kechara 2526 Report post Posted October 29, 2012 I have seen an SP before. The reason I am asking the question though is I need to figure out how long before a date it is appropriate to contact an SP. I have one I would like to see in the future. I know I have seen posts from some others like RG where it looks like they are contacting the SP over a month in the future. I have one I would like to see in the future, however I do need to put it off till after the new year. Since I will have to go through her screening (I do not have a reference). Add that in with my crazy work hours, I am trying to figure out how much time before had I should contact her. I feel that if I contact her too far ahead of time then it might feel to her like I am wasting her time. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
roamingguy 300292 Report post Posted October 29, 2012 I think it really depends upon circumstances. I have contacted ladies seven to eight months ahead of time to schedule an encounter on a specific date. That was due to my personal circumstances (having to travel, obligations etc) I think if you just explain your situation, in case you are worried about coming across as a "tire kicker" and not someone sending a real email you should be ok. Don't know if that helps or not RG Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest F***tyF**rari Report post Posted October 29, 2012 I am still (REALLY) new as well. But I think the more notice I have for an encounter the better. It will allow me to make sure my schedule stays clear and that I am prepared for our time together. I don't know if other girls have a different view on it, but that would be my opinion Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kechara 2526 Report post Posted October 29, 2012 in case you are worried about coming across as a "tire kicker" That is definately part of my concern Don't know if that helps or not RG Yes it does, thanks RG Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Andee 220524 Report post Posted October 29, 2012 Depending on the lady and her required "lead" time, I would say that a week or so before should be fine if you're set on a particular date and time slot. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
DukeSSk 3430 Report post Posted October 30, 2012 I'm leaning towards saying at least 1 week, since you'll need to get permission from your reference and then your lady of choice would need to confirm with the reference. Good luck :) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kechara 2526 Report post Posted October 30, 2012 I'm leaning towards saying at least 1 week, since you'll need to get permission from your reference and then your lady of choice would need to confirm with the reference. Good luck :) 1 week would be tight in my case. I do not have a reference and the lady needs to contact me. With the hours I work and sleep they are not close to the hours most people have. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Meg O'Ryan 266444 Report post Posted October 30, 2012 Well then, get in touch with her now in order to meet her screening requirements. Then there is plenty of time to confirm and/or cancel via email the week prio if need be. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kechara 2526 Report post Posted October 30, 2012 Well then, get in touch with her now in order to meet her screening requirements. Then there is plenty of time to confirm and/or cancel via email the week prio if need be. I was thinking contacting her the last 2 weeks of November. This would give just over 1 1/2 months. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites