Dressed for occasion or not?

[Capital Hunter 18263]

This question is directed to hobbyists in general but mainly to those who see providers outcalls like myself. How would you prefer the lady to be dressed upon arrival?.

 

I ask this question because to me it makes a big difference. I am outcall only but i read and hear that for incalls usually ladies are dressed sexy or feminine like lingerie or skirts, but clearly not so (in most outcall cases) when my guest arrives she is most often dressed in pants or jeans which in my view is not feminine or sexy. In some cases I have to ask specifically please wear skirt (in a few cases I was told she doesn't have skirts!!!! or too cold to wear skirt) but mostly I don't because first I assume it goes without saying (or it should) and second I feel she may be offended.

 

This is not limited only to cold winter season (when they still can dress feminine but with a heavy winter coat or jacket over it not to feel cold) but also hot summer days. I had a recent guest and she was dressed beautifully in a feminine sexy black dress and then I realized what a big difference it can make to me. As they say the first impression is the most important of all impressions!!.

 

I don't ask for anything to revealing (obviously not so because of discretion when visiting) but like someone going to an official occasion or dinner party, one is not usually dressed in jean and pants lol? No?.

 

Anyways for those seeing outcalls my question is whether this happens to you too so frequently and followed by this question for every hobbyist whether incall or outcall if it matters to you the way the lady provider is dressed when you arrive to see her (incall) or when she arrives to see you (outcall)??. Am I the odd one here or it matters to most hobbyists? If so, then time to speak out, and let our ladies (indies and agencies) know about our preference!!. And I am asking for your preference (I know I know, it is up to the lady how to dress, but what is your preference lol!!)

 

In advance thank you for your comments.

[xxxAxxx 21016]

This question is directed to hobbyists in general but mainly to those who see providers outcalls like myself. How would you prefer the lady to be dressed upon arrival?.

 

I ask this question because to me it makes a big difference. I am outcall only but i read and hear that for incalls usually ladies are dressed sexy or feminine like lingerie or skirts, but clearly not so (in most outcall cases) when my guest arrives she is most often dressed in pants or jeans which in my view is not feminine or sexy. In some cases I have to ask specifically please wear skirt (in a few cases I was told she doesn't have skirts!!!! or too cold to wear skirt) but mostly I don't because first I assume it goes (or should) without saying and second I feel she may be offended.

 

This is not limited only to cold winter season (when they still can dress feminine but with a heavy winter coat or jacket over it not to feel cold) but also hot summer days. I had a recent guest and she was dressed beautifully in a feminine black sexy dress and then I realize what a made a big difference it can make to me. As they say the first impression is the most important of all impressions!!.

 

I don't ask for anything to revealing (obviously not so because of discretion when visiting) but like someone going to an official occasion or dinner party, one is not usually dressed in jean and pants lol? No?.

 

Anyways for those seeing outcalls my question is whether this happens to you too so frequently and followed by this question for every hobbyist whether incall or outcall if it matters to you the way the lady provider is dressed when you arrive to see her (incall) or when she arrives to see you (outcall)??.

 

In advance thank you for your comments.

 

I know you're looking for feedback from hobbyists, but as an SP i agree with you 100%.

Yes, I will be much more revealing for an incall, hell I can open the door naked if i want to! But for an outcall I do tend to cover up more, but always feminine! Dresses, skirts, at the very least a nice pair of tight blank pants or leggings, depending on the top...The thought of wearing jeans to ANY encounter makes me shudder... Unless of course the jeans were requested ;)

[Meg O'Ryan 266444]

Out calls are not the norm for me but always a sexy dress or leggings and revealing top with heels....a trench coat or cape overtop gives the appearance of a simply stylish guest.

