Capital Hunter 18263 Report post Posted May 9, 2009 I mean to ask this question to see if I am overreacting but how do you feel if: You set a Rendez Vous (appointment with an SP you have seen her or her pictures and find her very attractive) with a girl and exchanged sweet emails and got the confirmation and you are excited all week for the heavenly Saturday fun day (after a stressful week at work) and close to the time for Rendez Vous you shower and make yourself well presentable and set the table with wine and chocolate and juice and you spend hours to prepare the party-like environment with flashing lights and Playboy large screen TV and all hot and horny for the incoming date and suddendy it is the time and nobody knocks on your door and you call back and the girl says "I am so sorry, I totally forgot about it :cry:. So much for my preparations and excitements that she on the other hand did not even remember :cry:. This has happened to me twice this month (and never before). Will you just forget about it in a second and call another girl (plan B) or like myself you will lose your desire for her for good or anyone else at least for a day or two. I remember this was the case with me in dance bars too. If the first girl that I was asking for dance was saying NO then the night was pretty much over for me as I was not asking another girl that night and my friends were advising me to get over it and move to another girl or bar!. Please don't PM as I will not reveal the name of those two girls. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Labrador 248 Report post Posted May 9, 2009 Move on! Get over it! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Grass_Hopper 18263 Report post Posted May 9, 2009 As an SP, I don't know about e-mails... Can be tricky, but you can call the girl the day of the appointment for confirmation... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Report post Posted May 9, 2009 Hello. Please don't spend time worrying about girls like that. They don't deserve the time or effort you put in to them. There' s a lot of escorts who would appreciate a true gentleman. Since sometimes they are hard to find. I hope you feel better and remember that not all of us are like that. From your secret admirer Hugs and kisses. Peachy/Val. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Capital Hunter 18263 Report post Posted May 9, 2009 Thanks for the comments. As for Labrador, yes you are right and that was the advice my friends were giving me too (in the dance bars, 10 years ago). I am going to make up for it next week (long weekend) and going to have two-three girls over :grin: just have to be more selective, I guess. As for Grass Hopper, I thought that emails (or anything in writing) are firmer than a phone call. But you are right, to make it extra firm (the word extra firm reminds me of my hair gel :smile:) another call on the day of appointment or an hour before the Rendez Vous is a good idea. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Capital Hunter 18263 Report post Posted May 9, 2009 Hello. Please don't spend time worrying about girls like that. They don't deserve the time or effort you put in to them. There' s a lot of escorts who would appreciate a true gentleman. Since sometimes they are hard to find. I hope you feel better and remember that not all of us are like that. From your secret admirer Hugs and kisses. Peachy/Val. Thanks very much Peachy for the nice words. No, I never assumed for a second that all escorts are like that. I have had many beautiful (in body and soul, inside-out) girls (both escorts and nude dancers) who were equally looking forward to our Rendez Vous. It must be out of bad luck that a missed Rendez Vous should happen twice only to me and both cases so recent (last month). Hopefully will be last. Hugs and kisses from me too to you sweet Cintia :-) and thanks again. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
buggernot 588 Report post Posted May 9, 2009 Shit happens. If you're that set for having someone over, you try your best to get another SP over. You're probably very fortunate that this hasn't happened to you up until now, especially if you see many different girls once as opposed to a few static regulars. It's not the most professional way of doing things, but there are a few girls that will bail on an appointment that has been set up with a new guy if a regular calls. I've been the new guy jilted with no excuse and the regular that bumped somebody else so it definitely goes on. Totally sucks when it happens to you but, that's life, got to suck it up.... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
A***** A***** 510 Report post Posted May 9, 2009 Shit happens. If you're that set for having someone over, you try your best to get another SP over. You're probably very fortunate that this hasn't happened to you up until now, especially if you see many different girls once as opposed to a few static regulars. It's not the most professional way of doing things, but there are a few girls that will bail on an appointment that has been set up with a new guy if a regular calls. I've been the new guy jilted with no excuse and the regular that bumped somebody else so it definitely goes on. Totally sucks when it happens to you but, that's life, got to suck it up.... Here here! :wink: Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Capital Hunter 18263 Report post Posted May 9, 2009 Shit happens. If you're that set for having someone over, you try your best to get another SP over. You're probably very fortunate that this hasn't happened to you up until now, especially if you see many different girls once as opposed to a few static regulars. It's not the most professional way of doing things, but there are a few girls that will bail on an appointment that has been set up with a new guy if a regular calls. I've been the new guy jilted with no excuse and the regular that bumped somebody else so it definitely goes on. Totally sucks when it happens to you but, that's life, got to suck it up.... In those two cases I am very confident (and have reasons to believe) that the reason was not replacing my date with another regular who called them, but they genuinely forgot about the Rendez Vous. Also, I don't see many different girls once. I see some girls once and some girls many times and those that I do see many times are best quality girls. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Ou**or**n Report post Posted May 10, 2009 When its happened to me it took me a day or two before I was interested in seeing another lady. I can't forget about it right away and move on, I need some time. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Capital Hunter 18263 Report post Posted May 10, 2009 When its happened to me it took me a day or two before I was interested in seeing another lady. I can't forget about it right away and move on, I need some time. It is great to know that I am not the only one. Everyone else so far seems to be suggesting that we should get over it and move on. But for us at least easier said than done. Thanks OutforFun. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Annessa 22743 Report post Posted May 10, 2009 Shit happens. If you're that set for having someone over, you try your best to get another SP over. You're probably very fortunate that this hasn't happened to you up until now, especially if you see many different girls once as opposed to a few static regulars. It's not the most professional way of doing things, but there are a few girls that will bail on an appointment that has been set up with a new guy if a regular calls. I've been the new guy jilted with no excuse and the regular that bumped somebody else so it definitely goes on. Totally sucks when it happens to you but, that's life, got to suck it up.... very well said buggernot. there is a downside to 'quantity over quality' time. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Capital Hunter 18263 Report post Posted May 10, 2009 I am very selective as who I see (especially who I see more than once). Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
buggernot 588 Report post Posted May 10, 2009 very well said buggernot. there is a downside to 'quantity over quality' time. Sometimes quantity is good though...well, maybe variety is a better way of saying it ;) I will agree that no matter what the circumstance, getting stood up is a bummer. First time it happened to me, the first thought that came to my mind was, "Great...I can't even pay a girl to come over here!" But again it just goes back to the old adage...shit happens. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
buggernot 588 Report post Posted May 10, 2009 Buggernot's statements are true but general statements not applicable to my case (and I am not sure that he was implying that those SPs who see more hobbyists are necessarily providing low quality service), and no, I do not see anyone in mass producion. I am too very selective as who I see (especially who I see more than once) and the statement of a there being a downsize to quantity over quality does not apply to me. No implication in my statement anywhere, for the boys or the girls. Just an example of how things might go down. The girls have lives, anything can happen, something came up, got sick...even forgetting appointments. My philosophy is that you have to temper your expectations with having it in the back of your head that if it doesn't work out, don't get too upset about it. And there was no reference to low quality service from SP's in anything I said so I have no idea where that came from. Hell, I've seen great quality service from high volume girls and I wonder how they do it! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Capital Hunter 18263 Report post Posted May 10, 2009 No implication in my statement anywhere, for the boys or the girls. Just an example of how things might go down. The girls have lives, anything can happen, something came up, got sick...even forgetting appointments. My philosophy is that you have to temper your expectations with having it in the back of your head that if it doesn't work out, don't get too upset about it. And there was no reference to low quality service from SP's in anything I said so I have no idea where that came from. Hell, I've seen great quality service from high volume girls and I wonder how they do it! Buggernot, I am not sure why you are quoting my post on this!:???:. It was NOT me who said anything about a downside to 'quantity over quality' time!:???:. In fact I said that you were NOT implying this!, because the statement is simply NOT true and you did not say it!. I agree with what everyone says (to get over it and move on), but I never said I got upset, just disappointed and a not so good feeling that a girl that I was thinking about for days and spent hours for preparations didn't even remember our Rendez Vous :cry:. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
p22*** 236 Report post Posted May 10, 2009 Hello. Please don't spend time worrying about girls like that. They don't deserve the time or effort you put in to them. There' s a lot of escorts who would appreciate a true gentleman. Since sometimes they are hard to find. I hope you feel better and remember that not all of us are like that. From your secret admirer Hugs and kisses. Peachy/Val. I don't think it has anything to do with quality of SP, or even a lack of appreciation. We are all humans, we all make mistakes, we all forget appointments and we all misplaced are car keys. I have forgotten appointments, I have been forgotten about. Life can get a little busy at times, so I never take offence to being canceled on or forgotten. Gentlemen please remember we often juggle another if not 2 jobs on the side of SPing. I myself work full time as a personal trainer, full time mother to a very active 5 year old, have three puppies ( 11mths, 6 mths, 3mths ) and have to fit in being an SP, family and friends. Forgetting an appointment is being human, we have far greater things to worry about than missed appointments of any kind ( doctors, dinner or romps ) A good apology and explanation can go along way. Just a thought.... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Capital Hunter 18263 Report post Posted May 10, 2009 In my job if I miss a deadline for a project or forget about attending a meeting, all this WILL reflect not positively on my performance (or quality of my service). I am sure the same applies to any other job, escorting included. Of course all of us also have to juggle between many tasks in life, as well as friends and family. I think there is also a difference between forgetting a doctor's appointment (not affecting my job performance) and an SP forgetting her appointment (which is her job related task). I do agree as human beings we all make mistakes in our lives and jobs and should be forgiven (and that was exactly why I said that I will NOT reveal the names of those two girls in my very first post), however, it is harder to forget anytime soon (like calling back the same girl again the week after). I also agree that an apology and a good explanation (like a massive earthquake or global nuclear war, not just forgetting....., just kidding :-D) goes a long way. Just a thought.... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
buggernot 588 Report post Posted May 10, 2009 Buggernot, I am not sure why you are quoting my post on this!:???:. It was NOT me who said anything about a downside to 'quantity over quality' time!:???:. In fact I said that you were NOT implying this!, because the statement is simply NOT true and you did not say it!. I quoted your post because there was no mention anywhere by anyone else that I made that particular implication, and you made a point of emboldening it for emphasis. I took the 'quantity over quality' remark for what it was - nothing to do with SP's providing low quality service. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Suzirider 737 Report post Posted May 10, 2009 I call/ping/text her several hours ahead of time, with a simple "On my way". She replies with a simple OK. She knows I didn't forget and vice versa, and if I didn't show, something serious stopped me ! :mrgreen: Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Capital Hunter 18263 Report post Posted May 10, 2009 I quoted your post because there was no mention anywhere by anyone else that I made that particular implication, and you made a point of emboldening it for emphasis. I took the 'quantity over quality' remark for what it was - nothing to do with SP's providing low quality service. Yes I think I misunderstood the statement (in regard to the part on low quality service by high volume SPs), my apology. I retract and modify the text. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Capital Hunter 18263 Report post Posted May 10, 2009 I call/ping/text her several hours ahead of time, with a simple "On my way". She replies with a simple OK. She knows I didn't forget and vice versa, and if I didn't show, something serious stopped me ! :mrgreen: Yes I agree. the idea was suggested before and it is a good idea, however, what to do if she did not call/ping/text back soon enough. Do you cancel/call for another girl/wait till eternity for her to get back to you? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Slappy 115 Report post Posted May 10, 2009 I had an appointment with an Sp a few month back. She didn t show I called her and she had fallen sick over night. Well i gave her the benifint of a doubt and rescheduled for later that week. I was sure glad I did she mad up for it in a large way. She s my favorite SP:lol: and the only one I see now.:-P Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Report post Posted May 10, 2009 Yes, we are all human. We all have things going on in our lives. We could easily debate about the intentions of the two escorts. I think an apology would be a good start. It is also our obligation to show up to an appointment and try to be on time. It still is a job and should be taken seriously. Also the clients are humans too. Clients have lives and feelings. I think it was unfair for the girl just to say opps I forgot. It is also common courtesyto show up or at least give a few hours notice. I am not saying I am perfect. I've made mistakes too. The job is to learn from our mistakes. There is a lot of girls who will show up and will appreciate Secret admirer. So I don't think he should worry about girls who don't.:-D Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest f***2f*** Report post Posted May 10, 2009 I had this happen to me early in the game. A fairly well known SP although not recommended here on CERB. It was an outcall to my place and I did the same thing. Lots of preparation of the room, wine, music, excitement and anticipation.....big let down...NO SHOW. The lady in quesiton and I had been in email contact several times...I emailed her the day before to confirm...she didn't show...never answered my email asking for an explanation with a "sorry" or "I got mugged on the way" or "Kiss my ass." Nada, zip It was a huge piss off and one it took me a day or two to get over too. I agree with Paige that life happens for all of us. But when it does true professionals and just plain polite people phone or email to cancel or apologize later. I find the beauty of this board is that we can minimize our disappointments by selecting tryed and true service providers....those who reliably give good service. I was talking to another member the other day who said before this board he would have a bad experience 8 times out of 10. The bait and switchers were the biggest problem....newspaper was full of them. Now with the Cowboy and CERB we can weed them out before they invade our wallets and ruin our evenings:mrgreen: Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
