What to say to a female friend that wants to try an escort but is shy?

[ulixestrojan 3757]

I guess the title says it all.

 

In the middle of a play session in Toronto last week, my friend asks whether I have been with an escort - yes, I have.

 

She says she would like to try that - calling someone she has never met to come and be intimate - okay, let's do it. I know some lovely women.

 

But, I am nervous. I need to think about it more. Roll over I want to suck your cock more.

 

So - what does she need to hear while she is think about this?

[Annessa 22743]

i dont think its really what she needs to hear but the pre-communication beforehand between you and most importanly her and your potential escort.

 

I think its amazing that this is her idea and shes intrigued by it, usually its the man's. I would allow her to have first hand email or even phone communication with the escort. Where both women ar not the hired member the women need to digg each other to let another person into their intimate dealings most times. The more comfortable she is with the escort and the more honest she is about primary ground-rules (which are always a starter she should think about before diving head first into it, and if she gives the go-ahead can be broken in a session if shes comfortable) then you and she will have the best experience.

 

I tell many prospect couples I see that between them there is to be a very open communication of what they are comfortable seeing their SO doing to another person. Sometimes if people are not honest with their wishes it can end up being a very sticky situation. I have one couple I see where the woman doesn't like her SO kissing me passionately or even penetrating me. There is still a lot you can do in those situations tho! but its good to be honest and let her communicate privately with the escort as well so she feels like the choice is not made for her but as a compilation of both your comfort levels.

 

Good luck in your search, and remember, its not about what you say to her, its about what you do....its about a group effort that will, in the end, make everything go easier :-)

[buggernot 588]

I think you just have to communicate to her your experiences in dealing with SP's. Not the sexual aspect of it, but the anxious thrill of meeting a complete stranger that you get to choose based on what you are looking for. Or that excitement of doing something off the grid, something you've fantasized about, but thought maybe it was wrong or taboo.

 

Tell her to never mind about the ridiculous media portrayal of the industry or the silly Hollywood image, because it's not like that at all. And it's decadent. And finding and choosing the right girl will make a world of difference if she's concerned about being shy. UT, you've met enough SP's I'm sure to know that some girls just ooze that ability to make you feel comfortable right away, that are natural pleasers, and know what to do in so many different situations with varying personalities. Maybe give her some confidence too by telling her how sexy she is...I would imagine that women would have a bit more insecurity being intimate with another woman if they perceive the other to be more appealing (in their mind).

 

I have a close friend at work who I've told my SP travails to, and she has the same fascination about trying it with her boyfriend, or just being with another woman herself. She's definitely interested and hasn't gone that route partly because of the cash involved, but also because she believes her boyfriend would be a nervous wreck. I keep egging her on though; described a few girls that suit her tastes and told her that she should just go solo first as a sampler. And it excites me too...not to hear about the graphic sexual details, but to hear how the whole encounter made her feel as a whole.

 

Don't know if any of this helps, but keep us posted if you can get her to go for it...whether it be a threesome or she goes for the one-on-one ;)

[etasman2000 15994]

But, I am nervous. I need to think about it more. Roll over I want to suck your cock more.

 

She mentioned a concern: she is nervous. Now you get to find out why and help her pass that stage.

 

There are quite a number of bi-SP on cerb, maybe you met some, browse their website together and talk out loud about them, a running commentary not necessary directed at her.

 

Finally give her the option to watch and she can decide if she wants to participate.

 

Have fun with it.

 

All the best.

[ulixestrojan 3757]

Thanks for the great suggestions and comments. We have been talking about how/what to do. Each get an escort and then switch partners and compare notes. This is the plan - we shall see.

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[Annessa 22743]

I disagree about the sexual aspect of the date not being approached prior. obviously no one wants to make it seem like their date has been pre arranged with rules etc and everyone wants to feel abiding to each other's needs, but being upfront about the sexual aspects of the date that are a go or a no-go will make everyone feel like their wishes are being respected by each other (the SOs between each other, and between the escort)....sometimes "going with the flow" can have VERY negative reprocussions for couples.

 

obviously yes, try and dispurse the stereotypes....but I feel that proper comunication between all those involved will help your GF and you choose who is best for you for your first attempt :-) highlighting the decandence of being with an escort is a good idea, but its always important to add that the escor is only a highlight to your relationship with her, not something above nor beyond. Find a lady that suits HER best. a MMFF might be a good start tho

[buggernot 588]

Don't think they're a "couple" Annessa ;)

[d*mm*y 887]

^5 UT :) I am sure you will figure it out!! If you go for the 2 girl idea (my favorite suggestion!!) Try to get ladies that act as a duo and maybe an ice breaker could be their own show!!

 

Thanks for the great suggestions and comments. We have been talking about how/what to do. Each get an escort and then switch partners and compare notes. This is the plan - we shall see.

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[ulixestrojan 3757]

We are not married - she is my new sugarboss. A client that keeps upping the size of my contract to keep me around. The first time we met she said - I googled you and really want to work you.

 

So now we are friends and we are exploring. Three weeks ago was a shopping trip to Northern Leather - snap.

 

She is adventurous but cautious.

 

I like the duo idea and may suggest that we view various duo combinations in order to properly assess our options.

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I agree with Annessa. You should have a talk with her first. It's good to have ground rules. You don't want her blowing up at you or the girl. This is a sensitive area. Walk with caution. Have fun with the conversation. Talking about it could be fun. If you make it that way. I also agree with Annessa. That she should get to pick and talk to an escort. The more confterable she is, the more fun you are going to have. When she is talking to the escort of her choice. She may decide weither she is or is not, going to go ahead with it. Part of the excitement of seeing an escort is the nervousness and the anicepation part. All I have to say is you are one lucky man. Have fun.

[Annessa 22743]

I agree with Annessa. You should have a talk with her first. It's good to have ground rules. You don't want her blowing up at you or the girl. This is a sensitive area. Walk with caution. Have fun with the conversation. Talking about it could be fun. If you make it that way. I also agree with Annessa. That she should get to pick and talk to an escort. The more confterable she is, the more fun you are going to have. When she is talking to the escort of her choice. She may decide weither she is or is not, going to go ahead with it. Part of the excitement of seeing an escort is the nervousness and the anicepation part. All I have to say is you are one lucky man. Have fun.

 

agreed you are a lucky man, lol...and whether she is just a friend, its still very important that she fels respected in the situation :-)

[ulixestrojan 3757]

Thank you Annessa and Peachy for your perspectives. We are very open with the conversations we have - oral ability is not only on the tip of the tongue, it goes all the way up into the brain and down into the heart.

 

I appreciate everything that been offered. I know I am a lucky man but I do work hard to have a life that I love and which loves me back.

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[Emma Alexandra 123367]

I guess the title says it all.

 

In the middle of a play session in Toronto last week, my friend asks whether I have been with an escort - yes, I have.

 

She says she would like to try that - calling someone she has never met to come and be intimate - okay, let's do it. I know some lovely women.

 

But, I am nervous. I need to think about it more. Roll over I want to suck your cock more.

 

So - what does she need to hear while she is think about this?

 

Perhaps you could give her a lady as a present:wink:....let them get to know each other in private first then they can call you if they need you...hehe

kisses

[VedaSloan 119179]

We are not married - she is my new sugarboss. A client that keeps upping the size of my contract to keep me around. The first time we met she said - I googled you and really want to work you.

 

So now we are friends and we are exploring. Three weeks ago was a shopping trip to Northern Leather - snap.

 

She is adventurous but cautious.

 

I like the duo idea and may suggest that we view various duo combinations in order to properly assess our options.

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I want a shopping trip to Northern Leather. Damn!

 

Ok, joking aside, Annessa has already covered everything I would say, and I have to agree with her re: discussing the sexual aspect prior. As long as both of you are clear about what is going to happen and there aren't any unexpected surprises, things will go a lot smoother.

 

Have fun! And of course, be sure and let us know how it went :)

[ulixestrojan 3757]

I want a shopping trip to Northern Leather. Damn!

 

Ok, joking aside, Annessa has already covered everything I would say, and I have to agree with her re: discussing the sexual aspect prior. As long as both of you are clear about what is going to happen and there aren't any unexpected surprises, things will go a lot smoother.

 

Have fun! And of course, be sure and let us know how it went :)

 

We could always go shopping in Amsterdam as discussed on Friday.

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[VedaSloan 119179]

We could always go shopping in Amsterdam as discussed on Friday.

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My answer is, and has always been: deal me in.

[ulixestrojan 3757]

My answer is, and has always been: deal me in.

 

I wonder if we should organize a puff-a-thon in Amsterdam. Any takers online?

[Guest f***2f***]

ha ha...maybe we could start a tour agency to take pooners and sps to Amsterdam. This sounds like a job for Fat Bastards!!

[Guest k***na]

that woul be very interesting!

[suburb1 153]

ha ha...maybe we could start a tour agency to take pooners and sps to Amsterdam. This sounds like a job for Fat Bastards!!

 

Well, that would be something bringing Sps to Amsterdam Lol.

 

Anyway the Dam (redlight area) is slowly being reduced by the City fathers and noises being made about to shrinking the coffee-shops; so get the puffathon on. Getting there: Can fly direct to Schipol from Mtl (Klm); short train ride to downtown.

[VedaSloan 119179]

Well, that would be something bringing Sps to Amsterdam Lol.

 

Anyway the Dam (redlight area) is slowly being reduced by the City fathers and noises being made about to shrinking the coffee-shops; so get the puffathon on. Getting there: Can fly direct to Schipol from Mtl (Klm); short train ride to downtown.

 

Nice, when I went, I stayed in Utrecht with a friend. That was convenient since the train to Amsterdam is only about 20 minutes.

[suburb1 153]

Nice, when I went, I stayed in Utrecht with a friend. That was convenient since the train to Amsterdam is only about 20 minutes.

 

Erin, did you try out one of the windows? I doubt such a sight would ever be seen strolling through OTown.

[VedaSloan 119179]

Erin, did you try out one of the windows? I doubt such a sight would ever be seen strolling through OTown.

 

Ok, when I was in the Red Light area, I kind of felt like I shouldn't be staring, but all I wanted to do was stare and take everything in. I didn't though, I tried to keep my ogling as discreet as possible. And I think I was in the tranny section, which for me, is heaven. Nothing hotter than a pre-op t-girl.

[fortunateone 156618]

I guess the title says it all.

 

In the middle of a play session in Toronto last week, my friend asks whether I have been with an escort - yes, I have.

 

She says she would like to try that - calling someone she has never met to come and be intimate - okay, let's do it. I know some lovely women.

 

But, I am nervous. I need to think about it more. Roll over I want to suck your cock more.

 

So - what does she need to hear while she is think about this?

 

My first thought here was do you know for sure or just assuming that she is talking about calling a female escort, not a male one? :boobeyes::boobeyes:

 

If so, then the very best thing to do is to search the escort listings sites together, read the ads, see the pics, look at the websites. You will get a much better idea of what she is interested in, the searching will be fun, and the anticipation will make everything much more fun. There should never be any question of you going ahead and just doing it. At this point you can't really be 1000% certain she really does want to, but I bet that looking at the ads, and the reviews any sp includes on her site, will be extremely appealing. If she wasn't sure before, she most likely will be by the end of a couple of hours of a searching lol.

 

Women sometimes need more time to think things over, but also the building up of anticipation, finding out how everything works, will heighten the thrill.

[Andee 220524]

Ok, when I was in the Red Light area, I kind of felt like I shouldn't be staring, but all I wanted to do was stare and take everything in. I didn't though, I tried to keep my ogling as discreet as possible. And I think I was in the tranny section, which for me, is heaven. Nothing hotter than a pre-op t-girl.

 

When I was in Amsterdam, I couldn't help but stare as well, because I could not believe how beautiful some of the girls were. Model quality for sure.