[roamingguy 300292]

Well, as I've gained experience in this lifestyle, for an outcall which is the norm for me, I just want the lady to dress comfortably. I have no clothing requests, wait that comes out wrong LOL, I don't request any special outfits. She shouldn't have to worry about drawing attention to herself walking through the front lobby of a hotel

I may have a clothing request for an incall, but even then, now I like to be surprised

But at the end of the day, the most important is seeing the lady, not what she is wearing

RG

[b****56 477]

I would definitely be turned off if an outcall showed up in jeans !! I expect she will arrive looking very feminine and sexy in a dress or skirt and stockings/heels. this of course can be covered up depending on weather, but once she enters my space and takes off her coat she should knock me over with her outfit ... First impressions are everything! Leggings and heels would be great also ... Very hot look!

 

If she travelled in jeans and then changed as soon as she arrived .. thats not stylish .... but might be acceptable if it was -40. - as long as she changed immediately into something sexy ...

 

For me an outcall should arrive as a sexy "gift" ready for un-wrapping, piece by piece. Part of the excitement and build up is the slow revealing of the treasure :)

[IsaMassage 54318]

Well, as I've gained experience in this lifestyle, for an outcall which is the norm for me, I just want the lady to dress comfortably. I have no clothing requests, wait that comes out wrong LOL, I don't request any special outfits. She shouldn't have to worry about drawing attention to herself walking through the front lobby of a hotel

I may have a clothing request for an incall, but even then, now I like to be surprised

But at the end of the day, the most important is seeing the lady, not what she is wearing

RG

 

 

I think that one can be dressed sexy without drawing the wrong attention... or I should say the attention you dont want... I am a girly girl and most of the time even during the winter love to wear dresses and short skirts... I do have clothes that I only use while at work.., since they are a bit more revealing than the usual.., but many times I will wear the same clothes I would use at any other time... Look good, Feel good!!! Be prepared for everything... I always try to look my best!

[auto351204 669]

I personally love to see a woman in a nice, sexy skirt. But my main interest is to feel like I'm being seduced (playful flirting leading to sensual kissing and on to other things of interest...). While clothing can affect the tone of the situation, it is not a deal-breaker for me either way. I prefer to incall, specifically to give the host the comfort level to dress however she would like. I've never been disappointed, in any case, due to clothing.

[Malika Fantasy 144625]

I dunno tights jeans with high heels...--stare at bum-- is pretty feminine to me

[Guest]

Oh, no, I think I have been doing a taboo. I have been wearing jeans a sexy top and either sexy high heels or knee highs. In the summer I like to wear nice summer dresses. I try to blend in, dress sexy, but blend in with everyone else so that no one notices me as an escort. Please guys let me know if there is something wrong with what I'm doing. I'm always, always fine with someone requesting me to dress up. I do have pencil skirts and nice tops and of course nice bra and pantie sets. Guys please do give your opinions. I would for sure like to know.

 

When I go overnight I always ask if the client wants me to dress casual or dressy. This thread has opened my eyes. I think I will start asking my outcall clients the same question, just to make sure. I think some people enjoy the girl next door casual look. Of course my hair and make up is always done with care and I always have cute bra and pantie sets but I think it really depends on the client, so communication is the key to success. This thread has opened my eyes to having better communication, thank you Capital Hunter for posting this thread.

[Capital Hunter 18263]

Just to clarify It is a preference. Ladies are lovely no matter what they dress, so please no one should be embarrassed or disappointed of the responses lovely ladies. As for me I spend hours to get ready for the date and anxiously waiting for the big occasion, making the scenery ready. Cleaning the house, the bed, the towels, the tables, setting the (non-alcoholic) champagne and glasses and chocolates, setting the lighting, taking shower, dressing up for occasion and many other things and all excited for the big once a week occasion and it is a bit disappointing to see my guest not to have taken 10 minutes to dress up for the occasion. But no matter what a lady is always attractive no matter what. Maybe this thread can be a reflection of what most hobbyists prefer for future dates lol!!!.

[Ashley Ann 75247]

For outcalls, I always wear dresses :) I love dresses-however, they are not the dresses that I wear for my incalls , as those ones are usually a little more revealing ;)

 

I once had a client who requested that I wear one of the dresses I have in my cerb pics-it is like a bright pink super tight and super short tube dress, it was during the summer, so there was no way I could have worn a trench coat lol- I explained that I could not walk into the hotel with that dress on..lmao..as I like to be discreet ..... but I did suggest that I could bring it with me and wear it for him in his room. ;)

[piano8950 32577]

I kinda like it when someone wears something that is comfortable, not necessarily sexy. Obviously it goes without saying that tattered clothes is probably not the best impression, but I couldn't care less if she wants to wear a dress, skirt, pair of jeans, t-shirt, tank top, sweater, or if it's an incall, even PJs.

 

Dressing up sexy and glammed up only appeals to me if said person likes to do it herself, otherwise I feel kinda selfish asking her to go through all that trouble.

 

And to be honest, from the pictures I've seen here, I think most, if not all the escorts here would look just lovely wearing anything.

[kechara 2526]

I have to admit, Black dress pants or black form fitting jeans are something I find really sexy on a women. More than a skirt ..:)

[Aspen Wilde 31370]

Everyone has their expectations, preferences, and things that turn them on (or off). I like to wear tight dresses in bright reds and blues as much as I like the feeling of lace under worn denim. And don't get me started on leather. Have you ever paused to consider how sensual a fabric corduroy is? On the other hand, I find pastels largely dubious, although I acknowledge their allure for some. I avoid wearing white like some people avoid wearing paisley (which, incidentally, I love). I guess what I'm saying is that I would appreciate if my client would tell me of any distinct preferences re: style or type of clothing, because although I always dress to look and feel my best, not everyone will share my tastes. ;)

[contraman 5480]

Always interesting to see how people's opinions vary.

 

I guess I'd draw the line at food-stained sweats or dirty clothes, but beyond that, I can't think of much beyond my chosen SP wearing what she likes to wear to meet me. Jeans? I'm cool with that. Dress? Yup. Skirt? Sure! Nothing? Yowsa! That being said, if it was an outcall, I would be a little taken aback if she showed up in Victoria's Secret...

[roamingguy 300292]

I think that one can be dressed sexy without drawing the wrong attention... or I should say the attention you dont want... I am a girly girl and most of the time even during the winter love to wear dresses and short skirts... I do have clothes that I only use while at work.., since they are a bit more revealing than the usual.., but many times I will wear the same clothes I would use at any other time... Look good, Feel good!!! Be prepared for everything... I always try to look my best!

 

No arguments, a lady can be dressed sexy without drawing the wrong attention. But some clothing requests definitely can draw the wrong attention...for example a mini mini skirt, high heels, top showing cleavage, the proverbial (not my cup of tea btw) schoolgirl outfit or nurses outfit. Although I haven't seen the latter two outfits, I have, while sitting in the lobby waiting for my room, saw a lady in mini skirt with top showing her cleavage come through the hotel lobby...it was middle of the afternoon, quite obvious she was a lady going to see a client.

An outfit nice to see a lady wear in private, but one which raises eyebrows in public

But it really is, as cliche as it sounds, the lady I want to see. One lady I see regularly often wears sweats...never thought sweats could be so sexy. Really, don't care about what the lady wears anymore, just want her to be comfortable, it's her companionship I'm looking for

RG

[PhantomKnight 7914]

She can show up to my place in jeans and a hoodie. As long as she knows I'll be taking them off and hoping to see sexy lingerie that's all that matters to me. :)

[DukeSSk 3430]

I once had a client who requested that I wear one of the dresses I have in my cerb pics-it is like a bright pink super tight and super short tube dress, it was during the summer, so there was no way I could have worn a trench coat lol- I explained that I could not walk into the hotel with that dress on..lmao..as I like to be discreet ..... but I did suggest that I could bring it with me and wear it for him in his room. ;)

 

Good call.

[Capital Hunter 18263]

Great responses so far. Some like myself prefer strongly a feminine outfit and to other some what ladies wear doesn't appear to be an issue or preference. Most of our lady providers posted so far though appear to prefer to dress for special occasion.

 

Just to clarify that I wasn't suggesting anything revealing, or exotic or too exposed. Obviously even for me (who receives guests at home rather than hotels) discretion is important. I was suggesting something more feminine than pants or jeans like a simple skirt (that many ladies wear in the summer in public or under a coat or jacket in winter) or at least a feminine outfit. Special note in this regards to ladies from agencies lol who are doing outcalls.

