Gwate 100 Report post Posted May 15, 2009 Hello guys, Ive been viewing these forums for quite some time, and always felt embarrassed to sign up. However being a first timer to this after reviewing the wide range of advice and what to expect out of the experience i have one very sensitive issue i would like to bring up. At the age of 22 i am a virgin and am the shyest kind of guy out there, how would i go about finding a SP (even if there is one) that would take special attention to this? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
antlerman 17064 Report post Posted May 20, 2009 Well..... First...welcome...do not be nervous......we do not bite and the ladies do not either..unless you ask...hahaha I would suggest that you look for a lady that really peaks your interest....some one that you really like the look of. send her an e-mail explaining how shy you are and that it will be your first time....you will be amazed at how supportive and undersatnding the ladies are......... Even if you have a bit of a fantasy it might help break the ice a bit gfor you and not make you so nervous........ not to worry.....just remember...we all have been inthe same boat about being nervous at seeing a lady.......just do not back out.....as difficult as it is walking to the door and knocking....as soon as that door opens.......your life will be different..... 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest i***k*** Report post Posted May 20, 2009 Welcome to Cerb! Read the recs, look at the ladies photos, check out thier websites. Make sure you have a good idea of what type of lady you want to see and narrow down the field. Once you have a couple to choose from contact them, be polite and discrete, you'll get a good feel for them based on thier replies. I think I spent a month finding the first lady I went to see and it was worth it. Keep an open mind, remember they're in the business of making you feel comfortable. One other thing... try to stick to one of the well know and well recommended ladies. You can't go wrong with them. Cheers! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bethany Westbrooke 7532 Report post Posted May 20, 2009 Welcome to CERB! I think it is great that you started this thread, I am sure it will help many others who are too shy to ask. I have had a few massage clients in the newbie situation who thought it would be easier to get comfortable with erotic massage then to graduate to seeing the SPs. I think this could be a great idea if you really don't have any experience -you might be able to feel a little less anxiety knowing that you won't be going all the way. I know there are many great providers out there who would be quite understanding with you whichever you decide on, just make sure you let them know about your situation and do as much research as possible on each lady even before you contact them- will get you brownie points for being so thorough! One thing to pay special attention to is the age requirements some providers have, if you see one you really like and she only sees clients who are 30+, you could always write a really great email introducing yourself and then asking for an exception- if she sees that you are sweet, intelligent and thoughtful she might just reconsider! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
whatsup 11893 Report post Posted May 20, 2009 Welcome to Cerb Gwate There is no need to feel embarrassed that you still have your Vcard. I would recommend that you read http://sex.perkel.com/escort/index.htm and http://cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=4370&highlight=perkel for some very informative information. You have a fantastic selection of lovely women in Toronto to choose from and with the web being on your side, the ability for you to read recommendations and eventually contact the provider of your desired choice. A couple of well known Agency's in Toronto http://www.gardenofedenescorts.com/goe/q_browse.php?type[]=Escort http://www.cupidsescorts.ca/toronto/index.html http://torontopassions.com/ladies.php Additionally the resourceful http://www.escorts-canada.com/cgi-bin/frame2?city=Toronto&prov=ON The most important things are to be polite, kind, respectful and very hygienic ( hint: clean shaven face and genitalia area :wink: ) I would recommend 1.5 or 2 hrs. for your encounter. Wish you an enjoyable time with whom ever you choose. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Gwate 100 Report post Posted May 20, 2009 Everyone, i must thank you for all your helpful advice, after doing research for almost 3 weeks now, I believe i have the right mindset as well as know what to expect as well as how to act and present myself. So far I've only been able to contact one SP (it really is nerve wrecking!) After exchanging a few emails, i believe she is the right one for me (Mega is her name). I do hope this will be an encounter to remember! Note: ive never really shaved down there... I have a building sensation that this is NOT going to end well... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
longschlong 100 Report post Posted May 23, 2009 I wasn't shaved down there, and I haven't had any trouble. At least none that the ladies have mentioned. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Gwate 100 Report post Posted May 23, 2009 Well i met with Mega, The language barrier was kind of a big obstacle. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
terber22 100 Report post Posted May 23, 2009 Yeah be careful with a lot of the asian toronto websites. the pictures don't really look legit or a definitely modified. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Loki318 1631 Report post Posted May 23, 2009 not to worry.....just remember...we all have been inthe same boat about being nervous at seeing a lady.......just do not back out.....as difficult as it is walking to the door and knocking....as soon as that door opens.......your life will be different..... Antlerman that right there really sums it up and for me that nervious antipations is still there after all these years and is still a big part of the experiance :) Loki318 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
