An embarrassing issue

[shubiesam 120]

I have a minor medical condition which affects my sexual performance. (Google "frenulum breve premature ejaculation" for the details). The result is that actual sex (including oral and hand stimulation) is a fairly brief experience for me, and orgasms aren't always that much fun. (And having admitted that, you won't be seeing me at the social ;) ).

 

With this in mind, you'd think I wouldn't be much interested in spending time doing sexual things with SPs, but of course, that's not how the human brain is wired. I have a lot of sexual desire and I want to spend time with attractive, naked women, touching and being gently touched, maybe playing stripping games, or having a shower together. Basically, anything but rushing into sex, though of course I do want to finish up (however briefly) with sex.

 

My (limited) experience with a few SPs indicates that this is not always their agenda - they want to have some part of themselves wrapped around me by minute 3, which means by minute 4 I'm going to be all done and not that excited about the experience I just had. Don't get me wrong, I understand why it is this way - I know that the majority of clients want to spend as much time as possible doing the dirty and don't feel they're getting their money's worth if that's not how it goes :) And I do know that I am "abnormal" in this matter, and I can't expect the SPs to be mind readers.

 

But I wonder if anyone has recommendations for local SPs who might be particularly good at taking it slow, and not making me feel bad about my condition if I do pop very quickly? PMs very much welcome from SPs also.

[Metalsmith 2983]

Katherine provides an outstanding massage service....it was a full hour of sensual touching and massage, with a very pleasurable finish...she's got good hands!

 

Perhaps a massage with an alternate finish might be what you're after?

 

MS

[Guest W***ledi*Time]

SS, Cerb is full of ladies who are perfectly geared to what you're looking for! I'd say that what you're asking about - taking it slow at first and building things up - is the preferred way to approach playtime, for many many clients and ladies.

 

Communication, as always, is important - be sure to let her know what you're looking for and why. She's on your side - she wants to share as great an experience as possible with you!

[nntsci 11076]

I will confess that that has also from time to time been an issue for me -- though more so with professionals, not usually my spouse. Part of the reason is that I'm so turned on just thinking about the girl and so anxious about meeting with her that by the time I'm knock on her door, my heart is pounding. And, with all due appologies to my spouse, who frankly looks great for a 50 year old, but the SPs I see look great for 20-year-olds. Theres a difference. With my first Canadian SP, I came while she was putting on the condom, and I had only paid for one shot, and she had another client booked right after me. It was a very frustrating day. Since then I've always booked an hour just in case.

 

My advice would be

(1) Practice taking a long time to masurbate -- when you near completion, stop, relax, and wait until for a few second, then work on it again. Build up your ability to hold it back.

(2) Get the horny one out of way mannually before you meet with the lady, so that you are not so anxious when you meet with the lady. I used this method when I was visiting the laufhaus in Vienna for 15 minute shots (50 euros for 15 minutes -- how could I pass up that deal).

(3) book at least an hour so you have more than one shots on goal. For me, my first one (the horny one as "Sweet Melissa" my first SP ever -- said) sometimes goes way too fast, but the second one takes longer.

(4) I find I come fast when I'm on top, so I usually have the girl start on top and turn over when I'm ready.

(5) Once you connect with the girl, ask her to just stop and relax for a few seconds -- not thrusting for a few seconds. Tell her you just want to savour the moment (which is true). Tell her why, the girls are great at accommodating your needs. I find once I'm over that initial entry excitement, I can hold it back without a problem.

 

Good luck.

[leon1972 1198]

You're off to a much better start by having written this, so well done. Some SPs like to dance for you first, maybe read you some erotic stories or watch some porn together and talk dirty ... if a massage is too much when too close to your gear then ask them to wait until your time is almost up. Some SPs know how to watch the clock without rushing you so read some reviews.

Have fun with it!

[2tuff2tame 247]

Haven't been on in a while. Been lurking the last couple of days sorta catching up. Nice to see all the helpful posts for this fellow.

[shubiesam 120]

My advice would be...

 

Good general advice for PE sufferers there, and believe me, I've tried much of it before :) Unfortunately in my case, I've never been able to have good sex and there does appear to be a physical cause.

 

After basically suffering from lifelong PE I finally spoke to my doctor about it earlier this year, and a quick exam revealed that I have frenulum breve, which is known to be a physical cause of PE.

 

I was referred to a urologist and it was all checked out and diagnosed. For me, when I get erect, my frenulum pulls very tightly on my glans, causing it to bend downwards a little. This tight area feels *very* tight during penetrative sex (and is actually quite a lot worse with a condom on). It is slightly painful, and the tugging feeling does unfortunately make me orgasm very quickly, but the orgasm is just as much painful as enjoyable.

 

Anyway, I'm scheduled for surgery later this year to have it fixed. One possible side effect of this surgery is that I might lose a lot of feeling in that area, and not be able to orgasm easily from penetrative sex. Honestly, I think that's a deal I'll accept.

 

Just in case there's anyone out there in the same situation - talk to your doctor about it. If like me you've *never* had good sex, there's a decent chance there is a physical issue going on, and it's usually fixable. I could have had this fixed 20 years ago if I was braver, and I'd probably have had a far more satisfying personal life, both sexually and emotionally.

[shubiesam 120]

I understand what you are saying about SPs moving too quickly, but it has to be the length of the appointment you are booking, no? If you book a 3 or 4 hour appointment it has a completely different dynamic and some ladies offer pretty lucrative rates for hour 3 and beyond.

 

A little beyond my means all the same I think :)

[Amelia Fox 9064]

So your looking for more talking and touching then actual penetration?

Have you considered prostate massages? If you communicate this with the SP you have chosen to see then I am sure she would happly oblidge.