Choosing the right SP and communicating

[niteman 100]

Hi everyone,

I've been on the site for quite sometime, yet never pulled the trigger and gone to see an SP, yet have been close a few times. I guess I wanted to make sure I was choosing the right one, so to speak. After reading many reviews, I think I have narrowed my search down to one. However, I think I would feel more comfortable communicating first, just to get a feel for the personality I'm going to encounter as well as what to expect, so my encounter will feel comfortable, as I'm sure different people want different things during their time.

I guess what I'm getting to is, am I wrong in wanting to communicate with my chosen SP in advance, to get famliar and comfortable first before an encounter? As I'm sure they are busy enough in their own lives, to be wasting time communicating with a client just to feel comfortable.

Any helpful feedback would greatly be appreciated!

Thanks all.

[ladyluck 10787]

I'd be careful about that one & how you go about communicating. If it's through email introduce yourself & let them know what your looking for in services & personality. But don't email constant as many girls will start to think your just wasting time & want to only chat.

You can always call & ask if they have some time to talk. Once again talking to a person gets a better feel of a person's personality. Some girls won't discuss services over the phone, so be sure to read their ads & their website if they have one.

Lots of time just from reading an ad or website you'll find the do's & don'ts about how they prefer to communicate with a potential new client.

 

Your not wrong for wanting some communication before hand. A responsible provider should also know who she is allowing into her incall location. It's easy to turn down a client just from his approach & if at all there's a sense of we are not going to hit it off. I myself know I'd rather say no to an appointment then go through an hour with someone I feel no connection with.

[niteman 100]

Thx for your advice. That helps alot.

[mrrnice2 157005]

I personally believe that you are on exactly the right track in wishing to communicate to some degree prior to meeting an SP.

 

Your introductory email, or PM or text should be polite and serve as a brief personal introduction.

 

Reading posts in the forums will give you a pretty good idea of how a particular SP thinks and I believe that you can get an appreciation for the person and make a somewhat informed opinion about whether the two of you will click. That "click" is important and can make a good experience become an amazing experience.

 

Everyone is seeking the best experience possible and prior communication can make that first hello upon meeting become much easier and even more eagerly anticipated.

 

At the same time I have read more than once about 'timewasters,' so there is indeed a fine line that you must walk. Follow the lead of the SP and if you don't get enough from her prior to meeting to give you that comfort level then it would be OK in my opinion to not make the date and even explain why.

 

Good luck and enjoy your time on Cerb.

[niteman 100]

Thanks everyone, those are extremely helpful comments and ideas! Much appreciated!

[DeeperConnection 19567]

"At the same time I have read more than once about 'timewasters,' so there is indeed a fine line that you must walk. Follow the lead of the SP and if you don't get enough from her prior to meeting to give you that comfort level then it would be OK in my opinion to not make the date and even explain why."

 

I wouldn't get stuck on it being a fine line. If you are sending numerous emails seeking complete description of everything from the layout of our bedroom to what we will wear, say, think and ask what size we like, and where we like it, was this always the case or did we have other prefrences at another time in our lives....... if we have ever done this extreme porno scene or that one and if not why not etc. etc. Who our neighbors are, and if they are also sp's. etc. etc. Do our parents know etc. etc. This is a breif and somewhat mild version of a time waster, you should be fine as long as you dont make it seem like you are simply trying to get off through email communication I see no cause to worry hun. As long as you show up or cancel with plenty of notice, then no time is wasted.

[niteman 100]

Yes,by no means, do I want to be a time waster...nor detail by detail what the encounter will cover....just a sense of comfort before the meeting is all I was getting to, seen as it's my first time encounter in this fashion.

Thanks again for all the feedback.

[niteman 100]

So, would you call or pm the sp? Not quite sure how I should start the communication off, obviously leading to a encounter.

[Gabriella Laurence 301887]

So, would you call or pm the sp? Not quite sure how I should start the communication off, obviously leading to a encounter.

 

Have a look at her ads/website and contact her through her preferred method ;)

 

Have fun and good luck!

[SamanthaEvans 166767]

I enjoy having a brief conversation with a prospective client. Voice-to-voice contact provides a lot of subtle information and usually helps make the connection personal. My preference is to have a couple of options for a safe time to call him because if I'm the one making the call, I don't take the risk of having him call me over and over again or late at night, which sometimes happens with people with whom I've never spoken. The conversations are rarely more than 5 minutes long.

[fredsmith 5240]

My only advice to you is don't over think it. I realize how nervous you are before your first encounter but I would say find a lady or 2 who interest you, do a little research on them (including email or phone communication) and then make a date.

[Soleil Sublime 38108]

Whether you contact initially through email or phone call, a good SP will understand your need to connect first and have no problem with a brief conversation so you can get a feel for one another. How else will you know if you'll enjoy her company? It's something that's impossible to determine solely through her pictures...

[fortunateone 156618]

If she is on here, and posts in discussion topics, take the time to read her posts. You will get a very good impression of what she is like and what she thinks.

 

If you are contacting by phone or email, keep to a no-more-than-3 rule. First email, then reply to her reply, then on the 3rd you are commiting to an appt booking or thanking her for her time and stop.

 

With phone calls you are making them only if that is how she prefers to be contacted. Let her know the approx date and time you are interested in, and don't expect to stay on the phone for more than 5 minutes. Don't make a habit of calling several times prior to booking an actual appt, but it is possible to go thru the rates/services and availability while getting a sense of her personality and attitude while talking. In other words stay on topic, let her know you are new, and that you haven't fully decided yet, but will confirm closer to that date/time you suggested.

 

Stay on her good side by not contacting her again until or unless it is to make an appt, and if you make the appointment and can't make it, that you contact her with lots of notice to cancel.

 

You've already narrowed it down to one particular one. I have to say a lot of times new clients, or long time fence sitters, spend a lot of time on forums like this, and yet never seem to be able to avoid even the basic pitfalls of their first selection going really wrong. In spite of the information in front of them, time after time the new guy makes a seriously bad decision.

 

So just take care that considering you have the option to see established, experienced, reputable and highly recommended sps by using this site, don't let anything dissuade you from choosing one of them lol

[supertrucker 2007]

Niteman the only way your going to get past your nerves is to just take the plunge. Like fredsmith said "Don't over think it" because that is exactly what your doing. All the talking in the world isn't going to make for a better experience. Getting there, sitting down, relaxing with a super sexy SP and having a face to face conversation about what you would like to happen is the best way to go about it. Just my opinion.But believe me. If you choose a well recommended SP, she will see your nervousness and within minutes you'll be as relaxed as Austin Powers in a hot tub(well hopefully not that relaxed)LOL!

 

It sound's to me like your holding out for the "perfect" experience. And honestly that perfect experience exists but it may not happen the first time or the second time etc. You have to take the good with the bad until you find an SP who really rocks your world, and then you'll have a "regular" you can go see and know your guaranteed a great time. My first time sucked I was nervous as shit, and quite frankly I still get nervous when I'm seeing a new SP for the first time (mainly because hot women scare the shit out of me). The simple fact is all this stuff your thinking about now, I guarantee when you get there your mind is going to go completely blank.

It's like when most guys loose their virginity. Up to that point you're thinking of all the positions your going to do,and everything else,and when the time comes it's 2 or 3 pumps in missionary and 20 minutes of apologizing.

 

So take the plunge. Life is to short.The door to sexual happiness is in front of you.You can either tap on it lightly or KICK THAT FUCKER OFF THE HINGES!!!!

[niteman 100]

thanks for all the feedback. Wasn't really a matter of perfect or anything like that, I'm just used to knowing the person I get in bed, with is all. I'm sure after a few pm's or emails I'll be fine. thanks again!

[CristyCurves 169032]

I think wanting to communicate is a great first second or third step...the first two(reco's and pics) are also great. I would recommend any gentlemen touch base, wether it be a phone call or an email, we all have our preferred methods of contact-I prefer a phone call.

As pictures and recommendations can only give you a sense of ones appearence and someone elses opinion on your prospective sp.

But as someone said don't overdue it. An initial phone call or email to get a sense of the sp's personality and ask her some pertinent questions is imo the only way you will know if you'll feel comfortable and if there will be any chemistry. Don't ever feel shy, all of us want to make any and all gentlemen feel wanted and welcome. A mistake is after making your choice and booking an appointment, contacting the sp over and over, this makes us uncomfortable, in most cases is unnecessary, and can cause reason for an sp to cancel

Now go and play, have some fun, get to know some of us we would all love to meet you.:biggrin: