sexless marriage

[fisforfuun 368]

I have visited SP's 3 times (once with Amelia Middleton when she was active in Halifax and twice with Emily Rushton on her visits to PEI) because I am in a sexless marriage at 36 for the last 6 years.

 

Why do you hobby?

[piano8950 32577]

 

Why do you hobby?

 

I have no experience with sex. This is a neat way to learn a few things about myself without worrying about the next day.

 

So practice. And the bonuses are great: it's fun, and a great stress relief to

[stevecurious 42059]

I have visited SP's 3 times (once with Amelia Middleton when she was active in Halifax and twice with Emily Rushton on her visits to PEI) because I am in a sexless marriage at 36 for the last 6 years.

 

Why do you hobby?

 

For some of the same reasons you do I suppose. Be it sexless marriage, boredom in the bedroom, lack of variety, etc. Sex with my spouse is just not fulfilling anymore and I need/want to experience some fun which is why I hobby. Generally I get tired of the missionary position all the time and when you have a PSE mind missionary doesn't cut it...for long.

[IslandHobbiest 289]

The main reason why I am a hobbiest, is because I live a busy lifestyle and having that kind of a lifestyle is hard to find or meet someone. This is why I am a big fan of this kind of companionship. Because all the girls on this site have a nice and warm personality.

My last username was IslandSpud, I deleted it because I thought I found someone who could be with me and keep up with my schedule. I was wrong haha.

[islandguy69 269]

In my case, it's a bit different... I am recently out of a 17 year relashionship. I do not in any way want to even date right now, or any time soon. Still have needs to fill... and to be honest, most of the girls I have met are nicer, more affectionate and just plain more fun then I have had in my life!

[mrgreen760 37785]

Frankly......I don't have a clue.

 

Peace

MG

[PhantomKnight 7914]

I do it because even though I love my wife and would die for her any day. I have fantasies that she's just not willing to open up to. So, I see a gorgeous woman and have fun doing it with them.

[oldblueeyez 15475]

While I was hot in my youth, I was never one to

"pick up". Maybe I was lazy, but hobbying was just

so much easier, and in the end, cheaper. :)

I hate bars, I hate picking up. I hate the dating game;

and since I plan to never marry again, why bother?

 

I need a woman, but I do not need a woman. :P

 

(btw, Amelia Middleton's a class act!)

 

Man, if your wife expects you to live without sex

for the rest of your life from the young age of 30,

I'm afraid you'll really have to sit down with her

and honestly assess your relationship. You don't

have to be married to be a great father. Just my

bit of advice. If she doesn't want sex, have you

broached the subject of you seeking sexual

satisfaction elsewhere while remaining married?

[islandguy69 269]

While I was hot in my youth, I was never one to

"pick up". Maybe I was lazy, but hobbying was just

so much easier, and in the end, cheaper. :)

I hate bars, I hate picking up. I hate the dating game;

and since I plan to never marry again, why bother?

 

I need a woman, but I do not need a woman. :P

 

(btw, Amelia Middleton's a class act!)

 

Man, if your wife expects you to live without sex

for the rest of your life from the young age of 30,

I'm afraid you'll really have to sit down with her

and honestly assess your relationship. You don't

have to be married to be a great father. Just my

bit of advice. If she doesn't want sex, have you

broached the subject of you seeking sexual

satisfaction elsewhere while remaining married?

 

Amen brother!!! I got out of a very long term relashionship for this very reason... I may be getting older, but hell I wasn't dead!!!

[oldblueeyez 15475]

Amen brother!!! I got out of a very long term relashionship for this very reason... I may be getting older, but hell I wasn't dead!!!

 

Amen indeed! I guess I was kinda lucky. My (s)ex(y) was always horny, but we just didn't have that sizzling sexual chemistry that long term relationships

require. I always wondered if swinging would have saved us. I would have loved to fuck her with another couple fucking in the same room beside us, or watching us fuck. Hell, I would have gone on sexcams and fucked live (but masked) to keep things alive.

[7879893030 211]

interesting topic.

I'm in my 2nd marriage where things have fizzled out.

It always starts out with epic amount of fun times, then about year 4 it dies to once every 6-8 weeks if that.

I've had the talk with my woman and her answer is "use your hand...."

 

I lust after my woman each and every day and she turns me on like no other woman could. But she has decided to not bother with me, so I must find other ladies to enjoy.

 

That and I prefer a certain type/age of girl and in "real" world dating a girl of that age would not be all that interested in me.

[northernotis 110]

I am in a sexless marriage. No sex except the Palmer sisters for over 5 years. I know she will come around someday, and I love her dearly. I do not want to jeopardize my our marriage, but I am just plain in need of some sex. Therefore, I joined this site and there seems to be some rental units out there in the form of escorts.

Anybody in the same boat? Any recommendations? (I am totally heterosexual)

[Travellingman222 100]

Why do I hobby?

 

Sexless marriage pretty much sums it up. We do it 3 or 4 times a year, so I need to occasionally visit one of the wonderful ladies on CERB.

[fisforfuun 368]

In my experience they never come around....

[elkimbo 110]

In my experience they never come around....

 

I second that.

[taylorforfun 409]

I find for me that my sex life with my SO goes in spurts. We fuck like crazy for a few weeks or so then she may go 3 months without wanting it. It just makes sense to have someone to call up from the bench when your starter isn't available.

 

The change in pace can actually help a marriage i think.

[badazz 100]

I like the variety myself

[ricky1ricardo7 400]

I can't say I am in a sexless mariage, but it certainly does not happen as often as I would like. Plus, she always does it the same way in the same place. She does not want to experience other stuff!! Boring!

 

Also, here on CERB, I find it refreshing and fun to see what other thinks about sex and other stuff.

[northernotis 110]

I am in a sexless marriage...I haven't been able to get up the nerve to actually meet one of these service providers. Any tips?

[Guest Ca***n1**0]

I am in a sexless marriage...I haven't been able to get up the nerve to actually meet one of these service providers. Any tips?

 

I'm pretty much in the same boat, call it a "hobbyist in waiting". Not sure whether to take a plunge or not, but it's reassuring that there are others in a similar situation. This board is great, for many reasons, but it almost gives you vindication. Or at the very least, lets you feel that you are not the abnormal one.

[Midnite-Energies 110563]

There is nothing abnormal about anyone here or anything you are dealing with. Unfortunately sometimes the nature of relationships, people and communication make it almost impossible to support a marriage without going slightly mad. This is when it's important to take care of yourself so that you are better able to take care of your SO.

 

I'm sure if you've been browsing and reading, you know the ladies here are wonderful, approachable, warm and friendly. Find a lady you're drawn to and start a conversation and then jump in with both feet. Everyone has certain needs and when those needs aren't met we get a little tense, cranky, distracted etc.

 

Good luck gentlemen, with everything! <hugs>

[IamaGeek 3664]

I am in a sexless marriage...I haven't been able to get up the nerve to actually meet one of these service providers. Any tips?

 

I'm sure if you've been browsing and reading, you know the ladies here are wonderful, approachable, warm and friendly. Find a lady you're drawn to and start a conversation and then jump in with both feet. Everyone has certain needs and when those needs aren't met we get a little tense, cranky, distracted etc.

 

What Midnite said. I was in your exact position. If you are serious about it, then just take her advice and do it. Most providers will understand if you are nervous on your first time (so let them know). The first time I met one I was literally shaking visibly. She calmed my nerves and then . . .

[Amelia Fox 9064]

The spontaneousness gets sadly over looked, by children and night time routines, the need to be in bed by 8pm, and asleep by 845pm! Lol.. Everyone has there own reasons, for why sex isn't like it was when you fell in love. Me.. I seek what I don't get out of my partner. The anticipation, the butterflies, putting lip,gloss on twice before brushing your teeth to wash it all off. Lol... Then reapply.

[cometman 35115]

I am in a sexless marriage...I haven't been able to get up the nerve to actually meet one of these service providers. Any tips?

 

Start with an email, go from there, and follow through. Try an incall in a town other than yours and do it after dark, so your vehicle isn't seen. The first one is the toughest and I had an awesome, understanding lady for my first. Chose wisely, but don't fall in love. It's a fantasy world with real women and they are everything you wish they were. Cannot say enough good about the ones that I have met.

[Motorbykerider 4754]

I was thinking about posting in a new thread or in the Lonely Married Men group, but there isn't a lot of traffic there.

 

So, my story if anyone cares to read. Married 25 years just this year and no, we didn't celebrate at all. I had been sexless for over 11 years straight, but 4 years ago I wrote my SO a letter saying how unhappy I was etc and she promised to change. We saw a marriage councilor and decided to give it a try to see if we were even compatible. We were, I suppose. We had sex once and I was promised that it would continue. 4 years later I'm still waiting.

So if you're keeping count (like I am) that's once in over 16 years. (3 times in 19 years)

My wife is a professional, under a lot of stress, takes anti depressants and is very tired when she gets home at 7-8 every night and has headaches almost every day. I wouldn't feel sexy either.

 

After a motorbike accident last fall, I decided to sleep in the guest room as I was very uncomfortable. I got better after a few weeks but I'm still in the guest room, 10 months later.

 

On a recent bike trip to Quebec city I came across this website searching for a strip club and thought Hmmmm.

I just spent 300 bux at the club and got nothing but aggravated. I guess that's why I'm here but taking the first step

seems to be the hardest. I see plenty of fantastic women here but don't know if I can take the first step.

 

Seeking out a woman, arranging a meeting and sneaking around seems so unnatural to me.

If I was downtown having a beer and approached a lady I could do it on the spot as I have been looking

for something more for almost 25 years.

 

WTF happened to me?

I guess I fell out of love MANY years ago and have been stuck in this groove with no way out.

 

 

Thoughts?

 

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Shit, I didn't see that this was the PEI section.