Looking for advice/help

[Horndog66 14104]

You haven't indicated any preference as to age, body type, etc., so I'll presume you're open to most.

 

I would suggest you book a session with a mature escort. They have more experience with different types of men than the young spinners, and are much more likely to be comfortable with a guy who is nervous and also to be sympathetic to your situation. I'm sure that ladies such as Soleil, Daria Kay Morgan and Holly Raye would love to pop your cherry and would be caring and patient with you. They would want to ensure that your first experience was memorable for all the right reasons.

 

It's very important that you tell the lady of your situation in advance, though.

 

Good luck and enjoy!

[Hollywood Thomson 553]

Hi there,

 

I am going to say this, don't be nervous, the whole point of hobbying and providing is to enjoy yourself physically and mentally. If you go in with a nervous mindset you will not enjoy yourself. As someone who has been on both ends of the track being open about things, especially it being your first time is good because honesty goes a long way, especially if you really click and want to enjoy the same lady again; I am assuming lady, so pardon me if I am incorrect.

 

Some things that I have found have helped with people who are new/virgins:

 

1) Let the provider guide you, they after all know more about being intimate, know what works with most with people to get them to enjoy themselves.

 

2) If you like something, be vocal about it. This way the provider can know what gets you going and what doesn't. Also if you DO NOT like something, be vocal about this as well. Do not read it as, you do not like that time is up and have a hissy fit, but if you are not a fan of sixty-nine, say something, it is meant to be an enjoyable experience.

 

3) Do not be concerned about lasting forever, wowing the provider or anything of the sort. It is what it is, you cannot change who you are as you have never done it before. Some people are predisposed to having the stamina of stallions and others are not, enjoy your time. If this is your first time, I would suggest looking for MSOG - Multiple Shots as you do not know where you stand and you may or may not need it.

 

4) At the end, I always like to ask what I can do to be better if I enjoyed myself and think I might see the same girl again. You will surely hear that you were great and not to worry, but be reasonable and honest and say that it is your first time and once you have the experience under your belt look at ways you can improve in the bedroom as it can definitely make the bedroom a lot more fun.

 

If you have anymore questions or just want to talk about it, shoot me a PM Or respond here, more than happy to help.

[Midnite-Energies 110563]

Hi there markane.

 

First off I want to say bravo for wanting to take your life into your own hands. I am going to suggest you read this thread as it pertains to a couple other members who were in the same position you are. It may give some insight and valuable advice and also someone to perhaps ask for a first hand experience.

 

http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=89049&highlight=virgin

 

You have to make sure you are doing this for all the right reasons and that you are mentally ready for this step. The easy part is researching an SP that you find interesting and putting yourself in her hands. All the CERB ladies are wonderful in calming nerves and dealing with new hobbyist. This environment is non judgmental, supportive, open, communicative and will provide a great experience provided you are ready for it!

 

Good Luck and <HUGS>

[marlowemj 150]

Not sure if you are looking for incall or outcall. My first experience with a SP was very nerve wracking. I think it is for most. The one SP you may feel comfortable with is Lynn. Her rates are reasonable and she has a great in-call location. She has a great body type and nice breasts. When I was with her it was like pulling a page from a men's magazine and having her there in real life. Once you are a little more experienced with these ladies you may want to consider moving up to someone a little more aggressive like Emily. She is a lot of fun but I don't know if I would recommend her to a first timer. Any questions just PM me.

[CristyCurves 169032]

Hi, first don't think still being a virgin is anything to be ashamed of or a monkey on your back. But if you want to become sexually aware and have a great first experience I think picking an sp to be the "one" is a great idea. I will also like to add that experience for the sp doesn't necessarily come with age, so choose someone who you find attractive, intriguing and start corresponding with this lady. Get a feel for her through pms or phone conversations. If you feel completely comfortable and still attracted take the next step and book an appt. There are many ladies that advertise towards first timers and shy guys. We are here to make you feel comfortable, and give you a memorable experience. So relax and enjoy!

[Soleil Sublime 38108]

Personally, I think you should be applauded for your courage. And no, I'm not speaking of the courage it may have taken to admit you're a 35 year old virgin. To me, that's just not a big deal. I know and have met older virgins than that. The part I admire so much is that you've come to the epiphany that sex and being intimate with someone is something you're no longer willing to leave to fate. You've taken the reins and decided that you're not willing to miss out any longer on the joys and pleasure of physical intimacy. Good for you markane! If I could re-do losing my virginity, picking a suitably reputable escort to do it would've been a helluva lot more memorable than what really happened! lol

[SamanthaEvans 166766]

There's great advice in this thread already. The one thing I would add is to find someone you'd like to spend some time with and maybe book a 4-hour meeting. Then, take her out to dinner, enjoy your meal in leisure, talk, flirt, and relax. Let things follow along from there. And by all means, do be up-front with her about this being your first time. I'm sure your companion will want to make it extra special for you, so taking some extra time is a great way to let that happen.

[roamingguy 300292]

There's great advice in this thread already. The one thing I would add is to find someone you'd like to spend some time with and maybe book a 4-hour meeting. Then, take her out to dinner, enjoy your meal in leisure, talk, flirt, and relax. Let things follow along from there. And by all means, do be up-front with her about this being your first time. I'm sure your companion will want to make it extra special for you, so taking some extra time is a great way to let that happen.

 

I have to agree with Samantha. Schedule a encounter with a lady. But treat it like a date, with dinner out, conversation etc. It makes an encounter so much better if you are intimate with a lady you have spent time getting to know. And, if there is time, allow yourself time to just lie in bed with the lady, just relaxed, kissing and cuddling. I think the type of encounter you would want is a GFE (girlfriend experience)

Also, when you contact the lady, first, as has been said, let her know your age and that you are a virgin. But, and so this isn't a shock for you, she may employ verification/screening. That entails providing your real name, board handle confirmed by pm, your phone and email. Comply with the lady's screening protocols, it's nothing to fear, and something that many ladies do.

If you get nervous, don't worry about it. Even ladies I repeat with, some of whom I consider friends, I am nervous, excited and looking forward to the visit, all in one. Just enjoy that nervousness, strange as it sounds it's part of the excitement of seeing a companion

Finally, if I was in your shoes, well I'd be giving Soleil a call. If I should find myself in Winterpeg one day, I'd give Soleil a call.

Ooops, one last thing, check the threads, New To This on CERB, it can help you too

Good Luck

RG

[tas510 483]

I'm sitting here reading these posts thinking what a wonderful world dreaming about a 4-5 hour date with Soleil. A great idea! I'm going to have to start saving my money to make that happen.

[Eraser 529]

What a wonderful array of suggestions to your very honest request for some advice.I would expect that in reading these responses you have become more"worldly"! Let me offer up my suggestion...why don't you hook up with both

Daria Kay Morgan and Soleil???!!! Soleil has already shown a lovely sensitivity to your plight and is very close to Daria,I can't think of a better way to start your adventures in lovin'.(I'm getting my fuse lit just in thinking about it!)Enjoy,these Lovely Ladies will take you where you want to go!

[Guest S****r]

I love this community! Where else could we have such great conversation, care, advice, etc.!

[hulala 180]

I agree with Summer! You've already made the first right decision by seeking advice from this post. Members of this community have been very generous with their insights when I had my first encounter. The worst part for me was waiting for the sp as she was getting ready just outside her incall location. It was almost like waiting in line to go on a roller coaster ride for the first time. But once inside her place it did not take time for her to thaw me out. Total professionals and what an experience. Be honest,be yourself, treat her with respect. She will guide and show you new sensations! Welcome and enjoy!

[livenudecats 4072]

Hey buddy,

 

Not sure if you've made up your mind or not but I like many others, advise to see Soleil.

She'll take good care of you.

Be warned though. She's kind of addicting. ;)

[bcguy42 38594]

... I was really wary about attempting something like this on my own....

 

One of the great things about CERB is that, if you want, you are never alone.

 

As you continue on this path, please come back with comments, questions, and observations. There is a whole community cheering you on.

[mylad 100]

Have fun. Most girls dont bite.

[bcguy42 38594]

"Have fun. Most girls dont bite."

 

Ahhhh.... Some of the really exciting ones do. ;-)

[Guest m**al**4]

Reading through these posts puts me at ease as well, I have been trying to work up the nerve/courage to start this hobby as well for a long time, but haven't been able to take that first step.

 

Thank All of you for your help

[Tantalis69 140]

I would also suggest you pre book a second session, even if it is a week later, with a different provider, don't stop at one. No matter how the first one goes, good or bad. Get that second one booked before you over think it, loose your nerve, and while it is still fresh in your mind. You will get a better understanding of what you like, what you prefer. No matter what anyone else says, you have to find what works best for you. Just my 2 cents worth.

[steveyK 4311]

Well, you have some great advice here, all positive towards actually losing your virginity to an escort, but I might add a word of caution, be sure in your mind that you can handle this step emotionally. Even in your generation, sex is closely tied to love, so as you proceed to fulfill your perceived needs with one or more provider, just remember that this is fantasy and you will soon have to face reality again... just sayin...

[Tylerden 130]

i wanna thank everyone in this thread.

 

im in the same situation as the thread starter (younger though) and all of the posts helped me.

[travellingdude 150]

I have to agree with SteveyK. From the sound of the original post (get the monkey off my back), this sounds like something you have been pondering for awhile, maybe letting it get to you?

 

So, when you do take the plunge, you may have some emotions to deal with, depending upon where you are on the tough guy to the guy who wears his heart on his sleeve spectrum.

 

I think most would agree that sex should be fun for both of you! It makes perfect sense to research your choice to pick someone you feel comfortable with, as leaving these things to fate do not always give the same intimate response.

 

I was in the same boat in my late 20's, and decided on the spot to stop in at one place after a night with friends. While it was certainly fun, I was so extremely nervous, I would have probably agreed to anything since I was so far out of my comfort zone.

 

In retrospect, knowing places like CERB exist now, I could have researched someone that would have clicked with me (and me with her!) more, and gotten great advice along the way. Afterwards, I wished I had put more effort into choosing someone I would have liked better to make my first time more memorable. That kind of bugged me for a time.

 

But, like some so many experiences in life, how you enjoy it, and remember it, is how you choose to look at it. Go in with a positive mindframe and that is how you will live it and remember it. You have that choice now, so take advantage of that and see who would make this experience memorable for you!

 

Since you know yourself best, narrow it down to what works best for you (body type - BBW to spinner, experience you are looking for - meek to wild, GFE to PSE, etc) and then look over the recommendation section here, or just ask. Either way, you will get honest answers or opinions (keep in mind that they are opinions!) to help you decide.

 

When you do take the plunge, you have the option to take stock of how things went and what you may like for an experience again.

 

Hope this helps!

 

Let us know when you have had fun how it went.

[Sweet Emily J 172062]

I think you would be hard pressed to find someone who's "first time" was all they had hoped for, and everything they expected it would be. It rarely is. It is almost always imperfect, usually awkward, often lacking in everything you hoped it would be full of, no matter how young or old you are, whether it's with your high school sweetheart or a hooker. Thankfully, it gets better!

 

Set the bar low, and be happy that it's out of the way and you can move on with your life as a sexually active individual, with this "monkey off your back". No harm in enjoying it if you can, but don't pressure yourself or feel discouraged when it ends up being lacklustre.

 

Don't over think it, and don't expect fireworks in the background. The earth won't move, but maybe if you are lucky you will get a funny story out of it. ;) It is what it is.