Advice on/about blogs

[Nathalie L 112512]

I've sporadically written in a blog on my website, and I was wondering whether the hobbyists of CERB read blogs.

 

Should I write about my life? Should I write about topics related to the sex industry? Should I showcase my more academic writing? Should my blog be a space for random thoughts and ideas? I've already posted some of my poetry, but my blog could also be an eclectic mix of all of this. Thoughts?

 

Many SPs/MAs on CERB have a blog. Feel free to post them here!

[EmilyRushton 253377]

I blog, I wish I could more often, but time is of the essence....I blog about trips, I vent and I write about just about anything as it is a reflection of me. I have heard from quite a few gentlemen that my blog was the reason they booked as it gave them more insight to who I am.....

 

I say write about whatever makes you happy....

 

my blog http://emilyrushton.com/blog/

[Boomer 33202]

I am a great fan of blogging.

 

I maintain a folder in the adult area in my favorites of blogs I come across during my browsing. I probably go through them several times a week. As for the content, sure I look for your ideas and what you offer in the industry, but I find the ones I return to repeatedly are those that are diverse and show your personality.

 

They other thing I would say, is that many women start blogs and don't maintain them on a regular basis. It's a bit of work, but I do look forward to those that are serious about it, and can share their feelings and thoughts on a regular basis. One of my favorites used to be a lady from Halifax who went by Amelia, just because is was such a fun quirky read.

 

Your's has been entered in my bookmarks, look forward to it in the future.

[Reddog01 30280]

Yep, write about anything you feel like. Be spontaneous, be thoughtful but most of all be you. I am more attracted to SPs who take the time to show a bit more of themselves, share views and thoughts of the day. Just like SPs tend to more readily accept a new client if he takes the time to "expose" more of himself through a thoughtful and somewhat provoking correspondence.

[Nathalie L 112512]

Great advice! What would you consider "regular maintenance" Boomer? Approximately one post per week?

[backrubman 64800]

I've sporadically written in a blog on my website, and I was wondering whether the hobbyists of CERB read blogs.

 

A blog is a wonderful insight in to who you are and what you are about. It gives us insight into this and we do read them. Yeah, there is the lady's profile, her photo albums, her recommendations, her web site, but often the blog (if any) seals the deal.

 

Some ladies I have met after following their blog for some time and it's like I know them and they are amazed how well I know them.

 

I say blogging (if you have the time and inclination) is the ultimate way of putting your thoughts, feelings and who you really are out there.

[etasman2000 15994]

Blogs and twitter are great means of indirect marketing. Their strength lies in the ability to show your true nature, interests, and concerns. This means both the good 'happy go lucky stuff' and the not so happy stuff. Even a well timed rant on something you are passionate about can be a strong positive. e.g. ranting Ottawa's lack of support for poverty prevention.

 

Self censorship is a common issue and other bloggers have commented on these. [1] [2].

 

Another aspect to consider is disclosure. How and what you disclose about your personal life in a blog. Neil Gaiman and Amanda Palmer had a wonderful Q&A about this [

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A blog is a time-consuming commitment. To ensure consistent interest, and have readers come back for more, it should be updated on a regular basis. One tack is to have a regular weekly (or bi-weekly) post and shorter filler posts in between.

[Boomer 33202]

Great advice! What would you consider "regular maintenance" Boomer? Approximately one post per week?

 

I don't think it's a matter of an exact number. I've seen so many put up and then seemingly abandon, or maybe the next routine entry appearing after a six week interval. For the blogger sometimes it can be quite artistic and sometimes quite revealing in terms of the posters personality. I know that I check back fairly often and some fairly prolific posters are on every week. When I looked at yours you obviously give each of your entries a lot of thought and take the time to express yourself in a careful manner, and target areas of sexuality which aren't altogether mainstream, really some rather interesting insights.

[Gemini 1320]

If you have the time and the inclination to put your thoughts down Nathalie, it all helps to get to know you. Personally the better I feel I know an escort, the more likley I am to arrange a meeting. I like to know what books a person likes to read, or indeed if she likes to read, or what music she listens to, what annoys her and what makes her happy. It all helps to turn two dimensional photos into real people.

 

Websites certainly fullfill some of that, but are not updated often, postings on CERB may be more frequent, but they are generally scattered across the site.

 

I think a blog does need to be updated fairly regularly though, at least every couple of weeks, if it is to be relevant, but the good news is that the update don't need to be long. Or if this puts too great a strain on your time there is always Twitter.

[Phaedrus 209521]

...in no particular order.

 

First up: if you're going to blog, I'd strongly suggest that you do so regularly. That doesn't mean that you have to post every day, or even every week... but if people come back to see nothing new too often, they'll just stop coming back. If you're going to take a planned break, leave a post to say when you'll be back (and then make sure you start posting again when you said you would). And remember the cynic's golden rule: if at first you don't succeed... destroy all evidence that you tried. :) Seriously, there's nothing sadder than a link to "my blog" that's been abandoned after half a dozen posts, the last of which was months or years ago.

