an SP/MA's only method of contact is by phone, is it rude to ask for basic details, like rates, location, services...etc...

 

and then not make an appointment right away? I feel like it is a bit of "tire kicking," but at the same time I need information to make a decision.

 

Any help would be appreciated.

 

 

I only use phone as a booking method since I find email a bit too anonymous. When someone calls me, I'm more than happy to give them info and whether we like or not, potential clients are consumers and are looking to find the most suitable SP for them. I don't really see it as tire kicking except when negotiations come into play which is a complete turn off. When someone calls me, I can tell amost immediately if I am going to enjoy their company or not. It's all in the tone of their voice, the questions they ask and how they respond to me.

 

The best thing to do is be polite when you call. Many SPs may start a friendly dialogue with you and you can gain insight as to whether or not they're sincere. If they sound too business like and looking to get you off the phone right away, then that is a clue. If people are rude to me or want to start negotiating, I will end the phone call almost immediately.

 

I know there is an awkward moment where you've received all necessary information and you feel as though you have to make a decision right then and then don't feel you have to be pressured into this. A good SP will not force you to make an immediate decision.

 

When I take the time to talk to someone, the potential client remembers this and will see it as a good sign that the SP is friendly and nice and that it will be a good encounter if they met. Thank the SP and tell them you have some things to handle and you may call them back.

 

SPs know people call around and inquire as one guy who called me was calling my friend the next minute and we happened to be together at her place.lol. The three of us laughed about it when he was speaking to her.

[ottawa38 120]

This community is strangely supportive....I love it!!!

[Guest]

I don't answer questions over the phone. It is something I don't feel comfortable doing. I do have a website and I have no problems communicating over pm or email. Also I don't feel like anyone is wasting my time on the computer.

 

All of us escorts run our business in a manner that each of us feel comfortable with. You may see a glimpse on the escorts add or listing with what she may be comfortable with. Ie: no restricted numbers, no texts, email me with any questions about my services, ect, ect.

 

I agree with Nicole in the sense of tone on the phone. I would also start the conversation off with saying that you are calling for a little more information and you may be interested in a different day. No big deal.

 

I never heard of a lady responding badly to a gentleman. As long as you are respectful I don't see any problems. The worst thing she could say is that she doesn't answer things on the phone.

[Andee 220524]

When an SP/MA's only method of contact is by phone, is it rude to ask for basic details, like rates, location, services...etc...

 

and then not make an appointment right away? I feel like it is a bit of "tire kicking," but at the same time I need information to make a decision.

 

Any help would be appreciated.

 

It's not rude unless you found her ad where these things are detailed or there is a link to her website where the details you are asking about can be found. In this case, it would be best to go take a few moment to check her information. Then if you still have questions, by all means, ask. Also, it never hurts to simply verify that the information that's posted is still current.

 

But for ads where there is little information or no photos, it is not unreasonable to ask these for this type of information. How else are you supposed to make your decision, right?

 

As someone who also advertises in the paper with a simple 1 or 2 line ad, I have become accustomed to telephone enquiries so it doesn't bother me. However there are some ladies that insist you view their website before they will even speak with you.

 

If you conduct yourself like a gentleman on the phone, you will find that most of are pretty accommodating. Until you actually book a call, there is no call, so basically what you are doing is enquiring. I do not consider this tire kicking.

 

To me, a tire kicker is a guy who calls "everyone" because he's either too lazy to consult a website and often is trying to get the best deal at their convenience. Those types are basically just time wasters because rarely do they book.

 

It doesn't sound to me like you're doing that.

[ottawa38 120]

This is all great information. Thank you ladies for your comments.

 

Now if only I could make up my mind who to book. Argh...too many beautiful women!!!

[Studio 110 by Sophia 150333]

For me, I always like to know where you seen my ad first. If a cerb member that I at least recognize, then I wont mind giving the info.

 

But if I am not sure of them, then I simply say in a vague way like..." I entertain and host, with the activities that would expect on a date with a lady" If but if after that, they want all the little details, I usually ask them to email for a description of services....at which time I send a template that cover ALL and ANY activities that I enjoy and rates, with booking proceedure. This cuts down the 100000 questions they may have:)

 

As for Rates, yes I will answer right away, so that if they can not accept my chosen donation, then I wont bother spending more time explaining everything...

 

There are many "fisher's" out there, and those who want all the juicy details for their own enjoyment, there those who may be hunting info for a local competor....many reasons why. So I do my best not to 'entertain" tis kind of inquiry.

[DukeSSk 3430]

I only use phone as a booking method since I find email a bit too anonymous. When someone calls me, I'm more than happy to give them info and whether we like or not, potential clients are consumers and are looking to find the most suitable SP for them. I don't really see it as tire kicking except when negotiations come into play which is a complete turn off. When someone calls me, I can tell amost immediately if I am going to enjoy their company or not. It's all in the tone of their voice, the questions they ask and how they respond to me.

 

The best thing to do is be polite when you call. Many SPs may start a friendly dialogue with you and you can gain insight as to whether or not they're sincere. If they sound too business like and looking to get you off the phone right away, then that is a clue. If people are rude to me or want to start negotiating, I will end the phone call almost immediately.

 

I know there is an awkward moment where you've received all necessary information and you feel as though you have to make a decision right then and then don't feel you have to be pressured into this. A good SP will not force you to make an immediate decision.

 

When I take the time to talk to someone, the potential client remembers this and will see it as a good sign that the SP is friendly and nice and that it will be a good encounter if they met. Thank the SP and tell them you have some things to handle and you may call them back.

 

SPs know people call around and inquire as one guy who called me was calling my friend the next minute and we happened to be together at her place.lol. The three of us laughed about it when he was speaking to her.

 

Bad news for me, I tend to have a more deep serious voice on the phone. I guess it's a habit. But if the SP is friendly and upbeat, I'll immediately feel more open.

 

Like I said I'm introvert and I'm worried that this may come across as hostile :(

 

Thanks for the tips, I'll do my best to remember.

 

Wow, what are the odds of that happening with you all together, lol!

 

All of us escorts run our business in a manner that each of us feel comfortable with. You may see a glimpse on the escorts add or listing with what she may be comfortable with. Ie: no restricted numbers, no texts, email me with any questions about my services, ect, ect.

 

Yes please!! All SPs should have clear communication preferences in CERB profiles, websites, advertisement/schedules, etc... :) I know most do.

[Nicolette Vaughn 294340]

Wow, what are the odds of that happening with you all together, lol!

 

She and I shared the same ad but different numbers so she was next on the list to call.lol

[bcguy42 38594]

This is all great information. Thank you ladies for your comments.

 

Now if only I could make up my mind who to book. Argh...too many beautiful women!!!

 

May I offer a suggestion regarding your decision making? Up there at the far right end of the CERB Menu bar - click on My Notes. I use that to keep track of info bits that eventually go into the final decision process.

 

Good luck and happy .. well... whatever.

[Luckyme 41401]

May I offer a suggestion regarding your decision making? Up there at the far right end of the CERB Menu bar - click on My Notes. I use that to keep track of info bits that eventually go into the final decision process.

 

Good luck and happy .. well... whatever.

 

That's a neat idea, bcguy, never had a chance to look at this function before. You learn something everyday! Thanks.

[The General 11309]

Wow, that's great, never even knew that existing... good idea.

 

May I offer a suggestion regarding your decision making? Up there at the far right end of the CERB Menu bar - click on My Notes. I use that to keep track of info bits that eventually go into the final decision process.

 

Good luck and happy .. well... whatever.

[Boomer 33202]

I don't think most of the ladies on CERB use this as their only marketing tool. If you see them here you can obviously check their profile and history to get a feel for what they offer, but other services may not give you the same detail. In many cases I use the PM system as a first contact.

 

In the end I do like to talk to the lady in person to get a feel for whether we'll get along. I use the opposite approach. I approach them politely and have a bit of conversation and I find that I can discretely tell them what I like and my expectations. That way they can let you know if they are comfortable with your needs, and they don't have to go through a list of services. Go into an encounter with a mutual understanding and you won't be disappointed.

[fortunateone 156618]

I would just point out to anyone that if the sp puts a phone # in the ad, she has to expect that the guy did read the ad, and probably did view the site if there is one, but there is no reason to assume the guy is looking at the ad when he calls.

 

Most of the people I deal with I would say pick a phone call only sp because they are not next to the computer/ad site when they do have a chance to call. They are often driving from point A to point B. I can't imagine they would be able to remember all the details of the ads like rates/services, etc, so am happy to provide them. I will ask what ad they saw because some ads have pics, some do not. If I know they know what I look like, age, etc, then I am ready to just focus on rates.

 

There is no doubt in my mind that providing customer service on the phone call increases my calls and shows over someone who is abrupt on the phone, won't tell the caller anything, and/or tells them go look at the ad and hangs up on them lol.

 

It is legal to discuss these things, I don't see any real need to be coy about what is offered or not, or any reason why a client should not be able to be given the info.

 

I would rather he hear it from me than rely on his memory about what he thinks he saw in my ad, only to show up and he had really remembered the ad by someone who offers completely different kinds of things than I do.

 

Communication is the key to successful sessions, imo. If that means I spend 30 seconds on the phone running thru rates/services so be it.

 

I do cut calls short when it seems like the person wants everything repeated (three times) and/or specific details that go beyond the basic info.

[Davrem 110]

Great thread here. I'm a new guy with Zero experience...yep, none (with SPs). I'm trying to sort out all proper things to do, assume and not do. Most are common sense, but this was a good question. I'd feel pretty shy about asking those questions and then saying "thanks anyway" :icon_eek: