What are your turn ons and offs?

[Eva Laperle 7898]

Hey my darlings !!,

 

I have decided to start this thread because I find that it is important to all of us to know what are the "turn on" and "turn offs" for you guys and also for us SPs.

 

I would like to open this conversation to more than just physical preferences for example , location, outfits , types of services, ackward experiences, communication experience when booking, what kind of adds, pictures etc...

 

I also invite my dear colleagues to share in this thread as I think it is equally important for both parties to share opinion on this matter.

 

I am going to start sharing about myself first...

Turn on's (or likes) :

 

- Gentlemen: What woman doesn't like a distinguished man who is polite, respectful...and has class?

 

- Touching, sharing, kissing, massaging: Some women like to be pleased too. A nice massage, a few caress, a sweet kiss on the neck are things that if well done, would turn on most women. :) Personnally, I like kisses on the neck.

 

- Good communication: Getting to know you a little bit before we start make things easier. Don't be shy, tell us about what you like/dislike before the session. The experience will be more enjoyable for everyone.

 

- Cleanliness: That's why we'll offer you to take a shower. If you know what I mean..;).

 

- Punctuality: Usually, we have a schedule and many appointments during the day. It's expected to give a notice if your running late. ;)

 

Besides that, personally, I love pleasing and being pleased. There's a lot of things that turn me on during sex. If you want to know how to pleased me personally, PM me. It'd be a pleasure. ;)

 

Turn off's (or dislikes) :

 

- Negotiation on rates: I understand why people try to negotiate on rates but this is a luxury and if you can't afford it, then don't do it. The rates that we put are based on the cost of doing business (room fees, ads, amenities, traveling fees, companionship, etc.) and also on the quality of woman you get as your companion. When you start negotiating when you come to your appointment, it isn't motivating to give you the best service. Does it turns you off when things are getting hot and exciting with a girl and she decides to bring up the options list or ask for money upfront for the options?It kills the mood eh?! I hope you understand my point of view.

 

- Not having a good hygiene: It's not cool. Bad hygiene is NEVER a turn on. I had to mention it because it had happened to me often. Get some deo guys !!! If your a client/sp, or bf/gf, husband/wife, or whatever, have some common sense and take a shower and smell good. Also, try to maintain a good hygiene down there. The experience with any girl will be much better. :)

- Overstaying an appointment : Don't get me wrong, I like to take my time and I don't like to rush. It happens to me that someone booked me for 1hour and he gets off really fast. Since he booked me for an 1hr and paid the full price, I will give him companionship during the rest of the time so he gets what he paid for. In the same view, I had several experiences where people didn't respect their appointments.I can understand 5-10 mins extras. But when it starts becoming 20-30 mins most of us providers, would appreciated a man with the decency to leave on time or to at least tip. The thing is, we might have other appointments coming or phone calls to answer, emails to answer or other things to do. As much fun as it can be, don't forget that we are working too. :)

- Not showing up: Things happens and if someone cannot make it to an appointment, I think it would be respectful to inform the other person. It's like in any business. And this business is no different. Cancelling without notice and not showing up to an appointment is very frustrating... It's a waist of time and money. It's ok if somethings comes up, just let us know. Maybe, there is someone who wish to take your place...? ;)

 

- Rudeness and vulgarity: As you guys like a well traveled, well educated woman, we too like gentlemen. Please be a gentlemen. If not, it kills the mood. Most ladies have no tolerance for rude or rough behavior, disrespect, etc. If you're rude, expect to be turned down.

 

Among other obvious things that could turn off most people: blocked numbers, overcalling/overtexting, threats, not being discrete, etc.

 

What about you guys ? (or girls) What turn you on/off ?

 

PS: I believe in the notion of constructive criticism so guys I don't want this to turn into a bitching session!! ..;)

 

 

[someguy 67067]

Great thread Eve.

It's a good summary of basic rules of meeting escort to ensure a pleasurable experience for both parties.

 

For me I like to get to know the woman a bit through Pm's but, mostly through Cerb Chat. I've had many hours of great conversation with women there and eventually had the chance to meet several of them. It's always been a great time when you finally meet the person behind the avatar after many great conversations.

 

Turn on's:

 

When the door first open and you first meet, it is nice to get a big hug and kiss. It kind of breaks the ice if you are shy and are afraid to make the first move :)

 

It's also nice if the lady helps undress you slowly and put's your clothes neatly in a pile.

 

It's a big turn on to start of with a hot soapy shower, with kissing and standing body slides. One of the reason's I enjoy the GFE Massage experience.

 

Another big turn on, A sexy naked woman :) getting massaged by me. :)

 

A lot of kissing all over her body and face. light feather carcasses that tingle.

 

Plenty of kissing and cuddling, licking and more licking.

 

Being giving a nice massage with body slides :)

 

Just having a hot passionate time together.

 

Oh and also another hot soapy shower to clean up :)

 

Turn Off's:

 

Having a SP run behind schedule and having to wait for your time.

Not responding to Text's or PM's or phone calls to confirm or to give address.

 

Bad Hygiene

 

Or if the SP is not really in the mood for sex or in a bad mood.

 

Otherwise, I usually have a great time :) and in most cases have made a new friend, that i continue chatting and may visit again depending on time and budget. :)

[SexxxyRebecca 57989]

Hey my darlings !!,

 

I have decided to start this thread because I find that it is important to all of us to know what are the "turn on" and "turn offs" for you guys and also for us SPs.

 

I would like to open this conversation to more than just physical preferences for example , location, outfits , types of services, ackward experiences, communication experience when booking, what kind of adds, pictures etc...

 

I also invite my dear colleagues to share in this thread as I think it is equally important for both parties to share opinion on this matter.

 

I am going to start sharing about myself first...

Turn on's (or likes) :

 

- Gentlemen: What woman doesn't like a distinguished man who is polite, respectful...and has class?

 

- Touching, sharing, kissing, massaging: Some women like to be pleased too. A nice massage, a few caress, a sweet kiss on the neck are things that if well done, would turn on most women. :) Personnally, I like kisses on the neck.

 

- Good communication: Getting to know you a little bit before we start make things easier. Don't be shy, tell us about what you like/dislike before the session. The experience will be more enjoyable for everyone.

 

- Cleanliness: That's why we'll offer you to take a shower. If you know what I mean..;).

 

- Punctuality: Usually, we have a schedule and many appointments during the day. It's expected to give a notice if your running late. ;)

 

Besides that, personally, I love pleasing and being pleased. There's a lot of things that turn me on during sex. If you want to know how to pleased me personally, PM me. It'd be a pleasure. ;)

 

Turn off's (or dislikes) :

 

- Negotiation on rates: I understand why people try to negotiate on rates but this is a luxury and if you can't afford it, then don't do it. The rates that we put are based on the cost of doing business (room fees, ads, amenities, traveling fees, companionship, etc.) and also on the quality of woman you get as your companion. When you start negotiating when you come to your appointment, it isn't motivating to give you the best service. Does it turns you off when things are getting hot and exciting with a girl and she decides to bring up the options list or ask for money upfront for the options?It kills the mood eh?! I hope you understand my point of view.

 

- Not having a good hygiene: It's not cool. Bad hygiene is NEVER a turn on. I had to mention it because it had happened to me often. Get some deo guys !!! If your a client/sp, or bf/gf, husband/wife, or whatever, have some common sense and take a shower and smell good. Also, try to maintain a good hygiene down there. The experience with any girl will be much better. :)

- Overstaying an appointment : Don't get me wrong, I like to take my time and I don't like to rush. It happens to me that someone booked me for 1hour and he gets off really fast. Since he booked me for an 1hr and paid the full price, I will give him companionship during the rest of the time so he gets what he paid for. In the same view, I had several experiences where people didn't respect their appointments.I can understand 5-10 mins extras. But when it starts becoming 20-30 mins most of us providers, would appreciated a man with the decency to leave on time or to at least tip. The thing is, we might have other appointments coming or phone calls to answer, emails to answer or other things to do. As much fun as it can be, don't forget that we are working too. :)

- Not showing up: Things happens and if someone cannot make it to an appointment, I think it would be respectful to inform the other person. It's like in any business. And this business is no different. Cancelling without notice and not showing up to an appointment is very frustrating... It's a waist of time and money. It's ok if somethings comes up, just let us know. Maybe, there is someone who wish to take your place...? ;)

 

- Rudeness and vulgarity: As you guys like a well traveled, well educated woman, we too like gentlemen. Please be a gentlemen. If not, it kills the mood. Most ladies have no tolerance for rude or rough behavior, disrespect, etc. If you're rude, expect to be turned down.

 

Among other obvious things that could turn off most people: blocked numbers, overcalling/overtexting, threats, not being discrete, etc.

