vs_81 606 Report post Posted January 15, 2013 I am a guy in my early forties, I can fit the profile of a sugar daddy, I am looking for some long term romantic relationship with no strings attached, I hate being with new person every night but I don't want to be with the same person for 10 years either. So basically I am looking for a site where I can find girls in their twenties who need my support for long term intimate relationship with NSA. Can you guys recommend a site, google brings few but nothing seems legit.Thanks, 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
April Dawn 12207 Report post Posted January 15, 2013 Well I remember seeing sugar daddies . Com on Dr.Phil a couple years ago. Posted via Mobile Device Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest t****ster***ke Report post Posted January 15, 2013 there are a number of service providers who offer the dynamic you're searching for - it is often listed after their "rates and services". instead of a potentially flaky college student who may or may not always live up to their end of the bargain, you have an established professional with a wealth of experience in the boudoir. personally, i would be leery of dealing with someone who has no real idea of how they will handle the emotional aspects of the relationship, especially when there are sophisticated, cultured (not to mention beautiful) women who have already come to terms with the business side of things and can focus solely on the pleasure. now if you're hoping for someone barely legal, that might not be an option, but if money is not a big obstacle for you, there is the enormous plus of spending time with a genuine woman, instead of a girl. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Sweet Emily J 172062 Report post Posted January 15, 2013 www.cerb.ca ;) 4 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
vs_81 606 Report post Posted January 15, 2013 There are several benefits in Sugardaddy kind of arrangements than plain SP meeting, one is the comfort you get knowing that the other person would be available whenever you need, the level of trust goes higher too when you know someone on a long term basis, also you are less worried about stds and other aspects of SP business like bait and switch and dangerous encounters. Plus it's like a friendship with benefits where everybody gets what he/she wants without Strings Attached. On the economic side of it, it's usually less expensive comparing to have 4 or 5 hours appointment from a successful SP. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mrrnice2 157005 Report post Posted January 15, 2013 My first response would be what Emily said. I bet Cerb will meet your need. This is an area I know little about other than hearsay, but it seems to me that I have read things similar to this on Cerb where a woman may negotiate a contract with you whereby they are on a retainer of some sort, a business agreement. I would be interested to know more of how this works if indeed it is something that does happen. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Areez 11906 Report post Posted January 15, 2013 There are several benefits in Sugardaddy kind of arrangements than plain SP meeting, one is the comfort you get knowing that the other person would be available whenever you need, the level of trust goes higher too when you know someone on a long term basis, also you are less worried about stds and other aspects of SP business like bait and switch and dangerous encounters. Plus it's like a friendship with benefits where everybody gets what he/she wants without Strings Attached. On the economic side of it, it's usually less expensive comparing to have 4 or 5 hours appointment from a successful SP. Although you do have a lot of valid ideas there.. being a sugar daddy doesn't mean the sugar baby will be all yours. In that case: - one is the comfort you get knowing that the other person would be available whenever you need (when you need is very board. I think its still an arrangement of time agreeable on both part.) Very doable with an SP. - you are less worried about stds and other aspects of SP business like bait and switch (you do not necessarily control her sex life outside the time you spent together. This means the risk of STD is just the same ... or more, given that reputable SP would check themselves more for such a thing - I might be naïve there.). - dangerous encounters (I do agree on the less dangerous encounter -- but if you are repeating with a lady you met before and clicked with. There is no risk there) Additional Comments: on the other note... I remember seeing a lot of Buzz around this website after the book... 50 Shades of Grey. :: http://www.seekingarrangement.com/ Have fun ;-) 7 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PistolPete 61421 Report post Posted January 15, 2013 For the gent that posed this question, he had stated "twenties" as a age , I would think that most young "ladies" are mature and not flaky. There is numerous of women here on this board that are either going to University or College while working as an SP/MA I don't think any of them are flaky. In fact they do live up to their end of the bargain. He did say " girls in their twenties" that is more than legal, and if that is what he desires, so be it. I think that at least 75% of the MA's/SP's for Ottawa area are within that twenties age group. I find them all very mature and genuine. there are a number of service providers who offer the dynamic you're searching for - it is often listed after their "rates and services". instead of a potentially flaky college student who may or may not always live up to their end of the bargain, you have an established professional with a wealth of experience in the boudoir. personally, i would be leery of dealing with someone who has no real idea of how they will handle the emotional aspects of the relationship, especially when there are sophisticated, cultured (not to mention beautiful) women who have already come to terms with the business side of things and can focus solely on the pleasure. now if you're hoping for someone barely legal, that might not be an option, but if money is not a big obstacle for you, there is the enormous plus of spending time with a genuine woman, instead of a girl. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SamanthaEvans 166767 Report post Posted January 15, 2013 If you're interested in an ongoing, contractual or retainer-type relationship, I think you've come to the right place. What you can expect from the arrangement will, frankly, depend on what you can afford to pay. Most of us are doing what we do in order to make a living. Some work part-time because their other line of work doesn't bring in enough income. It's rare to find someone who is really only working to pay for occasional luxuries. Please recognize that sexual monogamy is likely to be very expensive. Asking the woman to give up having an intimate, emotionally-engaged relationship with someone else is a big demand to make on a woman in her 20s. Since you're only wanting something that might last a year or two, presumably because you either don't want a permanent relationship or because you already have one and just want to supplement your needs and interests, the woman you find would still be giving up a disproportionate amount of time and opportunity in her own life. However, this might be acceptable to someone who's in grad school, for example, and determined to focus mostly on her studies or writing her dissertation. If you're imagining that someone who isn't already a paid companion is more likely to be infection-free, please do your homework. The notion that prostitutes who don't work on the streets are a source of disease is not only a blatant stereotype, it's simply false. You are far more likely to contract an infection from a sweet college girl who's only had a couple of boyfriends or from a lovely lady you've met in a bar or on a dating site than you would from one of us. That's because we know that every man, regardless of age, ethnicity or financial profile, whether he's a client or a genuine boyfriend, is a potential source of infection. We take steps to safeguard our health accordingly. In the end, the only person's health care anyone is responsible for is their own. Consider carefully exactly what kind of financial investment you're able to make. Can you, for example, pay for someone's rent? Or are you thinking more along the lines of her university tuition, per term (which would usually be somewhat less than rent)? Are you able to cover all of her living expenses, which would be about two to two and a half times her monthly rent? Or are you simply wanting to be sure that you have first-call on her time for a couple of hours every Tuesday but want to get a discount on her hourly rate? Any of these arrangements could work out well. Just make sure each of you is very clear about what to expect. How do you plan to pay your sugar baby? Cash is king, but you may prefer to arrange for regular electronic bank transfers. Some people provide reloadable credit cards. Arranging for an auto lease is not uncommon. Whatever plan you come up with, how do you expect to safeguard things on your side? Do you have a completely private bank account, for example, with no risk of anyone else knowing about your deposits and withdrawals? What I'm trying to say is: if you have a wife or partner, how will you ensure that she doesn't find out what you're doing? I ask because I'm dedicated to ensuring that women in this industry are safe; I can't encourage you to put someone's security at risk because you overlooked the possibility of being discovered by your intimate partner, employer or secretary. Think about the kind of woman you want to be with. I understand that you're interested in someone who's young and beautiful. That's not a problem. But surely you want someone you can actually enjoy, as a person. Someone with whom you may have interests in common. Someone for whom you can actually care, and who will also develop real affection and regard for you would be ideal because you both need a significant level of trust if this arrangement is going to work out well. However, if you want a situation in which there will be little to no emotional involvement, you may be better off with a roster of companions, seeing one on the first Wednesday of the month, another on the second Wednesday, and so on. Do know that we can become quite fond of monthly regulars, though. I have a couple of those whom I've seen for several years and for whom I care a great deal. Please also consider how long you want the arrangement to last and how either of you will end it. You might enter into something that's intended to last for six months, an academic year or a full calendar year, for example. Or you might want to keep things more open and simply guarantee that you will give at least one or two months' notice before ending your financial commitment so that your companion has a reasonable opportunity to make other arrangements. I hope you will be more relaxed about what you would require of her if or when she decides that the arrangement needs to change or come to an end. I think I can safely say that the great majority of women on this board are interested in quality engagements with kind, respectful and caring men who value us as individuals. The number of paid companions who genuinely want to see 10-15 or more clients per week is miniscule. We all value returning clients and those of us who have a number of ongoing, regular clients consider ourselves to be blessed. Sugar daddy arrangements and Mistress-type relationships can work very well if they're undertaken thoughtfully. I hope you find what you're looking for. 21 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PhantomKnight 7914 Report post Posted January 15, 2013 They need a sugar mommy site like this too :P Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PhantomKnight 7914 Report post Posted January 15, 2013 Momma-- Haha. Auto correct! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nicolette Vaughn 294340 Report post Posted January 16, 2013 I am a guy in my early forties, I can fit the profile of a sugar daddy, I am looking for some long term romantic relationship with no strings attached, I hate being with new person every night but I don't want to be with the same person for 10 years either. So basically I am looking for a site where I can find girls in their twenties who need my support for long term intimate relationship with NSA. Can you guys recommend a site, google brings few but nothing seems legit.Thanks, It all depends on what you're willing to pay. Most ladies here are here to work and get paid by the hour with no strings attached. Finding a woman on another site geared towards sugar daddies may be more to your benefit if you're looking to just "support" her and help pay for her education, bills here and there, shopping, etc. I have been in 2 of these types of arrangements in my 20's and was completely exclusive to them for at least a year without escorting and even travelled with one of these gentleman. However, it didn't come cheap and wasn't just one of those types of things where they just took me shopping. I was already an SP making copious amounts of money and being exclusive to one person takes time and energy. And I made sure it was worth my while if I took the time away from the escorting business to do this which was a weekly stipend given to me. It had its advantages and disadvantages but at the end of the day I wanted to be my own woman and not have someone take care of my wants, needs and whims. I realized I didn't want to be "taken care of". Sometimes these things can work against you whether you're the one giving or receiving. It's great if that's what you're into but be prepared as it does have its challenges. If I were you and you're looking for something more casual, I would peruse online dating sites or put up an ad for it on those sites. What do you have to lose? That way, you can screen the ladies and pick and choose based on their response. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
cat 262460 Report post Posted January 16, 2013 I specialize in retainer type exchanges and I always have. It has so many benefits for myself and the gentlemen that chose this option that I can't begin to list them. The emotional intimacy, connection, friendship and stability enhances my life in ways I never imagined in my 20's. The only issue I see with Sugar Baby/Daddy relationships is the difficult position it inevitably puts the Sugar Baby in financially. Young girls become dependent on the financial income very quickly and when the man withdraws (as he ALWAYS does at some point) she is usually left stranded financially trying to scramble to pay her bills. I've seen it so many times and I willingly warn young providers from becoming dependent on one client. There are square girls out there who seek out this type of relationship and if they are genuinely mature then they can make it work but often they do not have discipline to take advantage this type of relationship. If they know the game, they always come out with the long end of the stick and in my mind these girls are just prostitutes with a different business model. They end up costing far more than having an escort on retainer. Even some escorts mismanage the security of the "one, big client" and don't save up for when the ride is over. When the relationship with a square Sugar Baby comes to an end the potential for drama is huge. If emotions are involved, things can become very unstable. When the $ comes off the table, she will panic. Sugar Babies never understand the their true disposablility in the Sugar Daddy's life and when that realization hits, it hits hard. It's this hurt that will make her unstable in her reaction because it makes her feel used. Enter this situation at your own risk, I have yet to see one end with a shred of grace or dignity involved. Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned... cat 8 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest t****ster***ke Report post Posted January 17, 2013 For the gent that posed this question, he had stated "twenties" as a age , I would think that most young "ladies" are mature and not flaky. There is numerous of women here on this board that are either going to University or College while working as an SP/MA I don't think any of them are flaky. In fact they do live up to their end of the bargain. He did say " girls in their twenties" that is more than legal, and if that is what he desires, so be it first off, i am sorry that i generalized, but i said potentially flaky, not definitely flaky, so i did not completely back myself into a corner. the difference, for me, between an sp in her early 20's and a potential sugar baby of the same age, is that the sp will have come to terms with what they are doing and understand the pros and cons of the profession, where as the sugar baby is just a young woman with financial trouble who put her info up on a website. there is every possibility she will have some regrets about entering the agreement, and in the event she reneges, what course of action do you have? would you call the police and tell them the young woman who you finance scholastically has failed to provide you with the sex she promised you in return? everyone is different, but to me, dealing with an sp would give me far more peace of mind, especially if i did my due-diligence in finding a responsible provider. another small point, while someone in their 20's is definitely more than legal, i would also point out that someone who is barely legal, is also technically more than legal :) you are right, what he chooses is his right, and i thank you for pointing that out, as i was looking at the issue through my eyes and not the person who was actually going to be doing the sugar daddying - a very important distinction. with that said, i feel like i owe the original poster an apology. he did not ask for any of this advice, only for websites that help connect sugar daddies with young women in need, and that's his right. far be it for me to decide whether he should use an sp instead, or point out the risks of the sugar coated dynamic. he is an adult, more than capable of figuring out the pros and cons on his own. so to repeat, i apologize for pointing the thread in a direction the original author had not intended. the positive aspect of the mini-hijacking is that a few of the sp's did give the potential sugar daddy some excellent advice, ms. samantha evans in particular wrote a rather insightful essay which i think the site is better off for having. ms. vaughn's personal real life experience with the dynamic was enlightening, and ms. cat's cautionary words of wisdom should probably give anyone pause with regards to these types of arrangements. anyway, i can't stress enough that as adults, we are free to choose the situations we seek out for ourselves, and since we are responsible for these decisions, we have every right to make them for ourselves. so to you sir vs_81, i wish you nothing but the best in your sugar daddy adventures - best of luck! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Zorotime 120 Report post Posted January 22, 2013 Samantha, you certainly dissected that puppy. Terrific analysis. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
S***odde***9 132 Report post Posted May 3, 2013 da sites legit Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
cheeky 130 Report post Posted May 3, 2013 Cat and Samantha both with great view points - was struck by Cat's post and the potential fallout from a sugar daddy/baby arrangement. Eye opening to say the least Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites