Ottawagoodguy 100 Report post Posted April 24, 2009 I have had frequently been contacted by an SP that we agreed to for conversation and mutual subjects of interest which I think we both enjoy but it is never for looking for business. The intent of the contact and the trust that has been built up are the important issues. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ekimout 188 Report post Posted April 24, 2009 I've had SP's send me an e-mail to let me know they will be in town. It allows me to book a preferred time as a repeat customer, I'm fine with that. But unless a friendship has developed between the SP and client and contact is encouraged, I think it's inappropriate to make cold calls. Do they know if you are married or in a relationship? Privacy and discretion is very important. Excellent post! xox Thank you very much Miss Cloe. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
E.D. man 691 Report post Posted April 24, 2009 I have had frequently been contacted by an SP that we agreed to for conversation and mutual subjects of interest which I think we both enjoy but it is never for looking for business. The intent of the contact and the trust that has been built up are the important issues. As i had mentioned the 2nd seemed more worried about my heath problems than the money and quite curiously, I sort of found this quite comforting.:-o Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
spud271 47779 Report post Posted April 24, 2009 Well that is good to hear. Sounds like there was some geniune caring on her part. I would be very happy to hear from some of the ladies I know as well in that type of circumstance. As i had mentioned the 2nd seemed more worried about my heath problems than the money and quite curiously, I sort of found this quite comforting.:-o Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Seymour 3970 Report post Posted April 24, 2009 There are likely different thoughts on this one. Communication indicating availability is one thing, communication on a purely social (non business) level is another. Receiving communication asking about your health or to wish you a happy birthday or Merry Christmas or something like that via a PM or email is pretty discrete, and really isn't a big deal. The gentleman in this scenario I'm describing really should be ensuring his email and web access is secure. Agreed, many gents on here have an SO and want to maintain discretion and privacy and do not want any communication from a lady (except for a confirmation or cancellation). Then there are those that have a need to send 5 txt messages to the lady, one to say, yes I'm good for that time, then four more to say did you get my last message.... Not to condone anyone's actions from the original post on this thread, but if we all acted the same, spoke the same and played to the same tune, that would be pretty boring -I think. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Ou**or**n Report post Posted April 24, 2009 This happened to me once, a regular lady cold-called me and even suggested a particular day to 'get together'. Initially I was confused but correctly reasoned that she was looking for business. Her situation was a bit different, She was having a hard time with the whole escorting thing and was a having a tough time emotionally meeting new people all the time. She was needing to stick to known regulars even if meant cold calling them. She left the business a few months later. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wet_dreamz 104 Report post Posted April 25, 2009 May I ask please if you were contacted on your cell phone or at home? If I was single it likely wouldn't bother me, however being married I'd not be very happy about it yet I understand her position. I guess it depends on the nature of your relationship with her. I am of the view that discretion and privacy on the part of both is important as is trust. I guess this is why I tend to be very cautious during the course of all this and I try to leave as little as possible in the way of a paper trail. Were you a little shocked by this? Not to pry, I'm just curious that's all. Thanks. This happened to me once, a regular lady cold-called me and even suggested a particular day to 'get together'. Initially I was confused but correctly reasoned that she was looking for business. Her situation was a bit different, She was having a hard time with the whole escorting thing and was a having a tough time emotionally meeting new people all the time. She was needing to stick to known regulars even if meant cold calling them. She left the business a few months later. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PistolPete 61421 Report post Posted April 25, 2009 I get emails from certain providers that are touring, from FKS,GOE, and then I exchange emails with local SP's and it is all good in the flirting kinda way:mrgreen: or setting up dates. Once date is set and phone numbers are exchanged I let it known that my number is for business-(discretion a must), it is left at that, for directions,location, time etc. On many occassions I will call/text or email afterward the dates and say- "Thanks so much for your time is was great, hope we see each other again" :-D On no account had I ever had a lady call/text me for a date, majority of the ladies really know how to operate their side of the business, so I like to say in ending- "thank-you for your discretion to all of you" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wet_dreamz 104 Report post