provider turn hobbyist

[rileydaniels 1901]

So lately I have been visiting a male strip club. I have even gone as far as to take a few dancers in the VIP room. I am starting to question so much, yea I am single and working as an escort doesn't leave much time for dating and if I was to date it does make things complicated, but now I am starting to question if I am hooked on this type of service. it is extremely alluring I litterally leave the the club from a night out of enjoying the view of sexy male hard bodies and interesting conversation and coming home feeling sexy and literbated.

 

This is probably something that isn't really talked about any where. I mean majority of what is talked about here is all from the male hobbyist perspective but we haven't really talked about what if we providers become hobbyist and hired a male companion for ourselves for pretty much the same reasons that men will hire us.

 

 

I don't know I just think I have fallen down a serious rabbit whole. I started to think that me visiting the male strip club is part of a well balance lifestyle for me and part of my self-care.

[piano8950 32577]

Do what makes you feel happy. I see a provider because I'm very inexperienced with the whole thing, and seeing one is helping me build up confidence (and teaching me) in physical stuff. Another member here sees a provider(s) from what I understand because his SO cannot be intimate and he utilizes SP as a surrogate. Others do it to avoid the complications of a relationship.

 

There are a ton of reasons I've read on Cerb for why anyone sees an SP or an MA. If going to a strip club makes you feel sexy and liberated, good for you for doing things that make you feel that way!

[VedaSloan 119179]

Personally, I've paid for it before. It's totally worth it when you don't want to worry about what's going to happen after, intentions, feelings, etc. And especially, as a woman, when you want an encounter that's going to take your needs into account, which so often does not happen in a one-night stand or a fling.

 

http://ladyluck-thecompanionista.blogspot.ca/?zx=4891fa209a38698

 

This is a blog about straight male companionship from the female point of view.

[Frank7 3939]

Lots of reasons for people to see a SP. Nothing wrong or weird about girls seeing them either. It's not talked about much here, but i think it's mostly because there's zero(?) male provider who advertise.

 

 

However, it does feel weird(IMO) that a ladie would pay for something she could get for free. It's extremely easy already for girls to have sex with no string attached. Especialy for someone who's as in demand as an SP.

[Guest *l**e]

Interesting you bring this up as I just had this conversation with someone today. I am a masseur servicing a female clientelle. Most of my clients don't want sex or sexual touching, they just want a really good massage that goes a bit further than what you get at a RMT spa.

 

That being said, I do have some clients that absolutely want the full monty, so to speak. These are often professional women for the most part, but even one or two sp's have asked me to "finish" them. I think this is starting to be much more common and accepted.

 

Years ago, I worked as bar staff in a male strip club and it was super common to see dancers and sp's come in for dances. Personally, I loved it; they tipped really well...lol

 

Between "Hung" and "Sex and the City", women seeing a man for "service" is becoming more commonplace, for all the same reasons that men see sp's.

 

Personally, I hope it becomes as popular; not just for the women in the "liberation" sense, etc. But for the guys out there who would be good at it, and would love being an sp, but don't want to service men.

 

In my opinion, I thinks its great and I hope it becomes as popular as chocolate. I love what I do, and would love to do it even more.

 

Great thread and congrats on finding something you enjoy and being brave enough to talk about it openly

 

Additional Comments:

Lots of reasons for people to see a SP. Nothing wrong or weird about girls seeing them either. It's not talked about much here, but i think it's mostly because there's zero(?) male provider who advertise.

 

 

However, it does feel weird(IMO) that a ladie would pay for something she could get for free. It's extremely easy already for girls to have sex with no string attached. Especialy for someone who's as in demand as an SP.

 

there is a difference...when a girl is "providing', she has to cater to the man. Even if she picks a guy up, there is the expectation of give and take. When a girl see a male sp or mp or dancer, it is all about her. Pampering, spoiling, catering to her and her needs. It is a totally different sense. That's what you pay for...the sense of it being all about you.

[VedaSloan 119179]

 

 

However, it does feel weird(IMO) that a ladie would pay for something she could get for free.

 

Free doesn't always mean good. And my personal partners aren't always available either.

 

I can do my nails for free too, but sometimes you just want a professional. ;)

[Nicolette Vaughn 294340]

 

However, it does feel weird(IMO) that a ladie would pay for something she could get for free. It's extremely easy already for girls to have sex with no string attached. Especialy for someone who's as in demand as an SP.

 

As an SP, I have guys who want to turn it into a "friend" thing which I have no interest in. I always get the "You have the whole package" speech ( I'm a modest person so I don't think I'm the whole package) and I just laugh. Usually they only see certain sides and not me as a person day to day. I'm not interested in that.

 

If I were to hire someone, I'm paying them to do what I want and most importantly leave afterwards with no strings attached. With free sex, there is ALWAYS something attached to it and I don't want guys calling me on my personal time. I don't have time for that.

[spud271 47779]

So lately I have been visiting a male strip club. I have even gone as far as to take a few dancers in the VIP room. I am starting to question so much, yea I am single and working as an escort doesn't leave much time for dating and if I was to date it does make things complicated, but now I am starting to question if I am hooked on this type of service. it is extremely alluring I litterally leave the the club from a night out of enjoying the view of sexy male hard bodies and interesting conversation and coming home feeling sexy and literbated.

 

This is probably something that isn't really talked about any where. I mean majority of what is talked about here is all from the male hobbyist perspective but we haven't really talked about what if we providers become hobbyist and hired a male companion for ourselves for pretty much the same reasons that men will hire us.

 

 

I don't know I just think I have fallen down a serious rabbit whole. I started to think that me visiting the male strip club is part of a well balance lifestyle for me and part of my self-care.

 

It is definitely not discussed enough around here and if there are any female hobbyiest on the site, their input would be greatly appreciated!!!

 

Personally I am looking at the possibility of getting back working as a sp again and am trying once more to get an idea as to what the demand is out there. Would love to hear from women who are looking for a male provider.

[JoyfulC 132299]

I'm convinced it's the way of the future, and there is a huge market ripe for it.

 

Maybe if I ever get too old to be an SP, I can run a stable of male SPs. Mature, experienced, down-to-earth types. And, of course, I'd pay strict attention to quality control.

[Guest n----9]

This is definately an interesting post. While I do not hobby that often and seemingly find it hard to completely quit...I'd like to raise another point from my own experience.

 

I do think that some SP's have found a bit of a hybrid solution that isn't neccessarily publicized or talked about.

 

I encountered this by chance one day when a few years ago I saw a french beauty of an ex dancer who is now retired. For privacy I won't say her name, but she was fairly petite, with strong sexy legs and an enchanting accent. She loved to dance and I caught her on a night when she was bored, horny and frustrated with her soon to be ex-man.

 

As I tend to be a pleaser as well I could tell she was a bit off and proceeded to give her a quasi RMT quality massage...with warm oils, taking my time. She was such a beautiful woman I kind of got lost in just enjoying the moment and telling her the truth about how gorgeous she was. I hadn't brought tons of money in cash so when I looked up and realized my time was up I was simply going to leave. I vaguely recalled seeing that an old 'friend' was working at CMJ and figured I'd stop by there for a quality massage myself before releasing all the tention I was building up. My lady friend had almost fallen asleep and was purring with contentment and ooo's and ah's as I kneaded through tired calves and aching feet.

 

When she realized I was just going leave...having already paid her and having spent essentially all the time focused on her pleasure, she held my hand. I whispered to her that as a pleaser I'm not really into it when the other person doesn't at least appear to be... and that I actually enjoyed seeing her smile and relax and purr... so it was no hard feelings, my time was up, I hadn't brought extra cash except for a tip...and maybe I'd see her some other time.

 

In her sultry accent she whispered back that none of her BF's had ever touched her that...and that she felt ever so relaxed... and ever so.....HORNY.

 

Well that initially forlorn kitten became one passionate pussy cat. She whispered back that she wanted me and didn't care about the money. I was her last client after a slow day and she wanted to me to f>ck her. [her words.] She went on to say...when I come to Ottawa, I want you to be my boyfriend.

 

What followed was intensely passionate sex with explosive orgasmic finishes for all concerned :)

 

And so the deal was this... She liked how I looked, how I treated her, she loved getting massages... massages she'd have gone to pay for herself. If she called me then it was all about her pleasure... it was a privilege to please her and be focused on her. If she advertised and I called her because I was horny and in need of stress relief, then even though she never asked for it I put her 'donation' discreetly in her side table and when the time was up, intended to leave like any other client. If she had had a day where she had the time and wanted me to stay to give her a massage...I would... but I always got up to go at the appointed time... the ball was in her court.

 

It seemed to be win-win for both of us. No strings attached. No expectations. One day I realized she hadn't posted being in Ottawa... so I hadn't called her phone (I had her personal contact as well.) And that was that...we had gone our own ways.

 

Now I know many things have to be taken into consideration here...safety, trust, boundaries etc., and what I'm talking about is by no means a common occurence. But I also know it does happen because I've had the fortune of having the occasional other such relationship with MA's for example who decide... they'd like a little something for themselves too. :) There are simply times when even a working girl meets a client that she just wants to be a girl with. I recognize that this may be less likely among the more 'career/longer term' MA/SP's... but it definately happens among the newer comers so to speak. Especially with the younger guys who play their cards right, are genuinely respectful, and do not take advantage.

 

So bottom line is if the SP has the right type of guy... certain itches can and do get scratched.