dating an sp

[Emma Alexandra 123368]

If an sp gets seriously involved in a relationship with anyone being a customer or a perfect stranger' date=' how will this affect; 1) her performance as an sp, by this I mean will the sp still give the same services to her clients or be affected by her emotions. 2) in her after working hours life and in the relationship the bf knowing about her work, is she still emotionnaly at work or totally dedicated to her bf.

 

For example the babysitter who as her kids and keeps other kids, are all the kids treated equally or does her kids have more affection or rewards than the others. This is during babysitting hours and after hours.

 

I don't know if I make myself clear on this but just a thought.[/quote']

 

i think if an Sp has a bf that the bf would be treated differently of course..but in a much better caring loving way then a client...you after all know more about her ...more then anyone else ...

or in your words T....her kids would get more attention and rewards..wink

[Ariane Valmont 332]

Narman, some women definitely hope to date a Doctor or a lawyer, etc. But the key word is "hope". In the vast majority, I don't think they go looking specifically for that. Or at least, I hope not because it would be so shallow.

 

T'storm, those are certainly questions that an SP has to ask herself before getting involved with someone. I know that personaly, I could not deal with being in the sex trade while I would be in love.

[etasman2000 15994]

For example the babysitter who as her kids and keeps other kids' date=' are all the kids treated equally or does her kids have more affection or rewards than the others. This is during babysitting hours and after hours.[/quote']

 

Sometimes her kids are expected to act on a higher standard!

[Narman 117]

I use to date a SP years ago in Montreal. We'd been dating for about 5-6 months before she decided to get into the biz. She told me she knew a girl who was doing webcam and softcore m-f nude photo shoots, and could get her a job. Honestly, I was a little taken a-back, in fact a little shocked.

After talking about it in detail, I realized she wasn't just in a manic episode or something. She had a solid plan and did some research etc, so I agreed to accept her choice. We weren't exclusive anyway, she needed the money for her tuition (and mountain of student debt), and I didn't feel that I had any right to even try persuade her not to. She did a couple shoots but didn't like it because she felt that generally the only way to get another shoot or recomendation was to fool around with the photographer. She tried massage, and eventually escorting.

We dated for almost 3 years, 2.5 of which she was working, and I actually had very few problems with it. There were a few of course, like after dating a few years we thought maybe we should move in together, which we decided was a bad idea because she sometimes did incall. Or the nervous feeling that's common after a client's condom breaks. The only major issue I had during all of it was fear of being percieved as a 'pimp', since, while I supported her emotionally, this was absolutlely and completely her choice. Ultimatlely though, what screwed us up was what screws up most young peoples' relationships, time. We just drifted apart as a couple. My career/education was pulling me away geographically. She was enamoured with the biz still and after paying off all her debt she was just starting to build a nest egg. We're still really good friends (and ocassional lovers), she even took me to Jamaica when my brother passed.

So as far as guys 'wanting' to date an SP, I can see it. I also think it could work in the long term if everyone is open and honest, able to control jealousy, and recognize that while being an SP is a job, it is also basically polyamory (polysexual?!?) which is a valid expression of sexuality. In closing, I don't regret it at all.

 

Cheers,

Narman

 

p.s. I just came back from the dentist so if this doesn't make sense blame the Percocet.:lol:

[Emma Alexandra 123368]

Sometimes her kids are expected to act on a higher standard!

 

they sure are Et...lol

[Emma Alexandra 123368]

I use to date a SP years ago in Montreal. We'd been dating for about 5-6 months before she decided to get into the biz. She told me she knew a girl who was doing webcam and softcore m-f nude photo shoots, and could get her a job. Honestly, I was a little taken a-back, in fact a little shocked.

After talking about it in detail, I realized she wasn't just in a manic episode or something. She had a solid plan and did some research etc, so I agreed to accept her choice. We weren't exclusive anyway, she needed the money for her tuition (and mountain of student debt), and I didn't feel that I had any right to even try persuade her not to. She did a couple shoots but didn't like it because she felt that generally the only way to get another shoot or recomendation was to fool around with the photographer. She tried massage, and eventually escorting.

We dated for almost 3 years, 2.5 of which she was working, and I actually had very few problems with it. There were a few of course, like after dating a few years we thought maybe we should move in together, which we decided was a bad idea because she sometimes did incall. Or the nervous feeling that's common after a client's condom breaks. The only major issue I had during all of it was fear of being percieved as a 'pimp', since, while I supported her emotionally, this was absolutlely and completely her choice. Ultimatlely though, what screwed us up was what screws up most young peoples' relationships, time. We just drifted apart as a couple. My career/education was pulling me away geographically. She was enamoured with the biz still and after paying off all her debt she was just starting to build a nest egg. We're still really good friends (and ocassional lovers), she even took me to Jamaica when my brother passed.

So as far as guys 'wanting' to date an SP, I can see it. I also think it could work in the long term if everyone is open and honest, able to control jealousy, and recognize that while being an SP is a job, it is also basically polyamory (polysexual?!?) which is a valid expression of sexuality. In closing, I don't regret it at all.

 

Cheers,

Narman

 

p.s. I just came back from the dentist so if this doesn't make sense blame the Percocet.:lol:

 

this is a great answer...makes me understand things alot better...thanks

kisses,

Emma A

[Ariane Valmont 332]

Narman, sorry things didn't work out for you guys but at least, it turned into what seems like a great friendship.

 

Your experience is quite interesting but there is a big difference between dating an SP and wanting to date SPs in general. ;)

[Emma Alexandra 123368]

Narman, sorry things didn't work out for you guys but at least, it turned into what seems like a great friendship.

 

Your experience is quite interesting but there is a big difference between dating an SP and wanting to date SPs in general. ;)

 

there is a difference but it helps me understand why some would seek out sps..a kink kind of...

[Narman 117]

Narman, sorry things didn't work out for you guys but at least, it turned into what seems like a great friendship.

 

Your experience is quite interesting but there is a big difference between dating an SP and wanting to date SPs in general. ;)

 

Yeah....I kinda went off into a rant eh? Hmmm I meant to tie in some of the reasons why some guys might want to date SPs....so here are some in point form. Forgive my foul mouth, and my generalizations.

 

*The labour skills involved in being an SP probably mean they are great in the sack.

* SPs may be more open to different kinds of sex, ie. groups, situations, role playing, S&M, toys. Most would probably not be completely shocked by most 'normal' requests. There's an old nurse joke that might apply "as far as sex goes, a nurse may say 'no', but she'll never say 'gross'!"

*They probably really like sex, so less "i'm too tired"s (but I'd still it)

* they are probably very connected to what gets them off.....and for guys getting your gal off is an ego boost.

* They realize that sex is a 'need' and doesn't always have to be about love.

*they are warm and caring people

*They look good, smell nice, and are usually easy to get along with (people persons)

* Alot of SPs are blonde, and they're supposed to have more fun.:-P

* They're financially independant

*They're probably emotionally strong

*This one sounds weird but-they probably aren't in super good contact with their extended family, meaning less in-laws!"

* Many are well traveled

*the biz is mysterious

More specific reasons relating to the guy are;

They reject societal restrictions and believe in free love.

They believe in sex-positive feminist ethos.

They believe that SPs are altuistic, intimate care providers similar to nurses

and therefore respect it as a legitimate job.

They want to tame a wild/dangerous/myterious women

They believe SPs are modern equivelents to sexual/sensual goddesses and want to worship them.

They are cuckolds, and get off on the SP having sex with many people.

They want to start a life with a free thinker

They want to 'save' a girl? (unfortunate but true)

They feel that a relationship with a gal that could 'fall in love' and leave for another, but doesn't, must be very unique and special.... (I know this one was big with me.)

Any of these could apply, I think we might be asking wrong question. Perhaps we should be asking "Why would a guy not want to date an SP?" IMHO this question would yield more telling results.

Cheers.

Narman

[Carrie Moon 68826]

* Alot of SPs are blonde, and they're supposed to have more fun.:-P

 

HA! ummm. nope..speaking as someone who was a blonde for about 10 years.

 

Any of these could apply, I think we might be asking wrong question. Perhaps we should be asking "Why would a guy not want to date an SP?" IMHO this question would yield more telling results.

Cheers.

Narman

 

Understandably many men are not okay with their gal sleeping with other people..