How important are looks to you?

[toklat77 4616]

How important are looks to you when meeting with a SP? For SP's do looks matter that much to you? Men are mainly visual (until they mature) and often will gravitate to the most gorgeous woman they can find, hence the reason for porn. For women, do looks turn you on or is it more chemistry and other things that do it for you?

[Ashley Ann 75247]

How important are looks to you when meeting with a SP? For SP's do looks matter that much to you? Men are mainly visual (until they mature) and often will gravitate to the most gorgeous woman they can find, hence the reason for porn. For women, do looks turn you on or is it more chemistry and other things that do it for you?

 

 

When I was really young 18-24, it was all about looks with me. Now that I am older, wiser and much more mature-good looks are nice-but no longer a priority. It really is the personality that gets me!

[Wolf Knight 29667]

Well looks and attraction is such a subjective thing. I guess in terms of looks some people have "types" that they tend to gravitate toward physically. I never really thought about it much other than physically I know I'm attacted when I see a lady. Since entering the world of SP's and Cerb in particular I reallise that my notion of attraction has been dramatically altered. I never look through a lady's picture albums unless I've read something that she's posted that has spoke to me in some way. Take Vanessa for example since she was your first response, a long time ago Vanessa made a post under a thread peachy posted about body image and shaming. Her post was so wonderful and hit me as so genuine and real that I just had to see what fantastic creature made such a post. At that point I already had a level of attraction to her and when I saw her pictures my attraction was confirmed and heightened. (I know, I know, its not hard Vanessa is beautiful).

 

I guess now almost all my assessments of SP's and my attraction to them is based on their posts. That's how I decide if I would like to meet them. So looks have very little to do with it for me at this point. It's always read first, find attraction, look at pictures and have my attraction deepened.

 

My two cents.

[cat 262460]

Like Vanessa, looks was what I sought in my kitten years. Today in my personal life, I actually shy away from pretty boys because I find myself disappointed more often than not. I want the intellect, the challenging conversations, the seduction of the mind so to speak. I also want the mischievious sparkle in their eye and the carnal knowledge inspired confidence that comes from a life well lived. I also like padding. Protuding hip bones are not a good thing in my realm!

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[Wolf Knight 29667]

I forgot to mention for me the more genuine and "real" a lady is in the persona she puts forth here on cerb the more likely I am to gravitate toward her.

 

I adore real genuine people, any sense of false or fake is a deal killer.

[RoddyThomas 2746]

Actually, for me porn stars are a turn off. I don't like fake. Looks are important, and I like sweet and natural looking. I don't desire a super model. Just a pretty sweet looking girl anyday over a Jenna Jamieson. Men are Pavlovian at times, but sweet gets to me...

[mrgreen760 37785]

I'm male aka shallow so looks do matter to me. Every ones taste is different and I've seem women described as beautiful by others that I'd never take a second look at and I'm sure others could feel the same way about my tastes. To each their own. I will say this though that no matter how attractive I find some one and empty vessel is just that an empty vessel.

 

Peace

MG

[Guest Ot**w***og****n]

I like a lady who is well-groomed, clean, athletic and healthy with a pleasant disposition, a warm personality and a killer smile.

[Old Dog 179138]

That's a really loaded question.

 

Looks could mean anything from the way you maintain yourself, the way you carry yourself or the lucky numbers you received from the genetic lottery pool.

 

As Mr Green has pointed out, "to each his own taste." What I may find stunning may do nothing for someone else, and conversely what you find gorgeous may do nothing for me.

 

My preferences? A beautiful person. It's a combination of everything mentioned above, not necessarily balanced but magnified by a beautiful personality. That beautiful personality shines through every veneer of external beauty; conversely, an ugly personality will tear down beauty to a point where nothing exists.

 

The providers to whom I am most attracted generally possess a charm that is endearing - it's that intangible element that intelligent women possess. There's a playfulness, a wit, and a sensuality that supplements natural beauty. It forces you to see the positive in everything about them. It blinds you to what they may feel are their imperfections.

 

Oh... and nice boobs. I like nice boobs.

[Brad 49548]

I can't deny looks, especially initially, make some difference. Part of the fantasy is getting to spend time with someone I find head-over-heels attractive.

 

That said, there are so many attributes I find attractive that just about every woman has at least something sexy and attractive about them. And there's truly no denying that--after the initial impression--it's the personality that determines whether that initial attraction fades or goes through the roof.

 

It's another thing I appreciate about this site. Yes, there's no shortage of beauty to be found hereabouts, but how many of you haven't found some of the Ladies even more desirable and admirable after talking to them or reading their opinions?

[Midnite-Energies 110563]

I have always classified myself as odd when it came to looks. I was always attracted to different aspects than most of my peers. The big Hollywood heart throbs weren't mine. From a young age I realized that personality played a huge factor in making people beautiful or not so beautiful. I was lucky enough to be exposed to a number of people on both sides of that coin so it hit home and stayed with me.

 

Attractiveness and beauty to me has always been more about personality. That vibrant energy that surrounds someone and makes you feel at home with them or that smile always lurking abut the mouth and eyes. Sense of humor, caring, the ability to share and be open to people even if those people are not the type you really like.

 

I've been blessed with some of the most amazing clients. They make me smile and/or swoon depending. Each one has such wonderful beauty in them that adding a sexual aspect just amps that up a thousand fold. Yes, we all have personal preferences and for some people they are more ingrained then others. I'm thankful for my ability to look inside first then outside because as stupid as it might sound to some people, it makes my world better.

[roamingguy 300292]

A confession, yes I do look at the ladies' photos. But what is it that attracts me to a lady, and makes me want to meet her? It is her personality, and it is personality more than anything that makes a lady beautiful. I get an idea of her personality through her posts on CERB, and our subsequent emails/pm's back and forth. And for the most part it has worked. It is fair to say that I have been fortunate to meet many beautiful ladies in this lifestyle. That they also look beautiful is just for lack of a better word, a bonus.

A rambling from a middle aged, bald, eyeglass wearing overweight, average looking guy

RG

[CristyCurves 169032]

Well you could have a toads head and the body of a cow, I could care less. What I do like is a well dressed person, something very sexy about a well dressed person, and someone who exudes confidence, kindness and understanding- a well rounded person, someone who has their shit together is what I find the most attractive, looks fade, body's expand and shrink, our outer shell is just that a shell, what it houses is what I find most important. :)

[Guest C**Tra****er]

Certainly when I was younger it was all about the prettiest or the nicest breasts. As I grew older, I started to notice other aspects such eyes, humor, confidence etc. Not that I don't still notice and appreciate beauty and a great body, but I've realized that there is far more to someone being attractive then just the superficial. Beauty comes in all sizes and shapes.

[IsaMassage 54318]

I would compare looks with food..., we haveva saying back home..., "food always comes i. First through the eyes...". And this is the explanation..., as being human beings our any first impression we are attracted or not by the our vision..

Ex: two plates on the table one with gorgeous presentation and decoration, and one thta just have food on plate nithing fancy..., what would you choose? most likely the one with the beatiful decoration..., but lets say.., next u open up to the rest of your sences... And you start discovering that even if the other plate has better outside looks.., the one that is not so pretty has a better aroma, texture..,etc...

 

So is same whit people, we have a tendency at looking the outside, but the more we explore the inside, you can start liking or disliking a person more..., and that person that on first look impressed you may not so much anymore and that person that you never expected end up really winning yoir heart!

 

In conclusion: to make a long story ahort..., looks do affect but at the end like many said before, personality, intelligence, good sence of humour, inner beauty can be much more important!

[Nicolette Vaughn 294340]

I don't like shallow or phony people even if they are paying me. It's a total turnoff. Looks are not what does it for me. I like people who have personality and who are genuine. I don't want a guy visiting with me who thinks he is the cat's meow and bases the entire encounter around that. Arrogance is another turn off.

 

I prefer clients who seek out qualities of a lady aside from looks. Everyone has their preferences but as a service provider, I cannot be judgemental based on a client's looks. However, respect, cleanliness and personality go a long way. Looks aren't everything and I don't base chemistry of an encounter based on them either.

[YoungBeautyMirella 5600]

Women- For me when I first see a girl definitely the looks of course are the first thing to catch my eye especially if she is walking by and I do not know her. But ultimately what I REALLY truly adore is a girl who truly is confident and smart in a conversation and really can pull any look off looking sexy even if it is with zero make up and sweat pants! I have known the most BEAUTIFUL girls who are plain BORING, snobby, insecure, stuck up and constantly complaining about millions of things at once and would not be caught dead with out make up on, even at the gym!!

I would pick a cute, pretty, fun-loving girl over a cocky model ANY DAY! Unless of course it is for a one-night sort of deal for sex than obviously the hottest girl can be orgasmic to look at but if she is bland and bitchy she may not be the funnest in bed ;) haha

 

Men- I ALWAYS LOVE a man who can REALLY be confident but maybe a bit shy if he likes me it shows he is real and SPECIALLY a man with a goofy and fun sense of humor who does not take himself to seriously! For both men and women I really appreciate someone who takes care of them selves, this is wanted in my personal life as I take very good care of myself, I am not talking about 6 pack abs and eating only salad and gym every day, I am talking both physically and mentally, simply just loving and respecting yourself and your own body and making a little effort to look and feel good!)

Looks definitely do not matter as much with men for me as I find the metro boys are a bit into themselves from what I have HEARD from my girlfriends, but I could be wrong! I definitely appreciate a very sweet, and kind man but also a man who is manly and can take charge and make me feel like the young lady I am :)

 

On the SP-hobbiest point of view I am sure men pick SP's initially for their looks and then read their profiles/websites/advertisements unless there is some talking in the message board etc, but it is very great and refreshing when a girl-man who is pretty can also have a spectacular personality, that is really the best thing and can feel amazing if it is real and genuine :)

 

PS, I think we can all agree that woman are 'sexier' than men because of their femininity and gentle softness and of course their boobies and feminine features. Are I wrong? lol

 

Just my personal opinion! :D

xoxox

[Guest B**na***oy]

Not being the most handsome man myself, I realized early in life that physical attributes are not what really matters and can sometimes be very deceptive.

 

Being respectful and kind to others is much more important. Also, when the going gets tough, it's not necessarily the prettiest that will stick around, loyalty comes in all shades, shapes and forms.

[MsManda 25686]

I've recently learned how unimportant looks are to me with playdates/partners.. After realizing "my type" wasn't quite working out as such, personality wise, I'm not so picky with looks now, even in my personal life, provided the gent is hygienic, respectful, and has a good personality. My experience, especially in this industry has been that the coolest, most fun people I've met, were not always who I would have thought from physical appearance, they just have awesome personalities. I'll take my average Joe who's a great time, than the cocky or rude man with the sculpted body anyday :)

[Guest A** L***]

Are 'looks' important? For a man, I would probably have to say yes...however, even for a man, if there is nothing else to the exterior beauty, even that interest will fade...and fade fast.

 

For myself, looks are important. Although when I say this, 'looks' are not what the word seems to mean. Also, people look for different things in different people.

 

To me, confidence is sexy!! Personality, a genuine and respectful one can make just about anyone more appealing!! A great personality in a man goes a long way!! Humor as well...a great sense of humor is a great thing!!

 

For myself, 'looks' are more about other things than the exterior. Can I walk down the street and see a man who is obviously good looking to just about any woman? Yes. Is that type of man MY type? Probably not. Sexy, funny and confident is my thing, and working out 7 days/week (how many hrs/day) doesn't necessarily mean the most important things I look for are there. In fact, it hasn't ever. Never know...

 

Xx

[Fresh start 17467]

Honestly for me I think looks would be about 20% factor for me. For example if that person reminds me of someone I know in real life it may be awkward. The person can't look too young or too old it just doesn't feel right. I've worked near at colleges and universities and I've seen students that looked like they were 12. Nor do I want to be with someone who looks old enough to be my mother.

 

So ya looks play a small part but personality and chemistry mean a lot more to me.

[MeatBeater 957]

Looks mean everything. Beauty is subjective.

[Sweet Emily J 172062]

My biggest celebrity crush is Louis C.K. That means, if I could meet, have lunch with or suck the cock of my choice of any celebrity it would be him.

 

'Nuff said! ;)

 

I have always appreciated the qualities in men that are less easy to spot at first glance (sense of humour, among others), but especially since I started fucking such a wide variety of men, my tastes have definitely broadened and I find myself checking out all kinds of different guys when I am out and about.

 

At the grocery story, waiting in line, I'll be checking out the chunky balding dude with his wife ahead of me, who is joking around with the cashier, and seems very friendly and polite, thinking to myself... I wonder if he likes to eat pussy...? ;)

[hniconcbc 366]

I think if we are honest there has to be some attraction before we start to look beyond the physical. Unless you are in a position to spend time with someone (say a friend of a friend) how would you get to discover these deeper qualities? That being said we do ourselves a disservice if we stick only to a narrow physical ideal. As the previous posters have said there is some much beyond looks that becomes important if you are to see someone again.

 

Fortunately for people like myself who don't make a great first physical impression it is the nature of the buisness that SPs are more tolerant.

[Guest **ng***1]

I have always believed that if you have a good heart, meaning you are genuine and care about the welfare of others, then you are beautiful to me. Certainly a great looking women physically is an attention grabber, but that's all it is. This may have already been said, if so, I apologize as I didn't read through all the replies.

 

Additional Comments:

I have always believed that if you have a good heart, meaning you are genuine and care about the welfare of others, then you are beautiful to me. Certainly a great looking women physically is an attention grabber, but that's all it is. This may have already been said, if so, I apologize as I didn't read through all the replies.