How do you feel if ..........

[whatsup 11893]

S_A

 

I find it best to make some form of contact around a couple of hours prior to the set rendezvous time just to keep it fresh on providers mind.

 

If one thing that I have learned in this hobby, it's in your best interest to have a back up plan.

 

To take the time to create a lovely environment for your encounter why waste it. There are many lovely ladies that would appreciate the efforts that you have put forth.

 

Happy Hobbying :-)

[spud271 47779]

S_A

 

I feel for you man! I had something similar happen to me when I first moved to Canada. I set up a rendezvous with a well known SP in Montreal a couple of weeks before we were to meet. Arranged everything, my train ride, hotel, time to meet...the works! Get to Montreal and of course I'm really excited to see her. She had sent me an e-mail the day before, promised me that if something came up she would either e-mail me(as I had my laptop with me), or call me on my cell. I ended up waiting for 3 hours and heard nothing! Man was I pissed! Went down to the bar, slammed a couple of drinks back, went back to my room and called an agency I knew would not let me down. So the night was not a total loss, but I had looked so forward to meeting this woman finally as I had heard so many good things about her.

 

Finally, almost a month later I get an e-mail back from her. She writes back that she just forgot! Needless to say I did not respond to the e-mail. Look at this way S_A, don't get too upset, it may happen again in this hobby of ours. Personally I figure it will happen to me again and I won't take it personally. Remember, there are lots of hot fish in our sea! :D

[YoungStud 468]

It's also important to note that most of the no-shows are usually done by a very small number of "repeat offender" SPs and that the vast majority of providers, who are always on time for clients, are probably stood-up by no show clients several times a week, usually "first timers".

 

So, while this is an occasional problem for clients, caused mostly by a small group of SPs; for escorts, it a significant problem, caused by a fairly large number of inconsiderate clients or potential clients.

[d*mm*y 887]

I guess it boils down to needs at the time. Sometimes I am horny and need to get laid, that is what plan b is all about. Sometimes it it the romantic in you (with all this prep this sounds more like the occasion) and the time and hunt are more important than the act. If it is a physical primitive desire than call another lady, if it is the romantic cerebral type of occasion than re-schedule for another day with that lady or another lady. The bright side is always that you have a few extra bucks in your wallet! Companionship can come from the lady in the book store or on the park bench, don't forget to smile at strangers (but not grin that is creepy)

[Seymour 3970]

Spud, stud and dummpy sum it up well from different perspectives. The common element is when it happens to you, it sucks. But it is part and parcel of the territory.

 

How one deals with it is personal.

[Capital Hunter 18263]

Thank you very much all friends above for your comments, sympathy and understanding. Yes, it was a romantic cerebral type of occasion on both occasions. When I set my mind all week on a specific girl and make all that preparations specifically with her face in my mind then it would be very hard to suddenly swicth to another face or SP in a second, althought what you are suggesting makes all the sense in the world to just move on to another.

[A***** A***** 510]

A wise person once told me "Expectations lead to resentments"

[Cowboy kenny 50799]

From this type of situation both client and provider can learn some valuable lessons. Providers who "forget" or stand up too many clients too often will learn that this will impact their popularity so it's best to change ways before it get's out of hand. Things come up and life happens, a quick appology and maybe an extra nice hug on the next visit can go a long way :)

 

Clients who've been stood up know have to learn not to take this personaly and to maybe be ready with a plan B. There are some providers who don't mind last minute bookings, or at least a phone call to inquire about the possibility, while there are others who maybe insulted by the rushed get together. It's really best to establish such and arrangement with a lady you've developed a rapport with.

 

In summary it's best to live for the moment and make the best of a situation at that time, move on don't dwell, don't worry be happy!

[Capital Hunter 18263]

A wise person once told me "Expectations lead to resentments"

 

Expectations may be true (to keep a promise), resentments, false. No resentments but may be disappointments. Big difference.

[fortunateone 156618]

Thank you very much all friends above for your comments, sympathy and understanding. Yes, it was a romantic cerebral type of occasion on both occasions. When I set my mind all week on a specific girl and make all that preparations specifically with her face in my mind then it would be very hard to suddenly swicth to another face or SP in a second, althought what you are suggesting makes all the sense in the world to just move on to another.

 

Emails rely on the receiver reading them, it is never a good way to confirm or set up an appt, IMO. Nothing can replace a good reliable booking policy, for both sides: You can email to setup a time (I don't recommend it, but if the sp insists on email only contact, you are kind of stuck with it), email 24 hrs ahead to confirm day and time, and expect a reply from her (altho, frankly it is she who should be emailing the client, if she does not then it is up to you).

 

Call the day of the appt to confirm time. If you don't reach her, leave a message. If you don't hear back from her, call again and hopefully you will. Many sps don't return messages because they can't guarantee they are calling at a convenient time lol. If you haven't talked to her by phone within 2hrs of the time, leave her a message email and or phone and cancel the appt. I don't think you should waste your time on someone who cannot respond to your confirming appts.

 

I think a lot of traveling sps stick to their schedules; they rely on them to make their trip worthwhile and really suffer by no-shows. But a local sp who has no good reason to pass up a prebooked appt who won't confirm with you by a phone call is not at all professional. It is also a mistake to rely on emails, there seems to be less chance of true commitment on both sides. A voice conversation is much simpler to confirm appt details, and usually can be over in 5 minutes. Countless emailing can take days, and in the end requires them to have email access wherever they are, and to be reading their emails at least every hour.

 

Most businesses don't run their day to day biz this way, so it clearly doesn't make sense to only be available thru email.

[capitalman 3861]

It sucks being rejected!

 

I've been cancelled on with "Sorry, I've got my period" but then you come here and find reviews of that lady on that same day. That sucks, being lied to. It's hard not to take it personally....it makes you wonder if there's a bad thread in the hidden SP about you? Did I do something to someone and now I'm blacklisted? Why is this girl lying? Why not just say "Sorry, too busy"?

 

I guess it's all just part of this game.

[Capital Hunter 18263]

Honest, I don't feel rejected. Both girls simply forgot about the Rendez Vous (simply didn't care enough but had nothing to do with not wanting to see me or disliking me as I have reasons to believe. May be not liking me enough to remember). Both girls insisted that they would like to make up for it another time (but I have lost my libido for them already).

 

I am not worried about the private SP area as I have done nothing wrong (and I am sure you either) to be there. All girls (my private dancers in particular) keep asking me to call them back more often which for financial and time (I only have Saturdays) reasons and the fact that I see many (a variety is my favorite) is impossible to call back more frequently for the same girl as much as I want to.

 

I am also taking Cowboy's comment and will be happy looking forward to next long weekend that I will be making up for this week by having a few girls over. Will be thinking to decide which ones as options are plenty (both escorts and nude dancers). Reviews will be coming if first timer escorts were selected.

 

Assuming that this will be the last post in this thread, I thank everyone who participated and your comments.

[A***** A***** 510]

Expectations may be true (to keep a promise), resentments, false. No resentments but may be disappointments. Big difference.

 

I agree absolutely. I didn't mean for this post to be directed at anyone. Just when you expect something and it doesn't happen the way you want, well that's when shit happens and people get hurt.

[Suzirider 737]

You know I can be found,

sitting home all alone,

If you can't come around,

at least please telephone.

Don't be cruel to a heart that's true.

 

Baby, if I made you mad

for something I might have said,

Please, let's forget the past,

the future looks bright ahead,

Don't be cruel to a heart that's true.

I don't want no other love,

Baby it's just you I'm thinking of.

 

Elvis :wink:

 

Not helpful eh !

[Annessa 22743]

Thank you very much all friends above for your comments, sympathy and understanding. Yes, it was a romantic cerebral type of occasion on both occasions. When I set my mind all week on a specific girl and make all that preparations specifically with her face in my mind then it would be very hard to suddenly swicth to another face or SP in a second, althought what you are suggesting makes all the sense in the world to just move on to another.

 

so....let me get this straight. its hard to switch to another girl but it makes sense now? just making sure I'm getting where you're coming from now.

 

I think its time to move on SA. I'm sure you can save the chocolate you bought girl#1 for girl#2...as per my comment on 'quality' of the girl. yes we can be busy, but thats what day-timers are for. no one should forget about an appointment....unless they want it to effect their rep

[Guest f***2f***]

so....let me get this straight. its hard to switch to another girl but it makes sense now? just making sure I'm getting where you're coming from now.

 

I think its time to move on SA. I'm sure you can save the chocolate you bought girl#1 for girl#2...as per my comment on 'quality' of the girl. yes we can be busy, but thats what day-timers are for. no one should forget about an appointment....unless they want it to effect their rep

 

You are right but there are girls who are here for a good time (money) not a long time. They don't give a crap about rep and those are the ones you have to sort through. That's why a board like this is so valuable.

[PistolPete 61421]

so....let me get this straight. its hard to switch to another girl but it makes sense now? just making sure I'm getting where you're coming from now.

 

I think its time to move on SA. I'm sure you can save the chocolate you bought girl#1 for girl#2...as per my comment on 'quality' of the girl. yes we can be busy, but thats what day-timers are for. no one should forget about an appointment....unless they want it to effect their rep

 

Yep put the chocolate in the freezer, wait for another time. Time to move onwards.

 

Yes you ladies are certainly busy, but at the same time I can certainly appreciate the fact, the ladies may forget or had other situations to deal with.

 

Hence the reason, I always have a back up plan...in case. It's not the end of the world, so just take the chocolate back out of the freezer go play and have FUN, but play SAFE.;-)

[cordsboy 184]

Wow it took me about an hour to read through this tread, totally forgot about an appointment I had... I agree it sucks if you get stood up but move on and enjoy life, better yet enjoy all the sexy ladies of Ottawa

[Annessa 22743]

Wow it took me about an hour to read through this tread, totally forgot about an appointment I had... I agree it sucks if you get stood up but move on and enjoy life, better yet enjoy all the sexy ladies of Ottawa

 

amen

 

(ps. cordsboy, your daytimer is in the mail...remember your appointments...LOL.)

[E.D. man 691]

I mean to ask this question to see if I am overreacting but how do you feel if:

 

You set a Rendez Vous (appointment with an SP you have seen her or her pictures and find her very attractive) with a girl and exchanged sweet emails and got the confirmation and you are excited all week for the heavenly Saturday fun day (after a stressful week at work) and close to the time for Rendez Vous you shower and make yourself well presentable and set the table with wine and chocolate and juice and you spend hours to prepare the party-like environment with flashing lights and Playboy large screen TV and all hot and horny for the incoming date and suddendy it is the time and nobody knocks on your door and you call back and the girl says "I am so sorry, I totally forgot about it :cry:. So much for my preparations and excitements that she on the other hand did not even remember :cry:.

 

This has happened to me twice this month (and never before). Will you just forget about it in a second and call another girl (plan B) or like myself you will lose your desire for her for good or anyone else at least for a day or two. I remember this was the case with me in dance bars too. If the first girl that I was asking for dance was saying NO then the night was pretty much over for me as I was not asking another girl that night and my friends were advising me to get over it and move to another girl or bar!.

 

Please don't PM as I will not reveal the name of those two girls.

If they disrespect you that much don't even try to seem them again, because I'm sure they don't care. Just move on till you find someone who appreciates you.8):twisted:

[Damien 200]

If they disrespect you that much don't even try to seem them again, because I'm sure they don't care. Just move on till you find someone who appreciates you.8):twisted:

 

Well said, E.D. Man. Move on!

[Labrador 248]

I can not believe this post is still dragging on!

[Capital Hunter 18263]

Good Point.

 

Guys, I have moved on. Thanks for all the good advice. Sincerely appreciated good friends. I have had already a very Hot and Humid Summer night :-D (Summer from T2T), in my apartment (and reviewed her on Tuesday) and am already looking forward to another two possibly three more hotties over the long weekend.

 

Hopefully this will be the final post of this thread. Have a great hot (and hopefully wet too :wink:) long weekend everyone:-D.