Just curious.....

[Serena Blake 14066]

I would rather know up front. Honesty and trust is what a relationship is built on and if I found out a girl I was dating for awhile was an SP and had been misleading me I'd be royally pissed of. Knowing up front is a totally different scenario.

 

yes defiantly. ANYONE has the right to be mad if being misled. I would only want to be with someone that I couldn't bare lying to.

[Icebreaker 3938]

The more time I spend in this lifestyle, the more definitely I can say that I could picture myself falling in love with an SP (providing the feelings were genuinely mutual) and still accept the lifestyle. I agree that you fall in love with the person not their profession.

 

The only qualifiers to that statemet are:

 

- Communication has to be there (about boundaries etc...)

- Honesty has to be there

- Mutual Respect has to be there.

 

If I had met a special someone and found out later they were an SP I would still stick to the points above. Depending how we were to have met, I would completely understand if the lady were hesitant to disclose being an SP up front (I realize that it is not an easy conversation to initiate). However I would hope she would tell me in the early stages of a potential relationship (if being an SP happened in the past that would not bother me as my belief is that "the past is the past").

 

If I may seem too tolerant by some, that may stem from many bad experiences in conventional dating situations (the ladies from CERB have been far and away more honest and up front than the past few civilian girlfriends I've had where honesty and mutual respect on their part was very much lacking). Having said that I find myself more open-minded and not solely focussed on conventional dating.

[Guest *Ste***cque**]

Sure, it's possible. The thing is, finding that person isn't easy and it can take a while to fall in love. If an SP tells the person too soon, will societal hang ups get the better of him? If you wait too long, will he feel misled?

I was in a relationship in my early 20's with a beautiful, sexy girl. While she was away at school I had a girl come up to me at a bar one night and ask me if i knew my girlfriend was part time escorting while at university? When i asked where she heard such a thing she said a cop friend told her. I mentioned it to my girlfriend when she was back in town and she had a good laugh. I ended up marrying her, even though a part of me had wondered...was it possible? We still occasionally joke about it 30 years later.

For me, I still would have married her even if i "knew" it was true. We all have our past histories.

Maybe someday, sex won't have so many stigma's attached to it, God willing. ;)

[sacha 7410]

I have read all your posts. Not a man alive who loved his women would support this source of income. And any women who believes it....well....there is a pot of gold at the end of the rainbow.

Just my opinion....

Sacha

[Kubrickfan 12836]

I have read all your posts. Not a man alive who loved his women would support this source of income. And any women who believes it....well....there is a pot of gold at the end of the rainbow.

Just my opinion....

Sacha

 

But what if she is giving him no choice?

[roamingguy 300292]

I have read all your posts. Not a man alive who loved his women would support this source of income. And any women who believes it....well....there is a pot of gold at the end of the rainbow.

Just my opinion....

Sacha

 

Well I said I would have a to work it out, if it ever happened (yeah right LOL). In my head I could accept it. I understand that being a SP is a profession, not a lady seeing other men romantically. But in my heart I'd have trouble, there is still the element that in a relationship sex with other men equals making love equals cheating, it is more than just a physical activity.

But my question back to you Sacha, do you reject the idea of

poly amorous relationships then. Where men and women have multi partners.

Now me, I'm monogamous but I've come to learn, through this board, that there are other relationship models and they may work for other people.

I'm also curious, since being an escort is a profession (one I highly respect btw) could an SP be just as accepting of her husband/CL/boyfriend continuing to see escorts. As long as there is no emotional connections, and it is just physical, would the SP who is wife/CL/girlfriend be as accepting of her husband/CL/boyfriend continuing to see escorts

Just tossed out for discussion

RG

[kechara 2526]

I just found this thread :)

 

When I was 19 I was working as a bartender in a SC. Since all of the women I used to hang around with were dancers I thought about this. It is not the exact same but it is close.

 

I would have been able to as long as I wasn't going to where she was working. I think watching others having my GF or wife dancing for them would have eventually built up emotional for me.

 

Could I be involved with someone who was an SP, yes. If I was though, it is something where I would not be able to hear about her clients. I think this would be the same for most guys. I think most would end up wondering if they were better than them, or if their GF/wife liked them better than them.

 

It would be something that a guy would need to know from the beginning and I don't think most would be able to accept it.

 

 

I'm also curious, since being an escort is a profession (one I highly respect btw) could an SP be just as accepting of her husband/CL/boyfriend continuing to see escorts. As long as there is no emotional connections, and it is just physical, would the SP who is wife/CL/girlfriend be as accepting of her husband/CL/boyfriend continuing to see escorts

Just tossed out for discussion

RG

 

I am curious about that also

[Phaedrus 209521]

I have read all your posts. Not a man alive who loved his women would support this source of income. And any women who believes it....well....there is a pot of gold at the end of the rainbow.

 

This saddens me. Reading it just made me curl up and die inside a little bit. Really, not all of us guys consider escorting to be a bad or insupportable source of income. I can think of far worse things you could be doing than providing happiness to people.

 

Loving someone involves accepting them as they are, not trying to change them into something else. And while I don't claim to know the personal circumstances of everyone here, I'm pretty sure that there's quite a few ladies who could give you some cast-iron counter-examples if they choose to.

 

"I'd love you if you quit your job" is not the same as "I love you."

[Guest *Ste***cque**]

Hi Sacha,

I'm guessing you were addressing me and my posts? I will agree that having an ongoing relationship with an SP would not be a "normal" relationship but I still say it is "possible". The world is full of different relationships such as open marriages or even polygamy, sex surrogacy, etc. While many women might think those people are delusional, who are we to judge?

I would like to clarify that in my example, I said we all have our past histories, so i was referring to the past. I don't know how i would react to an ongoing situation. I haven't given too much thought to the reality of it, just my own romanticized feelings of love and how i would want to react if my wife wanted to try a different lifestyle. Maybe I'm deluding myself but all of us are a bit delusional if we think about it.

All the best,

Steve