A scary subject: BBFS

[Guest]

Thanks Cristy for pointing out that regular std testing is very important for everyone who takes part in sexual activites. Especially people who have more than one partner a.k.a. the hobby. I also think it's very important to have your doctor inform you of the potential risks you may face with this type of activity. It is great to have the internet but your doctor will know the best and will be the most informed.

[roamingguy 300292]

Right about regular STD/STI testing. Right about your doctor being the expert to consult. And I'm sure any health professional would say preventative measure number one, only have one intimate partner...they would all frown on this lifestyle with it's polyamorous nature.

Just a quick two cents

RG

[Sweet Emily J 172062]

Right about regular STD/STI testing. Right about your doctor being the expert to consult. And I'm sure any health professional would say preventative measure number one, only have one intimate partner...they would all frown on this lifestyle with it's polyamorous nature.

Just a quick two cents

RG

 

Of course the only 100% safe sex is no sex, but I would say that any health professional who makes one feel frowned upon for their "lifestyle" is not a professional at all. Judgement only adds to the stigma surrounding sexual health and is a major reason why people avoid getting regular testing, only helping these things to continue to spread. It is not a doctors or nurse's job to pass judgement upon your activities.

 

For those interested in non-judgemental, confidential, discreet sexual health services, the city of Ottawa offers free walk in services for: confidential STI testing, counselling, contraception, STI treatment, immunization, and ample loads of reliable and trusted resource material. They also have very helpful nurses who are friendly, non-judemental and willing to answer any questions you may have.

 

I posted about the Ottawa Sexual Health Clinic a little while back, with more information and what you can expect.

 

Read more about it here:

http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=117436

[roamingguy 300292]

Of course the only 100% safe sex is no sex, but I would say that any health professional who makes one feel frowned upon for their "lifestyle" is not a professional at all. Judgement only adds to the stigma surrounding sexual health and is a major reason why people avoid getting regular testing, only helping these things to continue to spread. It is not a doctors or nurse's job to pass judgement upon your activities.

 

For those interested in non-judgemental, confidential, discreet sexual health services, the city of Ottawa offers free walk in services for: confidential STI testing, counselling, contraception, STI treatment, immunization, and ample loads of reliable and trusted resource material. They also have very helpful nurses who are friendly, non-judemental and willing to answer any questions you may have.

 

I posted about the Ottawa Sexual Health Clinic a little while back, with more information and what you can expect.

 

Read more about it here:

 

I certainly don't disagree with you. But "mainstream" society does unfortunately frown on this lifestyle. My doctor orders my STD/STI testing when I get my blood levels done for the prescription I take (for a medical condition I have) which is once every two months. He asked me who I'm seeing, all I say is I see a couple ladies, casually, on a friends with benefits relationship nothing exclusive. How he'd react if I told him I actively saw professional companions I don't know. I know he is cool with including STD/STI testing with my blood levels, knowing I see more than one woman, and those women don't just see me. But if he knew I was active in this lifestyle, he might be somewhat moralistic.

RG

[nntsci 11076]

I value my health too much to want anything bare backed and would prefer a provider that has the same attitude.

 

I think there is a growing complacency about STDs in society.

[nntsci 11076]

"fortunateone: I agree, and not just in sex workers and clients, but the general population"

 

yes, I've heard of young women in the general public who refuse to use a condom... weird.

[Guest s******ecan****]

Excellent thread, thanks so much to all who have contributed many insightful, informative and valuable ideas, links, etc. Certainly a lot to think about.

[nntsci 11076]

One of the things I've noticed is that once you get used to a condom, you don't really notice it anymore. My wife and I have been using condoms for years -- because she got pregnant too often using other methods (1 pregnancy while on the pill, 1 baby with diaphragm, etc.)... apparently we were at the high end of the fertility spectrum. Although its been 13 years since our last accidental pregnancy, we're not taking any chances.

 

So I'm quite used to the rubbers. The thing is I really don't want to come home with some STD and have to try to explain why, or worse give it to her.

