Ever Been Emotionally Duped my a Stripper/MP/SP?

[bouncypancake 101]

(I can hear the blues playin')

 

Hey guys, ever fell for a chick in the trade? Ever been fed lines about how they really dig you - only to have to face that it's just lines thrown at you - like givin' a dog a bone?

 

This thread is where you can tell your tale. The stripper which professed feelings - only to see it was for "brand loyalty. The MP who says that 'someday, I'll give you more than I'm allowed", the SP who you end up liking a bit too much...

 

I have a tale of my own about a dancer, but before I tell it... are there any other dudes out there who know this tune?

[rick_falcon 911]

It happened to me but I must admit, it was also a bit my fault.

 

I had her phone number, she had mine and all i needed to do was invite her out.

But there was always something in the way and I kept seeing and telling her i would call her but unfortunately, never did.

 

She was a stripper but she was hot! In bed, I believe she must be dynamite!

[bouncypancake 101]

I fell hard for a stripper - Taylor. She was absolutely stunning.

 

I had her phone number and vice versa, but it ended up only being used for "I'll be at the Den at such-and-such time. Come see me then" or "I'll pencil you in for 5:30 until 6:30 when I leave". Whenever she was with another 'client' she'd aviod eye contact with me. Now this is all fine and good - but then why would she cliam to have feelings for me? Not once did she agree to actually meet anywhere but the Den. Which is fine - but then she shouldn't have told me the other mushy stuff. That's not really playing fair.

 

To this day she claims to have feelings for me - yet I just can't see it.

[rick_falcon 911]

I hate to generalize because it often includes people who are not involved or are innocent but if I offend anyone, forgive me because I will generalize here.

 

Strippers are there for one reason: money. the more you have, the more they will love you.

Make the test (as I do very often when I go to strip clubs): do not dress classy but dress a bit sloppily. See how many girls will come sit with you...

Since they are there to make money, they must convince the most guys to come in the back with them. If you were a stripper, who would you check out?

 

Younger guys? Yes, they are cute but do they have the $$? Often limited.

Guys in a group? Sure, one of them will go at the back or will have a dance paid for him but, it's limited to 1 or 2 songs.

But if a middle-aged man, dressed in business attire is there, he might be one with money and looking for a bit of fun.

They will try him: he might refuse (not his style) but they take a chance.

 

Feelings with strippers are, to my belief, to be taken with a grain of salt.

Unless they can prove it in a concrete way but often, they will limit themselves to words.

[Guest Trigger]

I fell hard for a stripper - Taylor. She was absolutely stunning.

 

I had her phone number and vice versa, but it ended up only being used for "I'll be at the Den at such-and-such time. Come see me then" or "I'll pencil you in for 5:30 until 6:30 when I leave". Whenever she was with another 'client' she'd aviod eye contact with me. Now this is all fine and good - but then why would she cliam to have feelings for me? Not once did she agree to actually meet anywhere but the Den. Which is fine - but then she shouldn't have told me the other mushy stuff. That's not really playing fair.

 

To this day she claims to have feelings for me - yet I just can't see it.

 

 

Had the same experience at the Den a couple of years ago, and I think her name was taylor. I went on one "date" with her which ended abruptly when I said refused to buy her a pair of leather boots that she tried on.

 

ahhh well, I found out early.

[mod 135640]

Strippers are there for one reason: money. the more you have, the more they will love you.

 

This is a very common misconception (in most cases) sure they "use" (or should I say "SOAK") the guys they meet in the clubs as much as they can but that is the business! ... they are doing a job and not looking for dates (usually) and the guys who they end up actually datting seriously are the ones who do not spend money on them (or the staff at the club)

 

If your going to a strip club to pick-up... then you are not thinking things out well!

 

I managed two VERY successful strip clubs and one thing I can tell you is more of the ladies boyfriends are POOR! They often live off the girls earnings. Very few of them are attracted to rich men outside of the business. Sure in the clubs they will flock to the guy with the deep pockets but that is not who they end up dating.

 

It seams that needy guys who have very little money and will need to depend on the girl for money will win over most of the girls hearts in the business (Not all but more then you can imagine!) It may be a control issue or some attention thing but 9 out of 10 times (Probably more) the boyfriend is living off the girls income and spending all her money.

 

Many of the classic stereotypes of the dancers are very wrong, for the most part they are good hearted people who have learned that they can get men to hand over money by using what nature gave them. Who can blame them!

[dreamer8 510]

I agree with MOD on this one and not only poor but you don't even have to be good looking. I had a friend who slept with 34 dancers and man this dude was not good looking. The trick is to work with the girls and the doors fly open. I never gave any of these girls a dime. The sad truth is they are not really worth going out with as most come with a lot of mental baggage.

