Advice for Gentlemen ... A "Do Not Do" List

[Guest f***2f***]

Yeah I really love it when I'm on a plane or some other spot of close encounter and you have someone coughing up a lung or sneezing their faces off...you just know you're gonna catch something!!:evil:

[YoungStud 468]

I do not remember the number of times I have asked staff to take the day off, people who should not have come into work at all.

 

I agree. This applies equally to clients and EPs. I know some EPs who I like a lot personally, who have smaller kids in school and who have some regular monthly financial obligations (as do we all), who have pushed things a bit in the workplace when they've caught a cold or some other bug from one of the little ones.

 

Most of us have done it, of course. Gone to work when we should have stayed home. But in a line of work where phsical intimacy is pretty inevitable (lol), we should all be a bit more cautious in the current public health climate.

 

And I say that even though the closest I've ever been to Mexico was standing in a line-up at a Taco Bell. Lol.

[AttilaTheHun 356]

I believe that most SP's are pretty good about being clean, but there are times when I'm in DATY that I catch the scent of a condom or lube. It totally turns me off so much so that I can lose my erection. I understand that you can't be douching after every client but maybe just using a scented lube or a quick wash using a finger may help.

 

The Hun

[capitalman 3861]

I always have a shower before a date, and if I can't then I take one there.

 

If I have anything like a sore throat or cold I won't hobby, no way. How can I enjoy myself knowing I might be infecting a beautiful lady I love and chose to be with? I mean, wtf? Who would do that? Selfish!

 

As for DATY and finding a bad smell...oh man, I've had my share of that and it's a real downer. I don't think I have the assertiveness to say something, but maybe I should.

 

Excuse me, but did you fart or something?

[Tigerclaw 248]

Unfortunately, one of my potential clients didn't get around to reading your post CoachG, I didn't quite know where else to put this as it is kind of a rant to an inconsiderate potential client but it related mostly to your posting, respect and consideration are very important...

 

...Hope this helps educate more men than just him: We need consideration and respect just as much anyone else, if not more so, considering we have to deal with bad apples like this one!

 

Dear Bethany,

 

It's unfortunate that reminders of consideration and respect are required.

 

And yes Bethany, appropriate for this thread but nonetheless unfortunate...thank-you for sharing your frustration with this "Bad Apple".

 

Tigerclaw

[Emma Alexandra 123368]

I'll add one... Don't try to extend your stay unless the lady has agreed to the possibility. Also ensure you have the cash to cover the extra time, I know it sounds like common sense but I've heard of guys staying an extra hour and not paying cause they didn't have the money with them...

 

i had someone stay 2 extra hours and didn't offer me a dime...even though we were just talking..time is time. He could have at least asked me if i had another appointment...Thank God i only see a couple of guys ...lol..

[ulixestrojan 3757]

This is an extraordinary thread. Thank you to all. It struck me however, that the title has "Gentlemen" in it. If one is truly a gentleman, much of this advice would not be necessary. Perhaps, we need a "finishing" school for all the lads who have not quite become accustomed to the proper ways of treating people, men and women, but especially our delightful courtesans who care to our fragile needs.

[whatsup 11893]

This is an extraordinary thread. Thank you to all. It struck me however, that the title has "Gentlemen" in it. If one is truly a gentleman, much of this advice would not be necessary. Perhaps, we need a "finishing" school for all the lads who have not quite become accustomed to the proper ways of treating people, men and women, but especially our delightful courtesans who care to our fragile needs.

 

Well put Ulix.

[capitalman 3861]

Isn't that called John School? I have an idea...we just sorta create a midnight mob that goes and "teaches" the bad clients. Sorta old school way. :) You know, The Warriors.

 

 

Perhaps, we need a "finishing" school for all the lads who have not quite become accustomed to the proper ways of treating people, men and women, but especially our delightful courtesans who care to our fragile needs.

[Guest Ou**or**n]

Isn't that called John School?

 

You mean that isn't what John School teaches? I always assumed it taught guys the dangers of using SW's and taught them about escorts, how to use prostitutes legally and proper etiquette when using their services *howls laughing*

[Annessa 22743]

this is not a case of asking for discounts or such with pics but I feel very uncomfortable when a new client books and sends me a picture of themselves to clarify what they look like (which is always welcome)....but then when they don't get a response right away asks "so what do you think?"

 

even if their pictures are attractive I always feel put on the spot.

 

I generally don't give out compliments until I meet the whole package...and by package I mean personality. a wholesome personality is worth more than an image to me and I generally avoid replying to a question like that until i meet the client. you can be tom cruise but if you don't add up to the class or respect I offer then a compliment based on what I feel to be shallow (which I'm far from) physical judgment is very difficult to take back.

 

My most recent experience of this however: the clients picture did not do his personality or even physical image justice.....word of advice to the gents: just leave it up to the lady to be surprised with how attractive/charismatic you are. trying to send pics almost feels like you're trying to vouch for yourself......in this business, there is no need....so long as you are respectful to the ladies and your etiquette is stellar, you will always be rewarded as such......also keep in mind: every lady is different, we all have our types in the "real world dating life". I've had too many 25 year old wash-board stomachs asking "so would you date me normally? do you think I'm do-able?"....personally, my truly honest answer would be no. don't make us lie, I run a business and I will suit your needs no mater what u look like....in the years before i started working, I've never dated anyone under 35 (seriously) ...older men turn my crank....and 40 is the new 20 ;-)

 

(epilogue: in the case I was speaking of of the recent gent who sent a pic....there definitely wasn't a need to vouch. if he ever dyes his salt and pepper hair I may have to stop seeing him...j/k)

[MandalayBay 575]

I've had too many 25 year old wash-board stomachs asking "so would you date me normally? do you think I'm do-able?"....personally, my truly honest answer would be no. don't make us lie, I run a business and I will suit your needs no mater what u look like....in the years before i started working, I've never dated anyone under 35 (seriously) ...older men turn my crank....and 40 is the new 20 ;-)

 

Older men turn my crank too! Older men are so incredibly sexy and know how to please a woman. Why bother with a McDonald's hamburger when you can savour a t-bone steak. :-P

 

So much, in fact, that I clearly state on my website my preferred range of 40 to 65. I won't even consider seeing a client under the age of 30. My guard goes up and I am very cautious in even responding to men under 40.

[SamanthaEvans 166767]

....in the years before i started working, I've never dated anyone under 35 (seriously) ...older men turn my crank....and 40 is the new 20 ;-)

 

Older men turn my crank too! Older men are so incredibly sexy and know how to please a woman. Why bother with a McDonald's hamburger when you can savour a t-bone steak. :-P

 

So much, in fact, that I clearly state on my website my preferred range of 40 to 65. I won't even consider seeing a client under the age of 30. My guard goes up and I am very cautious in even responding to men under 40.

 

I agree, emphatically! I always find it a little sad when a prospective client apologizes for his age. I'm in my 40s, myself, to begin with. But it's also true that older men are often more subtle, more nuanced in their eroticism. And, as I discovered years ago, they often last much longer... :razz:

[YoungStud 468]

I agree, emphatically! I always find it a little sad when a prospective client apologizes for his age. I'm in my 40s, myself, to begin with. But it's also true that older men are often more subtle, more nuanced in their eroticism. And, as I discovered years ago, they often last much longer... :razz:

 

It's always nice to hear the voice of experience talking, especially when it's saying things that are not only flattering but true about that capable but modest group of us who are 35 and over. 8-)

[jerican 657]

....in the years before i started working, I've never dated anyone under 35 (seriously) ...older men turn my crank....and 40 is the new 20 ;-)

 

(epilogue: in the case I was speaking of of the recent gent who sent a pic....there definitely wasn't a need to vouch. if he ever dyes his salt and pepper hair I may have to stop seeing him...j/k)

 

Hey I am over 35 (umm barely, but it counts!) and have salt and pepper hair! Looking forward to mid-june!;-)

 

In all seriousness I agree, I look better, feel better and have more resources and confidence then I did in my 20's. I never thought when I was younger that I would enjoy my 30's as much as I do.

[YoungStud 468]

In all seriousness I agree, I look better, feel better and have more resources and confidence then I did in my 20's. I never thought when I was younger that I would enjoy my 30's as much as I do.

 

Hey, I never thought in my 60's that I would enjoy my 80's as much as I do.

 

(Okay, just kidding, but in 30-35 years, hope to be able to say that. Lol)

[SamanthaEvans 166767]

Hey, I never thought in my 60's that I would enjoy my 80's as much as I do.

 

(Okay, just kidding, but in 30-35 years, hope to be able to say that. Lol)

 

Men in their 60s are frequently devastating! Seriously! And if you want to do things now to make sure that your 60s are wonderful, eat properly, get some exercise on a regular basis, don't drink too much and don't smoke. Especially don't smoke. Not only does it cause one of the worst kinds of cancer, but it also causes erectile dysfunction. Also, watch your blood pressure.

 

You don't have to look like a god, but by taking good care of the whole system, your equipment will continue to be high-functioning for a long, long time. If you're tempted to use Viagra before you actually need it, just to firm things up a bit, so to speak, don't. Dependencies can develop.

 

Take good care of your body and it will reward you most handsomely in your later years. Trust me. I'm a qualified expert! :wink:

[Suzirider 737]

Take good care of your body and it will reward you most handsomely in your later years. Trust me. I'm a qualified expert! :wink:

 

Your advice is not falling on deaf ears.

Some of us guys need a kick in the pants. :mrgreen:

Please keep it up !

[coachg 388]

Great advice Samantha for longevity....If they think 35 is great, wait until they start creeping up to 50...I hit that mark soon and have never felt better, and look forward to many more fun filled years!

[SamanthaEvans 166767]

Since we're on the topic of things men should pay attention to, here's one more.

 

Tell your companion if you're taking Viagra or Cialis. I've had clients who have taken their first dose of Viagra when they were with me. They wanted to find out how it felt and whether they would get the results they were hoping for. Most men find it embarrassing to admit that they need these medications, unfortunately. However, many, many companions are quite familiar with the effects and side-effects. For example, many men become quite flushed, particularly in the face and upper body, when they take Viagra. This is not something to worry about. Some men find they have a headache. Again, it's a common side-effect. If the headache is very unpleasant, you should talk to your doctor about it

 

If you take Viagra, it takes about half an hour to work, sometimes 45 minutes, sometimes only 20, in my experience. Most of the men I've known have been able to go for two full rounds in two hours or less. Three hours, even. With Cialis, you may have more, but not everyone does.

 

I've had great fun helping men who've had a hard time achieving a lasting erection and/or having control over when they reach orgasm. The first time it works is wonderful! Truly fabulous. And the second time, a little while later... That's magical. But in the cases of the clients who were trying this for the first time, they were a bit reluctant to try for another round. Maybe they were concerned it might not happen. It always has, though.

 

No doubt this was entirely due to my extraordinary technique, of course! YMMV, as we say!

[Andee 220524]

I guess there are some guys out there who think we have nothing better to do than sit around waiting for good looking guys to show up and have free sex with them. Not running a charity here. I agree, hang up.:-?

[capitalman 3861]

All this talk of Viagra makes me want some! Where can I get some?

[Sputy 128]

and 40 is the new 20 ;-)

 

And recognize that many of us guys think that too. To all of you beautiful ladies in that age bracket and beyond... a big THANK YOU for allowing yourselves to be so sexy! To some of us guys, sexiness is 90% attitude.

 

 

If you're tempted to use Viagra before you actually need it :wink:

 

Sooooo, how really do you know? I mean, like ummmmmm:roll: there may have been one or two times I've had to fake it. But how much is me, how much is my number one, how much the other person, how much the situation? Does it help with just the hardness or also in achieving nirvana? Sorry for this, and I know, talk to your Dr. but you know what they call the guy (it's almost always a guy) who graduates in LAST place from the WORST medical college in the country? doctor.

 

Best viagra line ever, Tim Meadows, Walk Hard (not a direct quote):

"Do not take viagra if you take nitrates or have serious liver or kidney problems. If you experience chest pain or nausea during sex, seek immediate medical help. In the event of an erection lasting more than 4 hours, seek more women!"

[SamanthaEvans 166767]

Sooooo, how really do you know? I mean, like ummmmmm:roll: there may have been one or two times I've had to fake it. But how much is me, how much is my number one, how much the other person, how much the situation? Does it help with just the hardness or also in achieving nirvana? Sorry for this, and I know, talk to your Dr. but you know what they call the guy (it's almost always a guy) who graduates in LAST place from the WORST medical college in the country? doctor.

 

Viagra and the other drugs like it are helpful for men who have trouble achieving or maintaining an erection reliably. Many men who have erectile difficulty are also prone to premature ejaculation. If PE is your only problem, there are better ways to solve it than using Viagra. But if you're not able to get hard or stay that way when you want to, Viagra may help.

 

In terms of whether the problem is related to your own psyche or your feelings about your partner, that might be a tough call to make. As a woman, I'm reluctant to blame the other woman, assuming that she's a willing, interested partner and you've had mutually satisfying encounters before. However, emotions, resentment, hostility, anxiety, fatigue, depression and a host of other things can influence anyone's sexual performance, not usually for the better. Some men say that their erections are harder and/or longer-lasting when they're with a new partner. Others have the most difficulty with a new partner. What works beautifully in an unhurried, relaxed setting with a trusted partner may not work so well if either partner is stressed-out, tired or anxious. Fear of being discovered can create problems! :roll:

 

Health issues that can cause or contribute to erectile problems include diabetes (35-50% of diabetic men have erectile dysfunction), smoking, alcoholism, kidney disease, multiple sclerosis, being overweight, heart disease, atherosclerosis, vascular disease, and not getting enough exercise. Depression can also be a factor, whether in addition to any of these conditions, or on its own. Surgery can also cause ED.

 

The thing is, erectile dysfunction is not inevitable or a natural part of aging. It's caused by other factors. The best way to avoid having ED is to have a healthy lifestyle. Eat properly. Get exercise. Don't smoke. Don't drink too much. Hypertension, diabetes and heart disease can cause ED and are often preventable. They're also treatable conditions.

 

And please, if you find it difficult to discuss your sexual health with your doctor..... Get Over Yourself. Seriously. Your doctor will appreciate how difficult it is for you to say that you're having a problem. He's heard about these problems many, many times before from men who are younger, more powerful, more successful, wealthier, better looking and more physically impressive than you are. Your masculinity is not an issue--for your doctor. In addition, if you are having erectile problems but you're not aware of any other health issues, getting assessed can save your life.

[PistolPete 61421]

Thanks on all the advise on health issues, I find lately my erectile problem is I'm always stiff and raring to go...:grin: sorry had to add my sarcastic touch...