The road not taken

[Mikeyboy 27133]

I've been doing a lot of reflecting lately on... well my life and life in general. Life is full of crossroads. Decisions that we make that impact the rest of our lives. Decisions that we will never fully understand the effect of.

 

What if I'd continued to pursue music instead of the career path I chose?

 

What if I had stayed with my previous girlfriend? (The one I broke up with to pursue the woman I ended up marrying?).

 

It isn't so much regret, but just simple curiosity. After all, we are the sum of our choices in life.

 

Every once in a while however, something happens to make me think: "what if.... ? "

 

So what are your "what if's"? The things you will always wonder about. What are your "roads not taken"?

[EmilyRushton 253367]

My what if....

 

What if I never left Alberta? (Id probably be married to a redneck and be driving a mini van)

[roamingguy 300292]

Well mine isn't a case of regrets but I sometimes wonder about my ex-fiance. What if I could have got past her fling (in which she became pregnant) just before we were to be married. Could I have been not only her husband but the child's stepfather, and we have a happy marriage. I just wonder, very rarely mind you, if it would have worked out. No regrets on my part mind you, but on occasion I do wonder. She was one of only two women I loved , Love with a capital L. The other, well it ended with her stalking me, so no wondering there LOL

But then, when I have an encounter scheduled, the hell with wondering. This lifestyle, it's poly amorous nature is so much more enjoyable, no strings, no drama and in all seriousness, it has enriched my life. I look forward to seeing ladies I have developed relationships (within the confines of this lifestyle) with, and meeting new ladies, and possibly developing new relationships too. And had I married, I wouldn't be here

RG

 

But on reflection now, I wonder if I should have taken this road (seeing SP's) a lot sooner in life than I did, instead of wasting my time dating LOL

[Guest N***he**Ont**y]

What if I had followed through with the Coast Guard after passing my Officer Cadet entry exams. Yeah me being in Uniform! What a thought that was!

[mrgreen760 37785]

What if I hadn't walked into that MP many many years ago.

 

Peace

MG

[Winnipegcub 21293]

What if I took Hotel Management like I planned?

[Athos 108589]

Many years ago I was in an incredibly volatile relationship with a woman I loved intensely. The sort of relationship where you could be screaming mad, vow it was over, and then spend three days in bed together (which we did ... Fucked, slept, fucked more)

 

If I think about her, those feelings return. A few years ago I saw her for the first time in over 20 years. Nothing happened, but the way I was feeling that night, all she had to do was say she wanted me and it would have been like 20 years had disappeared.

 

Yes, I wonder!

 

On the other hand, I suspect we would have made each other miserable in the long run! But boy we would have had fun along the way

[TGirl-Kay 7484]

I often wonder what if I'd transitioned earlyer.

[PhantomKnight 7914]

I often wonder, where would I have been if I took that football scholarship instead of picking a girl I broke up with after finding out she was cheating constantly.

 

Or would it have worked between me and my ex fiancée if I never went to Afghanistan.

 

So many little things I often reflect upon.

[Guest *ig*a**]

Reading this has me doing some inner searching what if I would have stayed in school and not run with the crowd I did and had not done some nasty things I did. What if I never meet the woman Iam with. If I hadn't meet the later I know I probably wouldn't be here to write this.

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[Chanel Reign 28097]

What if....

 

I had taken that job in Vancouver with mumblemumble Productions and became a famous Producer. They eventually merged with Disney and I was all ready to. But I stayed in Ottawa and took the promotion here.

[crankF 12893]

I avoid "would've, could've, should've" type of reflecting. For me anyway, too much introspection only leads to hypertension and frustration. Might better have a wank!

[LeeRichards 177238]

My what if....

 

What if I never left Alberta? (Id probably be married to a redneck and be driving a mini van)

 

What if:

 

Well now I am wondering what if I had never left Alberta....with the right timing I coulda bought a mini van and married Em ;)

 

Have six kids...5 boys and one girl.

 

The boys could be rednecks too and the girl could eventually marry a redneck. We could get a nice used house trailer....down by the river.

 

The boys would have shaved heads like me...shampoo is expensive...and could hunt and run a trapline.

 

Our daughter would be gorgeous and look like her mom....she could learn to knit and darn and drink beer like the boys and also hunt with a musket and to make rabbit stew...and so on....

 

We would live happily ever after :) Ohhh the memories we coulda shared Emily haha

 

Mind you I am quite fond of the memories we do have outside of Alberta ;)

[Guest *ig*a**]

Reading this has me doing some inner searching what if I would have stayed in school and not run with the crowd I did and had not done some nasty things I did. What if I never meet the woman Iam with. If I hadn't meet the later I know I probably wouldn't be here to write this.

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Thx Chanel.

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[Skylar Sommers 271]

I like this thread topic, interesting... and requiring more self-reflection than I've done in awhile. Ok let's play:

 

-What if I'd kept my internship in Australia, instead of waking up working on that fishing boat after a night of partying?

-What if I'd gotten my directions right and never accidentally stumbled into that brothel in Sydney for the first time?

 

Well I CAN tell you that this exciting adventure I'm on now would probably not have come to pass, and I would not be speaking with you all now. So kudos for shanghaiing backpackers and women's terrible sense of direction haha, cheers!

 

The Road Not Taken:

Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,

And sorry I could not travel both

And be one traveler, long I stood

And looked down one as far as I could

To where it bent in the undergrowth;

 

Then took the other, as just as fair,

And having perhaps the better claim

Because it was grassy and wanted wear,

Though as for that the passing there

Had worn them really about the same,

 

And both that morning equally lay

In leaves no step had trodden black.

Oh, I marked the first for another day!

Yet knowing how way leads on to way

I doubted if I should ever come back.

 

I shall be telling this with a sigh

Somewhere ages and ages hence:

Two roads diverged in a wood, and I,

I took the one less traveled by,

And that has made all the difference.

 

 

 

--Robert Frost

[roamingguy 300292]

My what if....

 

What if I never left Alberta? (Id probably be married to a redneck and be driving a mini van)

 

This is the life of a wife of a Alberta (or any) redneck

Be glad you left Alberta Emily.

All in fun, from a guy who has some friends who are Ontario rednecks

 

 

RG

[mrrnice2 157005]

I am more than lucky in the 'what if's department, but at times one does wonder.

 

What if I had not accepted that blind date so many years ago that ended up being the meeting that changed my life and gave me an amazing partner for so many years. Would I have met her anyway, under other circumstances?

 

What if I had not accepted my job in PEI, not ever having set foot in the province before I started work. Would I have ended up here anyway under some other circumstance?

 

What if I had not stumbled across Cerb so coincidentally? Would I have met some of these amazing people who have helped me so much in the last two years anyway under other circumstances?

 

I have a good friend who believes that every meeting with someone is predetermined and happens for a purpose. It is not predestiny but rather what one does as a result of those meetings that determines ones course in life. I wonder........

 

For me, no what if regrets at all. :)

[Meg O'Ryan 266444]

Fate brought me to this point in my life and I believe it's where I should be. There are many instances where I could think what if I chose A instead of B but really could I be sure the outcome would be better? I love my life, including the difficulties and trust that the path I chose was the path I was meant to lead.

[roamingguy 300292]

Fate brought me to this point in my life and I believe it's where I should be. There are many instances where I could think what if I chose A instead of B but really could I be sure the outcome would be better? I love my life, including the difficulties and trust that the path I chose was the path I was meant to lead.

 

Well I do thank that one fateful day LOL when after enough of being alone,

I went to Google, typed in "escorts" or words to that effect, and found CERB. Feb 1, 2010 a door opened in my life when I joined here, and I've met many wonderful ladies through CERB not to mention met on-line on this board many good people. I don't regret this path, just in all seriousness, wish I had gone to Google a long time sooner

RG

[Guest N***he**Ont**y]

I was offered a job in Saudi a long time ago for a three year contract working for a Bell contractor! All that tax free money to be made installing telephone switching equipment in that place. Was talked out of it by family but all that money to be made!

[Meg O'Ryan 266444]

I was offered a job in Saudi a long time ago for a three year contract working for a Bell contractor! All that tax free money to be made installing telephone switching equipment in that place. Was talked out of it by family but all that money to be made!

 

In my experience, having a lot of money ain't all it's cracked up to be! Happiness is not dependent on the size of ones wallet.

[BarrhavenWoody 10776]

What if I hadn't left my ex? Would I now be seriously depressed and deeply regretting my choices? Would I have been able to suck it up and continue to endure all the crap for the sake of my kids?

[crankF 12893]

I was offered a job in Saudi a long time ago for a three year contract working for a Bell contractor! All that tax free money to be made installing telephone switching equipment in that place. Was talked out of it by family but all that money to be made!

Sorry this doesn't pertain to the thread, but this post triggered an anecdote.

 

I have a friend who did work as a contractor making big bucks in Saudi. He likes to tell about his main memories. A fellow contractor got caught making and selling homemade moonshine. They locked him up and told him when he reimbursed Saud gov't. every penny he had earned in country($$$$$$), he would would be deported.

 

Two Filipino workers raped and murdered a young girl. They were taken to "Chop Square" before a crowd of thousands. All foreign workers were forced to attend. Two executioners appeared. The prisoners were stripped naked. One swordsman whips out a small sword and slices off the genitalia, then the big blademan lopped off their heads with one stroke. The heads were then tossed to the frenzied spectators, who played soccer with them.

[Guest N***he**Ont**y]

We were all advised on the behavior that would be expected and that we would not be allowed to leave the compound with out an escort for our safety.

[Phaedrus 209521]

Who knows? I really have absolutely no clue what might have happened if I'd turned right instead of left. Perhaps I'd be a millionaire by now; perhaps I'd have been hit by a bus. There are so many unknowns and variables that I'm afraid I consider speculation to be a waste of time, and one that tends to lead to sadness and regret when it isn't necessary....