does it happen

[rooster1978 100]

I don't know if i'm the only one this has happen too but have you ever fallin in love with a girl you have seen that thier's absolutly nothing in this world you would not do for her you don't care about her profession all you care about is making her truly happy and seeing thier beautiful smile or has a girl ever fallin for a client.

[Guest S**a*Q]

Don't fall for your provider, it'll just make things weird in the long run.

[dunkinsailor 1220]

it's a combination of brain chemicals, the newness, feeling magic, and the "if" syndrome - all part of our brain's hard wiring + cultural upbringing to help us find a mate. A bit like going to disneyworld as a kid, and wishing you could live there.

 

Recognize it as a deliciousness, and temporary, and part fantasy. Enjoy the swim, just be careful about going out too deep, too long. Reality can be kind, but can also come crashing painfully in.

[roamingguy 300292]

The most that happened to me is I fall in like with a lady. Keep your head on about you. Yes, there are ladies I like, a few I consider, within the confines of this lifestyle, friends, but none I'm in love with.

Why. They are paid companions. And at it's very core, the relationship between you and a lady is a business relationship, albeit a very intimate business relationship. As such, you are a client, not a potential boyfriend for the lady. Don't confuse that intimacy with love. The lady won't recipricate, and you'll end up hurt. Not to mention it's unfair to put that sort of pressure on a lady

This lifestyle is about uncomplicated, mutually beneficial enjoyment.

My two cents

RG

[rooster1978 100]

I appreciate everyones feed back and thank you for it. I know it is a busniess relationship and keep telling myself that but it's so much more than the intimatcy i wouldn't even care about that part i just see her for the truly beautiful woman she is as a person.

[Meg O'Ryan 266444]

It is a mistake to blur the lines unless she reciprocates the feelings!

[roamingguy 300292]

I appreciate everyones feed back and thank you for it. I know it is a busniess relationship and keep telling myself that but it's so much more than the intimatcy i wouldn't even care about that part i just see her for the truly beautiful woman she is as a person.

 

The ladies I have met are truly special and beautiful, inside and out, and yes, the intimacy and companionship they provide is, at least for me, worth far more than the donation they ask for. But I still keep my head about me, to save me in part from a broken heart (although I'm past the stage and age of looking for a relationship), and causing them undue grief and pressure. I know I'm middle aged, bald, glasses and a bit of a belly. Beautiful women, some model material, well they aren't looking for a relationship with someone like me. But they do provide the gift of their time and intimacy, which is special enough. But in part, while they might like you, don't mistake that for genuine feelings for you.

Enjoy your encounters for what they are, don't read more into those encounters than they are paid dates

RG

[The General 11309]

Generally speaking it can be a illusion for the most part, the lady is your greatest fantasy, so you need to be careful, and realize the risks of getting involved or feeling this way. The mostly likely outcome is not the one that you would like.

 

However, things happen, SPs and clients have fallen for each other and end up in a lasting relationship. I don't know what the chance of this, but it is low, but you never know.

 

Like the movie, dumb and dumber. What are the odds - "one in a million", wow then there is a chance, that's all I want. Not great odds for sure.

[backrubman 64800]

I don't know if i'm the only one this has happen too but have you ever fallin in love with a girl you have seen that thier's absolutly nothing in this world you would not do for her you don't care about her profession all you care about is making her truly happy and seeing thier beautiful smile or has a girl ever fallin for a client.

 

I absolutely fall in love with most (for a few hours, and rarely days or weeks but only for the time I have the supreme pleasure of their company and undivided attention), nothing wrong with that (and I enjoy falling in love so often) but then I can't allow myself give it a second thought (until next time) :) It's a hazard you absolutely must adjust to. The "Pretty Woman" (as in the move by the same name) scenario does no doubt happen but it is exceptionally rare.

[Guest gmanzombie]

When you consider ther level of intimacy that is involved, and the possibility that you are a bit emotionally compromised by life, it could be very easy to read more into a client/escort relationship. If this were not the case, there would not be stalkers in the world.

[dunkinsailor 1220]

I do the same backrubman. When an sp whispers she's in love with me as we're in the throes, it makes the experience so much more delicious. We both know its fantasy, but it makes gfe ..GFE!