 

What about you guys ? (or girls) What turn you on/off ?

 

PS: I believe in the notion of constructive criticism so guys I don't want this to turn into a bitching session!! ..;)

 

 

 

You say it all! :tongue: but I would add that I LOVE light touch all over my body... BIG turn on!!

[Fresh start 17467]

Turn on's

 

-honesty

I believe it's should be a fun experience for the both of us so be yourself. Be honest if you like something or don't I'm no mind reader. Ex position or what you like.

 

-conversation

I like to talk and get to know you, a feel of your personality, character as a person. I'm not saying divulge information that is too personal or you things don't wanna share.

 

-intimacy

I enjoy being close and held, cuddling and kissing. Sure I don't mind some great wild sex but I do need some sensuality where not filming a porno. Well not to my knowledge.

 

-kissing my neck and ears softly omg soft gasp of pleasure in my ear squeezing me tight during orgasm.

Oh crap might need a cold shower now:)

 

Laughing and smiling is so sexy and cute

 

Turn offs

 

When the provider only wants to please me. I want a mutual fun time.

It feels to fake and cheap to me that way.

 

Extreme vulgarity

Hey swearing I don't have a problem but there is a limit screaming during sex and yelling profanity like in a porn movies not my thing.

 

This one might be weird but being ask what I want to do. Just go with the flow I love trying new things if I'm uncomfortable I will say something.

 

Being rushed I'm not an in and out kind of guy.

 

 

 

My favourite encounter are when the ladies be themselves. Believe it or not I find a girl all dressed in lingerie and makeup hair done just as attractive as jogging pants and a tank top. Being who you are just provides a unexplainable comfort. I even had a lady almost cancel cause she was feeling the greatest she had a sore back and was a little tired. Well it was one of the best encounters we connected she enjoyed a wonderful back massage and you can tell I changed her day a bit and it was mutually a good time.

[Luckyme 41401]

My turn on's are -

 

- greeted by a big smile, passionate kisses and hugs

 

- a great personality, GFE, sweet and sensual through out, lots of caressing and touchings, showing me you really enjoy my company

 

- helping me taking my clothes off, and letting me slowly take yours off too

 

- showing me you're enjoying my gently kissing on your neck, ear lobes, and other parts of your body

 

- enjoying cuddling and pillow-talk but not with your back facing me

 

 

My turn off's -

 

- a cool and indifferent attitude,

 

- not using mouthwash and chewing gum, not having good hygiene down there since I thoroughly enjoy daty

 

- not turning off phone, keeps looking at the clock or rushing me

[ngtime 560]

Turn on:

 

That GFE experience, kissing hugging

Teasing

Some massage skills

Good hygiene

 

 

Turn offs:

 

Cigarette smell

Turning away when LFK and DFK ( kills the mood)

That time of the month, when the service is full nudity.

Body piercing and studs

[Ashley Ann 75247]

Turn ons: Nice, polite, respectful of me and my time, soft touches, strong touches ;) , great hygiene, sense of humor and my all time fave...Men who MASSAGE me :)

 

Turn offs: Those whom contact me via text as an introductory when all my ads state that I choose not to use this method . Those who contact me with questions about my prices-I hate discussing money-that`s why I put it out there. Perhaps, a select few have actually overlooked my prices-but when one does this-I truly feel he is fishing for a discount-another turn off ;) Those who tell me that they have never seen an sp before-that I am the first...geez-what is the point to that one-I will never understand :confused: Liar Liar Pants on Fire ;)

[Guest webothscore]

Turn ons: regular clothing; want to feel like we hit it off and came home for mutual fun. Couch play. Hot hot hot before getting started. Love the touching through clothing first. Well spoken always a big hit with me. I know both sides have to limit details for various purposes, so it won't be 100% natural, but still, smart is sexy. I am always freshly showered minutes before so I would expect the same. No problems showering again if asked. Like many, very little perfume or makeup if any at all. Don't need to taste funny things off of skin.

 

Turn offs: smoking smells, unshowered. I would rather somebody ask me to wait a bit than pretend just to stay on schedule. Haven't had much mechanic feeling encounters but that would be a turn off (I'm too much of a chatter box for a cold encounter, even for the first time). Not knowing if someone else is in the living quarters beforehand. Just let us know beforehand please and thx. Surprising movements can affect our performance ;) also, having well placed "time tellers" is handy. For myself, I look over to see what time it is with some discretion. I feel that if I look, I don't have to worry about the other person checking. This way we won't feel like a number. As somebody stated in a thread long ago, some want to pay roses for an encounter and don't necessarily have to, so feeling like a number is never cool. I am not thin skinned but I would think many are on board with the clock watching thing. Bye

[piano8950 32577]

Turn ons:

 

Normal clothes, or clothes she's comfortable in - I love a visual of a scantily clad woman, but I think I've come to a point where they all blur together into one huge image of boobs and ass, there is very little mystery. But a girl dressed in normal clothes, my mind goes to dirty places. While she and I talk about the weather or other appropriate Canadian topics, I start thinking about her naked, her skin, if she's noisy or quiet in bed, and other very indecent stuff.

 

I do have a fantasy from time to time for something different, but for the most part, especially for first time visits, just normal clothes.

 

If she is a runner - I have no idea, but girls who jog just make me horny. So if she tells me she runs, she automatically becomes sexier

 

She jumps in the shower with me - Do I really need to explain this??

 

Confidence - I never understood why people told me women love this, but after seeing confident women, I totally get it now.

 

Professionalism - Reasonable time taken to respond to emails. Sounds enthusiastic over the phone. Well thought out ads and nicely designed websites.

 

The little things - I drink lots of water. After seeing Peachy a couple of times, she picked up on this, and whenever I came over, she'd have a glass of water ready. It's a really sweet thing for her, takes about 30 seconds of work, but creates such an amazing impression in my mind.

 

Good skin - Nice to touch!

 

Creativity - I love love love ads that are different

 

I almost forgot! Biggest Turn on for me:

Seeing her have a good time: And this doesn't mean faking an orgasm sort. Basically it's a satisfaction that she's into what she's doing, and I'm able to provide her with even a fraction of the pleasure she's giving me. I do the basic stuff, like try to scrub myself clean, be polite, on time, etc. But during the date, I try my best with daty, asking her what she likes, and massages. If she can enjoy her time, my job is done and I leave feeling like a champ.

 

Turn offs:

 

Unprofessional - One sentence ads, no response.

 

Rigidity - I'm not talking about performing an extra service, or providing extra time or anything of that sort. And I'm being intentionally vague about this, but the closest example I can give is someone here slamming someone else about a question he asked, without looking at the right context. I made up my mind at that moment that I would not see her because despite her good reviews, all I would be thinking from that point on was that hostility. And it's a big turn off for me.

[Capital Hunter 18263]

Great thread Eva.

 

Turn ons

 

1 - perfect looks.

2 - Impeccable hygiene.

3 - Class and graciousness

3 - Educated and talkative

4 - Being safe GFE lots of hugs and kisses.

5 - Being pale and tall with spinner body

6 - Being natural in everything.

7 - Viewing our encounter as date or party rather than transactional sex.

8 - Seeing her having a great time.

9 - An encounter based on equality and mutual respect.

10 - Lovely cuddly passionate and affectionate.

 

 

Turn offs

 

1 - Below average hygiene.

2 - aggressive behaviour.

3 - unstable behaviour (drunk or drugged)

4 - The use of vulgar language (dirty talk)

5 - Below average looks

6 - Breaking pre-agreed promise on services.

7 - making it feel like a transactional sex.

8 - Rushing or clock watching.

9 - Bad skin.

10 - Having lots of tattoos or piercings.

[CristyCurves 169032]

Turn ons

-white teeth-fresh breath

-cleanliness with everything

-humor

-more humor

-humbleness

-confidence

-respect

-someone who appreciates the whole package

-dog lovers

Turn offs

-bad hygiene

-bad manners

-judgemental people

-gossip

-bullies

-troublemakers

-people who diet

-those who refuse to read ads in their entirety and fail to follow their instructions

[piano8950 32577]

 

Turn offs

-people who diet

 

Be my wife. I promise never to diet

[emiafish 30979]

Turn on's

Fun loving attitude

Responsiveness

Authenticity

Imagination

Pleasant scent

Clean kitty (trim & taste)

 

Turn off's

Stink

Bad humour

Wham, bam, thanks man, see ya later!

Interruptions

 

I don't ask for much, but I like to feel like we both are enjoying ourselves.

[Bianca Jaguar 39183]

You mostly said it all Eva...here are mine added

Turn ons:

 

- you open the door and you see a gorgeous smile!

- greetings...hugs...and that smell of perfum on a man...oh lala...drives me nuts! (not any perfume...you know what i mean!)

- a great kisser...soft, gentle, passionnate...

- being touched sofly and gently

- clean shaved...everywhere :p

- hearing the pleasure...major one!

- someone that stimulates my intellect

- whisper naughty sexy words in my ear...mmm

 

Turn offs:

 

- bad kisser

- rough touches

- bad hygiene

- hairy private parts

- multiple texting asking for menu

- rate negotiation...

- not on time...i hate that!

[roamingguy 300292]

Turn On's

-Greeted with a warm smile, hug and kiss-

-The lady should be genuinely happy to be with you and see you.

Yes it is her job, her livelihood, but it shouldn't seem like she is at a job

-Time for sitting down and conversation over drinks. For me an encounter

should be a date, it's more than just seeing a lady for sex

-Undressing one another

-Go with the flow (both the lady and gentleman) The encounter shouldn't feel

scripted. Some of my most memorable encounters were where we were

enjoying our conversation that we spent more time in the living room than

the bedroom (but again for me, an encounter is much more than about sex, it

is about quality time with a lady)

 

Turn Off's

-The lady making it clear she needs the money

-Someone taking a cavalier approach to arriving on time. I'm flexible, if a

lady arrives a couple minutes late no big deal to me. If she is running quite

a few minutes late then call just so I know she hasn't forgotten. But taking

the attitude "I'll show up when I show up" big turn off

-Being disinterested, like over drinks, getting up and looking out a window

and ignoring me (the client)

-Hinting at wanting a recommendation, during the encounter

 

 

 

Just a caveat. Greeted with a hug and kiss, and undressing one another. I know for some ladies they only feel more comfortable doing this after they get to know a client, and won't do that on a first encounter...completely understandable

 

And thrown in for discussion, while a darkened room with candles seems romantic, when I see a lady at my hotel for a outcall, I have the lights all on, bathroom and closet doors opened, so when she comes in, she isn't worried about someone hiding in the shadows. It is more of a turn on to have a lady feel comfortable being alone with you than worried someone might be hiding in the closet (not that that would happen with me)

 

RG

[Guest t****ster***ke]

for me, the single most important factor is the illusion that the financial end of the encounter does not exist. a woman who can make me feel like the $$$ doesn't matter is worth her weight in gold.

[poolasaurus 5877]

Turn ons:

Shaved kitty

Great hygiene

Nonsmoker

Hot looks, fit body, little to no tats or piercings

Dirty talker and attitude

Takes anal like a champ, craves to CIM, rims like she's looking for treasure

 

Turn offs:

Phone keeps beeping

Smokers breath

Hairy bush

Bad teeth

Lies in ad (looks, services misrepresented)

Incall is a dive

Talks too much about realities (kids, money, education, stress...come on, I'm here for a fantasy...be that horny, slutty vixen who's been craving me all day!)

[ngtime 560]

Because I have experienced this lately with an MA

 

Turn-offs

 

1.Telling me you need the money

2. An ordinary message, mechanical

3. Turns away at a kiss on the lips

4, Wants to read me the rules and regulations

5. No teasing, just turn over please.

[johnsvp 523]

The perfect experience would be a lap dancer who I have come to know and bond with, but MORE TIME and a FINISH. I am able to tell who I would like in the champagne room just by watching how they move, their facial and body expressions, how they react to other people and of course what I see in their eyes.

I get very frustrated with SPs because I am unable to assess them like I would a lap dancer as I describe above. Most don't even show their face in their profiles. Another thing that frustrates me is determining how to actually make contact with them. Each one seems to have their own procedures to follow. For example some want a PM, some a phone call, some text messages, etc..

I want to stress that I am not complaining about the SPs. I understand why they do what they do so far as making contact with clients. I just find it frustrating and I usually just end up going to Barb's where I feel comfortable and safe and accept that life has limitations.

[Guest v****nto****]

Personally I absolutely adore when a girl greets me at the door wearing something casual that I can slowly take off. Knowing how to use her hips is also something that is sexy and someone who has great lips is awesome.

 

Turn offs are just people who are all business.

[Blackmont 174]

Bad hygiene is the worst followed by clock watching.

[bk2011 681]

When an SP tries to bait and switch...

 

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[Gru's Minion Kevin 140]

I get turned on by Eva Pearl...

[mywiiwii 110]

Girls with hairy armpits...turns me on AND off all at the same time!

[Guest C****Ru****n]

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