Women, Teach us how to please you ?

[someguy 67067]

I thought this would be an interesting topic.

Teach us men, how to please you.

 

How do you like to be kissed?

How do you like to touched, hard or soft

Do you like to be tickled.

Where do you like to be kissed and licked :)

Where are you erogenous zones.

Any place in particular that turns you on.

 

Do you like the man to undress you.

 

Do you like to be massaged?

 

Do you like the man to be aggressive or to be laid back.

 

How do you like Daty to be done?

 

What positions turn you on the most?

 

favourite positions?

 

Here's a chance to let us men know what you like so we don't fumble around like idiots :)

 

Thanks for sharing. Maybe this will help us men make our encounters with you more enjoyable.

[Sweet Emily J 172062]

Eat It Right

By Dan Savage

http://www.thestranger.com/seattle/SavageLove?oid=6290

___________________________

 

I got 500 letters from straight women with advice for men on the whole pussy-eating subject. Why haven't these letters appeared in this column? Well, I have a bias: I'm gay. Given a choice between reading hundreds of e-mails about eating pussy or, say, talking to a good-looking male porn star about his online underwear sales, well, I'm going to go with the porn star every time. While I'm aware that reading about cunnilingus is one of my occupational hazards (along with handling letters from people who eat poo), that awareness doesn't make me any less reluctant to do so.

 

Don't get me wrong, ladies. I am all for cunnilingus. Straight men, in my opinion, are obligated to provide it. I'm as pro-cunnilingus as a gay man can get, but I guess you could say I'm pro-cunnilingus in the abstract. I'm pro-eating pussy in the same way I'm, say, pro-round-the-clock home nursing for incontinent paraplegics: I'm glad it happens, I just don't want to do it. But... I promised you a cunnilingus column, SGAFP, and a cunnilingus column you shall have.

 

But what about my gay male readers? Columns about cunnilingus have something to offer straight men, straight women, and lesbians, but NOTHING to offer gay men. So to give my gay male readers a reason to slog through this column, I've included an item of particular interest to gay men.

 

Okay, here are your cunnilingus tips, boys!

 

 

Whatever you do, DO NOT use your teeth! Also try to keep the saliva down to a minimum.

 

Been There

 

Got it, boys? No teeth, and very little saliva.

 

 

SALIVA, SALIVA, SALIVA: I can't overemphasize the importance of plenty of lubrication.

 

Cumming from Cunnilingus

 

No, wait--use saliva, boys, and lots of it. But no teeth.

 

 

The word cunnilingus derives from two Latin words: cunnus (female genitals) and lingere (to lick). But the action should include not only the tongue, but the teeth. Tongue: soft, yet firm. Teeth: Nibble around down there!

 

Pussy Prof

 

No, wait--use your teeth to nibble, boys.

 

 

I don't think it's necessary for a guy to spend much time in any other area than the clitoris.

 

It's the Clit

 

Focus on the clit, boys.

 

 

A clit is not a doorbell. Please do not punch it repeatedly with your tongue. And explore the rest of my pussy. It has just as many sensitive nerve endings as my clit.

 

Word of the Day

 

No, wait--explore the whole pussy, boys.

 

 

As a closeted gay college student, I turned to my straight friends for guidance on "the deed," and one bit of advice actually worked: Lick the alphabet! One word of caution: SHE CAN'T KNOW WHAT YOU'RE DOING! It is disastrous to let her hear you humming the alphabet song. This could imply that you are not sufficiently stimulated by her parts, as was the case with me.

 

ABC

 

Lick the alphabet, boys, but don't let her know you're licking the alphabet.

 

 

I dated a guy who used "the alphabet song" to guide him along. Basically, he hummed the "A, B, C, D, E, F, G... H, I, J, K, LMNOP..." song while drawing the letters with his tongue on my clit. Now every time I hear the alphabet song I get wet!

 

Alphabet Soup

 

No, wait. Tell her you're licking the alphabet, and she'll get wet when she hears the alphabet song.

 

 

Guys, don't slide your tongues in and out of our vaginas. All that feels like is a small, thin, limp dick. Most women don't like small, limp dicks, so why simulate one with your tongue?

 

Clitty McNub

 

Don't stick your tongues in, boys.

 

 

A French guy once stuck his tongue in and swirled it around, pushing it really hard against the walls of my vagina. It was amazing. The American guys I've slept with tend to lap politely. I guess this must be one of those things the French come up with in their six weeks of annual paid vacation.

 

French Kissed

 

No, wait--stick your tongues in the vaginal canal, boys.

 

 

So many guys are obsessed with penetration that they can't eat pussy without sticking their fingers in. Fellas, please, just lick me.

 

Lick It Don't Stick It

 

No fingers, boys, just tongue.

 

 

Men need to know that the G-spot is located behind the ridge of the pubis bone, up and inside her vagina. Take your hand palm up, insert middle and pointer fingers, curl your fingers toward you like you're saying, "Come here." Do this while you lick, and she'll come right then and there.

 

East Bay Hard Core

 

No, wait--use your fingers and tongue, boys.

 

 

Okay, let's review what we've learned: Use little saliva; use lots of saliva; use your teeth; don't use your teeth; focus on the clit; explore the whole pussy; lick the alphabet but don't tell her; lick the alphabet and tell her; don't stick your tongue in; stick your tongue in; don't stick your fingers in; stick your fingers in. I hope this was helpful. Of course, if it wasn't--if this column left you more confused--you might try ASKING THE WOMAN TO TELL YOU EXACTLY WHAT SHE LIKES. Personally, two things kept coming up while I was reading my 500 e-mails about cunnilingus: my lunch, and the sneaking suspicion that not all women enjoy the same things when it comes to oral sex. So, boys, you'll have to ask.

 

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Seriously though, every woman is different and enjoys different kinds of stimulation :)

 

However, here is a few links about DATY, which had some ideas and basic guidelines I thought were decent. :)

 

http://www.mattersofsize.com/forum/showthread.php?625-Advanced-Cunnilingus-Techniques

 

http://dodsonandross.com/blogs/lilithland/2011/03/tutorial-performing-oral-sex-woman

 

And one from our own NotchJohnson here on CERB:

 

http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=61539&highlight=daty

 

And another amazing thread from Emiafish about DATY:

 

http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=118406

 

[Meaghan McLeod 179664]

Oh great, now I gotta go out and get a vibrator. This is hot...

[IsaMassage 54318]

My opinion is that there is no such as a thing as "rules" when it comes to pleasure... All women and Men are different... What may be good for one may be not so good for someone else...

Also moods vary and so the things that will triger pleasure... My best advice is follow the signs with the lady you r with!!! Unless she is fakin it she will guiide you through what she enjoys..,Every time you have intomacy even if it is with same person things will be different and this is what would make it SPECIAL.. If it would be always the same then is when it becomes boring and you can start loosing interest! So just read the body and the signs as u are with that perosn (it also apply from ladies to gentlemen)... At that moment and that will make you both enjoy and have a pleasurable time ;)

[piano8950 32577]

Unless she is fakin it she will guiide you through what she enjoys

 

 

I can not stress how nice it is when someone lets me know how to make it better. In my mind, it's a sort of validation "Great, she's guiding me to her own body, I'm in!" (and sometimes that isn't quite figurative).

[someguy 67067]

Interesting feed back so far.

But I was asking what turns YOU on in particular. Not women in general.

This way, when we get to meet you, we know how to please YOU :)

[Guest C*****tte]

I prefer discussing what I enjoy within the in-person intimacy of a rendezvous. I like when someone explores with me so we can create something unique together. In my experience different bodies fit together fit in their own special ways. My sexual response is not something you can research like a how to article on Wiki How.

 

I get that it is an erotic turn on for some to read about the specifics of sexuality, but for me I rather experience it, live it, discover it in the flesh.

 

That may just me.

[Guest B**na***oy]

You're not alone Charlotte, a successful intimate encounter can not be based on a paint by number playbook. No matter how things go, I will always ejaculate in the end, however this is not what makes an encounter memorable or will make me shiver for an extended period of time.

 

I agree with you, respectful mutual exploration is key to the success. Of course there are basic things to take into account such as personal hygiene and attitude, but complicity between the partners is far more important than technique.

 

I prefer discussing what I enjoy within the in-person intimacy of a rendezvous. I like when someone explores with me so we can create something unique together. In my experience different bodies together fit and resct in their oen special ways. My sexual response is not something you can research like a how to article on Wiki How.

