Am I selfish

[Guest *Ste***cque**]

...if this is a place where you can have Your fantasy come true?

 

I've mentioned in prior posts that I'm married. I know to have a good relationship involves give and take and not always evenly. It's not always going to be about me if I want my wife to be happy. Happy wife, happy life. I accept that and see the rewards.

 

On here however, I think most of the time i prefer more of a wham, bam, thank you type of encounter with no concern about anyone's pleasure but my own. Is this wrong if i'm buying a fantasy? I sometimes wonder if I come across as robot like(saw that term on here) when all I want is to get off. I realize I may see some "benefits" if I focus more on pleasuring the women on here, but my question is, are you ok if a client just wants it to be all about him?

[CristyCurves 169032]

I don't think it's selfish. if thats what you like. then thats what you like. It is about the client after all, you are the one paying so you should be the one rewarded. There are many who prefer to please their sp and that is good too. There are all types of encounters and all types of sp's. just enjoy!:icon_biggrin:

[igab 5629]

I think Christy is right. You're the one who's paying for the experience. Personally I like the GFE experience where I please her and she pleases me...but that's what I want.

[Andee 220524]

You are the client and you should be able to have the experience you are seeking as long as you are respectful within the lady's boundaries. Since I cater mostly to half hour appointments, I encounter this more often than not, so it doesn't offend me.

[Guest S*ar*]

...if this is a place where you can have Your fantasy come true?

 

I've mentioned in prior posts that I'm married. I know to have a good relationship involves give and take and not always evenly. It's not always going to be about me if I want my wife to be happy. Happy wife, happy life. I accept that and see the rewards.

 

On here however, I think most of the time i prefer more of a wham, bam, thank you type of encounter with no concern about anyone's pleasure but my own. Is this wrong if i'm buying a fantasy? I sometimes wonder if I come across as robot like(saw that term on here) when all I want is to get off. I realize I may see some "benefits" if I focus more on pleasuring the women on here, but my question is, are you ok if a client just wants it to be all about him?

 

Like you, I am married, yet our wants/needs can and do differ. I remain cognizant of those particular desires of my companions to the fullest extent possible. Each experience tends to differ with our moods and with the lady I am with so I tend to be very flexible as to what happens. And then there's "the chemistry" or lack thereof to take into account so I take things as they come. Yes, we are buying a fantasy, but I enjoy providing pleasure as well. Besides, it's not for me to pass judgment on you or anyone else. So long as you are kind, respectful and courteous to the ladies is all that matters.

[Katherine of Halifax 113932]

I am sure after chatting back and forth most ladies know what to expect. I see a very broad spectrum of people and ultimatly I want to make sure my guest is 100 percent happy.

 

Often gentleman wish to give as much as they receive but even with the same person he may not feel abmitious on a certain day. That is never a problem for me.

 

As Cristy said the guest is paying and as long as I am respected its all fine with me.

[Athos 108589]

I think there are lots of us on here who are looking for very different things. I personally want sexual gratification, but with the intimacy of a longer encounter. But that's me. I can certainly understand the thrill of the quick session. As long as you treat the lady well, no worries as far as I'm concerned.

 

Porthos

[Guest V***s*aP*I]

Personally I prefer a man that is "selfish" and just wants me to please him. So me pleasing a guy gets me way more turned on then them spending a lot of time trying to get me going. So be as selfish as you want, to me it is all about the man anyway ;)

[Guest C**Tra****er]

Personally, I'm all about mutual pleasure. I prefer GFE encounters and It really excites me when I know that I'm giving my partner pleasure. Sure, I'm paying for a service, but gratification comes in multiple ways. I guess I'm just a giver :)

 

To each their own though.

[Gia Wren Marlowe 67985]

I don't think it's selfish. There is still a give and take in these exchanges since the lady is compensated for giving you pleasure. Some gentlemen enjoy taking time to see to a lady's pleasure since that is part of the fantasy for them. But we are fulfilling a fantasy, either way. Both are legitimate.

[The General 11309]

Interesting thread. I love it, shows that there is a vast array of needs out there, both for the guys and the ladies.

 

I get most turned on when I can get the lady or the lady gets just as turned on as me, so that is what gets me going, I want to feel the passion in the encounter.

 

Oh yes, I get it when the guy just wants to get off and it to be all about him, and sometimes feel that way, but for that experience, I can just surf the net and find what I need for free.

[Gia Wren Marlowe 67985]

Oh yes, I get it when the guy just wants to get off and it to be all about him, and sometimes feel that way, but for that experience, I can just surf the net and find what I need for free.

