Industry Differences

[Midnite-Energies 110563]

I was reading a thread this morning from someone out of country coming to visit us and asking about a lady to visit. He had asked specifically about someone who provides GFE and clarified that where he's from it's called "Illusion of Passion". It struck me as rather sad when and "Illusion" is advertised. Yes, this industry has the element of fantasy to it. You can be drawn to someone who excites you, talk about your desires, meet and explore and enjoy for a little while BUT while it may be a fantasy, you are getting honest responses and reactions which is not an illusion of passion, it IS passion.

 

Is this just a cultural difference in advertising verbiage or do people actually feel like there is an illusion in this country? Do you feel like you're having an honest experience more times than not? I would think an experience that is felt to be an illusion wouldn't make for many repeats.

[Guest webothscore]

Great topic. I think both parties will play a role. Quite simply, if a client goes in with a stress free and open mind while the provider really does enjoy what she/he is doing, the vibe will no doubt be great, therefore, the "illusion" so to speak gets negated to some degree, maybe even all.

[Nippongakki 3843]

You can't fake passion. Period. It is the X factor (at least for me) that separates the ok experiences from the mind blowing ones. More so than any physical or even personality traits, it's the passion while in the act that keeps me coming (cumming?) back for more.

 

Just my 2 cents.

[roamingguy 300292]

I don't find it to be an illusion at all. But keep your head on straight so it isn't a delusion either. For a set period of time a woman, a beautiful woman is with you intimately. But instead of needing to promise her a ring, marriage etc, it is an escape for a certain amount time for a certain amount of money. Not an illusion, it is the most honest male/female relationship that exists IMHO and it is real

A rambling

RG

[Guest *Ste***cque**]

Meg Ryan might disagree with you, Nippongakki. :)

 

I do think women can fake passion, at least in this circumstance, and men are not good at detecting it because it feeds our ego. To me GFE is similar to role-playing. Not much different than doctor/patient or boss/secretary encounters. I think "Illusion of Passion" is a more honest description, since the SP is clearly not your girlfriend. She may "act" like your girlfriend for the hour long experience but it is an "illusion of passion".

 

Respectfully, ;)

 

Steve

[Eric Northman 16522]

I think that most of the women here enjoy sex and intimacy very much so if you have chemistry and are a considerate lover, I don't see any reason why there couldn't be real passion. Yes, there may be some acting in some cases but that doesn't mean the experience can never be genuine.

[McGuinessDraft 2240]

It is the X factor (at least for me) that separates the ok experiences from the mind blowing ones...

 

 

+1

I think that is the key phrase. Anyone who is receptive to body language or social interaction will be able to tell the difference between the illusion and sincerity, and I think that's what will make the difference in the encounter.

[Guest]

I tried to explain this in the best way I could on my blog.

 

Here is what I wrote. This is just my opinion about some of the very real relationships I have developed in the industry.

 

What is a mutually beneficial relationship? Do all clients become involved in a mutually beneficial relationship? Is this a relationship or a business transaction? Here are some of my thoughts about relationships that develop within the girlfriend experience.

 

Escort relationships are made to be easy, made to be that escape from life and although they are a business transaction they can in fact be real relationships full of intimacy, bonds and connections. I think the fact that these relationships are so forth coming and the fact that these relationships have clear boundaries are the reason why they are so appealing. Perhaps this will be the relationship of choice of the future. I see nothing wrong with this transaction because both parties are clear about their wants. Escort/client relationships only have a few rules in order for them to work. The escort gets paid, each party respects each others private life, and the client gets affection/a sexual experience. The fact of the matter is that many experiences include social interaction and go far beyond the bedroom. The rules set in place before the transaction ensure that this relationship does not get out of control. Respect for each others boundaries and maintaining a fresh and renewed relationship are the only things required to maintain a mutually beneficial relationship. It is much easier to maintain rather than a traditional relationship manly because of the removal of expectations, this makes the mutually beneficial relationships so easy. These types of relationships can last for months to years and are quite easy to maintain providing that everyone is on the same page. The Best part of these relationships are that they are not complicated and no one has to sacrifice anything. The relationship is simplified to I enjoy spending time with this person and I relate to this person. If at anytime feelings change the relationship is terminated in a cordial way and although this can sometimes be upsetting, it is far less messy than traditional relationships.

 

The fact of the matter is that I do not have a mutually beneficial relationship with every client that I see. Why is that? Well, it is just like any other kind of relationship. You connect with some people on a deeper level and things naturally transition to the next phase of the girlfriend experience. This does not mean that there are no boundaries and that that the rules are out the window. It just means that there is now a deeper trust and that opens the door for many new and exciting things. Building trust with someone takes time and a strong connection. It means that you trust this person to take you in public and that your identity will remain private. It means that you trust to stay overnight in different and strange cities and it means that the both parties will conduct themselves accordingly.

 

Yes, this is a business transaction and the client does pay for his time. However, this does not mean that sessions have to be robotic and done without any thoughts or feelings. It is not uncommon to develop a deep feeling of appreciation and respect for the people you spend the most time with. As a matter of fact I get excited and I anticipate pre-booked sessions with clients I have bonded with as much, if not more than them. I enjoy this so much more than one night stands. It is easier for both parties because we are upfront and honest about our needs and wants. Sometimes in the conventional way of dating we do a dance around what we really want and or need. This eliminates all of that and the no nonsense approach to this style of girlfriend experience ensures that both parties leave satisfied.

 

I hope you enjoyed reading my thoughts about relationships that develop within the girlfriend experience. It is important that we feel special, needed and taken care of. An escort of your choice can more than take care of you mentally and sexually while maintaining healthy boundaries.

[olderguy 5797]

My guess is that where ever the gentleman is from, one must ask for the illusion of passion as that's as good as it gets. Having lived in Europe for awhile, I would suggest that Canadian SP's are much better to spend time with than their European counterparts. And I'm not just saying that because I'm a Nationalistic bastard!!

[mrgreen760 37785]

The illusion of passion for sure and just like any other gig there days you're into it and days you aren't. Some do hide it better than others is all and I'm ok with that. Afteral this is a business first and often referred to as sex work..

 

Peace

MG