[Meaghan McLeod 179664]

I am noticing more and more clients that simply refuse to wear a condom for FS. They say "it doesn't work", try to take it off and say "just let me slip it in for a sec". It infuriates me. I just left a client balling. I am still crying. He is a high ranking executive with the local health authority. I mean really? He does not know me from a hole in the wall. He knows I work as an escort and he is willing to take a risk like that? Just came back from a country that is rife with disease. I have no idea of his history. The fact that he would even want to take a risk like this with me. In all my years of working in this industry, I have never had to deal with so many people who for whatever reason think that they should not have to use a condom. I would never offer this service, yet they just assume because I am a whore I will accept this type of treatment.

 

This is MY BODY. It is my temple. I have people that love and cherish me. I may not love myself, but they do.

 

Why do they do this?:icon_frown:

[MisterMike 1873]

I cannot see anyone in their right mind participating in unprotected sex these days for,any reason except with a spouse or long-standing partner. Quite honestly I have been very reluctant to experience an encounter with a SP even using a condom for fear of contracting something of this nature. I am totally certain my wife would not be understanding. I mean no offense to anyone on here and I do not infer that I think anyone's infected but this issue still presents a psychological barrier to me being an active participant at this point in time as much as I may wish to indulge.

[BootyLoving 2441]

For the same reason police thinks they are above the law, politician are above ethics, and priest are above god. It's complicated.

 

 

I am noticing more and more clients that simply refuse to wear a condom for FS. They say "it doesn't work", try to take it off and say "just let me slip it in for a sec". It infuriates me. I just left a client balling. I am still crying. He is a high ranking executive with the local health authority. I mean really? He does not know me from a hole in the wall. He knows I work as an escort and he is willing to take a risk like that? Just came back from a country that is rife with disease. I have no idea of his history. The fact that he would even want to take a risk like this with me. In all my years of working in this industry, I have never had to deal with so many people who for whatever reason think that they should not have to use a condom. I would never offer this service, yet they just assume because I am a whore I will accept this type of treatment.

 

This is MY BODY. It is my temple. I have people that love and cherish me. I may not love myself, but they do.

 

Why do they do this?:icon_frown:

[livefast1098 2151]

I may not love myself,

 

Meaghan, I may not know you but it really pains me to hear you speak like this. Now I hope it was just a temporary moment of rage and disgust towards that ignorant prick that made you write these words because if it isn't the case, no amount of money should be worth living with that feeling.

 

I may be reading too much into this and I usually don't get stuck in semantics, as I am far from being PC, but referring to yourself as a "whore" in this context feels wrong and degrading. The GFExperience you ladies provide is so much more than "getting us off" and fulfils a void in our lives that should be acknowledged. The hugging, the kissing, the listening, the being there for us for that amount of time we are together counts in the equation as much as the sex part. Otherwise all we'd need is a glory hole!

 

You should actually feel good about the good you are doing! Forget those assholes, they aren't worth the time or the tears.

[roamingguy 300292]

I am noticing more and more clients that simply refuse to wear a condom for FS. They say "it doesn't work", try to take it off and say "just let me slip it in for a sec". It infuriates me. I just left a client balling. I am still crying. He is a high ranking executive with the local health authority. I mean really? He does not know me from a hole in the wall. He knows I work as an escort and he is willing to take a risk like that? Just came back from a country that is rife with disease. I have no idea of his history. The fact that he would even want to take a risk like this with me. In all my years of working in this industry, I have never had to deal with so many people who for whatever reason think that they should not have to use a condom. I would never offer this service, yet they just assume because I am a whore I will accept this type of treatment.

 

This is MY BODY. It is my temple. I have people that love and cherish me. I may not love myself, but they do.

 

Why do they do this?:icon_frown:

 

Meaghan

I only hope you had a bad day. And that you do love yourself. You are a lady, who provides the gift of human companionship to men. It's unfortunate you met a jerk, that treated you so bad, but what happened only speaks to his character, or lack of it than it says about you. And his actions are his shame to carry. Don't let him bring you down. And whether you know it or not, there are likely more people who like, love and cherish you than you know...we have only met through CERB and I like and cherish you.

Here is a long distance hug for you

Take care

RG

[Meaghan McLeod 179664]

Thank you everyone for your love, support, hugs and best wishes.

 

Yes, I had a bad call that would be classified as assault. Doesn't happen often, but every once in a while it does.

 

I do love myself, and do not consider myself a whore. He viewed me as a whore, but I know I am not that.....I know how much everyone loves me, even those that have never met me. At that moment, my feelings were raw and that's why I posted this here. To show the other side of the coin on this subject of BBFS.

 

I really want to thank everyone who came rallying forward at a time I needed to talk to someone. The phone calls, text messages, PMs and messages meant the world to me.

 

Took yesterday off and am now back, stronger then ever. I love everyone who helped me. It means the world to me. This is why I love CERB. There really is no where else we can turn to for information, support and love.

 

hugs to everyone and have a great day!

 

xoxo

Meaghan

[gongshow 110]

I value my health too much to want anything bare backed and would prefer a provider that has the same attitude.

 

I think there is a growing complacency about STDs in society.

So is it perfectly respectful to the lady that if you're going to engage in any full service to have a condom for any service. I've been lurking and reading all the threads and I'm considering getting companionship.

[Phaedrus 209521]

So is it perfectly respectful to the lady that if you're going to engage in any full service to have a condom for any service. I've been lurking and reading all the threads and I'm considering getting companionship.

 

Well, having one does no harm, but I've never met an escort who doesn't provide them herself, and AFAIK most of them prefer it that way. It means they know they're using one that's been properly stored and isn't past its best-before date, and they also know that it hasn't been tampered with (yes, there are some guys who do that, for whatever reason).

 

If you have any particular requests (bigger ones, non-latex, particular favourite brand) then I think most ladies will be happy to oblige if you give them a little bit of notice.

[xxxAxxx 21016]

Just a little tidbit of info....

I've been on cerb on and off since 2006.

In those many years I was asked to provide B B a few times, I could count with my hands how many times... never provided.

 

HOWEVER.

 

I recently decided to expand my advertising venues, and ventured into the BP world... The first day I ran my ad there, I had a ton of proposals for this highly unsafe activity.

I was super shocked.

Every single one of them is blacklisted and mentioned to other ladies on our private section of the board.

What that means is not only are you blacklisted from seeing me, any respectable cerb lady who also blacklists men for such a request may also read my private threads and blacklist you too without having even been contacted by you.

So, to the OP - Do not ask for it just to "test the waters", it's counter-productive.

[50 Shades Raven 31380]

I advertise on several sites, and I have had countless requests for b b f s.

 

It never ceases to astound me at how many ask for this!

It is something that I will never ever consider providing!

 

I don't care how much money you have, how good you are, or how clean you claim to be.

My health (and yours, hopefully) is important to me, and not worth losing over a stupidity act.

 

As for fishing with any new sp as to if they offer this? Blacklisting happens very easily.

Anyone that asks me persistently for this, definitely gets on my blacklist. Asking if I offer it isn't the problem, I politely state 'I do not offer that service, sorry'.

If that satisfies your curiosity and you state you were just checking, no problem.

When you moan/beg/whine/plead to try to get to me do it, that is when I blacklist.

 

Regular testing is somewhat of a routine for me, it should be for anyone in this hobby.

Don't ever take chances with your health, all it takes is once with someone, and now you have a potential problem.

The sp may have been clean, but perhaps the last person she saw was not.

[Guest D*h******n Da**]

This thread is so important, especially for the newer and younger SPs that come into this business. I think that nowadays, these dangerous services are so commonplace that the new girls who haven't had much experience in the industry think that this is the norm. I'm fairly new myself and I've been propositioned for unsafe and the like several times already. I've blacklisted every single person that asked. Thankfully, I have a good head on my shoulders and great community behind me. But I can see how other SPs could very well be taken advantage of in such a way. Which is so unfortunate and worrisome because these situations put all of us at risk.