 

On the "would I read it" question... yes, I'd absolutely read an interesting blog by someone I knew from CERB! Although I must admit that I don't particularly go looking for them, and there are quite possibly some gems out there that I'm unaware of (like yours, Nathalie), so ladies: maybe adding a link to it in your post sig or on your profile would be an idea? I've read blogs by various sex workers in the past, although I don't read any at the moment - and the ones I used to read were primarily because they were good blogs by people with interesting things to say, rather than the fact that they were about sex work. I still read quite a few blogs - some are daily visits - but they're in other areas of life.

 

As for what to post... well, yes, it depends. How much of yourself do you wish to reveal? Is this really a personal thing, or part of your overall marketing? How do you want to come across to readers: do you want to stick to positive/interesting stuff, or are you going to be melancholy and/or negative if you feel like it? And if so, does that just make you a more well-rounded and realistic person, or does it imply a "take me as I am, or not at all" attitude to potential clients? If you really get into it, perhaps you should have a "professional" blog on your website and run another blog under a different pseudonym for the stuff that doesn't gel with the image you wish to present to current and potential visitors?

 

Of course, there's no "right" answer to any of this; it depends hugely on who you (really) are, how much of that you wish to project in your SP alter ego, and how you wish yourself to be perceived.

[Nathalie L 112512]

I like to know what books a person likes to read, or indeed if she likes to read, or what music she listens to, what annoys her and what makes her happy.

 

I'll start a list! Stay tuned!

[Cara Silver 32413]

Nathalie, you are such a good writer. I think a blog would be great for you. I would love to read it, no matter the content.

 

Amelia

[Nathalie L 112512]

Nathalie, you are such a good writer. I think a blog would be great for you. I would love to read it, no matter the content.

 

Amelia

 

Amelia, my goodness, that's so sweet of you to say. Thank you very much.

[rileydaniels 1901]

I have a blog I write regularly on that i try and keep as seperate as possible from my current working persona. I gave my blog a new writting anme so I can freely express what I want on it. I also attend blogging conferences and other social media conferences to talk with other bloggers out there to expand my readership and be apart of another community.

 

and since Ihave been able to do that I find that I am happier with free writting on my blog and also not worried about what clients might think of the blog if they stumble on it.

[Nathalie L 112512]

I have a blog I write regularly on that i try and keep as seperate as possible from my current working persona. I gave my blog a new writting anme so I can freely express what I want on it. I also attend blogging conferences and other social media conferences to talk with other bloggers out there to expand my readership and be apart of another community.

 

and since Ihave been able to do that I find that I am happier with free writting on my blog and also not worried about what clients might think of the blog if they stumble on it.

 

That sounds like a good plan. I don't think I have enough time to manage two blogs so I will simply stick to the one available on my website. So far, I've received really positive feedback and I've enjoyed reading this thread to see whether clients value it, and how SPs manage them!

[rileydaniels 1901]

That sounds like a good plan. I don't think I have enough time to manage two blogs so I will simply stick to the one available on my website. So far, I've received really positive feedback and I've enjoyed reading this thread to see whether clients value it, and how SPs manage them!

 

 

you pretty much have to pick whch side you want to be on a blog that is linked to your working persona or a blog that is seperate with its own indentity there are some people out there in the hobby world- clients or providers that have found my blog and tried to link to my working persona twitter and I fear its just asking for trouble since I am going into some pretty deep stuff about my life that might be turn-off to potential clients. I am blogging to share what being a provider is like for me and the blog also becomes threaputic and sometimes it also becomes non-sexy as well.

[contraman 5480]

I can't think of a better way to put this than this: if I meet someone and there's no chemistry, I might as well have stayed home with my hand. In Nathalie's case, reading the blog made me feel more certain that there would be chemistry between us. And whether good luck or not, I think I was right.

 

If there's no connection -- however you define it -- then there's not much point to participating in this hobby. I'm all for anything that helps two people connect, and I think a blog can do that. I'm sure that if someone were writing a blog and I just didn't feel a 'click' from their writing, I probably would not contact them.

 

So if you're able to write reasonably well (in a human voice, not in either a porn-star or a pseudo-academic or some other pose), and you like to do it, and it serves a need for you, you should do it. If it feels forced and horrible, probably best to walk away.

 

Of course, the other thing is that there are issues of disclosure for SPs that mean you would want to make sure you're not revealing parts of yourself that you don't want to reveal.

[roamingguy 300292]

Although not a reader of blogs on the internet per se, in this lifestyle I do read ladies blogs. It is a way in addition to other ways (reading posts, emails, pm's etc) to get an insight into a lady's personality if you will, and see if you might click, have chemistry. For me at least, the chemistry/connection factor is the most important when seeing a lady. But for me the social side (ie conversation side if you will) of an encounter is more important than the sexual side.

Just recently, I was reading one lady's blog and, well I don't know if what I did counts as blogging or not, but I left a comment to her blog. First time ever I've done that

But I agree if you are going to blog, you have to stay on top of it. Don't post, then six to eight months later another post and so on. If the blogger is not going to be posting regularly, then readers won't be coming back

A rambling for whatever it's worth

RG