Do you care if a client asks to not call you by your "name"?

[Nichole Jenisen 696]

WEIRDEST CERB POST I HAVE EVER MADE?

 

Random question - would you care if a client asked you if you could both just not use your name as listed on cerb?

I'm assuming it may be an alias, but still, maybe you love it!

 

Would it be rude if I thought an SP seemed great, but I was going to be uncomfortable calling her her name as listed?

Like is it okay to just say.... "baby" or "honey" or, I don't know, a different name?

Is it better to just choose a different SP?

 

I think if I went on a date with someone and they weren't willing to call me by name and didn't want me to say my name I would be turned off and maybe freaked out, but would an SP be okay with it?

 

If you are an SP who sees women and you answer that you don't mind then it saves me awkwardly messaging you to ask! hahah

 

Anyone who feels like commenting, incl clients who have experienced this, I appreciate it! Thanks.

[Gabriella Laurence 301887]

WEIRDEST CERB POST I HAVE EVER MADE?

 

Random question - would you care if a client asked you if you could both just not use your name as listed on cerb?

I'm assuming it may be an alias, but still, maybe you love it!

 

I am curious- why wouldn't you want to address the lady by her chosen companion name?

 

Would it be rude if I thought an SP seemed great, but I was going to be uncomfortable calling her her name as listed?

Like is it okay to just say.... "baby" or "honey" or, I don't know, a different name?

Is it better to just choose a different SP?

I guess it would depend on the type of relationship you have established with her and how she personally feels about it.

 

If it's the first time you are contacting her, I would refrain from using the hun, baby, sexy, etc. approach ;)

[Guest S****r]

I am not sure exactly what you are asking. As an SP, I think that many of the guys do give their real name when we meet in person--or at least they are giving me a name other than what they are called on cerb. However, I am not willing to give out my real name to my clients. I believe the stigma of being an SP, and the consequences that could unfold in my life could both be devastating if I was outed. From all I read on here, there are many cases where an SP and a client have a good relationship for a long time, but then it goes awry and the client becomes a real thorn in the side of the SP, even causing problems at her workplace or at her home. The stigma attached to being a hobbyist, on the other hand, is much less.

 

I don't feel I can take the risk of a client ever outing me, whether intentionally or unintentionally.

 

And it does happen.

 

But I have no objection to using a client's real name, if that is what he desires.

 

Hope that answers your question.

[Nichole Jenisen 696]

WHOA fast replies, thanks all.

 

Just to clarify, I didn't mean just messaging women I don't know and calling them honey, etc.

I meant talking to an SP and agreeing on something else to call them or name to use during a session.

I appreciate the feedback though that some people never enjoy those nicknames.

 

And Summer sorry if I wasn't clear, but no I did not mean asking an SP for their government name. Though I expect to always give mine out for screening or whatever.

 

Maybe I was right in the part of my post where I said that if I am not comfortable with a provider's name I should just see another SP.

[BootyLoving 2441]

Delving deeper, sounds like he would like to call a lady that he chooses which happens to resemble someone he really want to screw. Like Brenda his secretary.

 

So Gabriel , would you mind putting on a secretary skirt and blouse and let me call you Brenda?

[roamingguy 300292]

Does it really matter whether you are comfortable with her name or not (and I'm not really sure how one can be uncomfortable with someone else's name) It's the lady's name (albeit her alter ego name), she chose it, so the only one who should be comfortable/uncomfortable with the lady's name is the lady. If you respect the ladies, respect the name they chose for themselves

This is much ado about nothing. Just my opinion

RG

[Kimberly-Shea 28280]

So is the name something odd? I imagine something like "sexymamacakes" might be hard to use in normal conversation, so in that context I agree it could be weird.

 

Some dancers choose names that baffle me, non-name names like "Unforgettable" or "Superstarr".. so do I call her "Super"?.. awkward.

 

I don't really have any advice. :confused0024:

[MightyPen 67414]

Maybe the problem is simply that the SP's working name is the same as that of the client's wife, or his daughter, or someone else in his life.

 

I guess I can see how that might be an obstacle.

 

EDIT: I've just figured out that the OP is herself a woman, so... the SP could even have the client's own name! So a change of genders, but same in principle.

[ford1976 1074]

I think most providers are okay with discussion about concerns that a client may have, as long as things are presented in a professional way, i.e. don't send pervy messages.

 

Just my 2 cents.

[Jazzitup 5652]

.... and a rose by any other name would smell as sweet.

[SamanthaEvans 166767]

I've never been asked this question and I can't imagine why someone would. Samantha is not the name I was given when I was born, that's true. However, I've used this name for years. I answer to it as automatically as I do to my birth name. If someone decided that he preferred to call me "Elizabeth," instead, it wouldn't work for me. I'd also wonder what the real issue was. I'd be willing to hear his reasons, but if it's that my name is the same as his wife, his mother, his sister or his daughter, well, he knew that when he contacted me the first time. If my name is such a big deal, perhaps he should be seeing someone else.

 

And so I think I would feel that he was trying to establish some kind of special claim on me or see if he could coerce me into responding to him in a special way. I have to remember that he's going to call me "Elizabeth" if I see him again. I should be careful to respond to that name if he says, "Would you care for a drink, Elizabeth?" "Are you ready to order dinner, Elizabeth?" and so on.

 

Sometimes clients call me things like dear, sweetheart, darling, honey or love. I usually ignore it, but I don't actually like it, particularly the first couple of times we meet. We don't know each other well enough for these endearments or pet names. I do appreciate it when a client asks if it's okay, though, and when they do, I usually say yes but only because the ones who ask have always been established, long-term regular clients.

[Meaghan McLeod 179664]

I dont care what you call me, as long as you call me.....HeHe. I once did a call thru an agency and they told me that I was to use a different name. I said ok, but when I called them to check in, I used my original name and well....I think that if the name your sp is using rings a bell that you dont want (like its your sisters name), she would understand you calling her a different name. Just let her know.

 

Meaghan

or whatever you would like to call me

xoxo

[CristyCurves 169032]

Seems like a simple request, if both the sp and hobbyist are comfortable with it ,thats all that matter. Perhaps some have an attachment to particular name/names so he/she wants that one used. As Meagnm said call me what you want, just so long as you call:icon_biggrin:

As far as the babe, hun thing I guess I'm guilty as I pm back many men calling them such, It comes out automatically and is meant as a friendly gesture, I personally like being called those things, I guess I'll have to watch myself:icon_confused:

[Meaghan McLeod 179664]

There was this lady at the gas station who called everyone dear. Hello dear, thank you dear. Got quite anoying because she was using it on everyone, so it really wasn't a special endearment. One day, musta been a little grumpy, after the usual how are you dear, I replied, I'm doing great Moose. She was kinda startled, but I think she understood that this is a business establishment and maybe calling me dear once in the conversation might be ok, but to say it 5 times is a bit much.

 

In this business, I call everyone sweetie. Once I know their name, then I can call them by their name, but until then, its sweetie.

[Guest S**a*Q]

I'm okay with someone calling me whatever... I have no problems being a Mary, Stacy, Annabelle, Princess Shenequiama TicTacHammock.

 

In the heat of the moment, even names like Slut and Whore work for me. I am what I am. :D

 

Just let me know in advance or I'll probably ignore you, cause I won't know who you are referring to. Lol! ;)

[PistolPete 61421]

A provider I seen years back asked me to call her by her real name, it turned her on big time, who was I to say "no " ;)

[Reuben Sandwich 13841]

The only times I recall even saying a providers name is if she happens to be called, Aaaah, Oooooh or Sweet Jesus.

There was one girl who's name was Holy F----k that seemed to bear repeating out loud.

[LeeRichards 177238]

I'm okay with someone calling me whatever... I have no problems being a Mary, Stacy, Annabelle, Princess Shenequiama TicTacHammock.

 

In the heat of the moment, even names like Slut and Whore work for me. I am what I am. :D

 

Just let me know in advance or I'll probably ignore you, cause I won't know who you are referring to. Lol! ;)

 

Okey dokey then ! I shall ponder that one and let you know ASAP what I shall call you when we meet ;)

 

You can call me Lee or by my real name but for God's sakes "don't call me Shirley" ;)

 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0A5t5_O8hdA

 

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[PistolPete 61421]

Funny I thought after years my name was "God" providers I've met, always did scream out

 

"O my god...O my god....fuck...fuck....god...O god dont stop, O god right there, yes god dam it.....yes god....dam it...god fuck me harder...O fucking GOD going to CUM.....fuck yes fuck yes fuck YES.....O my GOD you are so fucking deep....yes god dam it more..more...im going to cum....oh fuck yes....god dam ....you made me cum...God that was fantastic......god I need to catch my breath ...

:)

 

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Sorry not to offend the fathers name in vain to possibly offend others.

[cat 262460]

I take no offense to being called baby or hun in person. In writing, not so much. As for choosing another name, there would have to be a brief conversation in advance so I'm prepared. I like to use my clients names as I think it helps protect me from CRSS (Can't Remember Shit Syndrome) but if it doesn't work for my guest then I don't have to.

I am here to provide an experience for you, the guest, that fulfills the needs you have identified to the best of my ability. If names are an issue, I can work with that. It is no different than which color stockings you like or if you are white or red wine drinker. The only names I don't want to hear from anyones lips are my government names unless you have a warrant...

cat

[LeeRichards 177238]

I'm okay with someone calling me whatever... I have no problems being a Mary, Stacy, Annabelle, Princess Shenequiama TicTacHammock.

 

In the heat of the moment, even names like Slut and Whore work for me. I am what I am. :D

 

Just let me know in advance or I'll probably ignore you, cause I won't know who you are referring to. Lol! ;)

 

Okay.... I have decided. I will go with Sara ...

 

unless...

 

I misfire .... then I will go with Mary ;)

 

 

and hope my hair gel ingredients work perfectly for crazy curly hair in your case SMQ ....

[VedaSloan 119179]

You can call me whatever you like. If I got this request, I'd ask why though.

[IrishWhiskey 370]

My GF uses one name when she dances and two others when she escorts. I use an alias when I see a SP. We have a few friends in the business who I know their real name and their working name. And my CERB name is my drink (more specifically 'double Jameson's... neat'. My point is that it's just a name, and really not that important. I knew someone who called me George (not sure why), but I never corrected them. They always knew me that way.

[rovan47 2267]

My cerb name is the motor I build for my summer car, so don't call me that unless you want to rev me up. lol