 

I chat with my guests (and drink and kiss and hug while chatting) for a while to better know the lady before heading to bedroom so the clothing doesn't come off immediately lol. I want to kiss and hug a lady dressed in female outfits lol!!. Excellent point by Julie to let the lady know of preference. I thought it may be rude to request of my guest how to dress. But may be i was wrong.

[The General 11309]

I am more incall than outcall, but have had several ladies come visit me at my place. I am in an apartment, so it is fairly discreet, but at the same time, I don't want someone dressed such that it draws too much attention.

 

So, I am okay with something somewhat conservative, rather than something over the top. I actually think it is easier in the winter, because you can wear a coat over that sexy dress or outfit, but only reveal it once inside.

 

I am okay with the idea of a tight sexy pair of jeans and sexy top. This would turn me on, since I can see the outline of the lady. But everyone is different, but I don't want something too showy.

[IsaMassage 54318]

No arguments, a lady can be dressed sexy without drawing the wrong attention. But some clothing requests definitely can draw the wrong attention...for example a mini mini skirt, high heels, top showing cleavage, the proverbial (not my cup of tea btw) schoolgirl outfit or nurses outfit. Although I haven't seen the latter two outfits, I have, while sitting in the lobby waiting for my room, saw a lady in mini skirt with top showing her cleavage come through the hotel lobby...it was middle of the afternoon, quite obvious she was a lady going to see a client.

An outfit nice to see a lady wear in private, but one which raises eyebrows in public

But it really is, as cliche as it sounds, the lady I want to see. One lady I see regularly often wears sweats...never thought sweats could be so sexy. Really, don't care about what the lady wears anymore, just want her to be comfortable, it's her companionship I'm looking for

RG

 

Like i said there is many outfits you can wear that are really sexy without being extrarevealing... Not only that as some other girls mention pretty proffesional make up, without over doing..., hair placed nicely...

And like capital hunter said, a little preparation n taking time to look good for your date not a lot to ask! :-) same as if we were going out to a party, after all you are our special friends xo

[Capital Hunter 18263]

Like i said there is many outfits you can wear that are really sexy without being extrarevealing... Not only that as some other girls mention pretty proffesional make up, without over doing..., hair placed nicely...

And like capital hunter said, a little preparation n taking time to look good for your date not a lot to ask! :-) same as if we were going out to a party, after all you are our special friends xo

 

I am out of rep points for next 24 hours but very elegantly stated comments.

[cometman 35115]

I honestly don't care what she wears and I tell them that. I've already done my homework and have a purty good idea what's behind door #2, but sexy clothing definitely gets the heart pounding. Jeans and T are also cool. I know I'm going to spend the first bit of time checking her out from the shoulders up and if my instincts are right, her personality is going to be my number 1 turn-on.

[Nichole Jenisen 696]

If I had to choose I would prefer a woman in a hoodie or some cute T-shirt, but that is just more relatable for me. I am a different case though because I don't mind the woman not being super feminine, because I am not looking for heterosexuality.

But if the SP was a femme or just into wearing dresses or whatever for work then I am not going to complain.

I always worry about if I am making sex workers uncomfortable in any way, so whatever is their preference of clothing is fine.

[xxxAxxx 21016]

If I had to choose I would prefer a woman in a hoodie or some cute T-shirt, but that is just more relatable for me. I am a different case though because I don't mind the woman not being super feminine, because I am not looking for heterosexuality.

But if the SP was a femme or just into wearing dresses or whatever for work then I am not going to complain.

I always worry about if I am making sex workers uncomfortable in any way, so whatever is their preference of clothing is fine.

 

I speak only for myself when I say this, but, perhaps calling us "sex workers" is not the best way to make us comfortable. Maybe other SP's agree with me here (or not, who knows?) SERVICE PROVIDER or ESCORT is much better. Don't forget that many SP's view it as selling you their time, not sex. Just food for thought!