An immenent situation regarding a friend of mine.

[bcguy42 38594]

How would I tell her parents the fact? Her parents will come to me to ask about the matter before going to her. I don't want to deflect the matter, nor do I want to cause a confrontation between her and her parents. How should I handle this?

 

I've been on the road most of today and happened to read this fairly early on and, since my mind is not otherwise occupied whilst driving, I've given it a lot of thought.

 

Now these many hours later, you should realize you've gotten some good advice here. All of the responses were good and I really like Cat's.

 

And now, rereading the exact wording of your OP, it comes to me that you are actually asking "Is there a way I can light my cigarette in this small shed full of dynamite and open barrels of gasoline without blowing my butt to the next county?"

 

Here's some advice (worth what you paid for it) based exactly on how you worded your question - how do you handle it? You don't. What you have described is a lose - lose situation and by finding yourself in the middle, you've already lost. There is a train or bus out of town every hour, on the hour.

 

Good luck with that. YMMV and all that.

[Nicolette Vaughn 294340]

My advice is stay out of it and don't tell anyone. It is not your duty to let them know. Only hers. If you are a true friend, you WILL lie for her and have her back. Not much of a friend if you don't. What allegiance do you have with her parents over your so called friend? I'm sure you've bluffed, fudged or white lied about something so why not this? We've all been there. I don't know.. but asking this question is a no brainer.. at least if it were me. I'm loyal to my true friends.

[zcmy 280]

My lips are sealed. Her parents and other friends won't find out unless she tells them directly. I have no say in the matter and will not touch upon the matter.