Posted April 25, 2009 PP: I think this is as it should be IMHOP. It's well balanced in all aspects. I don't react too well with aggressive marketing techniques. I get emails from certain providers that are touring, from FKS,GOE, and then I exchange emails with local SP's and it is all good in the flirting kinda way:mrgreen: or setting up dates. Once date is set and phone numbers are exchanged I let it known that my number is for business-(discretion a must), it is left at that, for directions,location, time etc. On many occassions I will call/text or email afterward the dates and say- "Thanks so much for your time is was great, hope we see each other again" :-D On no account had I ever had a lady call/text me for a date, majority of the ladies really know how to operate their side of the business, so I like to say in ending- "thank-you for your discretion to all of you" Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Ou**or**n Report post Posted April 25, 2009 May I ask please if you were contacted on your cell phone or at home? If I was single it likely wouldn't bother me, however being married I'd not be very happy about it yet I understand her position. I guess it depends on the nature of your relationship with her. I am of the view that discretion and privacy on the part of both is important as is trust. I guess this is why I tend to be very cautious during the course of all this and I try to leave as little as possible in the way of a paper trail. Were you a little shocked by this? Not to pry, I'm just curious that's all. Thanks. It was on my cell phone. The lady knew my situation and we were becoming friends - we had already exchanged a number of purely social emails. It wasn't anything say that came completely out of the blue. She was respectful and if she either didn't know me well, or knew I was in a more sensitive situation then I know she would not of made that type of contact. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
drlove 37204 Report post Posted April 25, 2009 It doesn't really bother me in the least. I live in Halifax, and ever since the two major brothels closed up shop, I've found it increasingly difficult to set up appointments with independents, what with conflicting schedules and the like. In the past, I've established 'friendships' with some of the escorts I've seen and they've taken it upon themselves to call from time to time to ask about setting something up. Sadly, I've lost contact with most of them, so I find myself wishing that they WOULD call! *lol* Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wet_dreamz 104 Report post Posted April 25, 2009 Thanks OFF...good to know it didn't in fact cause you any grief. She must have valued your friendship. It was on my cell phone. The lady knew my situation and we were becoming friends - we had already exchanged a number of purely social emails. It wasn't anything say that came completely out of the blue. She was respectful and if she either didn't know me well, or knew I was in a more sensitive situation then I know she would not of made that type of contact. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ariane Valmont 332 Report post Posted April 25, 2009 I don't think there is anything wrong in contacting a client through email or pm, as long as you don't abuse that privilege. But of course, calling is a whole other thing. I've had gentlemen telling me that I could contact them on their cell phone whenever I felt like it but unless they give me a specific time to do it, I just don't feel comfortable to call. Needless to say that calling out of the blue, without any invitation to do so, should not even be considered as an option. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest f***2f*** Report post Posted April 25, 2009 I get emails from the touring ladies and that's a good thing...smart on their part too cause they already know me and it's a good practice to seek repeat business. Had a few texts too but never a cold phone call. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JoyfulC 132299 Report post Posted April 25, 2009 It's also weird from our perspective when a customer asks us to call him when we're available. ??? That seems to me like begging for business. I've had customers ask me to contact them by email if I were going to be in a certain area, and that's not too bad -- as long as you write an individual message to everyone who asks. (BCCs and such are so impersonal! And "marketing-y".) The customers are the customers here and so with the exception of notifications from touring escorts, it really should be up to the customers to check on availability. I mean, we make reservations with restaurants, eh? But what would we think of a restaurant that phoned us and told us what slots it had available? Or what would restaurants think of customers who asked them to notify them of availability? The other thing I'd like to address is customers who leave a number for you to call back, and when you do, their wives answer. ???? Don't put us in that situation, please. If the only number you can leave is one that your wife is going to answer, then please just keep trying us until you get us. What goes on between you and your wife is your affair -- leave us out of it. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Kubrickfan 12836 Report post Posted April 26, 2009 As a customer, calling would be a big problem for me, but texting or using my cerb PM account or my personal gmail account with a similar nickname is not a problem as those are private and the passwords are only known to me. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
etasman2000 15994 Report post Posted April 26, 2009 PM, email contact is fine from my point of view *if* it comes from someone I have establish a prior relationship with (which may be from someone I have yet to see). Keyword is 'prior relationship'. A PM or email from someone I don't know would get an ignore or a polite no thanks. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wet_dreamz 104 Report post Posted April 26, 2009 Now that's a one way ticket to divorce court, the hospital or both for a client if I ever saw one. I'm so discrete it almost borders on paranoia. LOL [quote name=JoyfulC;52507 The other thing I'd like to address is customers who leave a number for you to call back' date=' and when you do, their wives answer. ???? Don't put us in that situation, please. If the only number you can leave is one that your wife is going to answer, then please just keep trying us until you get us. What goes on between you and your wife is your affair -- leave us out of it.[/quote] Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kih 458 Report post Posted April 26, 2009 I keep in touch with many ladies that I have previously met and vice versa. I'm single. I have no problem with them contacting me directly out of the blue for a date! The response is either going to be "yes or no" depending on schedule. No harm done. Additionally, many times a future alternate date is setup. Nothing wrong with good open communication. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
E.D. man 691 Report post Posted April 26, 2009 Yes the 1st was an out of the blue total cold call. Someone I had no real attraction too. the 2nd I met at the playmate and she came to see me after work. We talked alot about different things and had many things in common. She actually said she enjoyed herself and would let me know when she was coming back in town. She knew I couldn't see her becuase of my health. The topic was more about my health her work and her child. I did not ask for her home# but she gave it to me. Which I found strange, but I know we have a good comfort with each other. I would say her desire to satisfy me and herself was incredible. Her personality was genuine. Or i could be and idiot and reading everthing wrong and playing the part of the fool. Oh well its a cumming!:wink::grin: 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
the lurker 160 Report post Posted April 26, 2009 I keep in touch with many ladies that I have previously met and vice versa. I'm single. I have no problem with them contacting me directly out of the blue for a date! The response is either going to be "yes or no" depending on schedule. No harm done. Additionally, many times a future alternate date is setup. Nothing wrong with good open communication. I agree. Single dog here. Sometimes my SPs like to heat things up with some txt or picture foreplay too. Being a nerd as well there are many means we talk, it's all good. Besides they are all really good with a "sorry not yet" answer. It's a personal thing, but I can understand how some might not like it. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
YoungStud 468 Report post Posted April 28, 2009 I keep in touch with many ladies that I have previously met and vice versa. I'm single. I have no problem with them contacting me directly out of the blue for a date! The response is either going to be "yes or no" depending on schedule. No harm done. Additionally, many times a future alternate date is setup. Nothing wrong with good open communication. As long as it's someone I want to hear from and it's not persistent. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
capitalman 3861 Report post Posted May 14, 2009 No phones calls please, unless I specifically invite you to do that. BUT emails I definitely enjoy, even if they are a direct solicitation or advertisement for business. My mother taught me how to say "No thank you" so what's the problem? AHHH......you don't want your email address being used like that! GET A HOTMAIL/YAHOO/GMAIL account you guys! :) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Heidi 189 Report post Posted May 16, 2009 He said if they are contacting him then isn't it free...they are asking him on a date...lol. Yes and Yes, this is my philosophy :) If I ever contact the guy and ask him to see me > it means its free, thats why I never do it :) have a wonderful long weekend :D Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
YoungStud 468 Report post Posted May 16, 2009 this is my philosophy :) If I ever contact the guy and ask him to see me > it means its free, thats why I never do it :) As someone with long-time experience as a client, if an escort contacts me and asks me to see her, I'll ask her why, if she hasn't already made the reason clear. If it's someone with whom I've had a long-term relationship, it could be anything from wanting me to go help her pick up something heavy at a big box store (no charge on her part - or on mine - lol) to business has been slow the past little while, rent day is coming up and could I help her out with a visit and an advance on the next visit? All of which is fine by me to be contacted and asked about. Escorts with whom I've become a regular always know they can contact me if they wish - and how. I've never received an inappropriate contact in more than two decades of being a client of many EPs. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites