Phlipspecial69 1449 Report post Posted January 14, 2013 Hello, is it normal to make arrangements with an SP over texting? i mean, i understand texting can be very discreet, however before showing up to the incall location or outcall, has anyone ever met an SP through texting alone? just for safety precautions, i would like to hear a voice on the other end of that number i am texting too. Is this the new way for meeting with an SP? 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
DeeperConnection 19567 Report post Posted January 14, 2013 Hello, is it normal to make arrangements with an SP over texting? i mean, i understand texting can be very discreet, however before showing up to the incall location or outcall, has anyone ever met an SP through texting alone? just for safety precautions, i would like to hear a voice on the other end of that number i am texting too. Is this the new way for meeting with an SP? I would say that any incall provider would be risking her and your own safety and discretion if she were giving out her address as simply as through text. If she is known and reviewed or recod. it would still be riskier regarding incall discretion as she isn't even protecting herself to be making sure she is speaking with a gentlemen before giving out her address. Outcall i guess would be your choice. If I were a pooner I would be weary of giving a home address without getting a confirmation or feel of the sp through a brief conversation over phone. Lots of the gentlemen on bp start their contact texting "what's your addy?" this is totally ridiculous and I don't even bother responding to indiscreet guys (or girls for all I know) when they do this as they clearly have no respect or discretion. Hope that gives you a lil insight. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
kechara 2526 Report post Posted January 14, 2013 Abut 50% of the time I have met an SP without actually talking with her on the phone. W have arranged everything through Email, PMs and Texts. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
DeeperConnection 19567 Report post Posted January 14, 2013 I would keep in mind their are long term scammers listed in warning sections here, and mr.jetz etc. so perhaps ask why you can't quickly speak over phone maybe, or when would be a good time to get her on the phone. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Phlipspecial69 1449 Report post Posted January 14, 2013 i tried asking that tonight and she said "i am independent, i only have my cell phone" to which i responded, ok well then do you mind that i call you before i enter your in call? or before you come to the outcall location? she said TEXTS only. So i said no thank you, i will pass. and it just kept bothering me and i just wanted to post this in the thread and see if there were people out there that have met for arrangements only through texting. my biggest fear was that i would show up to the in call, and on the other side of that door, was not a woman, but a man or two with weapons waiting to knock me out and get the donation that was discussed. i don't like to pre judge, but i just don't know!? who is texting ... 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest S****r Report post Posted January 14, 2013 (edited) I do almost everything exclusively through text and PM. There is nothing underhanded or deceitful going on, I just seldom can speak openly on the phone as I am either at my day job, or at home with my family. Edited January 14, 2013 by S****r Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
originalashleywpg 496 Report post Posted January 14, 2013 Please click one of the Quick Reply icons in the posts above to activate Quick Reply. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
originalashleywpg 496 Report post Posted January 14, 2013 I do almost everything exclusively through text and PM. There is nothing underhanded or deceitful going on, I just seldom can speak openly on the phone as I am either at my day job, or at home with my family. I would have to agree with Summer for the most part for myself communication is either email or via text. Sometimes if there is doubt I will often refer a gent to reviews if u found my ad but ur curious well check out reviews this is often a useful tool. just sayin.. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
vanxander 328 Report post Posted January 14, 2013 just cause a girl doesnt want to speak on the phone doesnt necessarily mean shes bad or up to something. could just be using a pay as you go phone and talking uses up a lot more money then texting. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest ***rgi*****9 Report post Posted January 14, 2013 I always talk to whoever I will meet, if that does not work for the SP oh well I will just take my money somewhere else. I work on the KISS principle lol I keep it simple stupid and for me that is on the phone. Now don't think I don't text, I probably get close to and respond about 300 times a day by text for work, for me by talking to someone it allows me a better chance to get a feel for how the session will go. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Malika Fantasy 144625 Report post Posted January 14, 2013 Most of my communication is done by texts. The reason why I prefer such is because with me being a student it's more discreet to answer texts during classes, when being in public than receiveing a call and saying yes it's 220/hour...but I DO required a call before giving my location....if it's a regular thought doesn't matter to me :) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
EmilyRushton 253372 Report post Posted January 14, 2013 All of my communication is done via email, then you must call to confirm. I only accept a text from those I have previously met. I will never give details any way other than over the phone to a new guest. Every lady conducts business in a way that works for them, not all people are shady or scammers but if it makes you uncomfortable move on. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Boomer 33202 Report post Posted January 14, 2013 There probably is a place today for texting. For instance if I've left a voice message and asked for a call back they may text back if it takes them an hour to answer, assuming it may not be discrete for me to answer. It can always be followed up with voice. If you've already made the appointment and are held up n traffic it makes great sense to send a simple txt. Also if you've seen someone a number of time txting can work very well. But, I also like to have a chat first as I think there's a lot conveyed in a conversation. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ashley Ann 75247 Report post Posted January 14, 2013 Hello, is it normal to make arrangements with an SP over texting? i mean, i understand texting can be very discreet, however before showing up to the incall location or outcall, has anyone ever met an SP through texting alone? just for safety precautions, i would like to hear a voice on the other end of that number i am texting too. Is this the new way for meeting with an SP? Personally, I haaaaaate texting. I have no desire whatsoever to discuss, introduce myself, or my services and location via text.. For me, I think-if I am going to meet with this person whom I have never spoke with or met-I must hear their voice. Most of the time, their voice and mannerisms on the phone indicate if I want to see them or not. Also-how do I know if I am actually talking with an adult via text or even a male for that matter. 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nippongakki 3843 Report post Posted January 14, 2013 For a first encounter with an SP, I need to speak over the phone before I will book. It gives you a sense of their personality and it's just sexier! You hear that voice and it gives you something real to put with the pictures and you get to flirt a little and it's exciting to actually talk to this girl you've probably been drooling over for weeks! Makes me hard just thinking about it! Sorry, got a little off track there...if it's an SP you've been with before and you've established some kind of trust with, than I think texting is fine and often more discreet. 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
DeeperConnection 19567 Report post Posted January 14, 2013 I would have to agree with Summer for the most part for myself communication is either email or via text. Sometimes if there is doubt I will often refer a gent to reviews if u found my ad but ur curious well check out reviews this is often a useful tool. just sayin.. yes but your a reputable provider. If it's a unknown provider and depending on where you happened to stumble on the ad (escorts canada will not tolerate scammers if reported) bp will allow scammers to post regardless of how many complaints and flags they get or they can simply keep creating new emails to post ads (there are examples of this with a particular lady on winnipeg bp) she is mentioned in warning section but often switches her name (ironically she uses same pics) I had assumed perhaps this may have been a bp ad the OP was referring to. In which case I would be cautious for sure with all the warnings that gentlmen post here and on other boards and on bp itself. Attempting to arrange a good time and having it become a dangerous encounter of another sort would be horrible and I think it's terrible that some people would prey on a industry that has enough safety and trust concerns as it is here in winnipeg. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ladyluck 10787 Report post Posted January 14, 2013 I used to let initial contact be texts. But after having so many tire kickers, each wasting a hh to an hour with responding back & forth. Once I wanted that confirmation call to confirm & get location all communication stopped. I could have been doing more productive things then having my time wasted. Emailing me with your hundred texts questions is much easier & less time consuming. The first call to check availability can take about 3-5 minutes. Then the confirmation call a whole minute. It saves time, gets you here faster. When I used to allow texting I'd be answering sometimes 5 different inquires at once. So my response time isn't right away as a phone call is. Hearing someone on the other end of the phone gives you a feel of the person. Like others have said "how do you know your talking to an adult or even a male" I do allow texts from prior fella's I've met or as an initial contact well traveling to save them the long distance call to make the appointment. But they still do have to call to confirm & get location. It may work well for others in other cities, but here I find there are a lot of time wasters. You know who the serious ones are. The ones that have read ad/website. Know your rates & the time's you work. The others that don't take the time to say just read a 500 character BP ad & text when it boldly says not to are the ones I don't make any time for. We all run our business our own ways, but I think giving your location to someone you've never spoken to is very risky (here in Winnipeg) & not being discreet at all. I only see men 30+ or if they are a few years from it & have called & are polite I'll make an exception. But they must follow the way I prefer to take a booking. Most of the time it's the young ones texting so it's easy enough to ignore. I never discuss, rates or services on the phone either. I like to get to know a potential client when calling & if they are serious about meeting me they will take the time to read all my ad's, website, & reviews before contacting me. When they call all they need to ask is if I'm available. I like getting a phone call when a man addresses me by my name & tells me who he is what type of appointment & for how long he's looking for. The ones that call & say "hey how's it going? You available?" My response is usually "excuse me" I hear them get flustered "is this Holly" . If they had just asked for me, & asked how I was & if I had any available time, it gets you an appointment & here faster. I can kick tires too if I feel someone is just playing around. I am all business with the polite ones. This thread was about texts vs phoning. But keep in mind when calling too, the first words out of your mouth make an impression on us. Well me anyway. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
tidbits 869 Report post Posted January 14, 2013 I like the option to text because I'm usually at work when I make my appointments and its very very difficult to discreetyly make those calls. However, I fully expect to make a confirmation call to confirm an appointment with a lady. I would never ask or expect a lady to give me an exact address without 1st talking. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
