dread pirate roberts 4036 Report post Posted July 19, 2012 ...(who is great, by the way) says in her announcement: "if you don't know what "tgirl" means, please ask before you contact me for an appointment! There's always a few guys in every city, and I'd really like to avoid any future misunderstandings. :smile:" Too funny! Now THOSE are some stories I'd love to hear! (At least I hope they were funny, not traumatic.) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Lavondyss 189 Report post Posted July 19, 2012 So what does it stand for ? I thought it stood for Toronto, but now I'm thinking that might have been naive on my part. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Malika Fantasy 144625 Report post Posted July 19, 2012 So what does it stand for ? I thought it stood for Toronto, but now I'm thinking that might have been naive on my part. It stand for transgender. Which mean that Nikki was born as a biological man, but with the heart,spirit and mind of a woman. The physical body, envelop was wrong at birth. If you actually visit her website, you will find more information on what it is. I have only meet her twice, but she is truly stunning and one of the most kind-hearted person I have had the chance to meet. Anyone spending time with her would be really lucky IMHO:) 7 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Barney 2550 Report post Posted July 19, 2012 LOL , LOL This would only happen in the East, Oh my this is the best laugh I have had in years, This is too much , have a good night everyone, LOL !!!!!! Additional Comments: I just wanted to say thanks for the laugh, Yes a T-girl is big now in larger urban centres like Toronto, New York , Etc. guys love a woman with a cock it seems, it wouldn't be a turn on for me but it is for a lot of people though. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
billybob 20128 Report post Posted July 20, 2012 LOL , LOL This would only happen in the East, Oh my this is the best laugh I have had in years, This is too much , have a good night everyone, LOL !!!!!! What do you mean it could only happen in the East? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Barney 2550 Report post Posted July 20, 2012 Nothing against the East I love it here, its just about 10 years behind, for example 1 strip club, which is a dump, no massage parlours, its just a different way of life here people want everything to stay the same, we don't even have good bike paths, the transit sucks and the police can't solve a crime here they always want public help, but the East is a beautiful place and still untouched. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Gabriella Laurence 301887 Report post Posted July 20, 2012 What do you mean it could only happen in the East? My first language is not English and maybe I am not understanding what the previous poster said BUT I do believe he used those words as a general expression... It could only happen in the East... It could only happen in Montreal... It could only happen to you... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Barney 2550 Report post Posted July 20, 2012 I gorgot one thing they don't even have concerts here unless its a scandel, and the taxpayer has to foot the bill, even after paying double what you would pay to see the same group in Toronto, where the city council has nothing to do with concerts. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
billybob 20128 Report post Posted July 20, 2012 I gorgot one thing they don't even have concerts here unless its a scandel, and the taxpayer has to foot the bill, even after paying double what you would pay to see the same group in Toronto, where the city council has nothing to do with concerts. It's ridiculous to compare cities in the Maritimes with Toronto, there are more people in the City of Toronto then there are in the 4 Atlantic provinces. Of course there will be more of everything in Toronto than any city in Atlantic Canada, think about it. Btw, read the OP, it says the tgirl gets confusing questions in "every city" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Lavondyss 189 Report post Posted July 21, 2012 Ummmm............ reading thru the posts above, I get what the 'T' stands for. But, if she has a cock (as someone wrote) then she's not truly transgendered is she ? Maybe I'm missing something. You know us dumb easterners............ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Andee 220524 Report post Posted July 21, 2012 Never mind. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Barney 2550 Report post Posted July 21, 2012 Most T-Girls have a cock, and I have nothing against Halifax, my family in Ontario calls this the East so it was just a figure of speech, but Halifax is years behind most urban centres, have a good weekend everone, enjy the ships Cheers, at least they have good beer here LOL !!!!!!!!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Lavondyss 189 Report post Posted July 22, 2012 Thanks Barney. Not trying to offend anyone - I actually had absolutely no idea. It's 'cuz I'm not sophisticated like my betters from Upper Canada. And thanks for that incredibly insightful response, Angela. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Kathryn Bardot 99339 Report post Posted July 22, 2012 Trans-- or transgender is an umbrella term, used to describe a variety of individuals whose gender expression or gender identity differs from their sex assigned at birth. Really, a google search would help. This is a good place to start: http://www.apa.org/topics/sexuality/transgender.aspx Also, because it's cute and making the rounds of Facebook: 6 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jazzitup 5652 Report post Posted July 22, 2012 It would be great if Tgirl Nikki were to add to this thread. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Old Dog 179138 Report post Posted July 22, 2012 Nikki is an absolutely wonderful woman. We have had the opportunity to speak on a couple of occasions at Ottawa socials, and the warmth and confidence she exudes is infectious. She is a tireless advocate for the industry and a beauty to behold - truly a complete package. The OP merely wanted to know what "TGirl" meant - I don't believe it was an open call to pass judgment on those who appreciate and partake. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
AllysonNS 1548 Report post Posted July 22, 2012 I love that comic! I have had a transgender girlfriend before so have been exposed to it for years and I find transgender so sexy. . . unfortunately she was bat shit crazy lol. I have looked at Nikki and she is gorgeous, email her guys have some fun!! 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest ExoticBobbie (Retired) Report post Posted July 26, 2012 100% agree with Barney! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nikki Thomas 23145 Report post Posted July 26, 2012 Lol, I had no idea this thread was going around, I really don't check CERB very often except when I'm travelling to Ottawa or Halifax... anyways, I'm glad to be the inspiration for this thread, and I appreciate the kind words that so many of you have said about me. <3 Truth is, I'm extraordinarily lucky in a lot of ways, and I'm always accepted as female without any reservations or questions. I have friends, colleagues, and professors that I've known for years who haven't the slightest clue as to my medical history. Frankly, unless they're going to see me naked, I don't think it's necessary to share the intimate details of my past, so in my day-to-day life (and my activism for the most part) I simply don't bring it up. It's really only relevant to those that I plan to sleep with, and I find it can often become a distraction that takes away from the other issues in the discussion. My anatomy isn't the least bit relevant in regards to my belief that sex work should be entirely decriminalized, and when I talk about the topic in public forums, I'd rather the focus remain on the laws themselves. In terms of my own identity and how I perceive myself, I consider myself a woman first and foremost, with "tgirl" as a subordinate category under the superordinate category of "female". I think of tgirl as a similar term to "lesbian", insofar as both terms refer to a woman of a particular alignment or persuasion, but both fall under the broader category of woman. I really don't like the term "shemale", though, because that's usually meant to mean a person of a "third gender," who identifies as neither male nor female, but somewhere in between. I know that some people use this term to refer to themselves and I certainly respect their right to do so, but it's never felt like the right term for me, and I don't use it to describe myself in any way, shape or form. I'm just a girl with a unique anatomy and unique history, in a unique location on the amazingly-diverse spectrum of sexuality. As for surgery, I think of that as a private issue that I don't really discuss publicly, although I'll go as far to say that it's definitely on my TDL, as soon as the time is right. But in my personal and public life, I'm already accepted as the person I know myself to be, and that's a lot more important to me than my current anatomy. I'm also legally female in every respect, having changed my name and all forms of ID quite some time ago. Fortunately, I don't experience systemic discrimination due to my status, although that's unfortunately not the case for many of my trans friends. As a provider, it's extremely important that all my potential clients are aware of my services before making an appointment, because it's not fair to expect them to have a complete grasp of all the different terminology within the industry. I would feel bad if someone's lack of awareness led them to arrange an appointment where they're expecting a certain service, but not able to enjoy it. I think that's something that all providers should make a priority when arranging a get-together, just for ethical reasons, but for me, it's a safety issue as well. I've been fortunate that none of my unaware clients have ever reacted violently or negatively, but I know it's happened to others who aren't so diligent when making arrangements - and sadly, the law often gives a free pass to those who commit violent acts, and tends to blame the trans person for supposedly acting in a deceptive manner. :( Anyways, I hope that some of what I've written makes sense, and I'm happy to have been the inspiration of this discussion. From the posts above, it seems that at least a few people have expanded their horizons through this post, or at least learned a few new words and won't be likely to experience any unexpected "surprises." ;) Given that my long-term goal is to decrease the stigma experienced by sex workers, I truly feel that providers who are honest about their services and genuine in their approach can only help society view us in a more positive light. By trying to avoid misconceptions, I'm just doing my own little part to make that goal a reality someday, and I love how CERB has so many providers and clients who are doing their part as well. :) 14 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites