Did you ever get caught?

[Beneath69 120]

OH MY ***,

 

Luck is with me today! And I mean it!

 

Here's the story:

 

Today at lunch, I was supposed to have a great hour of fun and pleasure with one very nice SP.

 

We confirmed our appointment early in the morning.

 

During the morning, I cleaned up my house a bit, took a shower and dresse

d nice with perfum and everything. I prepared my second bedroom for what was supposed to happen.

 

The time that was set was noon.

 

11h30...11h35....11h40 I'm just soo existed and can't wait anylonger!!

 

11h50 BOOM! My Girlfriend calls me and tells me she had a bad news in meeting at work and she's coming home for lunch and for the rest of the afternoon!!

 

PPPPAAAANNNIIICCCC!!!

 

I call my SP, explain everything. Obviously she is not very pleased about it but she understands. Thank god! I manage to postpone our appointment even if she was now 5 minutes from my house.

 

I Rush like crazy to set up everything as it was in the morning and boom! she arrives!

 

I didn't get caugh this time but damn that was close!!

 

It's sad for the SP as she wasted some time. The good thing is that I'm meeting her this friday with no chance of getting caught. I'll get her a nice bottle of wine and we'll chat about it.

 

Same would have happen 10 minutes later, I was DONE!

 

That's my story of the day!

 

Did you guys/girls ever get caught or had any story similar to that!

 

I'm intrigued to hear about you all!

 

Cheers!

 

Ben

[roamingguy 300292]

Moral of the story

"do not try this at home" LOL

RG

[Sweet Emily J 172062]

Moral of the story

"do not try this at home" LOL

RG

 

Funny, but true.

 

I did an outcall once to visit a man at the house he shared with his wife, while she was at work, and it was the most uncomfortable hour of my life. I will never do it again.

 

I don't understand why men try this, and I think it is just asking for trouble. It's almost like sub-consciously they want to get caught. Maybe if she is out of town for the weekend or something, then there's a bit more leeway, but even then, a long blonde hair, the tiny corner of a condom wrapper, a lingering scent, or any number of things could be an easy giveaway. One can dig his own grave, but imagine the awkward and potentially dangerous situation the SP would be put in if wifey comes home early.

 

As cautious as one is, why not just eliminate the possibility altogether and either rent a hotel room, or just do an incall. Playing it safe could also alleviate a lot of unnecessary stress for both parties too. :)

 

To each their own, but in my own life, I try to stay as drama-free as possible and avoid situations when possible that have a high potential for being troublesome.

[Nicolette Vaughn 294340]

Funny, but true.

 

I did an outcall once to visit a man at the house he shared with his wife, while she was at work, and it was the most uncomfortable hour of my life. I will never do it again.

 

I don't understand why people do it, and I think it is just asking for trouble. It's almost like sub-consciously they want to get caught. Maybe if she is out of town for the weekend or something, then there's a bit more leeway, but even then, a long blonde hair, the tiny corner of a condom wrapper, a lingering scent, or any number of things could be an easy giveaway. One can dig his own grave, but imagine the awkward and potentially dangerous situation the SP would be put in if wifey comes home early.

 

As cautious as one is, why not just eliminate the possibility altogether and either rent a hotel room, or just do an incall. Playing it safe could also alleviate a lot of unnecessary stress for both parties too. :)

 

To each their own, but in my own life, I try to stay as drama-free as possible and avoid situations when possible that have a high potential for being troublesome.

 

I've been in this situation but much worse...I was on an outcall as a new SP to a client's home and I was literally walking out the door when his wife pulled up. It wasn't a good scene and the reason why I no longer offer outcalls to a person's home unless I know the client and/or he is single/divorced/widower. Some guys do like to live on the edge and I agree with Emily about some men wanting to get caught.

[loneskater 25635]

Funny, but true.

 

I did an outcall once to visit a man at the house he shared with his wife, while she was at work, and it was the most uncomfortable hour of my life. I will never do it again.

 

I don't understand why people do it, and I think it is just asking for trouble. It's almost like sub-consciously they want to get caught. Maybe if she is out of town for the weekend or something, then there's a bit more leeway, but even then, a long blonde hair, the tiny corner of a condom wrapper, a lingering scent, or any number of things could be an easy giveaway. One can dig his own grave, but imagine the awkward and potentially dangerous situation the SP would be put in if wifey comes home early.

 

As cautious as one is, why not just eliminate the possibility altogether and either rent a hotel room, or just do an incall. Playing it safe could also alleviate a lot of unnecessary stress for both parties too. :)

 

To each their own, but in my own life, I try to stay as drama-free as possible and avoid situations when possible that have a high potential for being troublesome.

 

So true and even for incalls don't leave any traces around like a phone number on a piece of paper in a pocket etc... I have known quite a few ladies who have received calls from angry wives of girlfriends.

[IsaMassage 54318]

Call me a Moralist but if you have a Wife, GF, or any SO that shares the same roof as you, keep it away from home... I believe is a matter of respect for that other person... My opinion..

[muncher459 1040]

Call me a Moralist but if you have a Wife, GF, or any SO that shares the same roof as you, keep it away from home... I believe is a matter of respect for that other person... My opinion..

 

Very well said, everyone talks about showing respect to the SP's, everyone deserves respect. I have been on the other end of a situation like this before and it is a hard pill to swallow. In fact is because of this that I am in a situation where I am free to partake of these wonder honest women, I no longer want the entanglement of a relationship but still enjoy the physical relationship they provide. I have friends who are women but do not want to risk a friendship by becoming romantically involved. Sorry for the rant....but respect and honesty are at the top of my personal qualities list.

[Beneath69 120]

well.. hard to trace the line in terms of respect for any hobbyist that is engaged and still visit some SP. At this point, I don't see how doing it at home or outside makes a difference in terms of respect. In all cases, we're crossing the line.

 

As for doing it at my house instead of doing an Incall, I'm one of those who it's difficult to go out for no specific reasons. We only got a car at home and so we always need to plan everything. And I'm pretty sure it's like that for many guys.

 

I have the opportunity to work from home while my GF works in ottawa and that's why I find more safe doing it at my house and have the time to clean up and erase every traces, even the order.

 

This time was unique as she learned her department is restructuring and she'll have to compete against her colleages to keep her job. Their boss released all of them for the day, after delivering the news...

 

Anyways, Thanks for sharing your thoughts! :)

[roamingguy 300292]

well.. hard to trace the line in terms of respect for any hobbyist that is engaged and still visit some SP. At this point, I don't see how doing it at home or outside makes a difference in terms of respect. In all cases, we're crossing the line.

 

There is a difference. The issue of trust, well obviously your SO does have reason to be mistrustful once she finds out if she finds out. The issue of respect, another matter. Not flaunting your encounters shows some respect for your SO by trying to spare her feelings, even though trust between you two may be gone. Discretely seeing a companion, so your SO doesn't find out is one thing. But seeing a companion where the encounter can be flaunted in the face of your SO, well that is just humiliating and is likely to be devastating your wife/gf. And shows no respect. To further complicate it, you are also dragging the SP into matters that should be only between your SO and you. She agreed to see you, not to face the wrath of your wife. So it also shows lack of respect for the SP you are seeing

Hope that rambling makes sense

RG

[Fresh start 17467]

I never understood this, why does the wife or so other always get pissed at the other lady? Shouldn't she be pissed at her husband or boyfriend he's the one who cheated or broke her trust. How is it the sp fault? Like she forced him to have sex with her? I don't think so! Never understood why the third party person be the one getting the shit or drama.

I understand when your mad you're not always thinking things through but I still don't get it. Woman would you be made at the other woman, how about you guys if it were reversed? Sure I wouldn't like the guy but I wouldn't blame him.

This is just my two sense.

[Beneath69 120]

I think I'd be pissed at my GF and just want to guy to leave ASAP. If the guy tries to handle the situation or tries to get involve in the discussion, I'd start to be very mad at him push him so he gets the **** out.

 

Good point RG, but having the SP coming home is the only way for my the be an hobbyist of this. Guess I'll have to refine my planning and organization to avoid any bad situation like that.

 

Ben

[PhantomKnight 7914]

Closest I was to getting caught was when I had visited Toronto.

 

My ex fiancée was visiting the next day so I knew I had the night to myself in the hotel room. I booked a well respected lady and she came over and we had a blast. It had been an hour and a bit after the encounter and my fiancée at the time showed up and knocked on my door.

 

I almost had a heart attack trying to clean up the room in the minute or less I had. Haha.

 

Adrenaline rush for sure!

[Athos 108589]

I once booked an appointment. Got the address, realized it seemed reasonably close to my wife's office building. Indeed, it was the condo complex built overtop of my wife's workplace. While there was a separate entrance to the condo area, I was extremely anxious coming and going. I didn't book with that lady again, and explained to her the reason.

 

Porthos

[emiafish 30979]

I'm still breathing, so no I've never been caught by a SO. I'm careful enough to schedule play dates outside the home unless my SO is out of town. Even then I rarely incall at my home.

 

I was once caught, BIG TIME, by my parents when I was a young lad. I had just moved back home temporarily after returning from living abroad. During the transition from home to my own diggs, I hosted a young lady at my family home while my folks were away for the weekend. We were young, horny and energetic. We fucked on just about every flat surface in the house. We were in the middle of round ten or twelve on a blanket in front of the living room fireplace when, without warning, the front door opened.

 

The look on my mother's face was anti-Medusian, it instantly turned my cock of stone into over cooked pasta. My lady friend covered her charms with the blanket while I dashed in search of a pair of shorts or pants or a kimono or anything to hide my embare-ass-ment. Extremely awkward introductions followed. My lady and I made a quick exit, although I was forced to face the parental units again to ask my father to move his car. It just kept getting worse. Upon my return I faced a lecture about respect and discretion that I remember to this day.

 

Luckily, they never discovered all our love making sites. Though I suspect my father knew something was up when I smiled every time dinner was served on our dining room table. :bddog:

[Frank7 3939]

I think I'd be pissed at my GF and just want to guy to leave ASAP.

Ben

 

I probably won't be popular for saying that....but I really don't get it. I get that a lot of people here doesn't believe in monogamy. But if you think it's okay for you to go elsewhere, how could you pissed at your GF for doing the same? Seems hypocritical and sexist....

[Beneath69 120]

Well, I've been with my GF for quite a number of years now so I do know her pretty well.

She is clearly a conservatism when it comes to intimate relations and love. If I catch her with someone else, that clearly means she has changed her mind about her feelings and how she sees the future with me. That is clearly the opposite with me.Seeing SPs and have sex with someone else has no effect on how I feel about my GF.

 

Many monogamists don't believe in this (my GF included). Therefore, I have to hide this part of me from her to stay in this relationship (that I want to stay in). With the exception of this aspect, we are pretty much a perfect fit for everything else.

 

I guess this is how I explain why my reaction would be bad If I catch her with someone else

 

 

Ben

[IsaMassage 54318]

Ben, by reading your previous post... And in my opinion as a Woman, I am almost positive that if you were to get caught with another woman (SP or just a woman unhapoened to meet on the street) your GF would have an easier time understanding and forgiving if she catches you out ofbyour home. You have to remember this is a space that you BOTH SHARE! as a couple! It is not just your personal space, it is Hers as well!!

 

This again is my opinion, but for what you describe she is a conservative person and knowing that you brought someone else into your home.... Would make things worse...

 

V

 

Ps: guys keep sharing stories!

[nntsci 11076]

I've never nearly got caught in the act of doing it. The two closest I've come is

 

(1) Once when I was a newby, I had written down the location and access code as well as the agency name and phone on a piece of paper and left it folded up in my pocket and found it a week later after it had been through the wash -- unreadable. That was a close call, Yikes! I now write down as little as possible so that all she would see if the access code or whatever... never the location or agency or phone number.

 

(2) I was on the cerb web site one evening writing a message and my wife came into my office area in the house. I quick switched tabs. She asked me about something. While she was standing beside me, I could see that on the bottom of the screen was a tab which read clearly "CERB escort". I had to search for something on the web for her and all the time I was thinking -- I really hope she doesn't glance down to the bottom of the screen. I recall noticing she didn't have her glasses on and I was trying to remember if she needs reading glasses or not (she does, but not as badly as I do). Anyway, I solved that problems by upgrading to Windows 7 which doesn't show the various web pages as separate tabs on the bottom of the screen (but does have them on the top if you have multiple tabs). A similar thing happened another time (now In Windows 7) when she asked me to check our bank balance and I went to open a new tab and it opens a scene that shows your frequent sites you visit and I briefly saw that one of the frequent tabs was "Garden of Eden Escorts" oops. Time to delete my history. Anyway, I'm glad I'm very fast at doing things on the computer, so it was only on the screen for a few microseconds and as far as I know she didn't notice.

 

Sometimes I have thought that I may sub-consciously want to get caught. I have taken a few risks, but most often I'm pretty careful.

 

I actually suspect my wife knows I see other gals (not sure if she thinks I pay for it).

 

There are a few reasons.

First she knows I had an affair 26 years ago. We reconciled, but surprisingly she never mentions it. Even when we have an argument over sometime she never brings up the past and never mentioned that incident. I think that is actually because she's a social worker and understands that bringing up past wrongs just escalates a argument into a more serious battle. I've recently come to appreciate how lucky I am that she doesn't dig up the past. Anyway my point is she knows I'm capable of cheating on her.

 

Second, she sometimes teases me about my careless spending and keeps her own income in her own account (guarded jealously). That's fine with me as long as she pays her credit card bills with her income. So she makes sure I don't have a lot of spare cash to have fun with.

 

Third, another thing is that we use condom at home for our rare sexual encounters in spite of being 50. The use of condoms is because we found out when we were much younger that we were excessively fertile and had 3 accidental kids in spite of other forms of birth control. But I suspect that fertility has passed.

 

Fourth, I sort of told her. I have joked about wanting to go to a professional. She took it as a joke, but may have realized I wasn't actually joking.

 

Anyway she doesn't complain or act suspiciously.

 

If I found that my wife was having an affair, I Think, I'd probably think. "Good for her"... maybe she'll learn something new!!!

[Beneath69 120]

V

Trust me, If she catches me or believes I did that type of thing. She'll not be close to forgive. It's a dead end 200% sure. She's very conservative about this concept.

 

And As I said, this is the only place where I can make it happen. I'm just going to be even more careful with my planning. I'm already a super freak of eliminating every traces.. lol I even take pictures of areas where I move stuff so I can replace the exact way it was. It got a bunch of things to eliminate orders, etc.. and to combine the hobby and my regular life. I'll just be more careful with the ''time planning'' to avoid any issue like I had.

 

Ben

 

Additional Comments:

Nice one nntsci!

 

Quick Tip:

-Always surf with Inrivate browssing (Tools menu, on Internet Explorer). It won't keep any history, cookies or temporary files.

-Always have a second internet explorer open to another site so if she comes in, you can quit the page quickly and it still shows internet explorer on another page. I'll be viewed as you were loading a page...

-I don't even take any note. all on my email secret account that I connect with the inprivate browing open (on iphone or cpu)

 

Additional Comments:

Nice one too Phantom,

 

Adrenaline rush for sure! You had like 1 Min wow.. I would have had a heart attack!!

 

Fortunately for my story that happened yesterday I had like 20 minutes to clean up. I was sweating like a pig & running everywhere.. I managed to have 5 minutes to cool down..hehe

 

Ben

[nntsci 11076]

Had a close call yesterday. Yesterday I met up with an SP. We had a great hour together and I left and started my way towards the nearest subway. There was a path through a little park. Suddenly I recognized a man on the pathway... It was my daughter's boyfriend. He smiled and said "hi, what brings you to this part of the city." I had to think fast. I said I had a meeting up here and I'm headed back to the subway. He said my daughter was working late on a project and if I wanted to say hi. So we walked to her office. I knew my daughter worked in the general area but not specifically where. I had thought it might be possible I bump into her and already had an excuse... I'm meeting with someone. Anyway I didn't think she would be working that late. It turns out her office is right near the subway I was headed to. The SP and I had shared a glass of wine and I realized I must smell of wine. So I quickly popped in a stick of gum. So the three of us stood in her office for a few minutes chatting. I know that the key to lying is to have a story ready, have details available, keep it as close to the truth as possible, not contradict yourself, and not be too eager to blurt out the lie, but let it come out naturally. Anyway. I told her a bit about my meeting... based on an actual meeting I had had with someone earlier that day. I was ready with an explanation of the wine if necessary and why we would be meeting in that part of town... Namely because it was a nice summer afternoon, that we decided to have the meeting in a bar -- something that does occasionally happen. The only real weakness is that I don't know of a specific bar in the area that I could mention. Anyway, she didn't seem suspicious, finger crossed. But I'm not out of the wood yet; she's and her guy are coming home to visit this weekend. Hopefully she won't mention the event on the weekend.

[nntsci 11076]

Had a close call yesterday. Yesterday I met up with an SP. We had a great hour together and I left and started my way towards the nearest subway. There was a path through a little park. Suddenly I recognized a man on the pathway... It was my daughter's boyfriend. He smiled and said "hi, what brings you to this part of the city." I had to think fast. I said I had a meeting up here and I'm headed back to the subway. He said my daughter was working late on a project and if I wanted to say hi. So we walked to her office. I knew my daughter worked in the general area but not specifically where. I had thought it might be possible I bump into her and already had an excuse... I'm meeting with someone. Anyway I didn't think she would be working that late. It turns out her office is right near the subway I was headed to. The SP and I had shared a glass of wine and I realized I must smell of wine. So I quickly popped in a stick of gum. So the three of us stood in her office for a few minutes chatting. I know that the key to lying is to have a story ready, have details available, keep it as close to the truth as possible, not contradict yourself, and not be too eager to blurt out the lie, but let it come out naturally. Anyway. I told her a bit about my meeting... based on an actual meeting I had had with someone earlier that day. I was ready with an explanation of the wine if necessary and why we would be meeting in that part of town... Namely because it was a nice summer afternoon, that we decided to have the meeting in a bar -- something that does occasionally happen. The only real weakness is that I don't know of a specific bar in the area that I could mention. Anyway, she didn't seem suspicious, finger crossed. But I'm not out of the wood yet; she's and her guy are coming home to visit this weekend. Hopefully she won't mention the event on the weekend.

Well, I pre-empted the situation the next day by casually mentioning to my wife that I saw my daughter the day before on my way home. That way, there would be no awkward surprise if daughter mentioned it to her on the weekend. Daughter never brought it up, but it was a relief to have prepared just in case. I'm getting too good at this leading a double life thing... maybe its all those years of reading spy novels by John le Carre.

[mrgreen760 37785]

On a New Years day a few years back I visited a local r/t massage shop. Met a new attendant to me at least and it was one of those times where 2 people just clicked and enjoyed a more erotic type session that was the norm. That evening my SO and I attended a New Year's Eve dinner with a large group some I didn't know. We arrived a little late and there were spots for 2 couples at the end of a long table. I was in a conversation when the last couple arrived, I turned to do introductions and low and behold it was the attendant from earlier and her date. I immediately introduced myself to make sure our "stage"names weren't used. And it made an evening of small talk interesting to say the least. Saw her a couple times after and we marveled at how we managed to stay so cool.

 

That's the the closest that I know of.....

 

Peace

MG

[zoro1990 806]

My grand father caught me it was very embarrassing

[Guest A*ro**n]

My grand father caught me it was very embarrassing

 

Now the question is, did you catch your grandfather at the same time?

[nntsci 11076]

My wife asked me to send a file for her using my scanner because she doesn't know how to use a scanner. I went to the directory to attach a file and up on the screen was a number of naked and semi-naked images of women... ooooppppps. Some of which were escorts I had seen. Of course, all the images were of the highest artistic standard. They were on a memory stick that I never leave in the computer... except that day.

 

I quickly changed directories but she saw the images and asked me "What's that?"

I say being as casual as I can, "I like porn".

She says "Since when."

I replied, "Since always."

No trace of anger or upset. I think she was somewhat amused.

 

I attached the file that I had just scanned and sent it for her...

Since then she hasn't mentioned it at all.

That was a couple weeks ago.