Cara Silver 32412 Report post Posted July 23, 2012 (edited) ???? This has become the bane of my existence. I swear unconsciously and I'm always wondering why mothers are covering their small childrens' ears in my presence. I don't swear all the time, just occasionally. I used to swear at the law office where I worked, it just slipped out sometimes. Eg, 'how are we supposed to subpoena Andrew Carmichael if his fuckin address is listed as 'a tent in the woods?' It was bad. BUT I believe a well-timed 'fuck' is vital to excellent and exciting sex. Does anyone have any advice on how to phase out swearing in everything but sex? Are there some better words for 'fuck'? I really enjoy a bit of dirty talk so life seems bleak at the moment :) Happy Monday everybody xoxoxo Amelia Edited July 23, 2012 by A***ia Mi******n Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Leber 1328 Report post Posted July 23, 2012 I had an old buddy back in high school who too swore unconsciously. Each time he did this in front of his mom, she would wash his mouth with soap. It did work! I don't suggest you to do the same each time you swear. If you don't have a taste for hot spicy food, you can take a bite off a hot pepper. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Boomer 33202 Report post Posted July 23, 2012 I would suggest that you're mouth is allowed to engage before your brain. Start to take a breath or count a couple of seconds off before you have something to say, just slow up a bit and maybe the problem will solve itself. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jhena Grey 25615 Report post Posted July 23, 2012 Personally I can't and dont swear. It was always frowned upon in my family and it's a habit I didn't pick up. Which is odd because my siblings swear like a sailor. Exception is when I'm a. really upset b. frustrated c. in the moment of passion. I found this link with steps on how to stop. http://m.wikihow.com/Stop-Swearing Hopefully some of the content is helpful. JG 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
futileresistenz 28253 Report post Posted July 23, 2012 The first step in stopping your habit is to recognize that it may be a problem for you. Tell your friends and family that you want to stop/cut down on it and enlist their help. Ask yourself the question "Why do I want to stop swearing?" and of course actually stopping is not going to happen overnight. It will take vigilance over a period of time. Maybe you can start a "swear jar" and put money in for a good cause every time you let one slip. :) Some kind of punishment to give you incentive to reduce the incidents. But also reward yourself once in a while if you feel you've made a big improvement. The use of swear words to shock or get across a stark point IMO has been severely curtailed, because it is in such wide use. The "most flexible, adaptable" word no longer means much. Finding less crass words in a wider vocabulary will express what you mean more efficiently and elegantly. Best wishes! FR 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mrgreen760 37785 Report post Posted July 23, 2012 (edited) I do swear both consciously and unconsciously. When I think too much about it I start to speak as if I have tourettes. Swearing has been an issue especially as my friend's kids got to certain ages.One friends kid would charge me 50 cents a swear, so I'd give her 5 bucks when I arrived which wasn't the best solution :) There are some swear words that are not as bad as others in my opinion.Using a foreign language seems more refined as well lol Peace MG Edited July 23, 2012 by mrgreen760 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
roamingguy 300292 Report post Posted July 23, 2012 I'll confess at work I'm more prone to swear, it's that sort of work environment (some ladies here know where I work)...not an excuse, but it is true. However in the outside world, especially since I've been on leave, I've hardly ushered a word But I must say, there is one lady I see, and during the course of our encounter she gets a smile on her face, and in a sweet sexy voice asks "would you like to fuck me" It's talking dirty in a very feminine sexy way I'm looking forward to seeing her again too, a few months away now Don't know if that contributes to the thread but what the heck...see, no swearing LOL RG Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
stevecurious 42059 Report post Posted July 23, 2012 Personally I don't damn well know where to begin trying to tell someone how to quit their frigging swearing because I don't f@%king swear...ever. I swear too much so I am watching this thread with great (f@%king) anticipation. Ha Ha 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Cara Silver 32412 Report post Posted July 23, 2012 This is something that`s been in the works for the past week. About halfway through the swear word I realize that I`m swearing so I end up saying alot of nonsense that starts with `f......` Thus far I've said: f.....arfing fuckapedia frouing shi...shu holy shirt and godclamit But the most successful swear replacement is 'oh curse word.' Not too subtle and I'm not sure I can get away with saying 'curse word me' during a hot session but who knows? Anybody want to curse word right now?? Thanks everyone for all the contributions. xoxo A 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Athos 108589 Report post Posted July 23, 2012 There are lots of alternatives. http://tmapsey.hubpages.com/hub/101-Great-Cuss-Word-Alternatives But to be honest I don't give a goddamn ... They are all fuckin useless! More seriously, I like the Sci Fi alternatives: Battlestar Galactica ... Frack Farscape: Frel ... Frelling this, frel that, Frel off Frack has that very satisfying hard consonant at the end. But like RG, I love it when a particular favourite looks at me, smiles slyly, and says "I think you need to fuck me now!" Porthos Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
roamingguy 300292 Report post Posted July 23, 2012 This is something that`s been in the works for the past week. About halfway through the swear word I realize that I`m swearing so I end up saying alot of nonsense that starts with `f......` Thus far I've said: f.....arfing fuckapedia frouing shi...shu holy shirt and godclamit But the most successful swear replacement is 'oh curse word.' Not too subtle and I'm not sure I can get away with saying 'curse word me' during a hot session but who knows? Anybody want to curse word right now?? Thanks everyone for all the contributions. xoxo A Years ago I really swore...like a sailor. What I did is I had a vacation coming up. So I set aside a jar, and everytime I swore, in went a dollar (pocket change) Well by the time I was ready to go on vacation I had over $400.00 for my vacation just from donations to the swearing jar. Not only did I get a little benefit for my holidays, I realized how bad my swearing became, and I cleaned up my language RG Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Malika Fantasy 144625 Report post Posted July 23, 2012 I swear.a lot. but to my defence I am in French. I know some people call me on this, but it's a part of me, I couldn't live without swearing (especially in French...so I guess it is kinda hot ;)) I fucking love swearing like a motherfucking sailor:D and I assume it! but good luck on finding alternative:) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LeeRichards 177238 Report post Posted July 23, 2012 Well my good gracious dear ! I don't swear but dag nabbit if I did I would : Have sex every time I uttered such profanity :) You would perhaps be so gosh darn sexed out you will want to keep your clothes on ! Of course relapses perhaps can be frequent and this method deary can take 50 years of trying ;) Good luck !! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
crankF 12893 Report post Posted July 23, 2012 This thread is really hitting home with me. My name is crankF, and I am a swearaholic. I'm not offended by some vulgarity in most cases, I just try not to do it myself. Futileresistenz reminded me of my gran's swear jar when I was small, it didn't do me much good. Backrubman reminded me how much I hate being called 'honey' by waitstaff and other teenagers in the workforce. I do however, like being called 'Hunny' by Cerb. ladies! But I digress. Boomer's advice is spot on, I won't repeat it. Amelia's replacement words are a great idea. As crazy as this seems, I was helped by watching the 1984 movie 'Johnny Dangerously', a 1930's gangster spoof with Michael Keaton and I as I recall, Joe Piscopo. They called each other 'cork soakers', 'bastages',and 'fargin ice-holes'. I still say those under my breath if peed off. Alcohol can trip me up however, after a few drinks F-bombs fly. A favorite watering hole has a swear jar that I've enriched at times. All that being said, I'd certainly like to hear Amelia's potty-mouth in person someday! 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nicolette Vaughn 294340 Report post Posted July 24, 2012 BUT I believe a well-timed 'fuck' is vital to excellent and exciting sex. Does anyone have any advice on how to phase out swearing in everything but sex? Are there some better words for 'fuck'? I really enjoy a bit of dirty talk so life seems bleak at the moment :) Happy Monday everybody xoxoxo Amelia There is no better word for it because it's so raw. That's why it's a great word to use. I have no guilt about swearing in the happy of the moment. Mental and verbal stimulation are perfect ingredients for great sex aside from the physical aspect of it. I suppose there is a time and place for everything but then again I've always had a potty mouth.;) 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Old Dog 179138 Report post Posted July 24, 2012 Seriously??? I drop F Bombs like there is no tomorrow. I do believe it comes from working in an environment that encourages frustration and the inability (and legal impediments) to punch someone in the face. I think though it has become far more commonplace - when I was a kid, I would hear mom or dad using "damn" or "hell" and that was frowned upon; using the "God" before the "damn" was blasphemous. Now my 81 year old, former rural school teacher, and formerly a devout church goer mom drops the occasional "F" bomb herself - and she is not afraid to say "shit" either. It's a hard habit to break - but setting parameters of acceptability might work on diminishing the use. Set rules of engagement - when you can and can't swear. It will hurt but slowly it gets easier!!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Cara Silver 32412 Report post Posted July 24, 2012 I`m so godclam grateful for all this blurghing advice, I`m gonna farfing cry. HA! Take that, civil society. You guys are beyond funny. Thanks for making this easy. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Luckyme 41401 Report post Posted July 24, 2012 But I must say, there is one lady I see, and during the course of our encounter she gets a smile on her face, and in a sweet sexy voice asks"would you like to fuck me" It's talking dirty in a very feminine sexy way I love it when a favorite SP of mine says that to me. I remember another one would ask " Do you want to "-uck" me from behind? ". I find these swear words used at the right moment make things very sensual and memorable. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Cara Silver 32412 Report post Posted July 24, 2012 I swear.a lot. but to my defence I am in French. I know some people call me on this, but it's a part of me, I couldn't live without swearing (especially in French...so I guess it is kinda hot ;)) I fucking love swearing like a motherfucking sailor:D and I assume it! but good luck on finding alternative:) I totally find French swear words hot, far more so than English. I don't know why! French, or english with a French accent, is gorgeous as it is, something about adding a few choice words makes it even more sexy. I know others who feel this way. I looooooove French girls :) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LeeRichards 177238 Report post Posted July 25, 2012 Roaminguy hasn't quit swearing yet !! Tsk tsk RG !! 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
piano8950 32577 Report post Posted July 26, 2012 As a kid (around grade 7), it became for some reason acceptable among my classmates to swear, so I started to as well. It was exciting to say one of those adult words, like I was playing with fire (I was a kid in a very conservative society). About a year later, in school among my friends I swore constantly. Instead of umm...I'd replace it with fuck. I learned how to swear in 4-5 different languages. And then it just kinda hit me that I was being quite stupid. I'm not saying that I don't swear any more, I just save it for when I really mean it. I started to be more angrier and aggressive just by the words I was using. Anyhow, I don't care how someone speaks. I just tend to avoid those (subconsciously) or being turned of by those who seem to swear for no apparent reason. I stopped, by stopping completely. Catching myself, and just being more careful. Of course, it's completely different when a girl says "Hey, wanna fuck?". That's just hot So if nothing else, get it in the right context! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Phaedrus 209521 Report post Posted July 26, 2012 I'm not saying that I don't swear any more, I just save it for when I really mean it. I do precisely the opposite. I swear all the time, and more-so when I'm pissed off. But if you ever see me stop swearing and get to the very polite stage... run :) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Superfish 866 Report post Posted July 26, 2012 Learn to swear in another language and then use it as a substitute. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NotchJohnson 214123 Report post Posted July 26, 2012 This is something that`s been in the works for the past week. About halfway through the swear word I realize that I`m swearing so I end up saying alot of nonsense that starts with `f......` Thus far I've said: f.....arfing fuckapedia frouing shi...shu holy shirt and godclamit But the most successful swear replacement is 'oh curse word.' Not too subtle and I'm not sure I can get away with saying 'curse word me' during a hot session but who knows? Anybody want to curse word right now?? Thanks everyone for all the contributions. xoxo A When you are about to say the word F U C K and want to change it around quickly just say F(uck).... crying out loud. It saved me a couple of time. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PhantomKnight 7914 Report post Posted July 27, 2012 I have the same problem. In my other job, curse words tends to be every second word. So when I'm back home and in the presence of friends and family I wear a small elastic band around my wrist. I catch myself swearing, I pull it and let it snap on my wrist a bit. It works!!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites