Midnite-Energies 110563 Report post Posted April 27, 2013 After doing a little site browsing and not really finding what I was looking for, I decided to ask my question. I enjoy this aspect and have been told I have great hands. When it comes to a hand job, I'm making an assumption everyone likes an attentive SP ie: varied tempo and pressure, attention to the balls, varied grips. But when it cums to a finish, do you like to build straight to it or do you like multiple builds? Or like anything else, does this depend on what you're in the mood for at the time? In addition, is there anything you REALLY enjoy about it (certain grips, strokes etc)? 7 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Studio 110 by Sophia 150333 Report post Posted April 27, 2013 Cool topic idea:) I have been told I give an extremely nice hand job. I think that if you are creative, and putting alot of visual stimulation to your hand job it helps in the art of teasing and pleasing. Visual stimulation is the key to any kind of session. I will use my breasts, rubbing the head of the penis up and down between my breast, on my nips, and always lots of good lube:) This is a good way to start it off and returning to this method a few times throughout. Visual stimulation is also shared by almost touching the penis to my lips, not really doing it, a mere warm breath is felt, and this is great arousal!! I find many men like it when your hand covers over the head, and not stroking down, but rather stroking up wards. Changing your grip and pressure is a must, so that you are not boring your participant. When done proper, this can be so much fun and your participant will be so excited and aroused that all other activities are forgotten about, and the satisfaction is certainly felt:) 6 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Cato 160314 Report post Posted April 27, 2013 Why does it always feel so much better when someone does it for you, than when you do it yourself?? :) One of the great existential questions!! :) 6 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest **ng***1 Report post Posted April 27, 2013 What a great topic. Everything that has been said so far.... I agree with. Keep it "UP"! Oh that was a bad pun. I personally like multiple builds because it makes the finish much more intense. Lots of eye contact. Sophia's comment about her lips almost touching the head and her breath being felt would be something extra special. Nice. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lastchance69 914 Report post Posted April 27, 2013 LOL! You're totally right Cato. Great topic! Special attention is always nice. I find some ladies forget about the 'boys' and that region just below between the legs. Not rushing and making it last for at least an hour guarantees an explosive end for me! 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
spud271 47779 Report post Posted April 27, 2013 Why does it always feel so much better when someone does it for you, than when you do it yourself?? :)One of the great existential questions!! :) You are absolutely right Cato! For whatever reason it feels so much better when you have a woman do it for you rather than doing it yourself. I find it actually relaxes me, which is never easy to do. I'm always on edge, I guess that comes with my former career choice. 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Hector17 9215 Report post Posted April 27, 2013 I agree...an hour long hand job can be incredibly intense and reduces me to moaning with pleasure and anticipation of that climax like nothing else. I reco'd Jessicamassage a while back and linked a song that describes the experience for me. To get the most extreme pleasure for me a connection is helpful as the kissing takes it over the top here's a link..hope it works 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Meaghan McLeod 179664 Report post Posted April 27, 2013 Why does it always feel so much better when someone does it for you, than when you do it yourself?? :)One of the great existential questions!! :) Its the same thing if someone is fingering a lady. It always feels so much better when someone else is doing it. xoxo 7 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NotchJohnson 214136 Report post Posted April 27, 2013 After doing a little site browsing and not really finding what I was looking for, I decided to ask my question. I enjoy this aspect and have been told I have great hands. When it comes to a hand job, I'm making an assumption everyone likes an attentive SP ie: varied tempo and pressure, attention to the balls, varied grips. But when it cums to a finish, do you like to build straight to it or do you like multiple builds? Or like anything else, does this depend on what you're in the mood for at the time? In addition, is there anything you REALLY enjoy about it (certain grips, strokes etc)? Everyone is different for what type of stroke they enjoy and how the build up to the finish is. My take on this is multiple build up but not 20 of them, say about 3-5 is perfect. As for the grip and stroke I really like the two hands stroking up and down in a opposite twist from one another while have eye contact and seeing the lady facial expressions and sounds. The finish with one hand under the head of the penis with short strokes is my favorite. Most man are easy to please anyway as long as a lady touches him he is happy. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Alger 1898 Report post Posted April 27, 2013 Great topic on one of my favorite things! Varied strokes work and visual stimulation is a always good :-) , I love staring into eyes and feeling nipples on my body. One caution to be ware of is the head of the penis gets sensitive "right after" and if the lady keeps stroking hard, she may see a pained look on the gent! Thanks for raising the topic (LOL) -Alg 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest B**na***oy Report post Posted April 27, 2013 I have always been a connection based kind of guy and the HJ as to be part of the whole. Whether the finish goes straight to it or is the result of multiple builds, what really matters is how we got there. A satisfying end encompasses everything, starting with the sensuality of the moment, the level of intimacy and all the timely caresses, kisses, licks and sounds that make up the whole. There are of course many variations on that theme, but the very worst that can happen is a straight mechanical approach. If you measure success by the end destination, I always win. :jackoff: But the higher level of satisfaction really depends on the journey. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest S****r Report post Posted April 27, 2013 Great thread! Am enjoying all your comments! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
RoddyThomas 2746 Report post Posted April 27, 2013 Handjobs, with breasts involved are amazing. Slow stroking to start then building speed is fantastic. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Katherine of Halifax 113932 Report post Posted April 27, 2013 Such an awesome thread, thank you . I hand job is a very personal thing and ever one likes it a certain way. As a SP I am very open to suggestions and would never be offended if a gent tells me what is preferred style is. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NotchJohnson 214136 Report post Posted April 27, 2013 Ok, I just posted this for fun. Now back to the topic. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
emiafish 30979 Report post Posted April 27, 2013 Sometimes a great hand job can't be beat. I am a big fan of the manual release, it ranks a close second to vaginal or oral (both tied for first). A skilled hand job that incorporates varied pressure, from a light finger tip to a firm fist grip, is a must. I like the build and denial aspect. When done correctly, a long slow HJ can produce the most powerful explosive ejaculations. I've shocked myself on occasions when the volume and distance on my climax approaches porn star quality. I like creativity too. Breast action, mouth teasing, and my new favourite the thigh job are all great ways to spice up a handy J. But my absolute favourite experience came when a play mate straddled my hips and rode the underside of my shaft with her very wet pussy while at the same time she slowly stroked the underside of my helmet with the pads of her thumbs. I nearly came in my own face that day. Hot, hot, hot. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Butterfly Kisses 2301 Report post Posted April 27, 2013 Build it up, including all that has been suggested, A little bum play lightly sliding fingers around the anus and below the balls will intensify the final explosion. If you include it in your service, occasional bj action with fixed eyes will also drive me crazy. Finish on your breasts or while you are pumping during the orgasm is also very exciting. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
toklat77 4616 Report post Posted April 27, 2013 I like it when a lady uses parts of her body to further build the excitement and kissing the shaft or a few licks of the shaft can do wonders as well. It is sooo erotic! 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bewlayb 7480 Report post Posted April 27, 2013 The best advice I can give is to let my cock be your guide. The better you know penis physiology in general and my cock in particular, the more your hand job will be "appreciated". Having a repertoire of tricks and techniques is essential, but knowing when to use them makes the difference. Make a connection with the cock, pay close attention to the way it is responding to your touch, and then adjust your actions accordingly. And don't forget the balls, which are not only key to providing stimulation, but are also a bellwether of arousal. The best hand jobs I have had are from ladies who really seem to be paying attention to my cock and all its subtle (and not so subtle) behaviours. They seem to intuitively know when I'm getting close, when to back off a bit, and when to give me a good old pounding. Btw, I mentioned above that ball stimulation is a necessary ingredient to a great hand job experience, but so to is the inclusion of other erogenous zones, such as the nipples, the lower belly, inner thighs, buttocks, etc. Get to know our bodies and have fun with it. Our appreciation will be self-evident, if not spectacular. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Midnite-Energies 110563 Report post Posted April 27, 2013 Thank you to everyone who has responded so far. All your insights and delicious desires have made this a very exciting thread and I appreciate your input. Looking forward to reading lots more!! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jabba 18389 Report post Posted April 27, 2013 I think foreplay is a big part of the HJ experience. I just don't like to leap into the tug so to speak. I believe a good HJ is as much fun as the full monty but you have to approach it with some finesse. This is where experience and the ability to read body language is an advantage. Same goes for pleasuring the ladies. I know the ladies are deserving of a good 'ol massage but with understanding & care, when to be firm, when to back off...or re-engage. I still need to work on my technique. As handjob foreplay, I appreciate light, teasing strokes up & down the shaft and on the sides the of marbles. Proximity to your partner is important too. You shouldn't be too distant because you lose the warmth of the contact and the intimacy of breathing. Mutual caressing is delightful. 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Ot**w***og****n Report post Posted April 27, 2013 No oven mitts!!! LOL Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
emiafish 30979 Report post Posted April 29, 2013 Good lube is always appreciated. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
riverrat 100 Report post Posted May 5, 2013 Strongly agree about the eye contact. I feel this key. In fact I notice that many SPs close their eyes when they come, which I find disappointing, since a great turn on for me is to look into a woman's eyes while I am making her writhe with pleasure.... I realise that's off the topic of hand jobs, but hey, you brought up the matter of eye contact (-; Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
MeatBeater 957 Report post Posted May 5, 2013 This is a great thread. It points out that when some guys ask for just a "hand job", there is much more to it than just a HJ. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites