8830 120 Report post Posted February 15, 2013 As a first timer will the fact that I don't have any references lower my chances of meeting up with an SP's? I have yet to meet anyone yet but I have messaged someone and they asked for a reference.. .am I out of luck? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SamanthaEvans 166767 Report post Posted February 16, 2013 Everyone has a first time! Having references makes screening faster and easier for us, but there are usually other ways. Tell the companion you've chosen that it's your first time and that you don't have references but that you're willing to provide other information. She may ask for your real name, to verify your employment, to have a telephone conversation, or for you to provide a non-refundable deposit, or some combination of these or other options. If you've chosen an established companion, you can be sure that your privacy and confidentiality will be guaranteed. She's just wanting to be sure that you're a real person, that you're not wasting her time and that you'll actually show up for the meeting once it's been scheduled. Have fun! 9 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
roamingguy 300292 Report post Posted February 16, 2013 Also, there are some screening services, such as Preferred411 that may be accepted by a lady Tell the lady you wish to see that this is your first time, she will have other screening methods in place. As long as you are open and honest with her, you shouldn't have any issues RG Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
7879893030 211 Report post Posted March 18, 2013 I too am a newbie and looking for advice on first time etiquette. I am more worried about either being pursued by police or by getting ripped off. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Old Dog 179138 Report post Posted March 18, 2013 I too am a newbie and looking for advice on first time etiquette.I am more worried about either being pursued by police or by getting ripped off. My friend, the best advice I can give you is to contact a well established and well reviewed provider. They will allay any fears or concerns that you have and give you the best experience, you will get the best of both worlds! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
7879893030 211 Report post Posted March 18, 2013 All I seem to be able to find are -------- ads, or horrible websites. I will need to research more of what I am doing I think. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mod 135640 Report post Posted March 18, 2013 As a newbie stay off CL or BP or any of those "FREE" classified ad places that have no good moderation or review staff. Stick to places like cerb and directories like http://www.escorts-canada.com who have been online since 1997 and have a good reputation. When you find someone you have interest in research her here and ask some questions here... 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SamanthaEvans 166767 Report post Posted March 18, 2013 I too am a newbie and looking for advice on first time etiquette.I am more worried about either being pursued by police or by getting ripped off. You should read some of the threads in the Legal section of this board and realize that your fear of "being pursued by police" is unfounded as long as you're seeing independent adult companions. At the moment, as we wait for the Supreme Court of Canada to make rulings about the laws related to prostitution, the police and judiciary are not wasting time or energy on pursuing ladies who work quietly. As for getting ripped off, if what you're imagining is that you could show up for a meeting, pay the money and receive nothing in return, well, the best way to avoid such a scenario is not to go bargain-hunting. Find an established provider. Expect to pay a premium for her time and company. Recognize that much of what you pay for is confidentiality and a complete lack of drama. Follow Mod's advice about where to find the kinds of women you can trust. And then relax! Paid companions are not your enemies or adversaries. We want the same things that you do: to have a mutually enjoyable rendez-vous and to part company feeling relaxed and very pleased to have met. We're on the same side! 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
rovan47 2267 Report post Posted March 18, 2013 As a relatively newbie all I can say is you can't go wrong with this site and cowboy Kenny, these 2 have saved me a lot of grief. The men and ladies here are very helpful. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
7879893030 211 Report post Posted March 18, 2013 I have done a lot of reading and deciding on this. I find it very difficult to locate, attract and date the type of woman I find attractive(what I want I cannot have, what I can have I do not want). In my mind I pay either directly or indirectly each day so I might as well get what I really want. I will continue to look and follow this web board and research who gets to be my first! Are "incalls" done at a hotel, personal location etc? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
roamingguy 300292 Report post Posted March 18, 2013 As a newbie stay off CL or BP or any of those "FREE" classified ad places that have no good moderation or review staff. Stick to places like cerb and directories like http://www.escorts-canada.com who have been online since 1997 and have a good reputation. When you find someone you have interest in research her here and ask some questions here... I know my first encounter was with a "lady" who advertised on CL...and what a bad encounter it was. In fact all my bad encounters were when I strayed off the reserve so to speak, booking encounters with non CERB (or Escorts Canada) ladies As Mod says avoid CL or BP not just for your first time but all the time. There are a lot of great CERB ladies to see RG Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest a**4* Report post Posted March 18, 2013 Stick with Cerb or E.C.the ladies here are beautiful and awesome all my bad encounters came from B.P. until i met a lady that told me to join Cerb if only i had known about C.K. diary you are on the right site Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ernie378 145 Report post Posted March 25, 2013 I too am a newbie. i wonder about using companies that have several women. What are the risks/rewards of booking time with a woman independently from using a service? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Tom beverly 100 Report post Posted March 26, 2013 Good too know info as i am also new to this! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Wolf Knight 29667 Report post Posted March 26, 2013 To address OP again, expect that without a reference you will likely be expected to provide real genuine information about yourself (name occupation, phone number etc.. As a first timer, I know that this can be very nerve wracking putting that out there but it will have to be done so make your mind up to it. I did it and so did every other client here at some point. The ladies here on CERB are professionals and just as you might be concerned about letting yourself become "vulnerable" to someone else, you have to realize what you are asking of the SP and how vulnerable that makes her. Take your time, read all the newbie and other threads, note who the prominent posters are and their reputations. Look at the wonderful variety of ladies in your area of interest (posting itself is a little skewed toward Ottawa ladies so search for your area). When you find a lady that appeals to you mentally through her posts and physically through her photo's, review her preferred method of contact and send her a polite complete message (no texting short hand for first contact) introducing yourself. Keep in mind that the more serious, sincere and forthright you are the better it will bode for you in the eyes of the lady. Keep to the three message rule, be ready to book by the third message, if you tend to drag it out she'll think you are just playing around. For me my first time, I actually took the time to write a carefully crafted letter in Microsoft Word, and having viewed the ladies requirements on her website provided her with much of the required information in the very first communication. I outlined that I was a first timer and what type of an encounter I hoped to experience. In my case my letter was about a page and even provided a sense of what the lady could expect from me and my personality (however I can be long winded as you can see from my post). The letter almost had a formal professional tone but softened just a little. In that situation it set the tone perfectly for the lady and she was very receptive to further communication and booking of a date. Think of the first contact as the 5W's (who, what, when, where and why) Who you are (cerb name and real name) What you want (type of experience your looking for) When you want it (time, date) Where you want it (incall/outcall) Why you chose the lady (what appealed to you) Once the first time is over, it'll feel much different after that! I know it can be scary the first time around, but I assure you the ladies are definately not scary one on one :) Now stop reading my post and go and book a lady! Chuck 4 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
IsaMassage 54318 Report post Posted March 26, 2013 I too am a newbie. i wonder about using companies that have several women. What are the risks/rewards of booking time with a woman independently from using a service? Is not a matter of seeing a girl that works for an agency or works indpendent, at the end is the lady you want to meet! And this may sou d like the repetition of the repetition but here on Cerb you will only find reputable providers, your research and reading will ensure you that your first experience, agency booked sp, independent sp, spa MA, or independent MA, will be pleasurable and memorable! Good luck and enjoy CERB! 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Illana 160 Report post Posted March 27, 2013 I dislike bothering people, probably because i ask alot of questions. I need to understand before I can do myself. I got in trouble today cause I was visiting a friend and I've been telling her about this site I'm trying to figure out, I have been using my cell. The screen is small, so I asked to use her computer and well the are a number of people on it so........ If I go to another friend's and ask to use there's I mite find something out about them ooooppps. needless to say I'm getting my own computer. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
IsaMassage 54318 Report post Posted March 27, 2013 I dislike bothering people, probably because i ask alot of questions. I need to understand before I can do myself. I got in trouble today cause I was visiting a friend and I've been telling her about this site I'm trying to figure out, I have been using my cell. The screen is small, so I asked to use her computer and well the are a number of people on it so........ If I go to another friend's and ask to use there's I mite find something out about them ooooppps. needless to say I'm getting my own computer. As you have read in the rules, providers and hobbyiest can not use the same computer or device to log in, yes it hard sometines on celphones and small screens but you can probably avoid trouble by only using your own devices and not borrow other ppls computers ;) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
fsummers 350 Report post Posted March 31, 2013 Good advice. Does it make it a difference to the SP if we indicate we are new at this? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
roamingguy 300292 Report post Posted March 31, 2013 Good advice. Does it make it a difference to the SP if we indicate we are new at this? I think it is a good idea when contacting a lady to tell her a little about yourself including if you are a newbie. It will help you if you make minor faux pas etiquette wise. Things an experienced gentleman should know, but a newbie might not know. Also, ladies are very understanding, if you don't have a reference due to being a newbie, they do have other screening methods Finally, be open with the lady you wish to see. You are seeing her for an intimate encounter, where she gives her body mind and soul to you for a period of time. It is a special lady that can be that open with you or any man. The least you can do as a gentleman is be equally open, so she knows who you are A quick rambling RG Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Old Dog 179138 Report post Posted March 31, 2013 Ohhhhh... and remember. No penis pictures in your introductory PM/Email/text to your providers. Or in any other correspondence thereafter. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
IsaMassage 54318 Report post Posted March 31, 2013 Ohhhhh... and remember. No penis pictures in your introductory PM/Email/text to your providers. Or in any other correspondence thereafter. Or any such comments like I have a 9in, thick! You think u can handle that or is there any extra charges for size? Lol 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest T*rb***k Report post Posted March 31, 2013 Or any such comments like I have a 9in, thick! You think u can handle that or is there any extra charges for size? Lol LOL...or maybe not LOL...is that a standard bothersome comment? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