 

I get that it is an erotic turn on for some to read about the specifics of sexuality, but for me I rather experience it, live it, discover it in the flesh.

 

That may just me.

[Sweet Emily J 172062]

I feel like some people may have misunderstood my post, or maybe just skipped over it and didn't read it at all.

 

For the record, it's not "rules" or a How-To on pleasing a woman. It's a satire article, in the end making the point that every woman likes something different, and you have to get to know women individually to see what they like, and sometimes even ask them.

 

Thanks. :)

[Guest ***nno**n***]

Oh great, now I gotta go out and get a vibrator. This is hot...

 

How on earth have you lived without one?

 

If mine breaks on a sunday night I've running for my little black ....iphone lol.

 

I raid the lovenest at least once a month.

[Eric Northman 16522]

I feel like some people may have misunderstood my post, or maybe just skipped over it and didn't read it at all.

 

For the record, it's not "rules" or a How-To on pleasing a woman. It's a satire article, making the point that every woman likes something different, and you have to get to know women individually to see what they like, and sometimes even ask them.

 

Thanks. :)

 

As someone who loves to eat the pussy, I couldn't agree with you more Emily. I've never met two women who liked it exactly the same way. Quite often, it's so variable from one woman to another that it's almost like you're doing something completely different.

 

Sometimes it's a bit frustrating. You think you've got it all figured out but then you meet a lady who you just can't seem to find the magic movement, the right rhythm, to get the job done. Some ladies give great feedback and it's easy to figure it out. Some are more subtle and you have to read very small cues...slight shifts of the hips, small sounds or sighs. It's not easy and there's no single method that works for everyone.

 

Sorry boys. You're just going to have to figure out each woman separately. All these guides can give you is ideas for different techniques to try so that you don't run out of moves and get stuck before you solve the riddle. If you're lucky, she'll help you along the way.

[Guest ***nno**n***]

I prefer discussing what I enjoy within the in-person intimacy of a rendezvous. I like when someone explores with me so we can create something unique together. In my experience different bodies together fit and resct in their oen special ways. My sexual response is not something you can research like a how to article on Wiki How.

 

I get that it is an erotic turn on for some to read about the specifics of sexuality, but for me I rather experience it, live it, discover it in the flesh.

 

That may just me.

 

I agree with Charlotte.

 

This is a discussion meant to take place up close and personal.

Sad to say women don't come lego land style. 5 different styles, and 8 different colors. Each one of us is unique in what we like and what turns us on. If that isnt bad enough guys, then throw in our moods.

Now you're in for a wild ride, what may work one day on a certain woman won't necessarily work the next.

 

If you're not sure, just ask. We are happy to share our likes, dislikes and what would send us to the moon in 5 seconds flat :-)

 

So don't be shy, ask and you shall receive!

 

Shannon

[Guest]

Any kind of sexual education can be helpful and fun, articles, courses, demonstrations, they can open you to new things. Take them as a helpful guide.

 

I have had clients say that they watched videos or read articles and they wanted to try this or that on me; it was a lot of fun to be the person they test their new knowledge on, big smile.

 

I do like one on one contact. It's about the whole experience for me, kissing, touching, daty, digits, the pace ect and I can't really give solid advice until I know what you need to work on and what may work on me, may not work on another lady.

 

The only advice I have now is have fun and don't be afraid to try new things.

 

XoXo

[Nicolette Vaughn 294340]

When pleasuring a woman with your fingers.... Do you really think she is getting off on a guy jamming his fingers up there? The answer is no. Less is more in this case. I'm more assertive when it comes to this and will tell you what I like so you're not wasting your time. When visiting an SP, ask them what they like and I'm sure they will show you.

[Guest Ot**w***og****n]

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[Nicolette Vaughn 294340]

Will you vacuum in the nude though? LMAO!

[Fresh start 17467]

I've learnt how to please a woman a long time ago admit you're wrong and that they're always right! Lmao

[NotchJohnson 214123]

I have been on encounters where the lady was telling me what to do and I obliged, and then when I wanted to explore in my own way, she just let me be and was surprised at the new level of enjoyment she reached.

 

I'm just saying here that yes its great to have your partner do what you love to get done to you but at the same time if you let them play around they can teach you something else. For example I started to suck on her toes which she never got done before and she came real quickly from that.

 

I get a different treatment from every lady I meet and some are great, some are the same as I'm used to and some are out of this world but if I did not agree to let them go ahead with a new style of pleasure I would have never experienced what I got to love to this day. All this to say listen to her and let the man try new things(unless he is hurting you) it might be interesting.

[PistolPete 61421]

I will keep doing what I've been doing, it seems to really work with the ladies, they enjoy it and I enjoy it immensely . :)

[Guest Ot**w***og****n]

Will you vacuum in the nude though? LMAO!

 

I deleted my post in this regard as it wasn't relevant to the topic at hand, but to answer your question, absolutely! ;-)

[Guest ChantalSummers]

Another great thread, Someguy. It's nice that you are seeking tips on how to please. I love what Emily J had to say as well. Very helpful and ideal advice indeed!! I love a variety of sensuality as well as passion. Soft kissing and cuddling really warms up my oven hehe :icon_wink:. And then... Oh yes fireworks baby!!

[someguy 67067]

Just wanted to see if there were any new comments to this thread?

[peacectryguy 12547]

I guess it's pretty safe to say that most times, we have to just wing it out there. That doesn't surprise me as that is what I've done most of my adult life in intimate encounters with ladies. I do agree that it is usually something that should be communicated in private, however, I find that talking too much during that time can be a bit of a distraction and turn-off. Most of the time, in my experience, a slow gentle approach at the beginning will yield the direction the lady prefers you go. I also don't linger for very long just there. A little teasing and kissing in other places seem to really get the ladies going. Inner thigh, back of the knee, belly, that little spot where the hip and waist meet. Lots of erogenous zones to choose from, imo. When she is happy, so am I.

[Guest S****r]

What Do I Like?

 

Passion....

Pleasure.....

Sheer sensuality....

I looooove the taste of your flesh in my mouth....your warm, wet lips.....the fullness of your tongue....the feel of the juicy interior of your delicious mouth.......

 

I love the taste of your warm.....moist .... skin.....am turned on by the feel of your hair against the palm of my hand as it caresses your body...tracing a path down your neck....down your chest....pausing to feel the brush of your hard nipples against the sensitive palm of my hand.....lightly brushing my way across your chest....down your abdomen.......My mouth begins to follow the same trail....making the same pauses....along the way. I shift my weight so I am closer to the prize.....the essence of your manhood! My hands slide lightly down both of your sides of their own accord. My focus is now lower.....because....watching your member swell excites me....and feeling the firmness of your cock against me makes my own womanhood swell in response....turning it from what some call simply a pussy into the yawning mouth of a hungry LION.....yearning for the entrance of your rock hard cock....loving how it slides......slowly.....in.....and then out.......and slowly in again....and slowly out......teasing me......making the tension mount....making me long for you to allow me to take you as deep inside of me as we can make you go.......!!! I can't help but greedily devour you, forgetting about anything else around me. There is only YOU.....inside of ME....and THAT.......is all that exists.....

 

When you have made it happen again...I have become......entirely.......and completely.....a living, breathing, pulsating vagina.

 

That is what pleases me, someguy.........

[kaziglu 221]

Ok, take it from me, lookup the Nina Hartley/Sunny Lane pussy eating video, it is a good guide to some good cunnilingus techniques. I have watched this video and learnt from it, my first time the girl could not believe that I was a virgin.

One tip I found, is to use two fingers to stimulate the g-spot. I press both fingers against the g-spot and then I alternate moving my fingers so its like I am doing a mini massage to the g-spot, drives girls wild.

 

and if you really don't want to search the video out, here is a link to good version

http://www.***********.com/Nina-Hartley-Sunny-Lane/video222872/

 

and don't go for a fast orgasm, bring them close then keep them close but don't let them orgasm for a bit, the longer you can keep her on the edge of orgasm, the more intense her orgasm will be.

 

If you want to try nibbling her pussy, then I would suggest not using your teeth directly, try using your teeth with your lips over them. This was you can apply pressure to her clit without worrying about your teeth hurting her. And while you have her clit between your lips, try using the tip of your tongue on her clit.

 

and always keep her clit wet, either with your saliva, her saliva, her pussy juices, or even some flavored lube (I love the strawberry kiwi flavored lube by WET)