My Ex the Escort. Questions and thoughts.

[mmaman315 101]

When I was 25 living in Va Beach I happen to go out to shoot some pool and if you've lived there you know that your going to a strip club if you want to play pool. Having dated a few women that were dancers going to strip clubs to play pool was easy since I was exposed to that element a lot I could go frequently and just play pool lol. Anyhow that one day I met this amazing woman who worked there and she hung out with me the few hours I was there playing pool.

 

We hit it off great, well she was really personable not revealing anything personal but being true and also because i know not to ask certain questions in such environments. Well when I was leaving she gave me her number and said that she did private shows and she'd love it if I called her.

 

A week went by and I decided to call her. I was living in a condo on the corner of 9th and Pacific just a block off the strip and ocean, location location location so my suggestion was that she come over and we go out on the town come back to my place and she can do her show for me. This because at this point I worked 65 plus hours a week and only got one night to myself.

 

That first night was great, we went out for about 3 hours to the strip since everything was in walking distance and when we got back to my place she taught me the meaning of the girlfriend experience and it was one that I'll never forget. So we were together for about 5 hours total and I gave her 500, mind you it was 1998 :)

 

I ended up seeing her each week for the next 2 months and each date she'd end up spending more time with me without me ever asking. At this point I'm nuts about her and we were on a first real name basis sharing personal problems and comforting each other. All while only talking once on the phone and that one night a week we saw each other.

 

After that second one night I was leaving work and I got a phone call and it was her asking me what i was doing and I told her I was on my way home and she said good cause I'm at your place now :) Well I got there and we were talking and I jumped in the shower and the next thing I know shes getting in it with me and you all can imagine what happened next.

 

She stayed the night that night and later that week on our normal day she showed up with a night bag and told me that if I wanted to see me that all I had to do is ask and her time was no longer needed to be compensated for. We talked and I told her that I would love to spend more time with her and that what she did for a living I was good with just not to bring it into our bed.

 

Well we dated for a few months getting to see her a few nights a week and got really close. I still don't know how much or often she worked and never asked and things were great since I work hard and play hard we had lot's of fun. She'd bring a few girlfriends over here and there and have their way with me and that's something I kind of miss lol

 

So a few moths into it she started staying at my place every night and that went on for a few weeks and I decided to get her a key. Once I did that she pretty much moved in lol which I wanted anyhow :) It was great she did her thing I did mine and when time allowed we enjoyed the hell out of life together.

 

Now she's lived with me for a year and the whole time has been bringing the same girlfriends over, 3 total for our every other weekly 5 some :) fun fun they were all dancers at the club and I'd pick them up after work and get them home a lot cause there were always creeps hanging out at the club come close and they were the type of girls who don't want a boyfriend so I came in handy. One of the girls at this point had developed more than just sexual appreciation for me and that caused a ripple in the pond.

 

These girls were tight and had been for years and now here I am in the middle of them all not wanting to cause any problems loving my girlfriend and doing what she asks and I become an issue. I never once asked to have her friends come over for fuck parties and never slept with that girl unless my girl was naked next to me. Anyhow, within weeks we were done the girls were not hanging out and she had got her stuff out one day when I was at work.

 

I don't know it all happened so fast and it was so intense that I just ended up packing my bags a few weeks later and moving back to New York. Now I've found myself back in a situation where I would like to make a new friend like I did in her but I'm afraid that something like this might happen again.

 

Have any of you ladies ever develop a personal relationship with someone you met as a client?

[Guest f***2f***]

Don't be afraid...do it again...for all of our sakes!!!:boobies:

[YoungStud 468]

So why did you break up? She just left, she got bored or . . . ? (Not really clear from your story.)

[buggernot 588]

Like they say, better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. In this case, you're lucky as fuck to have had that and not likely to find it again...but at least there's lots of great memories to jerk off to ;)

[mmaman315 101]

Well the long story short is that she just got freaked out about the whole situation. She had told me before hand that she didn't ever want to settle down and our situation was moving in that direction. Also she thought that I was trying to be with her friend when I only was with her because of her and there was no way for me to show her otherwise. So basically yeah she just up and left.

[VedaSloan 119179]

I think that any emotionally intense relationship, be it with someone in the biz or not, is going to hurt when it's over.

 

Perhaps she was stuck between looking at you as a client, like in the beginning, and when she brought friends by, and then when you were actually dating, she continued to do those things out of habit and when her feelings were involved some jealousy arose between her and her friend.

 

Those sorts of things happen in any relationship, and you have to talk about it.

 

Anyway, I hope you manage to find what you're looking for.

[capitalman 3861]

I actually enjoyed reading your story, I wasn't expecting the dramatic ending!

 

I've noticed through life that when people get close and things are going great, some people get scared and freaked out and find reasons to self-destruct or ruin the good situation. There's proper psychobabble BS terminology for it, I can't think of if right now. It's a pattern that a lot of people develop this way of shitting all over the good things. The word FEAR comes to mind.

 

Fuck

Everything

And

Run

 

If the parties involved ever hope to really keep a long term relationship going they have to eventually break through that wall and see what's on the other side. Face the fears and boldly go forward...but that can lead to things like marriage, commitment, trust, responsibility.....very scary things indeed!

[mmaman315 101]

Yeah I truly tried talking with her but she didn't want to talk about anything. I think she just got scared and bolted. She'd really never been in a real relationship before and our situation was an odd one. She also thought that I thought less of her because of the way we met and how our relationship started but I don't know how she could have thought that when I was right there also. I mean what kind of man would I be if I did cause I was the one booking her. Anyhow I'm good :) I could totally use a good woman in my life these days but I'm not going to worry about it :) I've got all of you beautiful woman to keep me company when needed :):mrgreen:

[capitalman 3861]

but I'm not going to worry about it :) I've got all of you beautiful woman to keep me company when needed :):mrgreen:

 

Well there ya go! I mean, what more could a guy ask for?

 

I know it's tough when you don't get a concrete answer from her, you're just left to guess and theorize why she left. Men (and clients) do have feelings too, but it's a selfish life...the one in the mirror is the one to please at the end of the day.

[spud271 47779]

As I have mentioned on more than one occasion here, I also dated and SP for 2 years. I was her client at first, but we did develop feelings for one another and I would never trade those times together for anything.

[Guest gagagaga]

be happy you lived the life as long as you did.

[d*mm*y 887]

There are some underlying issues in every relationship that are impossible to understand from a one page story from only one side. It is an all too familiar story to me, with one exception. I have never gone from client to dating; do not believe this can work.

 

I do know from dating ladies in the industry that in general clients are not held in high regard, and often thought of more as a mark than a person.

 

Good idea to meet ladies at the pool table in the strip club, don't show any interest in the ladies but show polite appreciation for them, clap when the stage show ends and if they talk to you tell them you appreciate there hard work, but the scene is not for you. You just go to the club to play pool and not have the stresses that are associated with being a single guy at a regular bar.

 

Alternative bars and gay bars are also excellent places to meet open minded ladies (don't take it personally when guys hit on you too it's part of the territory) and they have pool tables too. In this scenario try to identify the ring leaders and make friends with the ladies through introductions, the ladies are not at a gay club to get hit on!!

 

2 very bad mistakes, don't be an obvious player or client, don't become an insider and try to date ie driver, operator. Both of these are fast tickets to a doomed relationship and grief in your life.

[ottanon 2930]

So I had something similar in Ottawa here happen to me. I dated a dancer for almost 2 years. She brought many girls into our relationship. While it was really fun you have to know that you cannot change them. They eventually revert back to old ways. I had an incredible time and yes had 5 somes also. Even thought I spent over 15K over the adventure it was all worth it. What a mid life crisis :) . Consider yourself lucky and go find a nice girl not in that industry...