Corbulo 100 Report post Posted January 17, 2013 So I have contacted a SP and she replied to me. This will be my 1st time and I've said so. She asked for a reference but understands that since this is my 1st time so I don't have one. any suggestions? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
throckmortonpruddygo 2025 Report post Posted January 19, 2013 Try another SP? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bcguy42 38594 Report post Posted January 19, 2013 So I have contacted a SP and she replied to me. This will be my 1st time and I've said so. She asked for a reference but understands that since this is my 1st time so I don't have one. any suggestions? I'm confused. From what I read, she understands that you wouldn't have a reference, this being your first time and all. Did she then proceed to decline to see you? That part's not clear in your message. If she did, keep looking... you will find someone wonderful. If she accepted... all is well? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
roamingguy 300292 Report post Posted January 19, 2013 Try using a verification site, like Date Check or Preferred 411 Or maybe the lady has alternate screening methods if this is your first time and you have no reference RG Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Corbulo 100 Report post Posted January 19, 2013 Basically she wanted the reference. After a few e-mails I gained her trust and I saw her tonight. As is well. Thanks all! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest ***rgi*****9 Report post Posted January 19, 2013 Would be nice to hear how it went! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
wildstallion 1819 Report post Posted January 19, 2013 Would be nice to hear how it went! That's what its all about.. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
futileresistenz 28253 Report post Posted January 19, 2013 Congrats to the OP for securing his first date without a reference. Usually, all it takes is being open, honest, and complying with the escort's requests. And to show that you are someone that will treat her with respect and not make her feel unsafe at any point. So you did right and passed the gate! The style and tone of the initial communication is very important, be it by text, email, or phone call. I'm sure the ladies will agree with this. In some cases, however, this will not be sufficient with a provider, and in that case you may decide to move on, or use the verification methods already suggested to arrange a first meeting. Or decide to find someone else to meet. I hope it was a great first experience! Good luck and many happy hobbying hours ahead! FR 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
