Is it wise to invite a SP to you home?

[APower20 400]

A part of the experience when I'm with a real girlfriend is making it known to my roommates and/or neighbours (depending on living situation at the time) that I'm getting laid. Most girls like to make a lot of noise and make it known that they're having a "good time". So I always feel disappointed when I have to either kick everyone out of the house, rent a hotel room (student here), or go to an incall because I have no power over roommates.

 

Apparently it's a taboo to be with an escort when others are around, according to escorts, but it's all cool if the woman you're banging isn't an escort. It kind of ruins the GFE for me if I can't get laid in my own bed, but I can understand the reasons for this taboo and why a woman would feel uncomfortable in a house with one or more strangers that might say "Hi" or smile at her, in the unlikely case that they're not in their rooms.

 

Seriously though, I do understand and respect all escorts' views on this subject.

 

As to the topic at hand, I've had an escort over for an outcall on one occasion and had absolutely zero issues. After that it was all hotel/motel rooms and incalls.

 

EDIT: Not to say that being completely alone with a woman ruins the intimacy, just the convenience. Oddly I never met with an escort for the two years that I lived on my own, so it's my loss.

[The General 11309]

I really think it depends on the situation. I am single, live on my own, I have no problem inviting a lady to my place. I still like incalls, but mostly since I live downtown, they are in walking distance, and why would I pay extra for an outcall.

 

Is it wise to invite an SP to your home? No, it is not.

 

Is it wise for an SP to invite you to her home? No, it is not.

[TheBear120 120]

Luckily for me I travel lots, I don't think I could be comfortable having an SP come home withe all my nosy neighbors around

[roamingguy 300292]

Is it wise to invite an SP to your home? No, it is not.

 

Is it wise for an SP to invite you to her home? No, it is not.

 

Like The General said, it does depend on your circumstances

Me, I'm single too. Why not allow a lady in my place? I'm having encounters/dates with reputable ladies, why isn't it wise for me to be alone with a reputable lady in my place

As for a lady inviting me into her home. Many ladies employ screening/verification methods for their safety/security so why isn't it wise for them to allow me into their house if they so choose. Having an encounter means they allow me to be with alone with them intimately

RG

[Cleo Catra 178382]

Is it wise to invite an SP to your home? No, it is not.

 

Is it wise for an SP to invite you to her home? No, it is not.

 

Many ladies offer incalls out of their homes, and follow safety protocols, so I don't see why they shouldn't do this. I know some women who have happily been doing it for years.

 

As for gentlemen inviting SPs to their home, I have been trusted to do so on many occasions. There have been multiple circumstances: sometimes it's with a gentlemen I have met previously at my incall, so he's built up the trust; sometimes it's with a new client, but we've emailed back and forth significantly, so he's built up the comfort level; and, I've even been invited to someone's home for our very first meeting after our first communication.

 

I delete the address information as soon as I'm gone, so even if I'm invited back, I need the info again. I don't keep my clients personal information (unless I'm asked to, which has happened). And I do of course have a safety call who knows where I am, and when I should leave.

 

Now, I once was invited to a man's home during our first text conversation. He wanted me to go to his home, in the outskirts of Ottawa, for a home-cooked meal. I denied this request. Going to a secluded area, for a meal cooked by a man I'd never met = RED FLAGS. I told him I was happy to join him for dinner if he came to me, and we went to a restaurant. He declined. Which made me feel happy I had said no.

 

When you've been in the business a while, and I'm also assuming when you've been a hobbiest for a while, your gut does a fairly good job of telling you when you should say yes, or when you should say no. Mine hasn't led me astray yet!

[Guest *rb*n C*wb*y]

Apologies for digging up an old thread but I was researching outcalls and the subject of drivers... and for the life of me, I couldn't figure out what the drivers actually do (aside from being on standby to provide assistance) when they drop the girl off at the outcall location.

 

If the appointment goes smoothly with no trouble, essentially does the driver do nothing but park nearby and try and kill time for the length of the appointment?

 

My concern is just having someone sitting in a car on my street or in my neighbourhood. I live in a residential area with quiet streets... it would look very strange for someone to be sitting in his car for a significant length of time like an hour or more.

 

Also, say the client decides to extend the length of the encounter and pays the appropriate amount of money for it. Does the driver keep sitting there in his car on the street? There's the increasing awkwardness factor to consider here. I don't know how comfortable I am knowing that a guy is hovering in the neighbourhood waiting for my appointment to finish (I'd feel like I couldn't relax).

 

Thanks in advance. I'm only familiar with the procedure for incalls, so outcalls are a whole new world to me.

[Gabriella Laurence 301887]

Urban Cowboy, I do not personally use a driver when I go on an outcall date but I doubt the driver just sits there for an hour+ and waits for the lady's appointment to be over; he can easily go get a bite to eat, get a coffee, run some personal errands, even go back home if he lives close by. Maybe he's a driver for several ladies and has to go pick up someone else during that time... But like I said, and for discretion purposes, I doubt he will just sit there.

 

If you ever decide to have an outcall date to your home perhaps it is something you could bring up with the lady so you can have piece of mind.

[Meaghan McLeod 179664]

I rarely use a driver for residential outcalls. I typically drive myself. However, there are times that I use a female driver.

 

I find it funny when clients don't want me to park in their driveway. I'm like, where am I supposed to park? I am not going to walk 3 blocks in dress and heels, so they don't have to worry about neighbours seeing a strange car in the driveway.

 

In these cases, I use a driver. Or use a taxi.

 

I find though that it is different when you are dealing with agencies. The girls generally do not have a choice and must use the designated driver.

 

Don't forget, the driver does not want to draw attention to themselves either, so will be discreet. They generally have a cell phone too, so the lady will let them know when they are ready to come out.

[randyzak 3600]

It is very nice to have an SP come out to your place from time to time. There's really nothing like "home court advantage".

 

I have used different agencies and the drivers have never parked near my house or even on my street. Maybe the driver is parked around the block -- I don't know for sure -- but if that's the case, then that is fine with me.

 

HOWEVER -- I live in a house, not an apartment, and I have had two instances with two different agencies where they were less than discreet. One time the car rolled up blaring loud music as the lady got out and walked up to my place, easily (and stupidly) drawing attention to herself if one of my neighbours had bothered to look out their window. In another instance, the brakes were dying on the driver's car and were squealling loudly when the car came to a stop for both drop-off and pick-up -- again, this would be a noise in an otherwise quiet residential neighbourhood that would draw attention to my evening companion.

 

If you live in a high-rise apartment building or condo, even if you have a person stationed at security after hours who requires every visitor to sign in, I think having an SP come to an outcall is not going to draw much attention to you, if at all. Just like a hotel, hundreds of people come and go through buildings throughout the daytime and in the evenings.

 

There are a million and one lies you can tell if anyone ever asks you about a girl coming to visit you after hours. C'mon, I bet you can think up three plausible ones right now........ That is why I love this hobby: it is as much a thinking man's game as it a horny man's game! :biggrin:

[Fresh start 17467]

If you have a SO don't use your place for an outcall. It's a lack of respect, and can save a lot of headache for both you and the lady if you get unsuspected visit from your SO.

[Guest realnicehat]

The one and only time I had a lady over who used a driver was kind of a train wreck.

 

She arrived on time (although dressed less than discreetly) and the driver left upon seeing her enter the house safely. It wasn't until she was ready to leave that things got weird.

 

She gave him a 10 minute warning call and when I walked her to the door he wasn't outside. We chatted for about five minutes but still he wasn't there. She called to inquire about his whereabouts and he replied "I'm parked right out front".

 

She opened the door, looked around and asked if he could see her. He couldn't as he was on the wrong street. She clarified my address and we waited a bit longer until he called again. He was LOST!

 

She told him to head for a main street and she left to wait for him there. I shook my head as this 25 year old hottie in a tiny gold skirt and very high red heels click clacked her way to the corner. I'm sure anyone watching her leave my house knew exactly what was going on.

 

Oh well, being single it didn't matter much but still.........incalls for me from then on.

[Luckyme 41401]

I normally do only incall. The few times that I had outcalls, I offered to pick up and drop off to the ladies including my regulars and new ladies. They all accepted with no problems. This could have avoided many potential problems since it is a lot less conspicuous with my car driving into my driveway than a stranger's car.

[FunValerie 8573]

Over my many years as a SP, one of the things I have noticed is that the client usually feels better on his own home turf. I see lots of newcomers to this hobby. Generally, people feel more comfortable in their own beds where they know the territory. I also prefer outcalls because there is no potential legal issue. I drive myself. I dress simply. I park where I am instructed to park. As far as I know, I have never caused anyone any grief. I never look like a SP. I like to joke that I try to look like a salesperson. The advantage of an outcall is the client can drink if he wants, he can smoke if he wants, he can make a total mess if he wants, he can eat what he wants, and he is more at liberty to do whatever he wants. Plus, it amuses me to no end to hear a guy tell me that he cleaned up his place just because of my visit. I love feeling like an honored guest. It gets things off on the right foot. I also offer fetishes and in some cases the gentleman caller has all the fetish toys required and in many cases those toys are not portable.

[Guest *rb*n C*wb*y]

She told him to head for a main street and she left to wait for him there. I shook my head as this 25 year old hottie in a tiny gold skirt and very high red heels click clacked her way to the corner. I'm sure anyone watching her leave my house knew exactly what was going on.

 

In everybody's experience here, how often do girls show up looking "normal" versus how often do they show up "dressing for the job"? Again, I'm completely green to outcalls, so I always just assumed the ladies brought a bag with a change of sexy clothes but arrive at the door in casual normal everyday wear like jeans and t-shirts to save anyone any kind of suspicion/embarrassment.

 

(Although, as a side musing, it's fun letting my imagination run wild imagining a girl showing up and leaving looking absolutely decked out and trying to teeter away through a public area, haha.)

 

Anyone?

[Guest realnicehat]

Based on what I have read I'm fairly certain my experience was not the norm. I shared my story for amusement more than anything else. I'm sure if you are booking with the ladies from this board they will be far more professional and discrete.

[Guest *rb*n C*wb*y]

So the lady you saw isn't a board member?

 

Drat, I was kind of hoping so. I wanted to book just for the spectacular "view" of her trying to trot away while dressed to the nines. :D

[castle 38816]

In everybody's experience here, how often do girls show up looking "normal" versus how often do they show up "dressing for the job"? Again, I'm completely green to outcalls, so I always just assumed the ladies brought a bag with a change of sexy clothes but arrive at the door in casual normal everyday wear like jeans and t-shirts to save anyone any kind of suspicion/embarrassment.

 

(Although, as a side musing, it's fun letting my imagination run wild imagining a girl showing up and leaving looking absolutely decked out and trying to teeter away through a public area, haha.)

 

Anyone?

 

 

I've hosted several outcalls in the past few years and have never had anyone show up looking anything less than totally discreet. Usually the ladies show up dressed casually and conservatively. (That doesn't last long once they're inside though ;) )

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[Phaedrus 209521]

Also, say the client decides to extend the length of the encounter and pays the appropriate amount of money for it. Does the driver keep sitting there in his car on the street? .

 

I'm sure the SP has the driver's number. While you're putting together the extra donation, she can drop him a text to tell him she'll be there for a bit longer.

 

In everybody's experience here, how often do girls show up looking "normal" versus how often do they show up "dressing for the job"? Again, I'm completely green to outcalls, so I always just assumed the ladies brought a bag with a change of sexy clothes but arrive at the door in casual normal everyday wear like jeans and t-shirts to save anyone any kind of suspicion/embarrassment.

 

Well, I've never actually done an outcall, so I don't actually know what I'm talking about, but.... some ladies address this on their websites and make a point of saying they'll be dressed in casual or business attire when they show up. They can always change once they arrive.

 

If not, I don't think it'd be at all unreasonable to ask someone to show up dressed appropriately for the time of day and the neighborhood. It'd be nice to think that this would never be necessary, but it appears that's not the case.

[Gabriella Laurence 301887]

I normally do only incall. The few times that I had outcalls, I offered to pick up and drop off to the ladies including my regulars and new ladies. They all accepted with no problems.

Luckyme, first, let me say that what I am about to say has nothing to do with you...

 

I'm not sure how to word my thoughts on the matter (maybe it's still too early lol) but for safety's sake, I would highly recommend that ladies get their own transportation instead of accepting a ride from a pure stranger. I hate to be a realistic downer but the fact is that not everyone has good intentions and ladies need to ensure that they will make it from point A to B (and back) safely and not end up in a ditch somewhere because they had no control over where they were being brought to by this so called "kind gentleman" who offered a ride. Sad but true.

 

 

This could have avoided many potential problems since it is a lot less conspicuous with my car driving into my driveway than a stranger's car.

 

I think everyone, at some point in their lives, has guests over to their house... your visitor(s) could very well be a family member, a friend, a co-workers, etc.

Our personal cars are not labelled with "I am an escort visiting your neighbor" ;) lol

[CristyCurves 169032]

If a driver is used and they are professional then the protocol as to how where and when they do drop of and pick will be in your best interests, to protect your discretion and the safety of their sp. When choosing an independent communicate with that sp, check references and go with your instincts as good feelings usually result in good outcomes. I've visited many private residences without any issues. Its easy, dress appropriately, get good directions so you aren't driving around or circling neighbourhoods and park where your client instructs. But as its been mentioned proper and careful screening is important for both parties :)

[Luckyme 41401]

Luckyme, first, let me say that what I am about to say has nothing to do with you...

 

I'm not sure how to word my thoughts on the matter (maybe it's still too early lol) but for safety's sake, I would highly recommend that ladies get their own transportation instead of accepting a ride from a pure stranger. I hate to be a realistic downer but the fact is that not everyone has good intentions and ladies need to ensure that they will make it from point A to B (and back) safely and not end up in a ditch somewhere because they had no control over where they being brought to by this so called "kind gentleman" who offered a ride. Sad but true.

 

 

 

I think everyone, at some point in their lives, has guests over to their house... your visitor(s) could very well be a family member, a friend, a co-workers, etc.

Our personal cars are not labelled with "I am an escort visiting your neighbor" ;) lol

 

No worries, Gabriella, I completely understand your points. Safety of the ladies is the most important aspect of this hobby. For my regulars, it is our trust of each other that they feel comfortable to accept my offer since we have seen each other multiple times previously. For the new ladies ( they are cerb ladies, by the way), for their satisfaction and peace of mind, I gave them my phone no. and the address beforehand. With this info. and ( hopefully) with my established profile and history here ;), they would feel safe enough to accept my offer - and they did. One lady even after I picked her up at her friend's place, asked me to drive her back to her house to take her shower and do a few quick chores. I agree with you though, that it is still not advisable to accept a ride offer from a total stranger.

 

On your second point, I just feel that with a stranger's car driving in my driveway, and then a beautiful lady stepping out and into my house, it can still look unusual. When I drive in with the lady myself, I'll drive straight into the garage - it is a lot less conspicuous.

 

Those are just my experiences, and I am not advocating that everyone should do the same.:icon_smile:

[Cleo Catra 178382]

In everybody's experience here, how often do girls show up looking "normal" versus how often do they show up "dressing for the job"? Again, I'm completely green to outcalls, so I always just assumed the ladies brought a bag with a change of sexy clothes but arrive at the door in casual normal everyday wear like jeans and t-shirts to save anyone any kind of suspicion/embarrassment.

 

(Although, as a side musing, it's fun letting my imagination run wild imagining a girl showing up and leaving looking absolutely decked out and trying to teeter away through a public area, haha.)

 

Anyone?

 

I always try to look 'normal'. I actually prefer outcalls in winter when I'm going to someone's house, as I can wear a sweater and not show any skin when I arrive.

 

In summer, I base my wardrobe on where I can park- if he says I can park in his driveway, I'll wear a simple summer dress. If he wants me to park away from his house, I feel he wants an extra layer of discretion, and I'll show up in jeans or yoga clothes. I always have done sexy panties on underneath, but that's for his eyes only ;)

[Guest *rb*n C*wb*y]

Our personal cars are not labelled with "I am an escort visiting your neighbor" ;) lol

 

That's it! My new business venture will be selling bumper stickers that have this quote on them.

 

I can predict these will sell like hotcakes.

 

Wish me luck.

 

;) :D

[CoolCucumber 2610]

Many people seem quite positive about inviting escorts to their own home. However, I had a really bad experience with a reputable provider who I had seen at her incall location many times. Since I was familiar with her, my guard was down and I was careless with leaving things out that might identify me. Anyway, things happened and I greatly regret having her over to my place.

[Phaedrus 209521]

Our personal cars are not labelled with "I am an escort visiting your neighbor" ;) lol

 

I should hope not. If you're parked in my drive you'd damn well better be visiting ME!