Dysfunction Beaver Cleaver

[bananasplity 315]

hypothetically Speaking, because this has never happened /wink wink.

 

If you had a date set up and for some reason you had a feeling you where not going to be able to preform is a hardener helper at all wrong? Would a SP want to know your on some enhanced meds before you get there or say something when you arrive? I suppose it wouldn't be wrong, but when would you want it to kick in?

Would you want to walk thru a door saluting the flag, or would you want it to kick in 20 minutes after getting there? Not that it should be taken to pound away for the full duration of the visit, that would just get boring and probly get you a 1 way ticket to "NO" for a repeat date imo.

 

floors open for discussion, really curious to opinions and or experiences.

[xmy556 6095]

It would not surprise me that probably 50% of clients over the age of 40 have prescriptions to ED meds like viagra, cialis or levitra. Frankly it's nobody's business should I choose to go that route; I would not feel any need to advise the sp that I had taken a blue pill prior our session. Not sure why it would matter, or why she would really care one way or the other..

 

If you had a date set up and for some reason you had a feeling you where not going to be able to preform is a hardener helper at all wrong?

 

Cialis or viagra will address the issue of bloodflow back from the penis, but it is NOT an aphrodisiac.. If you're stressed out, distracted or depressed, no amount of ED meds will give you an erection.

 

I suppose it wouldn't be wrong, but when would you want it to kick in?

Would you want to walk thru a door saluting the flag, or would you want it to kick in 20 minutes after getting there?

 

Follow the instructions on the prescription. Usually, it will advise you to take it an hour before sexual activity; so, duh, take it an hour before your visit.. It is not going to give you an uncontrollable instant hard on, so don't fret about it..

[CristyCurves 169032]

I don't know but 50% seems high to me. Most clients that I have met that have medical reasons that may cause them some difficulties in this area always mention this prior to us engaging, I think this is important as when you are working towards an "event" I need to know that I am doing things right and that this person may need more of this or that to bring about the desired result. So knowing if and when medication has been taken will make it easier and more comfortable for the sp, jmo.

[Nathalie L 112512]

If you're stressed out, distracted or depressed, no amount of ED meds will give you an erection.

 

Really great advice. Hormones never 'cause' anything, they simply enhance what's already there. Being stressed, distracted, or depressed can definitely cause some problems... I think it's great if you're able to have an open and honest conversation with your provider about why that might be happening. This not only creates a safe space for you to (perhaps) move past any anxiety or stress, but it also reassures the provider that there isn't something she should be doing differently.

 

Cialis and Viagra will definitely not give you an uncontrollable instand hard-on. I personally don't think it's necessary to tell your provider your taking medication unless you think it's relevant and want her to know for whatever reason.

[NotchJohnson 214123]

What if, you take some pills for that little guy and for some reason the lady don't show up or you call when you are close to her place and she does not answer. Are you stuck having to go home and spank the little guy?

[roamingguy 300292]

Why would a guy who claims to have no such problems ask about them...sorry but it's one of those questions that I, under these circumstances, considers kind of rude. It's really no one's business. It is very personal (and caused by a multitude of reasons, such as age, medical conditions, prescriptions etc) and only those who volunteer their personal information (not responding to a question from a stranger) in hopes their experience may help someone else should be making such posts, IMHO

And even if you have found a treatment for ed, you still need arousal. Pills in and of themselves aren't the cure, you still need to be aroused.

RG

[cat 262460]

Before going the little blue pill route, I recommend going to have a full spectrum hormone test done. Low testosterone is easily remedied and often will eliminate ED issues. It also offers a host of other benefits but make sure to stay with a bioidentical prescription...

cat

[Guest Ou**or**n]

Why would a guy who claims to have no such problems ask about them...sorry but it's one of those questions that I, under these circumstances, considers kind of rude.

 

I think the wink, wink in the OP's post makes it clear that he potentially has such issues and being a new poster is going about asking his question in a roundabout way. I don't consider it rude at all. I though xmy556 stepped in a gave a graceful response that well reflects the tone of our board.

