PurpleHaze 140 Report post Posted June 8, 2013 There is the stereotype that if a man pays for sex then he must be extremely ugly, but obviously that is untrue since unless you are physically disabled you can still pull 9's and even 10's if you understand the social dynamics and some evolutionary psychology. Only about 20% of what a woman cares about is actually your physical appearance so I don't want to hear that as your reasoning. If you honestly believe that you are ugly then I have some great books which can help you understand the error in your thinking, just PM me. In my particular case I have virginity and the symptoms of my virginity are what prevents me from being able to do casual sex. Due to the sexual anxiety, not knowing anything about sex, and not knowing how to escalate (kissing, etc) makes it literally impossible to go into a bar or club and close on a girl. Furthermore this also prevents me from being to establish a fuck buddy relationship as I do not know how to escalate and thus establishing the friendzone. So for my situation the use of escorts are no different than going to see a doctor. However; I am curious why some men choose to use this option long term. 3 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
RoddyThomas 2746 Report post Posted June 8, 2013 Excellent question. I find it a hassle free way to spend sometime with a lady. I am single, and prefer it that way at the moment. I hope I don't sound overly negative, but I cannot stand the politics involved in relationships, especially when it comes to the bedroom. Selfishly, I can get what I want or like, without having to spend a Sunday at Micheal's or Ikea looking for a basket for the back of the toiler to put seashells in..... 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
castle 38816 Report post Posted June 8, 2013 Excellent question. I find it a hassle free way to spend sometime with a lady. I am single, and prefer it that way at the moment. I hope I don't sound overly negative, but I cannot stand the politics involved in relationships, especially when it comes to the bedroom. Selfishly, I can get what I want or like, without having to spend a Sunday at Micheal's or Ikea looking for a basket for the back of the toiler to put seashells in..... Ditto! Pretty much took the words out of my mouth. Part of "getting what I want" is pleasing the lady as well. So maybe I'm not completely selfish lol. But yeah....for me it's basically a drama-free alternative to dating. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
IsaMassage 54318 Report post Posted June 8, 2013 As said by the guys before, I believe for what I have read in other threads that this is a choice a living style, gebtlemen single, married or in any kind of relationship can have the freedom to be with the lady of their choice without having a commitment, or lik expressed before drama! In most cases has nothing to do with being "ugly" or "uncapable of meeting a lady" in any other way! I have met so many attractive and intelligent gentlemen being an MA, men that would have no trouble meeting any woman they would like! So yes I am a true believer that hobbying is a choice! 10 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
roamingguy 300292 Report post Posted June 8, 2013 I see professional companions because I've given up on dating (had a fiancé who got pregnant by another man but wanted me to still marry her, and another who stalked me, not to mention the numerous women I dated but it never materialized into something serious) Dating by the time I gave up on it just took too much effort and seeing escorts seemed a preferred way for companionship. Three years this July of seeing companions, and it is much better than dating Seeing companions allows for intimate companionship without the drama of a relationship, the bonus sometimes you meet ladies you click with and can be friends with. RG 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Johnny Canuck 5347 Report post Posted June 8, 2013 I make use of escort services because it adds some excitement to my life by allowing me to meet some very beautiful lovers without having to worry about any commitment because at the present time I do not have a lot of time to invest in a relationship of that matter. It is something that is truly my dirty little secret although I don't view it as dirty. There is also the possible addiction to sex which plays a big part as well hehe Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PhantomKnight 7914 Report post Posted June 8, 2013 Personally, I believe I'm a decent looking man (I don't look like Shrek) I'm physically fit and confident in who I am. Why do I see SP's?? Simple. It's because certain needs are meant at home. While I have a wonderful SO, I'm a person who has many desires and fantasies and she is not willing to explore those with me. I'm not resentful of it. I love her very much and would do anything for her. In fact I pretty much do everything to make her happy. I plan to grow old with my SO. However, until those fantasies are explored and I've tapped out my Sexual exploration Energy I'm going to continue to see open minded beautiful SP's. I love learning about sex, love having it and love the deep connections I make through it. 6 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Fresh start 17467 Report post Posted June 9, 2013 For me sex had nothing to do with it, just an added bonus. It's all about intimacy and the sense of feeling desired and loved. It's complicated to explain in detail and even harder to write so bottom line is I need to feel these feelings it what keeps me sane and mentally healthy during a period in my life where its impossible to receive at home. This is also what helps me get trough a very difficult time in my life without adding more stress or trauma to my life. This hobby has changed my life, and honestly not sure I would still be alive today had it not. Everyone has needs to survive wether it physical or emotional. Without going into detail I need those feeling as much as I need to breath to live. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Claire Heavens 51771 Report post Posted June 9, 2013 Why? Slurp, Roar and Giddy Up come to mind. oh...and...Just Cuz. ;) Why Not, Really? We are all animals. Rrrrrroar! Being Polyamorous is more natural then not. I dont believe that any one person can fulfill and be your everything. It takes many different kinds of connections from different people in different ways to fulfill all needs and desires. That or I'm just a slut. lol. But this is my story- and I'm sticking to it ;) Get your sex on. 18 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
piano8950 32577 Report post Posted June 9, 2013 Started because...well I explained that on another thread. Still doing it because a) it's fun b) I can get to try so many different things c) I'm single, young, and have the means. So why not? Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Reddog01 30280 Report post Posted June 9, 2013 (edited) Once I decided to try this lifestyle; I found it to be exciting, satisfying in most cases (for both of us) and very difficult to stop. I find I think about the next opportunity almost incessantly - and with great elation. How else can you meet so many beautiful women on your own collective terms. Maybe I am trying to catchup on lost time....did I say mid-life...Actually I have asked myself this question and really have to re-examine the risks, financially, socially, morally, physically and mentally. Well maybe in another year or so....Right now I am having fun and I am helping the SP, whether it be to support a family, pay for tuition or to help her buy a a pair of Louboutins...which I really can get behind. Edited June 9, 2013 by Reddog01 typo 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Miss Jane TG Report post Posted June 9, 2013 Gents, simply put it is called "intimacy with no intricacy" and this is not my term but I got it from from one of the movies I saw. So far, I have seen a very broad selection of clientele, some of them were hotter than Hollywood stars! Therefore I hate clients bragging about how good looking they are. Sorry, but this is not why I chose to be an escort! It is fairly simple, you gents want someone that tickles your brains (depending where your brain is located....lol) and we want someone that tickles our pockets! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest d**cym** Report post Posted June 9, 2013 For me personally, there are many reasons. I do find it an exciting hobby and is quite addictive to say the least! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NotchJohnson 214123 Report post Posted June 9, 2013 Personally, I believe I'm a decent looking man (I don't look like Shrek) I'm physically fit and confident in who I am. Why do I see SP's?? Simple. It's because certain needs are meant at home. While I have a wonderful SO, I'm a person who has many desires and fantasies and she is not willing to explore those with me. I'm not resentful of it. I love her very much and would do anything for her. In fact I pretty much do everything to make her happy. I plan to grow old with my SO. However, until those fantasies are explored and I've tapped out my Sexual exploration Energy I'm going to continue to see open minded beautiful SP's. I love learning about sex, love having it and love the deep connections I make through it. I would have almost used the same words for my reason. Well said PK 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
CristyCurves 169032 Report post Posted June 9, 2013 It is a popular thought that men who do seek the services of escorts do so out of desperation and the lack of ability to "get the girl". I have heard this from men. As someone who supplies services to men I can attest that most men that seek my services anyway certainly don't fall into that category, they are exactly the opposite).Many would be considered good looking, educated, intelligent, sexually skilled and very likable. Exactly the opposite of the arses that said escort service seekers were the desperadoes:) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest S****r Report post Posted June 9, 2013 Cristy is bang on! (no pun intended) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PistolPete 61421 Report post Posted June 9, 2013 Lets see.... 1) I love beautiful women and I LOVE to f@$k a lot ...or to be polite..I love making love to a woman :) or other sexual acts like sensual body rubs with massive exploding finishes with a MA where there is no love making. Escort ladies or MA ladies are much more rewarding spending time with, than me chasing women in a bar.Plus Escorts/MA are classy sexy women that can satisfy all my sexual desires. BTW I have been told I'm a handsome dude, by many ladies.;) and to add, I can afford this lifestyle for myself. I can't come up with any other reasons, so there you have it in a nut shell. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
IamaGeek 3664 Report post Posted June 9, 2013 I'll echo the comments of some others before me. I am in a marriage with no physical relationship. My wife and I still care for each other and I have no desire to leave the marriage. Maslow's hierarchy of needs (take it as seriously as you wish) lists sex as a first level need along with breathing, food and water. With my wife's knowledge I am taking care of my needs. My only other comment is that it turns out to be fulfilling in other ways. A couple of the relationships I have formed in pursuing this answer to a need have enriched my life unexpectedly. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Guest D***el B***e Report post Posted June 9, 2013 (edited) Personally, I believe I'm a decent looking man (I don't look like Shrek) I'm physically fit and confident in who I am. Why do I see SP's?? Simple. It's because certain needs are meant at home. While I have a wonderful SO, I'm a person who has many desires and fantasies and she is not willing to explore those with me. I'm not resentful of it. I love her very much and would do anything for her. In fact I pretty much do everything to make her happy. I plan to grow old with my SO. However, until those fantasies are explored and I've tapped out my Sexual exploration Energy I'm going to continue to see open minded beautiful SP's. I love learning about sex, love having it and love the deep connections I make through it. Just like NotchJohnson said, I would have used the same words to describe my feelings. It also reflects my exact sentiments and I realize the more I get involved here on Cerb, the more I want to explore and live those desires and fantasies. I may be a simple guy with simple demands but I have naughty thoughts in the closet. Edited June 9, 2013 by D***el B***e changed wording Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
star99 4852 Report post Posted June 9, 2013 I do this hobby because ive tried just about everything to find a woman in my life. I have no intensions of getting married (not familiar with the term lol). I did have a "friends with benefits" a few years ago, but she moved away to better her career, so I didn't want to get in the way of that. I still see her from time to time when she comes to town, but its not as often as I would like it to be. people always tell me, "you'll find someone one day", but I don't really believe that, cause trust me... ive tried. only thing I can think of is the reason why I cant find someone is, they think all I want is sex. that is part of it, but not all of it. hanging out with a lady works for me too, and if it leads to the bedroom, then great!!! if not, no big deal. so basically if I want to get some sex, I gotta pay for it, but I accept that :) 2 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LeeRichards 177238 Report post Posted June 10, 2013 1) Cause I am horny :) 2) Cause I love women and their beauty inside and out :) 3) Cause I am horny :) 4) Cause it is fun, fun, fun :) 5) Cause I am horny :) 6) Cause it is simple, uncomplicated pleasure...sometimes a horny mess ;) Haha 7) Cause I am horny :) 8 ) Cause it is exciting, exhilarating, and can be very mutually rewarding and orgasmic :) 9) Cause I am horny :) 10) Cause I have met some wonderful amazing ladies and GUESS WHAT ? They are horny too ;) Mutual connections make it awesome !!! SEX ? YES PLEASE !! 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
thedriver 6179 Report post Posted June 11, 2013 Well I have been hobbying for almost 30 years now and I have done so for different reasons over the years. Reasons that ranged from simply being horny to sexual experimentation. I have had a variety of partners in my life outside of the hobby and I came to realize that even though I am not considered to be a shy person I lack self confidence with women that I do not know for a period of time before becoming intimate. As I get older I have less opportunity to meet new people and the women I have met turned out to be very shallow and materialistic often trying to put me down for not being "more" than what I am. Over the past years I have relied on SP's for my sexual needs and at times intimacy needs simply to avoid women with unrealistically high expectations and bad dates that simply chip away even more at my self confidence. SP's know how to put you at ease and they are quite good at boosting your moral and not putting pressure on you. That is why I love spending time with them. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
