texting or calling...days later

[Guest d*k***]

it happened to me at least six/seven times....I text/call a lady during daytime asking for info...and then I get a text/call back days later in the evening/weekend...ladies, please don't do that...if you cannot answer right away I am fine...i shall try again when I can text/chat...

has this happened to other guys? isn't this some kind of unwritten rule? :)

[CristyCurves 169032]

I'm not sure if it's an unwriten rule. I think the best thing to do would be to leave in your text or voice mail to only return this message within a certain time frame. It's best for both parties to be very clear in their messages and ads on how to contact and when or how to reply. Keep in mind also that some people have more common sense than others.:icon_biggrin:

[Ashley Ann 75247]

it happened to me at least six/seven times....I text/call a lady during daytime asking for info...and then I get a text/call back days later in the evening/weekend...ladies, please don't do that...if you cannot answer right away I am fine...i shall try again when I can text/chat...

has this happened to other guys? isn't this some kind of unwritten rule? :)

 

YES there is - for those of us who are professional and understand the risks that go with doing something such as this.

 

Sometimes, people have to think outside the box... This has been mentioned before . Take that kind of behaviour as a warning. Not saying that the said individual is a bad person. It's just that privacy and discretion are paramount to this kind of business, and if one cannot respect that, it really says alot.

[Lexy Grace 103697]

Not good IMHO! I state in my ads, website and something similiar on my voice mail that if I am unable to answer immediately to please leave a name, number and the best time to contact someone back by and I will do my best to do so but I do not call back missed calls or return messages past that time and if I'm not given that requested information.

 

I do have some people that contact me and I have been given permission to contact them when I can or we have met and they give certain times they would like me to contact them and that is private and discussed and worked out between that person and I.

 

When calling or sending a text I would give a time to be called back by and say if I haven't heard from you by xxx time, I will contact you at a later date and time. Please kindly do not contact me past xxx time.

I get voice mails that say "Hello Lexy, This is ?????, i'll call you back, please don't call me" and I am 100% cool with that and can read in between the lines.

 

It boils down to respect, privacy and discretion. Where this is happening I would be very clear in the messages you send, voice or text.

 

Just my thoughts and what I do to prevent an unnecessary disaster!!!

[Andee 220524]

I cannot add to anything Cristy Curves, Vanessa Vale and Lexy Grace have already said.

 

This recent thread indicates this is happening more frequently than it should.

 

http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=118115

[Reddog2402 2224]

This thread highlights why I'm not a big fan of texting. First of all, a text isn't conducive to a proper introduction or "get-to-know each other" exchange.

 

In a moment of weakness some weeks ago, I exchanged texts with a lady. We weren't able to connect, but a few weeks later, on a weekend, I got a random text, including a picture, to see if I was interested/available.

 

Thankfully I saw it right away and was able to delete it, but it could have lead to big problems!

 

So I think it's safe to say that I'll be sticking to PMs, email and phone calls now!

[futileresistenz 28253]

This has been covered elsewhere at least once, and is definitely not the norm. A professional provider will not text or call out of the blue - EVER!

 

For those that think it's right to reply to a text sent hours ago, think again!

If you missed the communication (text or phone call) by more than 10-15 minutes, it should be ignored and the client can retry again later when it is safe / convenient to be receiving a phone call or a text.

 

#minirantdone

[CristyCurves 169032]

YES there is - for those of us who are professional and understand the risks that go with doing something such as this.

 

Sometimes, people have to think outside the box... This has been mentioned before . Take that kind of behaviour as a warning. Not saying that the said individual is a bad person. It's just that privacy and discretion are paramount to this kind of business, and if one cannot respect that, it really says alot.

 

Good point but there are many "newbies" starting out and anxious to get clients. So as I stated "not all have common sense" and as you said" think outside the box", not all are capable of this. So again, I think it BEST-not that you should have to- when leaving a message to indicate when it is SAFE to return it. Then if the person doesn't follow that potocol I would take that behavior as a warning .

Since I am a forgiving and amazingly sweet and kind person, lol, when a mistake happens I forgive it. But if it continues you have to question the person making the mistake. I always ask clients to contact me via phone or email, but some continously insist on texting so no response- we both lose.

[fredsmith 5240]

it happened to me at least six/seven times....I text/call a lady during daytime asking for info...and then I get a text/call back days later in the evening/weekend...ladies, please don't do that...if you cannot answer right away I am fine...i shall try again when I can text/chat...

has this happened to other guys? isn't this some kind of unwritten rule? :)

 

If it happens frequently then I would suggest a hobby phone. You can use it at your discretion.

[dread pirate roberts 4036]

The difficulty with unwritten rules, as they say, is that they are unwritten. It takes a little while for newcomers to become aware of the norms, and that's through no fault of their own. That IS a reason, however, that conversations like this one are so useful.

 

Otherwise, I echo FredSmith's observation. You can easily buy a phone for well under $100 and for another $100 buy enough minutes on a prepaid card to last a long time. With the added plus that you never have to give any identifying information to anyone, you will have guaranteed that you will get no texts or calls on a phone that will ever be accessible to anyone else. It's worth it simply for never having to have wonder again whether this is or isn't a good moment to text, whether you should or shouldn't send your number, and so on.

[Guest d*k***]

wow...hot topic I guess...i completely agree with everything that was said...especially the thread that was posted by Angela.

Couple more clarifications - just based on my experience:

- it always happens with a newer provider. Sometimes, I see an intriguing ad - it could be a new visiting lady etc. So I decide to TOFTT. Not a good idea. Therefore, not much TOFTT-ing for me lately.

- I never had issues with the ladies I visit regularly. We have certain "protocols" about texting and nothing ever happened.

- I txt because I can't call from home and office - lots of ears around.

- a second phone would not work because how can I justify it to people around me - family/friends? :)

- if I get a txt like that - after a week - there is no way I will book an appointment. Obviously, that person does not understand privacy.

 

That's just me based on my experience...again, most of my meetings are organized by texting. I prefer it that way as phone calls are listed on my cell bill etc.

[drlove 37204]

I used to see an escort exclusively a few years ago, and she would call me every so often to see if I wanted to get together with her. I was single then, and we had a friendly arrangement so I didn't mind. However, if I was attached it would have been a major problem. I feel the key is to assess each situation on its own merit, but at the same time it should be implicitly understood that one should never approach them devoid of common sense.

[splaton008 1568]

If you missed the communication (text or phone call) by more than 10-15 minutes, it should be ignored and the client can retry again later when it is safe / convenient to be receiving a phone call or a text.

 

#minirantdone

 

A reply within a one hour window is fine as the lady may be "occupied" Usually I will see a reply within an hour or so and I'm fine with that. Days later ? Oh boy. That could put you in a rough spot.

[roamingguy 300292]

Echoing what has already been said, if texting, state a good time to reply.

One bonus of a text however, if your phone rings with an incoming text, and someone is there when you receive it, you can always say it was the phone company sending a promo text, or say it was the wrong number.

I've had both.

But personally I prefer email to set up encounters, and only like texting when providing the lady with my hotel room number the day of an encounter

RG

[MsManda 25686]

Alot of this business is based on discretion.. Even starting out, I realized that this is a taboo business, and as I wouldn't appreciate indiscretions. I just assumed my clients risks would be at least as high, or higher than mine, (families etc) so I put some respectful precautions in place to avoid said indiscretions..

I never call back if a message wasn't left saying to do so and when, with a name

I never contact first, even for confirmations, as things may come up, (wives may visit) and it may no longer be convenient to do so. If I don't hear from a client, I assume something came up until our next contact

If I cannot return a text in a timely manner (30/60 mins max usually) unless specified to do so, I do not return the text.. I may look like a flake now, but should they contact me again, I'll explain what happened in hopes that my attempt at respect would override that lol

For mine and my clients discretion, I generally prefer email contact, this saves the phone calls at inopportune times, various text issues... I do have some clients I do text, but would never reply hours late even, let alone days, that seems just disrespectful and inconsiderate