DeeperConnection 19567 Report post Posted January 14, 2013 I like the option to text because I'm usually at work when I make my appointments and its very very difficult to discreetyly make those calls. However, I fully expect to make a confirmation call to confirm an appointment with a lady. I would never ask or expect a lady to give me an exact address without 1st talking. Lot's of gentlemen try to do it this way. For myself, I don't become available til I have had a brief conversation. If I say I'm available and I find the guy strange, ignorant or drunk/high when he calls for location how would I then get out of the arrangment without ruffling feathers? I can't say "you're acting like a douchebag so appointment canceled" that would be asking for trouble. Yes I could say I'm no longer comfortable getting together, but here in winnipeg that would get said alot and in some cases the guy may correct his initial contact mistake and try again not drunk or not as agressive ect. Calling to briefly introduce yourself very much helps me dismiss any anxieties of the uncertain, so I can then focus on preperation of an outstanding encounter. But I appreciate that everyone has different needs and prefrences for all sorts of valid reasons. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest t****ster***ke Report post Posted January 14, 2013 i can completely understand people's aversion to "text-only", but i recently inquired and booked solely via text with a new provider and everything went swimmingly. i would think there are certain red flags to consider, like if the provider has no reviews, no legit web-presence and maybe some photos that seem too photo-shopped, but if they have a website and realistic pictures of themselves, they are probably just women of the techno-age, and you have to decide whether you can do business that way, or if you need a more old-school approach. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LeeRichards 177238 Report post Posted January 14, 2013 Looking at it from my simple country hic way of looking at things If a lady puts her number out there saying text or call then I text. Whether I want to meet you tomorrow or a year from now. I text. If that goes A okay and you want to hear my voice then that is A Okay too ! If you say "No Texts Please" then I don't !! If a phone call first contact is requested ... then that is the way it is !! Respect that guys. You won't hear from me however because I personally don't do that on first contact. It is a matter of respecting the SP's advertised wishes and preferences and making decisions accordingly. IMO It is also a matter of the SP's understanding the hobbyists situations in life as well. Us fella's come from all walks of life and what works for one may absolutely not work for another. So if Franchesca Sexypants likes doing business via text and perhaps PM and advertises as such..... then they will attract the fellas that this method falls into their comfort zone..... Me now as example ;) If Veronica VaVaVoom prefers "email only" first contact ....then they will attract guys that this method falls into their comfort zone If Betty Boobs prefers "phone call only" first contact....then they will attract gents that this method falls into their comfort zone For me personally, there has been a time of tremendous evolution over the last year or so particularly. I do things completely different now than when I first started this awesome happy phase in my life. At the end of the day however.... Mutual respect and more so "understanding" of everyone involved is key here. Cheers !! :chug::hump::boobeyes::aol_missionary::69::butt: :chug: 4 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
chandra 100 Report post Posted January 14, 2013 I have never seen an SP just by texting. I guess all those who say they never talk to clients are being brutally dishonest:sm185: For me there is one last phone conversation before the meetup. The talk is certainly paramount for both sides ! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
roamingguy 300292 Report post Posted January 14, 2013 Well, generally speaking for me, I initiate contact with a lady I would like to meet via email. I add this caveat to what I'm saying. I plan my encounters a few months in advance (up to six-seven months in advance in some cases) Confirmation of the encounter, well I'll email the lady two-three weeks prior to our encounter to confirm, with maybe a final confirmation email week of the encounter. Day of the encounter, I'll text the lady after I check in giving her my room number (I'm a outcall type of guy) If the lady has a preference for contact different than what I use, obviously, I'll use her preferred method of contact. My reason for texting instead of a phone call day of the encounter, you don't know if anyone is around if she answers her phone, likewise she doesn't know if you are alone...texting allows even if people present, discretion. You can always say its your cell phone company sending a text RG Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Andee 220524 Report post Posted January 14, 2013 I have said this before on other threads and will say it again. I do accept texts, but in order to book with me, you must call me and speak to me as I do not confirm appointments via text alone unless we have met before. And even then, I will ask a question that only they know the answer to. I need to hear the caller's voice. Because I have a minimal screening requirement (call back number), this is non-negotiable. I have had teenagers, women and I suspect SO's try and book me by text and when I insisted they call me, I heard everything from "I don't have any minutes to call" to "I'm not free to speak right now" as excuses why they can't call. Or they start asking me questions they would know the answer to if we met before. When I suggested they call me when they were able to speak, never heard back, so to me that was a red flag they weren't either serious about booking. And I never give out my address until the person calls me from the designated spot near my location. And this is only done by phone call, never text. I am not criticizing ladies who book only by pm, email or text, but I do know the incidence of dates gone wrong are higher than with those who also require a phone call as part of the screening process. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nicolette Vaughn 294340 Report post Posted January 14, 2013 Hello, is it normal to make arrangements with an SP over texting? i mean, i understand texting can be very discreet, however before showing up to the incall location or outcall, has anyone ever met an SP through texting alone? just for safety precautions, i would like to hear a voice on the other end of that number i am texting too. Is this the new way for meeting with an SP? The booking methods I use are texting and phone calls but ultimately if a person texts me, they will have to follow through with a phonecall. Texting to me is almost like email and the person can remain TOO anonymous and there is too much of what I call the "Bullshit Factor" where anyone can say anything or book an appt if they feel like it. If they don't call me or I can't call them, there is no appointment. The only way I will book an appt by text is if it's with regulars who I see every month. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites