Phone Mannerisms

[drg23 124]

Good Morning Cerb :-),

 

A question for the fellas, how does the way in which an SP or her booker answer the phone affect you? For instance, if the phone is answered in a very gruff manner, I instantly get turned off. Also, if I feel pressured in anyway to make an appointment ASAP, even if that was my intention, I get a bad taste for it.

 

Most of the ladies do a wonderful job of communication over the phone so I don't mean to insult anybody but in my job I would never be able to get away with some of that towards my customers. My Boss would wring my skinny little neck if I did that lol.

 

To be fair, oftentimes I meet the SP and I have no problem with her at all. Its just the initial communication always leaves a hesitancy in my mind. This is an obvious by product of "first impressions" but isn't this a hobby/profession that is/should be more reliant upon first impressions than most?

 

A question for the ladies, Do you make a concious effort to answer calls in a particular manner? And what qualities are trying/hoping to convey in these initial communications?

[Cowboy kenny 50799]

Good Morning Cerb :-),

To be fair, oftentimes I meet the SP and I have no problem with her at all. Its just the initial communication always leaves a hesitancy in my mind. This is an obvious by product of "first impressions" but isn't this a hobby/profession that is/should be more reliant upon first impressions than most?

 

While yes it is all about first impressions, you have to appreciate the volume of calls these providers deal with, then factor in the trouble makers and tire kickers and time wasters and it would wear on your patience as well.

 

Unlike a call centre rep who's job it is to answer calls and inquiries it's not like these providers are just sitting their waiting for calls, tmany are out and about living their lives, shopping, working out, studying, working elsewhere, taking care of their children, dropping them off at school etc, they are very busy. It's even more frustrating for those providers who go to the trouble of setting up detailed ads or websites only to have callers ask the very questions that are addressed on the website or ad.

 

A good rule of thumb that I practice both personaly and professionaly, don't answer the phone if you are not prepared to give your full attention. If I am focused on a task or project at work I don't answer my phone until that issue has been resolved, if it's important they will leave a message or call back. If I'm home watching a favorite TV show or movie, or engaged in coversation with company, again I don't answer the call until I'm ready.

 

The same rule could apply to providers if you are out busy and doing your thing and don't have time to give to the caller, let them leave a message and call them back when you are better prepaired to present yourself with your best foot forward!

[antlerman 17064]

well said both of you....very well put!!

[Guest W***ledi*Time]

Excellent topic. Good phone etiquette from a lady is a big plus, as far as I'm concerned. (But just ask the ladies about some of the stuff they get coming over the air, or through the wires, in the opposite direction, lol). Most ladies do excel at phone manners!

 

I don't myself worry too much about your garden-variety curtness or aggressiveness. I've never based a decision on that.

 

What I would say is that the thing that sets my alarm bells clanging is when I hear a tone of disinterestedness that underlies, and contradicts, the actual words that are being spoken. It's a thing that is often hard to put your finger on, but you no doubt know what I'm talking about. I have never found this dissonance to be an indicator of whether or not the lady will be fun to be with once we actually meet. But what I have definitely found (in my own experience) is that it is a reliable indicator of the risk that the lady will just not keep the appointment. Like everyone, I dislike being stood up, and having my time wasted (I like to be the one deciding how to waste my own time, ha ha ha ... I'm an expert at that). And I firmly believe, based on the number of times that I have found myself standing alone outside in the rain muttering "yup ... I knew it", that I can often sense the warning signs of this increased risk of being stood up. It's hidden in a lady's voice (even if not in the so-called "overt" phone demeanor).

[brandi 231]

I have to agree with most of what has been said except when I am out and not available for work I still answer my phone most times as people like to hear a real person rather then voice mail and they usually accept the fact you are currently busy and most times call back when you can work. Otherwise they can keep calling every 10 minutes trying to get you or say you are hard to get a hold of. This way when I answer it gives them their first introduction to me and they almost always call back when I am available. Of course there are times when I don?t answer my phone too.

[drg23 124]

A good rule of thumb that I practice both personaly and professionaly, don't answer the phone if you are not prepared to give your full attention. If I am focused on a task or project at work I don't answer my phone until that issue has been resolved, if it's important they will leave a message or call back. If I'm home watching a favorite TV show or movie, or engaged in coversation with company, again I don't answer the call until I'm ready.

 

 

Sagely words CK, kudos :-)

[ottanon 2930]

I recently called a popular travelling blonde to confirm the booking that day and was really put off by how she talked to me on the phone. I was quick and to the point so as not to waste her time. I almost cancelled the booking I was put off so much. Later she explained that she thought I was someone else. Its very important that to me that an SP gives good phone :)

[reallywhiteguy 100]

I would really be interested in hearing from the ladies as to what percentage of the calls they get are really serious inquiries. I can imagine it would get frustrating if you get repeated calls who are just goofballs or worse yet, book a false date. I would also be interested in what percentage of e-mail inquiries are serious. I prefer to contact SP's by e-mail as I am looking for companionship and not just sex. If the reply is full of spelling and grammatical errors, chances are she does not have that "university education" advertised on her website. Having said that however, I am always impressed at just how eloquent most sp's, paticularly the more mature ladies, truly are. There is a misconception that many ladies go into escorting because they cannot do anything else. That is clearly not the case. I mean that in the most complimentary way and hope I don't offend anyone. I think there are more negative misconceptions about sp's than almost any occupation in Western society.