 

Ouch! If you are not paying her and not pleasing her, what does your free lady get out of it? It seems like it's better to see a paid companion for that. It's just my opinion, but that seems a bit harsh.

[loopie 15358]

I think the important thing is that the SP feels comfortable and respected as a professional. If you happen to be a great lover, that's a bonus.

[Guest Ou**or**n]

Ouch! If you are not paying her and not pleasing her, what does your free lady get out of it? It seems like it's better to see a paid companion for that. It's just my opinion, but that seems a bit harsh.

 

Me thinks he is referring to watching porn on the net and then doing the five knuckle shuffle.

[The General 11309]

Thanks OutforFun, I thought it was obvious and need not be more explicit, so thanks for clarifying it, you are right on.

 

Me thinks he is referring to watching porn on the net and then doing the five knuckle shuffle.

[Gia Wren Marlowe 67985]

That makes much more sense, lol, sorry for that. I thought you were refering to dating sites. O.O It seemed so out of character with the general tone of your posts so it surprised me. I am actually very relieved that I misunderstood you. Thank you, OutForFun, for pointing out the intended meaning so quickly.

 

Thanks OutforFun, I thought it was obvious and need not be more explicit, so thanks for clarifying it, you are right on.

[Nicolette Vaughn 294340]

...if this is a place where you can have Your fantasy come true?

 

I've mentioned in prior posts that I'm married. I know to have a good relationship involves give and take and not always evenly. It's not always going to be about me if I want my wife to be happy. Happy wife, happy life. I accept that and see the rewards.

 

On here however, I think most of the time i prefer more of a wham, bam, thank you type of encounter with no concern about anyone's pleasure but my own. Is this wrong if i'm buying a fantasy? I sometimes wonder if I come across as robot like(saw that term on here) when all I want is to get off. I realize I may see some "benefits" if I focus more on pleasuring the women on here, but my question is, are you ok if a client just wants it to be all about him?

 

No it's what we are being paid for. There are many ways to entertain myself on my own time.lol. As long as you are hygenic, polite and respectful of the escort's boundaries, it doesn't matter if it's a wham bam encounter or something different. I can't shun someone for whatever it is they want especially if it's in my limits to provide it. The customer walks away happy and so am I. If I don't like the client, I am under no obligation to see them again.

[someguy 67067]

I enjoy meeting new women, A nice slow encounter is great. I take great pleasure in exploring my partners body and giving pleasure, more then receiving I think sometimes. However if the woman is pleased, she usually returns the favour many times over :).

Like I always say, the woman cum's first :)

[Guest *ig*a**]

Selfish I don't think so I am in the same boat sometimes its nice to have someone who is going to take care of you.

[Guest *Ste***cque**]

I appreciate all of you for taking the time to respond. I'm glad you accept that we all have different needs and my approach is not a problem for you. I can be quiet during an encounter and that can come across as distant so i was just curious if that would bother you.

Some mentioned chemistry and respect and I am always respectful and gentleman-like but, does chemistry really matter to you though? I wouldn't have thought it would matter in this type of situation, as long as the clients were respectful.

I don't consider chemistry during my encounters as chemistry is something I want to keep between my wife and me. Plus I have a policy of trying not to see the same SP twice when I started this hobby as I don't want to develop deeper feelings. That's the line I've drawn for myself and it seems to work.

Thanks for being so understanding.

Steve

p.s. I do however feel warmth for all the women I have seen so far. You are a positive influence for a lot of people.

[Guest S*ar*]

I mention "chemistry" as sometimes certain ladies set my heart a fluttering and there is a general feeling of warmth that seems to take place or at least on my part perhaps. It could be simple infatuation perhaps or downright lust. Like I said though it happens or it doesn't GG with certain ladies. I think you get my drift. The ladies have offered up their perspective and the bottom line here is we are supportive of your position. I too have been distant with some ladies and have just gone through the motions. It happens. It's not being selfish. Just my take on it...just go and have fun and enjoy the encounters as they come.

[Guest *Ste***cque**]

I mistakenly thought one of the ladies posts mentioned chemistry and was surprised it was important for them, as opposed to respect and politeness. My mistake.

 

Thanks for the post, Scarz, and welcome.

[Guest S*ar*]

I mistakenly thought one of the ladies posts mentioned chemistry and was surprised it was important for them, as opposed to respect and politeness. My mistake.

 

Thanks for the post, Scarz, and welcome.

 

 

Thanks GG...take care and all the best.