[Phaedrus 209521]

Time for an entertaining interlude...

 

http://xkcd.com/1068/

[Boomer 33202]

With age I find the little pill quite helpful on occasion. But to answer the OPs question, I tend to find that I take it about an hour to a hour and a half before arriving at the ladies door and still gives me several hours effectiveness. I do find that depending on the conditions and what you've had to eat the degree of effectiveness can vary. As others have also noted it really only works if the desire is there.

 

As for telling your partner that's really up to you. They can sometimes tell, as sometimes I think it can delay ejaculation, take more coaxing to get off.

 

I guess I'm kinda wondering why you would be setting up a date when you're going to be arriving at the door expecting to in your words, "feeling you will be unable to perform". I get the impression from your comments that you haven't already explored these drugs, so it makes sense to go see the doctor and get first had knowledge. I would comment though that this is not a bad place to explore these issues as not all family physicians are comfortable discussing these issues.

[roamingguy 300292]

I think the wink, wink in the OP's post makes it clear that he potentially has such issues and being a new poster is going about asking his question in a roundabout way. I don't consider it rude at all. I though xmy556 stepped in a gave a graceful response that well reflects the tone of our board.

 

Maybe I did take it wrong, if I did I apologize Bananasplity. Just as someone who has ED issues the wink wink I took it the wrong way, don't see it as humorous at all. For me, because of a medical condition requiring certain medications the side effect of one was erections hit/miss, mostly miss. And I need the prescription, it's not melodramtic to say it's a life and death matter for me

ED drugs, can't use because of a family history of strokes in my family, my doctor said they are contra indicated if you have a history (including family history) of strokes.

But as has been advised, try the ED drug first, if it works, no need to tell the lady. And as an alternative, well here is a thread I started a while back on another ed solution, well worked for me.

http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?p=365001#post365001

But again, if I took the wording of your post wrong Bananasplity, I do apologize. And please don't stop contributing to the CERB community because of this

RG

[kechara 2526]

hypothetically Speaking, because this has never happened /wink wink.

 

If you had a date set up and for some reason you had a feeling you where not going to be able to preform is a hardener helper at all wrong? Would a SP want to know your on some enhanced meds before you get there or say something when you arrive? I suppose it wouldn't be wrong, but when would you want it to kick in?

Would you want to walk thru a door saluting the flag, or would you want it to kick in 20 minutes after getting there? Not that it should be taken to pound away for the full duration of the visit, that would just get boring and probly get you a 1 way ticket to "NO" for a repeat date imo.

 

floors open for discussion, really curious to opinions and or experiences.

 

As some others have said.... You still need to be turned on for them to work. I do take one before going out since I have found as I am approaching 50 things are just not working the way they were when I was a teenager.

 

I usually take it about 45 minutes before the appointment time. Personally I don't walk through the door expecting a quick run to the bedroom. I also do not tell the SP that I have taken one. It is one of those personal things I just might not want to talk about the first time I meet someone. However I have talked about it on repeat visits with an SP. Sometimes I think just the lack of worry about not performing is helping as much as the pill itself.

[neebleton 2940]

I think it ought to be said that even with ED, there's still a lot of fun to be had with a lady. It doesn't necessarily have to be all about the erection and orgasm :)

 

That being said, there's absolutely nothing wrong with taking a drug, although before doing so be sure to read the contraindications.

[Chanel Reign 28097]

Being the age I am I see a broad spectrum of ages. That includes quite a few ED Gents. Some are upfront about it and half our time is spent talking and the other half doing what the Client wishes.

 

I have total respect and will listen and try to give advice when asked. My first suggestion is see a Doctor to rule out any medical conditions, then we look at lifestyle and age and finally mental blocks.

 

This, of course, is if the Gent wants to pursue the reasons. If you choose not to tell me about "the little blue pill" that's fine too. It is a very personal issue and Gents; we come across this A LOT more than you may think.