[Andee 220524]

I answer the phone in a friendly, but "business-like manner". I can usually size someone up pretty quick as to whether they are a tire kicker mainly by the questions they ask and the language they use. I try not to get aggressive, but if someone is asking me rude questions, or inquiring about basic details (like "what do you look like again"? or other details that are clearly posted in my ad or on my site, I politely answer the question until I feel perhaps I am wasting my time...then I get assertive and basically cut it off there. I believe that if a guy doesn't remember who he's calling or didn't take 2 minutes to check some details out about me, then forget it. Clarification is one thing, but moronic questioning is another.

 

I must say that most gentleman are courteous and to the point. And I agree with what others have said here, I do not answer the phone unless I am focused and prepared to give that person my attention. There have been times when I've been expecting a call at a certain time and then something comes up, whereby I will answer the phone and ask them to call back, so as to let them know I am acknowledging their call, but I'm just getting out of a taxi, for example. I think this appreciated over not answering the phone, or answering it and being hurried or vague.

 

As for e-mail inquiries I would say the majority of them end up actually booking. Sometimes they don't, but it's still worth it for me to check my e-mails. What I hate are the guys who think maybe I'm in front of my computer 24/7 and e-mail me with "are you available now?" when they could easily pick up the phone to ask.

 

As for text messaging, an initial text or two is fine, but I had one guy attempt to get me to respond to a total of 16 text messages before I finally cut him off. I told him he had to call me in person, and he texted back still asking me stupid questions, and then finally saying he had no minutes to call, only text. Well, in my mind, if you're going to come and see me and are prepared to spend $100 or more, then why don't you have any time on your phone. Sorry, but I red flagged that one pretty good.

 

I do accept text messages because I want to keep my my options open for communication, and I have had successful bookings.

 

But when it comes right down to the final moment, the client has to pick up the phone and speak with me personally.

 

I believe phone mannerisms go both ways...

[Emma Alexandra 123368]

The same goes for the gents when making an appointment ....respect on both sides goes along way...

[Guest i***k***]

I hate booking via the phone... prefer email or pm to be honest. Every SP I've ever had to call I never ended up booking with. Although I don't mind calling an agency or say CMJ.

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[YoungStud 468]

I hate booking via the phone... prefer email or pm to be honest. Every SP I've ever had to call I never ended up booking with. Although I don't mind calling an agency or say CMJ.

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I'm just the opposite. I've never minded being able to deal directly with the woman I might be seeing. Much better than the usually smug, smarmy a-holes that one usually (but not always) encounters at the agencies.

[MandalayBay 575]

I would really be interested in hearing from the ladies as to what percentage of the calls they get are really serious inquiries. I can imagine it would get frustrating if you get repeated calls who are just goofballs or worse yet, book a false date. I would also be interested in what percentage of e-mail inquiries are serious. I prefer to contact SP's by e-mail as I am looking for companionship and not just sex. If the reply is full of spelling and grammatical errors, chances are she does not have that "university education" advertised on her website. Having said that however, I am always impressed at just how eloquent most sp's, paticularly the more mature ladies, truly are. There is a misconception that many ladies go into escorting because they cannot do anything else. That is clearly not the case. I mean that in the most complimentary way and hope I don't offend anyone. I think there are more negative misconceptions about sp's than almost any occupation in Western society.

 

I recently received a phone call from a gentleman who sounded sincere over the phone. He called while I was shopping with my little one (who was distracted by toy shopping and away from earshot).

 

I told him I needed to obtain a babysitter in order to see him within an hour or two of his phone call. I explained my policy of filling in an application form online and he promised to go in and fill it out immediately. So I cut short my shopping excursion, called to arrange for babysitting and rushed home to review his application form. The application form never came and I had to cancel my babysitter (which was embarassing). Not only did he waste my time and frustrate me, he interrupted my time with my child. That bothered me more than anything, but I need to make a living and this career obviously isn't 9 to 5. When this happens, it is very frustrating.

 

I cherish my clients and know their time is valuable. Luckily 99% of my clients treat me like gold and are very respectful of my time.

 

I have, however, heard endless stories about how disrespectful SPs can be of their clients' time as well. It all boils down to mutual respect for each other.

[jerican 657]

I hate booking via the phone... prefer email or pm to be honest. Every SP I've ever had to call I never ended up booking with. Although I don't mind calling an agency or say CMJ.

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Aside from CMJ I much prefer e-mail much like you. I am a stickler for always confirming via voice before our meeting, but I am more comfortable trading e-mails. I can lay out my thoughts with no issues and get a feel of them via their response....

 

I recently received a phone call from a gentleman who sounded sincere over the phone. He called while I was shopping with my little one (who was distracted by toy shopping and away from earshot).

 

I told him I needed to obtain a babysitter in order to see him within an hour or two of his phone call. I explained my policy of filling in an application form online and he promised to go in and fill it out immediately. So I cut short my shopping excursion, called to arrange for babysitting and rushed home to review his application form. The application form never came and I had to cancel my babysitter (which was embarassing). Not only did he waste my time and frustrate me, he interrupted my time with my child. That bothered me more than anything, but I need to make a living and this career obviously isn't 9 to 5. When this happens, it is very frustrating.

 

I cherish my clients and know their time is valuable. Luckily 99% of my clients treat me like gold and are very respectful of my time.

 

I have, however, heard endless stories about how disrespectful SPs can be of their clients' time as well. It all boils down to mutual respect for each other.

 

Plus it lets me know that I am not intruding on other parts of their day and giving them the opportunity to reply when they are able...also I have never booked same day and I don't believe I ever will (ok...maybe at CMJ). My compulsion to research and prepare gets in the way of that...

[PistolPete 61421]

The only time I use the phone call, is asking for directions for my appointment, (BTW I love hearing the sexy SP'S voice) otherwise the date 95% of the time is booked through pm's here or email.BTW I do not ask over the phone about her services...I read first..always..saves a lot of time.

 

If using an agency...do your home work on the reviews/rec's see who is on duty..and then take it from there! I've used only PK for those times and works well if you do your homework.

[research.fish40 100]

Email is nice to use, but I prefer the phone for two reasons. Calling gives the SP some level of security in figuring out who you are so they can be safe. I even prefer to call from work and have them call me back so they know I'm not a cop or idiot. Showing that level of trust up front helps me to set the SP at ease. The second reason is that eventually you WILL have to get on the phone with the SP so why not do it as early in the booking as possible.

[buggernot 588]

Email is nice to use, but I prefer the phone for two reasons. Calling gives the SP some level of security in figuring out who you are so they can be safe. I even prefer to call from work and have them call me back so they know I'm not a cop or idiot. Showing that level of trust up front helps me to set the SP at ease. The second reason is that eventually you WILL have to get on the phone with the SP so why not do it as early in the booking as possible.

 

I'm hoping that you're not calling any old ad off of CL when using the work phone...that might not be too safe! ;)

 

It's mostly personal preference for the girls from what I've seen, and I don't think they find one vs the other any safer (based on what their preference is). Some don't do the text or email thing at all, others love it over having to spend half their phone time actually chatting with creepy or anxious clients.

 

I'm trying to think now about how many SP's I have spoken to on the phone before meeting her...maybe 2? And one of those I had met in a SC before so that doesn't really count. And perhaps less than 5% of my overall contact has been over the phone. Text, emails and PM's. Did a few bookings through DV when I first started and even that was initiated by placing an online 'order' which was followed up with a phone call...and of course no contact with the girl there either.

[fortunateone 156618]

Email is nice to use, but I prefer the phone for two reasons. Calling gives the SP some level of security in figuring out who you are so they can be safe. I even prefer to call from work and have them call me back so they know I'm not a cop or idiot. Showing that level of trust up front helps me to set the SP at ease. The second reason is that eventually you WILL have to get on the phone with the SP so why not do it as early in the booking as possible.

 

I agree and also would like to add: You WILL have to talk to her eventually, when you meet face to face. Wouldn't you like a pretty basic idea of what that is going to be like BEFORE that happens lol. :boobies:

[spud271 47779]

I hate booking via the phone... prefer email or pm to be honest. Every SP I've ever had to call I never ended up booking with. Although I don't mind calling an agency or say CMJ.

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I'm with you Inaluki, I much prefer to book via e-mail as well. When it comes to agencies however, I usually call as things tend to change frequently. I never trust the posted schedule for an agency. Best to call the day of the appointment just to be safe.

[Kubrickfan 12836]

I have never had much success getting anything but voice mail from independents, and that's OK as I dont expect them to be available at all times and they can do an inital screening of callers. I prefer to first have e-mail or PM contact followed up with a call to make sure we are both comfortable. The problem with voice mail is the delay factor ... I'm in Ottawa only for a few days, so if I dont get a call back fairly quickly, I will move on as I dont have the luxury of time. Fortunately, most of the ladies are very good following up quickly.

 

To MandalayBay's point, I think this is one issue where sites like cerb can come in handy for regular posters as hopefully an SP can use cerb history and prior postings as a resume of sorts. Maybe something in the application scared him away, but then he should at least have the courtesy to call you back and decline, or at least have tried to make alternate arragnements.