rickoshadows 937 Report post Posted May 23, 2009 Well i met with Mega, The language barrier was kind of a big obstacle. I have had encounters all over the world, often with girls with whom I didn't have a language in common. The great part is you don't have to think up a lot to say :-D. Also realize that when the two of you work together to communicate, it creates a kind of intimacy you don't get with someone you can already understand. Non-verbal cue become more meaningful and you notice things you wouldn't normally. Each successful sharing of a concept or idea becomes a small victory for the team which leads to more enjoyment, I mean who doesn't like to succeed. Some of my more memorable encounters have with girls who speak extremely limited english. There is a limit, if neither speaks nary a word of the other language and one of you isn't willing to put in the effort, it can be a very ordinary experience. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Gwate 100 Report post Posted May 24, 2009 Im afraid based on my experience I can not recommend her - pm me for details, however even though it was my first time, i feel as though im still as un-experienced as a first timer.... guess i didn't do my research! If anyone has any good first timers for toronto, i would be eternally greatful since this being kinda sensitive, im trying to learn how to do this stuff well as a confidence thing and hopefully getting over my shyness of women.... Being the pro's that they are, i am hoping they will be gentle with a guy like me :-D Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
capitalman 3861 Report post Posted May 25, 2009 Don't forget, a lot of the girls don't like to see guys in their 20's, so be sure to tell the girl your approaching your age, just to be upfront. We were all virgins once upon a time. It doesn't matter if you're paying for it or not, that first time is a nerve-racking humdinger! I mean, there's no real book on how to get through it. You just have to get through it! If you get through it and it's great, consider yourself lucky. I'm willing to bet most peoples first time was a disaster, I know mine was. I had this girlfriend and finally we were at her house and her parents were away for the weekend. I was so nervous, I had to drink a bit to relax...a few beer and I think we smoked a joint. Jump to the chase here, I think I put it in, reached climax in about 1 minute and couldn't wait to leave so I could tell all my friends! Needless to say, now many years later I've learned a lot and improved a little! You will too my man! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
VedaSloan 119179 Report post Posted May 25, 2009 I've seen virgins before, we've all been there. You just have to find the right girl--one who will be gentle and supportive! And hopefully ease your nerves. Best of luck and welcome to the boards! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
terber22 100 Report post Posted May 26, 2009 Don't forget, a lot of the girls don't like to see guys in their 20's, so be sure to tell the girl your approaching your age, just to be upfront. Why is it that most girls don't like guys in their 20's? Are we too energetic!?:lol: Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Suzirider 737 Report post Posted May 26, 2009 Why is it that most girls don't like guys in their 20's? Are we too energetic!?:lol: One guys opinion. Generally speaking, young guys think ME, and older guys think WE. Young guys think with Small head, older guys tend to use Big head. Couth is learned, and there is no test for it to get your grade 12 diploma (there should be). Ladies version anyone ? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SamanthaEvans 166767 Report post Posted May 26, 2009 Why is it that most girls don't like guys in their 20's? Are we too energetic!?:lol: Too energetic? Far from it! Though lots of guys in their 20s climax really fast and think it's over since they got what they came for. Like Suzirider said, they tend to think "me" rather than "we." I rarely see men in their 20s because I'm in my 40s and find we don't have so much in common. The other thing is, frankly, men your age in my experience are far more likely to make appointments and then neither cancel nor show up. Quite a lot of those who've done this to me have defended their behaviour, saying that their time is important, was needed for something else, as though my time wasn't. Some have said that they don't feel that an escort should expect more! Amazing. They've also been offended by my policy of not seeing anyone who stands me up like that unless they pay for the meeting in full, in advance. Others' mileage may vary. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest f***2f*** Report post Posted May 26, 2009 It's an interesting question. It's probably a generalization to say that all guys in their twenties are 2 pump chumps. I've always been interested in prolonged lovemaking and in WE rather than ME in the process.....even when I was a young buck. When I was in my twenties I didn't have to see sps. I had a lot of contact with young women through my work and school and there was never a shortage of willing partners. Maybe there are just not as many hobbiests in that age range. One thing I have heard sps say is that the younger guys have been very influenced by porn and have somewhat unrealistic expectations of what sex is all about. Real women need real attention and loving!!:mrgreen: Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest gagagaga Report post Posted May 27, 2009 back to the original question...just talk or email your prospective 1st sp or ma, and make sure that she has the patience and sensitivity for you. Then within the next few days after your first, go to a different sp...you don't want to accidentally fall in love with your first. Variety is the spice of life...you'll see!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
namssa 562 Report post Posted September 17, 2009 A couple other things to remember is to pick a girl that has a few good reviews and is considered above average in her looks & service. Ensure that she is a girl that you are attracted to physically and email or PM her a few times and ask questions. The emails and PM's will build a rapport and she will feel more comfortable with you before you see her. Always be clean, friendly and polite with your SP as this goes a long way to making her feel more comfortable with you. Hope this helps dave Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest S***e Report post Posted September 17, 2009 You are fortunate in that you have CERB and its members as a resource. My first time with an SP was more than forty years ago and things were a lot different back then. Yes, it was an intimidating first experience, at least at the onset, but I put myself in the hands of an experienced lady. Where and when this took place doesn't matter, yet it seems as though it was only yesterday. She didn't mind de-flowering an 18-year-old virgin and I'm confident if you do your homework in selecting the right lady you will have a lifetime memory. Relax, be courteous and polite, and be yourself...don't consume alcohol or drugs beforehand as this could be detrimental to your performance and to the overall YMMV discretion of the SP. Have fun; its not like you're going for root canal. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
