The Importance Of Communication

[Kate von Katz 49953]

Yep, the C-word. We hear it all the time; that it's a cure-all for interpersonal issues.

 

As an SP, I communicate as clearly as possible in my ads, website and interactions so there is no misinformation and are no misunderstandings.

 

My responsibility is to communicate, either written or verbal, effectively, clearly, and honestly. That's on me.

 

Reading things thoroughly, and asking for clarification before making an assumption.... that's on you.

 

Caveat emptor, buyer beware. Being aware means being informed. It takes time to inform yourself, and effort. Yes, a lot of the time seeing an SP is more-or-less on impulse. But that doesn't mean you can't take the time to familiarize yourself with that lady. Her services, her booking protocols, anything else you need to know to be an informed client.

 

These things shouldn't need to be said, but they are said - often. The reality is there are enough guys out there who skim over important bits of information, or worse yet, think they are an exception and a lady will bend her rules for him. And rather than taking responsibility for their error (afterall, it is your responsibility as a client to be familiar with what the rules are), they transfer it onto the lady. She's bitchy. She's being unfair. How dare she stick to the rules and restrictions which she has already clearly outlined, can't she see I'm special?

 

This kind of nonsense happens a lot, and the sad truth is that while there are times when a lady is genuinely at fault, there are also times when bitter men who feel slighted are not completely forthcoming with their contribution to events. It is this reason why I don't bother with the other place. It's far too misogynistic and I don't feel that women are being properly respected there.

 

We have our responsibilities, both SPs and clients. I am not responsible for making sure your phone has minutes, providing transportation to my incall, or providing services that I do not offer just for you. You are not responsible for supplying my lingerie or condoms, making sure my phone has minutes, or my right to choose what I do with my body. Information is key. Communication is how that information is given. If you're not sure, ask. Don't make assumptions or fail to plan and then wonder why a lady is less-than-impressed with you.

 

There's my mini-rant about communication and not trying to make someone else responsible for your (in)actions.

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[Wolf Knight 29667]

I absolutely love it when a woman is expressive and articulate (very hot). Nice "rant", it made me smile. Everything you said was spot on. You are a firecracker!

[CristyCurves 169032]

It's funny I was just thinking of making a similar post. As of late there are so many gentlemen that call that want to book an appointment, ask questions such as how much,where am I,ect. When in all of my ads I ask for them to first view my web page for rates, booking protocol and other details. But no one seems to bother. I try hard to remain polite as I am appreciative of any and all the men who take interest in me but I fail to understand why such easy instructions cannot be followed.When you want to come and see me I take the time to prepare myself and my locale so please take a minute to familiarize yourself with me and my booking requests:icon_biggrin:

[roamingguy 300292]

Some days I just shake my head. And no, not at you ladies. But threads like this keep re-emerging time to time. When clear plain instructions are written, why waste a lady's time asking questions for which there are already answers too. Some of the guys probably aren't serious potential clients, just guys who just like emailing escorts. Maybe there are a few newbies, who might be making newbie mistakes. But for a gentleman serious in meeting a lady, one way to make a good first impression is to not waste her time asking questions which are already covered in her website

Just a quick rambling

RG

[cometman 35115]

That's why I like this site. The info is here, the links are here, the recos are here,and the ladies are here. I can read exhaustively and if I am missing something, a pm is easily sent and received. I am not a prolific sender of text messages and when I do,they are brief- VERY brief, unless I am begging, lol. My non-smart phone isn't conducive to texting a lot, so I rely on typing here or by email. I can be Sir Galahad when I type, but not so much when I text unless I have time to kill.

[Meg O'Ryan 266444]

There are soooo many ways to communicate (communicate effectively that is) that there is no excuse! If the lady you are contacting does not wish to engage in constructive communication, then move on. If you are only able to get your message across using one liners or lude comments, don't expect a response.

[roamingguy 300292]

There are soooo many ways to communicate (communicate effectively that is) that there is no excuse! If the lady you are contacting does not wish to engage in constructive communication, then move on. If you are only able to get your message across using one liners or lude comments, don't expect a response.

 

This is an example of guys not going to get a response

BTW just submitted in fun, but Meg's point is bang on!!!

http://www.bing.com/videos/search?q=bud+ad+whatsup&view=detail&mid=4E91D31842498CCBE5BB4E91D31842498CCBE5BB&first=0&FORM=NVPFVR

RG

[IsaMassage 54318]

In my case.., i do not have a website, and i m always willing to reply to txts, emails, pms.., etc as long as the questions are being asked with respect..., for me the most important thing is that both the gentleman and myself are happy at the end of the massage session, is better to be clear and know exactly what to and what not to expect.... So i believe there is no dumb questions, as long as they are presented respecfully :-)

[fortunateone 156618]

In my case.., i do not have a website, and i m always willing to reply to txts, emails, pms.., etc as long as the questions are being asked with respect..., for me the most important thing is that both the gentleman and myself are happy at the end of the massage session, is better to be clear and know exactly what to and what not to expect.... So i believe there is no dumb questions, as long as they are presented respecfully :-)

 

 

Yes I completely agree and was going to post this kind of thing if no one else did. I expect to get a phone call asking about rates/services, I do not include that in my ad. I do not expect to get a phone call asking about my age, how many others are 'working' here, and what race I am. (my response to the last one is always "I'm blonde" in other words, you figure it out lol )

 

I do know that having done this pre internet and pre website that the number one reason now for asking such questions is not because they didn't read it but because they are doing exactly what they should be: confirming that the rates/services are as they read them to be. The best way to do this, when phoning for example, is ask the sp to verify that what they read is what she is also going to tell them.

 

I've read comments before from guys who actually asked what rate they should pay because they literally have 3 different ones that they can choose from, based on the last time he saw her, a recent ad, and her website rates. As the OP says, communication is the key lol.

 

And being accessible by phone, I also expect that when i get contacted it isn't necessarily because the guy is looking directly at my ad, but far more likely he read the ad yesterday, late last night or early this morning, but only calling now. So would rather they ask these things, and it doesn't take a lot of time. But what I wouldn't like is the guy who thinks he read a bunch of stuff in the ad, and shows up without asking to clarify some of those, and gets mad because he finds out in person about them.

 

And I never start any session with anyone new without reviewing the rate, what they are there for, what they are paying for, and what we aren't going to be doing.