[bouncypancake 101]

Had the same experience at the Den a couple of years ago, and I think her name was taylor.

 

Blonde, 5'6"ish, mid-late 30's, well-spoken, stunning?

[bouncypancake 101]

I agree with MOD on this one and not only poor but you don't even have to be good looking. I had a friend who slept with 34 and manthis dude was not good looking at all. The trick is to work with the girls and the doors fly open. I never gave any of these girls a dime. The sad truth is they are not really worth dating as most come with a lot of mental baggage.

 

I'm 100% not sure what 'work with the girls' means, being funny/ charming? treating them with respect, etc.

 

And I never went to the Den looking to pick up, either. I am aware what they will do and say (a more upfront dancer at Barb's gave me the whole low-down of how they lead guys on). It's just that this particular one was so convincing - she went to great lengths to prove that she wasn't making it all up. I wasn't sure if she was honest - or saving face. I still don't.

 

 

Play the blues, man!

 

(btw, why is this site editing out anytime an 'a' and a 't' are together in every word???)

[bouncypancake 101]

I feel a bit better knowing I'm not the only one who's been duped - by the same woman no less.

[Guest Trigger]

Blonde, 5'6"ish, mid-l**e 30's, well-spoken, stunning?

 

Sounds like the same one

[raven_2000 100]

Ive been in this busniess a long long time and have seen a lot of BS. Not all of the strippers are bad ppl. But, there are instances where some of the girls give themselves a bad name and are the typical stereotype. The above mentioned "Taylor" from the Den is a perfect example. I know this chick far to well for my own good. She is in her 40's not 30's, she just wears a POUND of makeup to cover her wrinkles and has had many many plastic surgeries. She's as FAKE as they come and is just nothing more then a gold-digger. Not to mention, a recovering acholic and has a criminal record to boot. She also, has it in big time for men and hates them. And anything is "stunning" after you've had a few beers in the dark.

 

But like i said, they are not all bad, some of the girls truly are wonderful.

 

Some of them are married and some are in serious relationships. When a stripper gives you her phone number, take it with a grain of salt, cause 9 out of 10 times, shes up to something or its a fake number. The honest ones wont give you there phone numbers..... OR Hide there wedding rings from you to make it look like they are single.

 

A strip club is not a place to pick up girls. Its a place to hang-out with friends or to just relax on your own and have a cool drink and maybe shoot some pool and enjoy the enertainment.

 

Most of the grils are also single mothers, some of them have had a very very hard life. Some of them come from broken homes, abused relationships, carry emotional baggage, are alcholics, and some fall into the drug scene big time to try to escape there life. Some of them do druigs to escape the fact that they are stripping and that they hate doing it, but, it puts money on the table, and thats all that they can do because they have very little education and cant get a real job. Some of them become addicted to the easy and fast money and spend it all just as easily as they make it.

 

Ive said this before to a couple of friends and aill say it again.. "the smart dancer, will save all the money she makes, stay clean, and retire at teh age of 35 with a house and car paid for and money saved in the bank ... and.. without ever needing help from anyone or any man for anything"..

 

But, anyways, just be careful, be smart and remember they are there to entertain you, not to be brought home with you, they are human as well and they are not all bad people, but some give them a bad name.

[mod 135640]

I think we fixed the "at" problem it was a type-o in the censor settings. LOL

[bouncypancake 101]

Thanks for the info Raven. If you would pm anymore info, that'd be great. I feel like such a chump, but I do feel better knowing I'm not the only one.

[raven_2000 100]

Np bro. All guys should be made aware of that chick... Bad news that one. Its simple as this, if a chick really likes you shes not going to ask you for money or clothes or boots or a car or a house or a dog or cat or anything. She likes you and wants to be with you and thats all. Im sure, you were getting the "run-a-round" always one excuse after another, her best excuse was always regarding family members, oh my daughter this or my sister that... Im sure she hasnt changed her tactics any at all. Shes a very very good liar and very manipulative. Shes gotten a lot of guys to pay her way in life. Dont worry bro, she'll get her come-up-ins soon enough, what goes around comes around. Plus, wouldnt you rather have a nice young 25yrold cherry pie then a dried up old prune i know i would :p

I stopped going to the Den years ago anyways, that place is just nothing more then a biker hang-out.. Try the clubs on qeubec side, there much better.

I prefer just seeing an escort once in a while, at least with them, there is no Bullshit like that.

[Capital Hunter 18263]

I have had a relatively good experience with nude dancers (from this thread seems to be an exception rather than rule). Whenever I don't have a girlfriend I try strip bars (and more recently escorts).

 

I met a very cute girl (21 year old university student, very cute) in Montreal and we started dating (dine and dance) and then (after of course spending some lot on dances) she became my girlfriend for a while. Although (out of my own will) I spend some money on her (initially), but at the end I think her feeling was real. This was some years ago when I used to live in Montreal.

 

When I moved to Ottawa, I met quite a few dancers at Barbarellas and Playmate who we exchanged phone numbers and even date and I am almost sure that there would have been a good chance for at least a couple of them to become my girlfriends too if I had seriously wanted that (may be wishful thinking).

 

More recently a very pretty girl (in mid-20's) whom I was having dances with for a year and I invited her over to my place for private dancing (means not FS, but in the middle of dance I realized that was on the table too which I didn't take (advantage) because I wanted her to remain the innocent dancer - i.e. not get used to money for FS) offerred me to become my girlfriend (to move in with me).

 

I keep the name of these dancers secret because most of them are still dancing (don't want risking them being harassed or asked by the customers to become their girlfriends). By the way I stopped strip bars recently and replaced that by escorts which I found more fun (how about you guys). Especially I have come across some real beautiful ones (i.e. the beautiful Heidi) and I think I will stick to it for a while.

 

All I am saying is that it is very rare (I must have met hundreds of dancers over the past years) to find ones wanting to become girlfriends for real (and may be end up marrying) but it is not totally impossible (especially for a younger looking or middle aged single guys with reasonable standard of living).

[jughead 45]

I fell hard for a RMT Friends Sister.

I bought a new Family vehicle thinking that I had a real chance.

 

needless to say

her husband or should i say ex-husband and boyfriend (teacher from College)

were in my way.

 

Thank god for Friends he told me that his sister plays men, and told me to run fast!

 

Thanks Buddy!

he saved my life

or at least a lot of $$$$

[Guest f***2f***]

I have scored FS at clubs in Ottawa and Gatineau but had to go through a lot of money, bs and rejection before getting successful. I too have recently graduated to escorts and it's a much healthier proposition.

I'd say that Dancers are not looking for relationships by and large but as many dances as they can to make a living....can't say I blame them. Most escorts aren't looking for a relationship either...and quite frankly neither am I. I'm looking for a temporary fuck buddy and I suspect that's what most of us are looking for.

[ottanon 2930]

I think I should be called Captain save a hoe. I met this dancer at a club in gatineau,we hit it off right away. To make a long story short, she quit but we contiued to date for 2 years afterwards. It was real great she brought 1--2--and ever 3 other girls into the bedroom with me. Beacause I take at least an hour to get off, I had 3 girls very satsified :) . Anyways, buy the end I woke up and realized I had loaned her over $15K for rent, heating, cell phone bills and so on. So after telling her that the money well had run dry, she quickly moved on. Never did see any of the money back. I do have to admit that the wild ride was more than I ever had in my life, and maybe thats the price to pay for it.. You may have heard this before, but you cannot change a stripper, they know how to manipulate men and will coninue to do so.

 

FYI- There is alot and I mean alot of hot strippers that will go outside the club an do extra's. There is a whole goup of unadvertised ones that you would never know of. Its like a secret group. And man, its awesome..

[d*mm*y 887]

I am not sure how to take that ottanon? I am sitting down paying my wifes credit card bills while I surf a little and i read this thread? 15K for 2 years seems pretty good for that kind of a relationship?

 

My ex-wife was a feature dancer she arranged some great parties! we had a hot tub in the dining room of our condo, had 2 kids with her and she ran the first offer she got for more money, cost me 750,000. Now she is on mother allowance it seems she got played even harder than me :D, it's 2 bad my kids had to end up in the middle.

[ottanon 2930]

ok, yours is worse.. 15K was just what was loaned.. she still got $300 a session.

[d*mm*y 887]

Now that clears things up, you had to pay her and she got extra cash ouch!

I find it easier to give gifts now and then to companions that perform above and beyond, furniture, laptops, just hey by the way things have been really great the last few times hears and extra $$$. Best to avoid loans.

[ottanon 2930]

yes, I was basically supporting her. I am no push over and have never been entranced by anyone like this before. All I have to do is smell her around and I am useless. So I called it ove 7 months ago, recently she has come back just for visits. I hope I dont get sucked into her life again..

[d*mm*y 887]

If she brings up the subject turn it into a sexual favor, make her go real cheep, try "alright honey I have 100 bucks what to I get". She may just find it easier to take the hundred from you a few times than trying to line someone else up, but it will reestablish the relationship at a much lower bar, or send her running to someone else but either way it sounds like you win.

[jughead 45]

Woman! Oh boy

 

There are some that are really nice ones out there that a man just wishes for a longer term relation ship with.

 

then there are others..................

 

 

Thank god I Single!