No posting history? No problem!

[futileresistenz 28253]

... well it is, if you offer your CERB ID as verification to get around identifying your more personal details and there is little or no posting history!

 

A recent thread by VictoriaJolie about posting history being one tool providers use to get to know a client inspired this post, and since this one is more general in nature, I've decided to post it here.

 

As a client, we usually know much more about the lady we are planning to see, until we make an actual booking and provide the information she requires in consideration of our request to see her. I am in amazement of the effort and diligence most, and especially the well-respected, SPs/MAs go through in screening and verification. With a modicum of information and references, they must decide if they will grant your request for a meeting, based on a myriad of factors and a 'gut feel' about you, the person, never having met prior, and not knowing too much else besides these few bits that they ask for in their ads or on their websites. I believe that the majority of clients on the board are sophisticated and wise to the ways of treating the ladies with respect, having read widely among the various forums, but there are some bad apples out there. How is a provider to know from whom she is getting an inquiry or booking? You will fare much better if you give her signs and assurances of your good intentions early on and by playing by her rules. Don't forget, she is sharing her most intimate self with an almost complete stranger and is entrusting you to do your part in that bargain. We both want the same things, but providers, beyond needing to feel safe, of course want that encounter to be in an environment where they themselves are comfortable to give you the best time of all - and so you should care, too.

 

Contacting a lady for a booking and showing with every action and word (rudeness, brashness, ignorance, laziness, etc.) that you haven't bothered to check her website or ad post is the first red flag to the lady that there may be things she doesn't know that would worry her if she did, and this puts her on guard with you right from the start - generally not the best way to initiate a dialogue. Taking care to consider all the points of etiquette and following her preferred method of setting up an appointment will make the lady's life much easier and will assure her that you take her concerns for safety and peace of mind to heart. It will be like magically becoming a lottery winner ;-), meaning that she will appreciate when you meet that you had already established yourself from the start as a respectful and diligent client worthy of her time.

 

I know it is not everyone's wish or goal to become an active and prolific poster, but it does help the ladies get a glimpse of the person behind a handle. Having no posts doesn't. Just think of the ways in which you select the lady of your choice - maybe by her beautifully written ad, her many glowing recommendations by other clients, her gorgeous photo album, or the well-crafted website that she spent so much time building. There are other ways to distinguish yourself and get a good or even high standing besides that, of course. Which route you choose to take is yours to decide ... but giving her the comfort level about you - in one way or another, making her feel like you respect her wishes and her need to feel safe and at ease, will put you miles ahead right from the start. And that is likely to reap significant good will on her part and generally, IMHO, yield to better client-provider relations! Pun absolutely intended! ;) A #nobrainer? I think so! :D

FR

 

P.S. Apologies for the intial 2-paragraph ramble. It's mostly all been said before in different ways, but it helps to refresh this from time to time in the 'New to this?' forum.

[northerntantra 4671]

I just came across this thread today, and like many others I hit the Nominate button.

 

Futileresistenze subsequently posted a thank you on my Guestbook, and pointed out that it was odd that so many people had nominated the post yet none had replied to it. So, this is an answer to that.

 

Sometimes a message is complete enough that no further comment is required. I think the many nominations demonstrate that people agree wholeheartedly with what was written, and the lack of replies is simply an indication that people did not feel the need to add to what was said, or to contradict any of it. There were no questions involved, nor any invitations to provide other views, so there was nothing to reply to.

 

That's a very good thing! In fact, I think the posting is a good candidate for being made into a "sticky" within this section. If you agree, let me know and I'll ask mod to do so.

[Lexy Grace 103697]

This thread created by Futileresistenze was absolutely incredible and I believe with recent events and issue us providers are in constant battle with, this thread also needs to be revisited and where it was not written by a provider I feel at times our concerns are taken to lightly but when a hobbyist brings attention to a situation, it can at times be given more thought, respect in some regards and not just disregarded.

 

Just my thoughts from experience,

 

Lexy

[1963Kennedy 10698]

and I agree 100%; safety in all aspects should be paramount ESPECIALLY when a lady is inviting you into her private residence.