Old Dog 179138 Report post Posted March 18, 2013 Physical beauty is a veneer that fades, cracks and chips away over time. The true beauty that each of us possesses is the acknowledgment that none of us is perfect, and from that acknowledgement emerges humility, humanity and ultimately the personality that sparkles. We have discussed the attempts of many to achieve the epitome of beauty. Healthy diets, exercise regimens, cosmetic products and procedures - the list can and will go on ad infinitum. The catch? There will always be someone that will be more beautiful, more glamourous, more athletic, with straighter whiter teeth etc., etc. The quest for greater physical beauty often comes with a tragic price, the fading value placed on inner beauty. Our own imperfections, whether real or perceived are the things that make us who we are. That mushy tummy, those laugh lines around our eyes, the goofy smile that produces uneven dimples, the hair that goes its own way or has left completely, that birthmark, or whatever else - those things that make us individuals, that make us imperfect, those are the things that invisibly contribute to our personality. We compensate. We channel the energy from things we can't really change or have given up on trying to change to other aspects of our being. We become better people, more accessible, friendlier, charming and charismatic. The physical attraction is augmented by something intangible - that strength in character that draws attention. The inner beauty is that spark that captivates and it can exist in everyone. My favourite providers are imperfectly perfect. They radiate personality. They understand what it means to embrace their inner beauty and let it shine. They are also the ones that seem to endure the comings and goings of the new kid on the block. Embracing imperfection has released the beauty within. What are your thoughts? 17 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest S****r Report post Posted March 18, 2013 Beautifully said! Words of wisdom. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Wolf Knight 29667 Report post Posted March 18, 2013 My favourite providers are imperfectly perfect. They radiate personality. They understand what it means to embrace their inner beauty and let it shine. They are also the ones that seem to endure the comings and goings of the new kid on the block. Embracing imperfection has released the beauty within. Old Dog great post. Your last paragraph really applies to me too, I find that I'm drawn to these SP's. The more "real" an SP appears to me through her persona and posts here on CERB the more she appeals to me. Real people have flaws, have bad days, have opinions. Real people "feel". Sometimes you catch glimpses of an SP's "perfect imperfection" through her posts, maybe she's a little chippy and goes on a rant because someone got on her nerves. Some might say, "bitchy" , but I say awesome. I actually love when real personalities of people shine through and it always makes me smile. The best example of what appeals to me is a post made by Serena Blake last week. Her post was just a notification and apology to clients that she was taking a few days off to spend with her child because she was feeling homesick and missed her child. That one post endeared her to me tremendously. I have never met her but now I want to, it was powerful and spoke to me. An SP that was real and had emotions like the rest of us, not just an emotionless machine that served the lustful needs of her clients. I might be in the minority but since my introduction to this hobby and participation here on CERB I've found that I care less and less about the physical appearance or attributes of SP's and constantly look for those that display that embrace of "perfect imperfection". Stay imperfectly perfect ladies. Chuck 9 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Eric Northman 16522 Report post Posted March 18, 2013 Somewhat new to this so not a lot of experience behind me but I met one agency girl who was certainly as close to physical perfection as any female I've ever met or seen in porn or whatever. The encounter left me flat and disappointed. Yes there was sex and lots of it but there was no chemistry, no connection. My great encounters have all been with women whose personalities made me immediately feel comfortable and intimate enough with them to just relax and enjoy myself. It's true that one needs a certain base level of physical attraction to have a good encounter but mostly I notice the good parts and ignore the imperfections. For me personally, as long as a lady has an decent level of physical fitness, I'm completely happy. Besides, stretch marks, scars, wrinkles, cellulite, extra pounds and so on are so irrelevant when there is good chemistry. Men are often more content with their own bodies because they tend to ignore the bad and focus on the good. Checking yourself out in the mirror, "Yeah, I've got a bit of a gut but look at that bicep! Rawr!" I think a lot of men look at women the same way. Focus in on the good parts and ignore the rest. Great boobs, a sweet ass, nice legs, a pretty face, as long as there are a few parts there that tickle the fancy, I think many of us are quite easy to please. Too much perfection can give almost a 'plastic' feel I think. Like they're not a real person. A body has stories to tell, another way to make a connection with someone. While exploring during a recent encounter, I was tracing my fingers over an old scar and asked her what happened. She told me and I said 'ouch' but then she told me she didn't really remember because it happened when she was a little kid. And I felt closer to her for having shared that. And feeling close to someone for a while is one of the best parts of this hobby. 5 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LeeRichards 177238 Report post Posted March 18, 2013 Physical beauty is a veneer that fades, cracks and chips away over time. The true beauty that each of us possesses is the acknowledgment that none of us is perfect, and from that acknowledgement emerges humility, humanity and ultimately the personality that sparkles. Yes I used to feel like solid Oak ! but now I am faded veneer but life is still better than ever ! We have discussed the attempts of many to achieve the epitome of beauty. Healthy diets, exercise regimens, cosmetic products and procedures - the list can and will go on ad infinitum. Wow ! Where do you get this stuff OD ? and does it include beer and cigs and bacon ? The catch? There will always be someone that will be more beautiful, more glamourous, more athletic, with straighter whiter teeth etc., etc. The quest for greater physical beauty often comes with a tragic price, the fading value placed on inner beauty. Our own imperfections, whether real or perceived are the things that make us who we are. That mushy tummy, those laugh lines around our eyes, the goofy smile that produces uneven dimples, the hair that goes its own way or has left completely, that birthmark, or whatever else - those things that make us individuals, that make us imperfect, those are the things that invisibly contribute to our personality. We compensate. We channel the energy from things we can't really change or have given up on trying to change to other aspects of our being. We become better people, more accessible, friendlier, charming and charismatic. The physical attraction is augmented by something intangible - that strength in character that draws attention. The inner beauty is that spark that captivates and it can exist in everyone. My favourite providers are imperfectly perfect. They radiate personality. They understand what it means to embrace their inner beauty and let it shine. They are also the ones that seem to endure the comings and goings of the new kid on the block. Embracing imperfection has released the beauty within. What are your thoughts? Well you about covered it there OD !! Awesome ! If everyone embraced who they are, the way they are, be proud of who they ..... and equally embrace everyone else for the way they are then the world would be a happier place :) My Motto ! Wise words... 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Frank7 3939 Report post Posted March 18, 2013 Exactly what Eric Northman said! If there is a certain base level of physical attraction, guys can easily just focus on what they like and the imperfections just add charm to the lady. =) (The last part was missing from the thank you note under his post.... i always write too much... ) 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JoyfulC 132299 Report post Posted March 18, 2013 Embracing imperfection is the story of my life. I would have been the girl least likely to have been a Call Girl. I was gangly, tomboyish, late-blooming and just all-around not-quite model perfect. When I first started in this business, I had to work for agencies. (No internet.) They would often sell me as a great beauty, and so, when I arrived at the door, I was often a shock to the customer. I used to have to talk my way inside the first time, but never the second. They always asked for me by name the second time around. I may not have ever been any great beauty (...ironically, I look way better now in my 50s than I ever did in my 20s), but I always knew what I was doing and enjoyed the experience. You can probably ask for more than that, but sometimes, that's enough. 4 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Report post Posted March 19, 2013 I would have to go with what Cristycurves said on the what it takes to be an sp thread, post number 11. http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=125712&page=2 I never compare myself to anyone in this business. I am just me and I attract the people who like they way I look and who enjoy my personality. I don't compare myself to others and I don't like it when others try to compare me to others or themselves, it is just counterproductive. I have struggled in the past with my body and how I looked but I learnt to accept myself for who I am a long time ago. It's important that we feel good about ourselves so that we can take care of others. I think we all should be ambassadors of self love. I really enjoy what Emily J has written about the body on her blogs. I think she is the perfect ambassador of self love. Go check out her website. I don't know if I can post it here or I would have. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
CristyCurves 169032 Report post Posted March 19, 2013 Beauty is certainly complicated, misunderstood and always criticized. It's funny how we are all trained somehow by our outward appearence as to how we perceive the world, others, how we cope with emotions, acceptance, how we judge-if we judge.Good looking people will realize their looks will open doors, average looking people will soon realize they have to be charming, witty, intelligent to open doors and those with intelligence will realize they can open their own doors. Our looks can be a blessing, a curse, certainly they are our first impression and sometimes the last. Lucky are those who have it all, looks, personality, intelligence and wit. But really what is more important? Well I suppose that depends on you. If you go to a bar the best looking girl will be the success there, in university, intelligence would be the important trait as well as personality. Although I'm sure looks will get some extra credits. If you walk into a crowded restuarant without a reservation, looks my win there as well and get you in. Walk into an upscale clothing store, looks will win out there as well. Applying for a new job, yes your credintials, experience will be the importan factors, lets hope, but depending on whos hiring, looks may win out there too. Yes our veneers are fleeting and short lived but certainly important to many. We are trained early on that anything "pretty" is better, nicer, the thing to be. It takes time, living, before most of us realize the shallowness of that. That personality, character and wit go alot further and are far more entertaining than just a glossy exterior.As someone who has never been attracted to goodlooks I still realize their importance and strengths. Lets face it we live in a shallow world, most are seeking beauty in one way or another. They either want it or to be around it so it is nice to see threads like this reminding us that there are some who see beyond it and do realize there is more to a person than their outer shell, especially here. 5 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nicolette Vaughn 294340 Report post Posted March 19, 2013 Early on in my life, I was told to never frown even if was mad because it would give me wrinkles. Don't ever smoke because it will give you wrinkles, etc, etc. I used to be somewhat of a vain person esp as a teenager and early 20's related to wrinkles. I'm in my 30's and always asked if I have gotten botox because I have no frown line, no deep creased lines on my forehead or crow's feet. I have somewhat a laugh line but not deep. I'm not one of those with a big mouth ( well that's debatable.lol) who grins from ear to ear when I smile. However when I look at people now ( esp women) I look at their face with their laugh lines and frown lines and think that each laugh, smile and frown has a story behind it so I try and think of it this way than thinking about it in a vain way. I believe now all of these things add character to a person so go ahead and laugh, smile and frown! I can laugh and smile but the frowning, I don't think I can make the actual expression because I'm not used to it! 4 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Eric Northman 16522 Report post Posted March 19, 2013 Whenever I feel a little down on myself, I just sing . Works like a charm because it's like, totally true and stuff. :-D In all seriousness, I think as we age most of us become more comfortable in our own skins. We're used to how we feel, how we look and we don't feel as self conscious of our own flaws as we used to. It makes us more confident and secure which is perhaps why some people find mature men and women so attractive. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
someguy 67067 Report post Posted March 21, 2013 This thread demonstrates on how normal looking woman are changed to gorgeous pornstar thru makeup and clothes and hair styles http://cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=124932 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
toklat77 4616 Report post Posted May 1, 2013 Well for me since I joined CERB, I am like a kid in a candy store as all of the women on CERB are absolutely gorgeous, special and intoxicating! I love to treat a woman as best as I can and I have nothing but positive experiences with the ladies that are here! No one is perfect and ladies come in all kinds of different packages and that for me is the fun of it as I am lucky enough to be able to open those packages and find their true beauty underneath! If I had the money, I would whisk them all to some tropical island and have them all for myself! 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