[rooster1978 100]

I wanna thank everyone for there feedback it is appreciated I know in my heart it is only a fantasy but if I had the chance I would happily marry this woman and dedicate every day of the rest of my life to making her the happiest woman alive.

[billybob 20128]

I wanna thank everyone for there feedback it is appreciated I know in my heart it is only a fantasy but if I had the chance I would happily marry this woman and dedicate every day of the rest of my life to making her the happiest woman alive.

 

Take a break and see someone else, you sound a little too smitten.

[Kubrickfan 12836]

I wanna thank everyone for there feedback it is appreciated I know in my heart it is only a fantasy but if I had the chance I would happily marry this woman and dedicate every day of the rest of my life to making her the happiest woman alive.

 

Rooster -

 

Dude, with respect, you're not in love. It's a combination of infatuation and horniness combined with novelty. Guaranteed.

 

Enjoy the ride ... literally ... but keep your wits. If you keep replaying that fantasy "tape," over and over again in your head (you are doing that in your post above) you're gonna think its real and that's when you are setting yourself up for a big fall.

[Boomer 33202]

Sure fall in love if you want, but, and this is a big but, at this point it's her business and treat it as such. Remember that it is her job to play and satisfy on your emotional needs. On the other hand remember she is still a woman that can be courted, and even with a more conventional liaison it takes time to develop a relationship. It will cost you to find out where you stand, so set some limits on what you're willing to invest to find out if she is legitimately interested in furthering the relationship.

[ready3232 124]

In my opinion it should be viewed as pure fantasy, but as in real life and business it should never become personal... it is strictly business.

[PrimeMeridian 192]

We're too quick to discount "love" if it's arrived at quickly. It's just infatuation. It's just hormones. Sure, if it's arrived at quickly it hasn't had time to generate the sort of inertia that a long relationship has, but inertia is inherent in anything in life and isn't a prerequisite for love. There is, I think, something of love in every encounter. You can't fake it with any sense of authenticity. Which is why good actors and actresses have such a hard time maintaining relationships. They have to accurately pretend to be in love with different people, and they do that not by being so very good at pretending, but by being good at feeling and projecting that. So while there may be something of love in every encounter, it is quite possible that it is transiatory.

 

...I would happily marry this woman and dedicate every day of the rest of my life to making her the happiest woman alive.

 

That all being said, do not forget love that isn't returned isn't love, it's longing. And what I see in your comment above speaks toward the desire for a relationship, which isn't necessarily out of the question, but highly unlikely. Even if there is something of love in your encounters, a relationship is probably not going to happen.

 

So, like Don Pedro said in Much Ado About Nothing, "If thou doth love fair Hero, cherish it". Feel free to feel. Relish it. Revel in it. Just make sure you don't give your heart more room to feel than is being returned. That's unfair to her, and to yourself.

[imhere4morefun 100]

I wanna thank everyone for there feedback it is appreciated I know in my heart it is only a fantasy but if I had the chance I would happily marry this woman and dedicate every day of the rest of my life to making her the happiest woman alive.

 

As in most situation, honesty works. I think you owe her that, for 2 reasons, she may feel the sameway(highly unlikely) but more importantly your feelings may change the working relationship, and she is entitled to understand where things fit

 

It probably won't lead to more but might provide some clarity for you and her both.

 

I would suggest that its a fantasy, these are real people and at working they are "acting"(for lack of a better term) but in real life they have the same flaws, quirks and traits as the rest of us. So are you falling in love with the person or the persona ?

 

2 cents from a newbie

[PrimeMeridian 192]

... If his feelings of love for the lady are reciprocated by the lady, she should broach the subject to the gentleman.

 

I think I'd have to agree here. In a normal situation, a woman drops hints to ensure that the guy knows it's ok to pursue. In this situation, you just can't tell the difference between those "hints" and what she's doing because she's your escort. And it would make SP's really uncomfortable, I think, to have it suddenly dawn on them that what had been role play is being construed as real.

[Meg O'Ryan 266444]

Communication! If in doubt, just ask but be prepared for the real answer! Not trying to be a negative nelly especially since I really enjoy the time that I spend with most people I meet! I, for one, enjoy the whole aspect of a non committal relationship or even the one offs. Sex is the answer but not the solution.

[Mikeyboy 27134]

I respectfully have to disagree here. If his feelings of love for the lady are reciprocated by the lady, she should broach the subject to the gentleman. If a guy brings it up to a lady, it can be misconstrued as a guy trying to negotiate or get free time with a lady, and may not be seen as a guy in love with a SP. But a lady broaching the subject, well that would be seen as more a case of she is in love with him, and wondering if the feelings are mutual. If she doesn't contact him, very safe bet she isn't in love with him

And he should realize in this lifestyle there are some great ladies out there, where a chemistry (not love) does exist. But I think he is confusing the chemistry he has with a great companion with love.

And really, he should tread carefully, he could be putting undue and unfair pressure on a lady because she provides great companionship for him...in other words she is doing her job

It has to be remembered, in this lifestyle, the relationship is SP/Client. The client should not, ever, try to change this relationship to something romantic, IMHO. If the lady feels the SP/Client relationship should change, or wants it to change to something romantic, she needs to broach the subject. If he broaches it, it could be seen as negotiating or trying to get free time, where as with the lady, it would be IMHO, seen as more honest.

And no, I'm not starting, nor trying to start an argument here, just posting a different viewpoint

RG

 

No worries rg. I always respect your opinions. I was suggesting things to consider if he were determined to pursue the matter. Truthfully, I feel he should see some other ladies (lots of them) and move on. I must respectfully disagree however, on the idea of sitting back and waiting for her to make a move. In all likelihood, she is unaware of his feelings. He could spend a lot of time (and money) waiting for something that never happens. I have no issue with this sort of relationship if everyone knows what they are getting out of it. If he spends all of his time and resources on what he thinks is an investment in his future happiness, then there is a problem.

 

I still believe that being upfront and honest, in a respectful way is the best way to pursue it if (and only if) he is determined to do so.

 

Again, just my thoughts on the matter.

[mrgreen760 37785]

"The game is the game......always"

 

Peace

MG

[Carrie Moon 68826]

Funny that no-one has brought up the possibility of a 3rd option if he discloses his feelings and that's that she might lie and reply that she shares feelings back and then use it against him. I have had 2 past regulars severely manipulated after 'falling in love' with sp's who chose to take them for everything they had. Sad but it happens.

 

One made the papers bigtime and she ended up getting jail time.. the other got away with it. Sad.. but true.

 

This is not to suggest that escorts are more likely to scam people than the general population.. but the vulnerability of such a situation usually comes up when the girl suggests she badly needs to get out of the business and would her new 'client turned lover' end up taking on payments that help her get out of the business.. just be careful.

[oldblueeyez 15475]

You're not in love. You simply have an ancient genetic impulse to procreate with someone your body and mind deem optimal DNA; and to nuture, feed, and protect her and the offspring until they are of adult age.

 

Reciprocal love never lasts forever. Sooner or later it ends. Sometimes it ends the next morning, sometimes it ends when your life-long partner dies. I would just enjoy your sessions of "love" with the acknowledgement that all love dies. Keep it in its compartment and enjoy it for what it is, or for what you imagine it to be. Live love in the moment, not in some fantasized future with a white picket fence.

 

If you broach the subject with her, there's a 99% chance you'll ruin your illusion of love with her forever.

 

There are truly only two things you can love for eternity, yourself and God (whichever God that is seems a point of endless debate and savagery). For some, love seems to be a reassurance that there will be somebody in the hospital room to hold your dying hand; however, there is only one who will traverse the axis mundi with you, and that is the Supreme Entity.

 

That being said, I was once where you are now. It was reciprocal and we both grew from it. It was fun; lots of good memories. Sadly, one can fall out of love as easily as one falls in.

 

And yeah, if you are spurned, don't turn into some psycho stalker creepo.

[kdawg91 120]

" There are truly only two things you can love for eternity, yourself and God (whichever God that is seems a point of endless debate and savagery). For some, love seems to be a reassurance that there will be somebody in the hospital room to hold your dying hand; however, there is only one who will traverse the axis mundi with you, and that is the Supreme Entity."

 

That is one of the funniest things I have read on this site. Jaded much? What would your God say about visiting all the intelligent, beautiful, and sexy women on this site?