Just Curious

[Guest M**th**d]

Ok I am just curious. I know the MP's and SP's for the most part on this site do everything they can to make us comfortable, and happy during a session. They also would like to make us want to repeat. I am just wondering though how many SP's are sincere when and if they compliment the size or appearance of their client's member. I have been offered many nice compliments and quite frankly I always doubt them when they say it. LOL. Maybe I am just insecure, but I have always been kind of self conscious about this part of my anatomy. So i guess my question is this. How many of you girls would lie to make a guy feel better? Then again should this even really matter? I have enjoyed my time with just about every girl I have met. It just throws me a little whenever I get a compliment because I have a hard time accepting them as the truth LOL. Any thoughts?:confused:

[antlerman 17064]

Meathead....I do not want to seem harsh...or rude.....

But these lovely ladies are running a business....and part of thier business is to make you feel special and welcome....and they are good at it for the most part.....

 

So take it as it is....a compliment to you from them......

 

People in this world have a hard time taking a compliment....they always second guess it....when some one says something nice...accept it for what it is...a compliment....

 

do not worry what or if it being compared to another .....enjoy the moment and the feeling a compliment gives you....

[Andee 220524]

I am not in the habit of commenting on a client's member.

 

Occasionally a client will ask me what I think of the shape or size.

 

If I can't thing of anything complimentary to say, I just say something kind of vague or try to distract his attention.

 

One guy who asked me, had 6.5 or 7 inches uncut didn't seem to believe me when I told him I thought his size was perfect as I don't like overly big ones because they hurt.

 

It's true, some people have a hard time taking a compliment even if it is true. So we can't win!

[buggernot 588]

If a girl even hints at you being mediocre in any way, chances are you won't repeat. That's what we have wives and girlfriends for...SP's generally want to make you feel special.

 

Maybe you are a sexual dynamo, maybe you're not...try not to think about or let it go to your head either way ;)

[YoungStud 468]

Yep, they are going to tell you want you want to hear. Whether it's just good business or just trying to be polite or kind - or all the above. Pencil dick and pimple dick are not part of SP's vocabulary when a client is in the room. Lol.

[fortunateone 156618]

I am not in the habit of commenting on a client's member.

 

Occasionally a client will ask me what I think of the shape or size.

 

If I can't thing of anything complimentary to say, I just say something kind of vague or try to distract his attention.

 

One guy who asked me, had 6.5 or 7 inches uncut didn't seem to believe me when I told him I thought his size was perfect as I don't like overly big ones because they hurt.

 

It's true, some people have a hard time taking a compliment even if it is true. So we can't win!

 

I totally agree. The only time I mention to someone that they are larger is when I am trying to squeeze them into an XL condom lol. If they are not above average, I wouldn't tell them they are. If their skin is particularly smooth and silky or nicely shaped, etc, I would mention it. I am not an overly effusive person; I limit my compliments to real compliments and do not overembellish as I too do not want to hear fakery.

 

If more than one person is saying the same thing, take it as a compliment and as true, too. If I meet up with someone with little experience, not used to condoms, etc, and they are well above average in size, part of why I would mention something is to let them know that when they buy condoms for themselves, to make sure they get large sizes, to make sure any sps they visit have larger sizes too.

[Guest W***ledi*Time]

I am just wondering though how many SP's are sincere when and if they compliment .... How many of you girls would lie to make a guy feel better? Then again should this even really matter? ....

 

People in all situations of life use compliments for many things. A well-placed compliment can be a powerful thing. Smooth-talking the client is just plain good business practice, no matter the industry. In any situation where the person who is doing the buttering-up has something to (potentially) gain by it, the butteree can never be quite sure of its ultimate sincerity, no matter how "real" it sounds (or may in fact be). That's just part of general life.

 

Compliments are also an art form that I admire. First, they have to be believable. For instance, sticking with the original subject of the thread: no-one has ever been foolhardy enough to tell me I'm "big" -- such a compliment would be just too beyond-the-pale. I've had a couple of "it's just the right size" comments artfully and "spontaneously" moaned in my ear. These last got full credit in my books, because even if it's not "true", it's at least within the realm of possibility. (Note: A compliment can be sincerely motivated without its being factually true (i.e., even if it's technically a "lie"), and, on the other hand, it can be factually true without being sincerely motivated.)

 

Second, compliments must be doled out judiciously, in just the right amount. Too many compliments (no matter how believable or sincere each individual one may be) and the client's bullshit detector will start clanging. Too few compliments, and the client may assume this means the provider is indifferent to his repeat business -- in other words, that the client wasn't even judged by the provider as being worth the effort of thinking up a compliment for.

 

Of course in this case, fantasy is exactly what you're paying for. A good escort must be a good actor. The escort is, after all, in the business of creating an Experience for the client (with the client's co-operation). Like good poetry (and much else in life), it's best to simply enjoy the experience first, and not try to over-analyze it.

 

So much for theory. In practice, I confess that sometimes it's just good clean irresistible fun to sit down afterwards and try to pry apart the fantasy to see how it works inside. And sometimes I find that the harder it is to tell which parts are "acting" and which parts are "real", the better it is for me. Uncertainty is one of the fascinating spices of life.

[etasman2000 15994]

I recently asked someone going thru acting school how would I know that in a relationship with an actor/actress that they just aren't acting. She does the Method which is perhaps one of the best acting techniques out there, enough to even fool inexperience profilers.

 

Her reply was, you know it is true by being with the person long enough to get 'inside' them.

 

We all act. Every moment of our lives we act:

 

All the world's a stage,

And all the men and women merely players;

They have their exits and their entrances;

And one man in his time plays many parts,

 

What is important here is how you are after the compliment, at the moment it is given. Everything else is secondary.

 

Finally I find it discourteous to say that a SP is just creating a fantasy and acting when we are with them. Being humans with human emotions and feeling and biology the events a SP experiences might be/are as real for them as well.

[Annessa 22743]

ugh, the idea that all SPs are actresses kinda irks me. I really do enjoy what I do and only give out compliments where they are deserved. I would never want to be accused of bullshitting a client or being fake. we are here to make you fellas feel wonderful....but blowing smoke up anyones rear is simply a waste of their (and our) time.

[Guest]

We tend to accept the negative to be true and the positive to be some kind of joke. I get all kinds of complements in this business. If the clients mean it. I don't know but it sure feels nice at the moment.

 

Maybe instead of analyzing the situation. Why don't you take the complement and let it make you feel good. That is what you are there for, right? To feel good, better, relieved, whatever.

 

I advertise gfe and I like to be your girlfriend for the hour(s) that you see me. I like to talk, cuddle, dance and do everything I think a good gf should do. A lot of the time I end up having a good time to. So I will complement the client and yes I do mean it.

 

I don't coment on penis size unless it is a really big one. So take the complement hun and have fun.

[E*****s**r 210]

Self confidence is something a lot of people have problems with. You have to appreciate who you are and what you have, before anyone else can.

That is the issues I see here. Peachy has the right idea and likely the best advice you can get on this topic but I digress.

 

If it helps you just remember, there is always someone in a worse situation than yourself; which in itself is all a matter of perspective.

 

Confidence. Confidence. Confidence.

 

If someone tells you your "member" is great, accept it; fact or fiction.

If they don't mention it, so what? Do you need to be judged, especially in situations like these. I don't think you do.

The same applies for a woman and her bust; only she can't hide that. (and omit surgery, as that is another discussion)

If we were all meant to be the same, we would be.

I like ketchup on my burgers but not my pancakes. ;)

 

Some women can't stand a guy with a smaller one and some can't stand larger ones. You don't always need a large member to enjoy yourself. You DO need to accept what/who you are to enjoy yourself.

 

(side note for anyone who's interested)

For the guys: Women only have about 6.5inchs of room, on average, before you hit their uteran wall; which is when the fun stops for her.

For the ladies: Once you hit the big O, this area is flooded with hormones that allow it to stretch slightly and accomodate larger "members" a bit more enjoyably.

[Andee 220524]

Why do men with big ones think that's so special? You can't deep throat and sometimes it hurts....

[E*****s**r 210]

Why do men with big ones think that's so special? You can't deep throat and sometimes it hurts....

 

It was not my intention to glorify anyone..

I myself am not a member of the "large.incharge" society and I'm confident enough to share that fact, however

In answer to your question:

 

The same reason most smaller/thinner women (speaking outside the realm of service providers) think they are that much better than women who aren't...

We are all told what is normal and no one questions it. That is society's problem. Everyone needs to open their eyes and figure out that their opinion matters to the person it needs too..

 

Themselves.

[Guest S**r***e]

Thats why I think I like SP's so much. I know they aren't going to judge you and they make you feel comfortable every time. There are so many excellent ladies on this site, chances are if they are paying you a compliment....they mean it! If they don't give you any compliments....so what, at least they didn't call you down and chances are you had fun anyway. Keep on rolling and take the compliments as that...a compliment.

[Guest M**th**d]

I knew this conversation would turn out the way it did which is good. It's always nice to get a bunch of people's opinion on something and learn different angles to look at something. Thanks all for your input. I was never really worried either way. Just like the title of the thread suggested...I was just curious.8)

[Annessa 22743]

its funny tho....on the flipside I've had a coupke clients I've seen get overly vocal and complimentary towards me....when my spidey sense knew it was feigned.

 

reason being I'm not a spinner by any means, have a nice amount of meat on my bum, but they would go out of their way to state "oh yeah! look at that tight little ass!" and then would come the comments about my "glorious rack"...I'm sorry, I'm a 36/A, 34/B.....often I had wondered if they had memorized too many porn movies and that it was what they thought they were supposed to say....or that because of some kinda stereotype of workers in general that we needed to have our egos fed?

 

needless to say these clients never called again, but I didnt loose any sleep over it, however being on *that* side of the fence it puts better into perspective that you dont need to find something to say just because.

 

on cerb we say "say something nice or dome say anything at all"

 

in a session its of the utmost importance (both ways) to say something nice but only if you can stand behind it truthfully.

[Andee 220524]

It was not my intention to glorify anyone...

 

I was not implying you were. It just got me thinking about guys with big dicks who go around bragging about it, assuming that's what all women like.

 

I actually had a guy e-mail me looking for a freebie because he was so well endowed.

[cat 262460]

There is something wonderful in everyone, we simply have to be willing to see it. I don't ever offer a compliment that is not felt. I put my all into every appointment even when I know my guest will not be a repeat guest. Ooooing and Ahhhing over attributes to simply try and get a guest to return to me is absurd. I don't want someone to return unless I genuinely enjoy them, so why would I offer fake compliments? Everyone is unique and that is what is wonderful about the human beingness that is all of us. Why so suspicious? Why can't we just enjoy the moment and take a compliment for the positive contribution it is?

 

Cat

[Guest s******ecan****]

If a girl even hints at you being mediocre in any way, chances are you won't repeat. That's what we have wives and girlfriends for.. ;)

 

Spewed my coffee when I read that one...so true!

[canuckhooker 19203]

its funny tho....on the flipside I've had a coupke clients I've seen get overly vocal and complimentary towards me....when my spidey sense knew it was feigned.

 

Damn.. was I that transparent? :-P I am j/k.

 

Actually you make a good point Annessa, and it works both sides of the fence. I have had MAs for example (not at CMJ) that put on the "oh big boy" show.. and moan etc.. when I am not even touching them. I would rather they interacted more appropriately, and didn't play the role they think we want from cheap porn. Don't be indifferent.. but don't act fake. I am not tiny or deformed, but I seriously doubt the sight of my cock is going to inspire instant orgasms just from looking at it.. :lol:

[E*****s**r 210]

I actually had a guy e-mail me looking for a freebie because he was so well endowed.

 

Seriously?

I have no words for how much that made me feel sorry for him.

[NotchJohnson 214129]

Damn.. was I that transparent? :-P I am j/k.

 

Actually you make a good point Annessa, and it works both sides of the fence. I have had MAs for example (not at CMJ) that put on the "oh big boy" show.. and moan etc.. when I am not even touching them. I would rather they interacted more appropriately, and didn't play the role they think we want from cheap porn. Don't be indifferent.. but don't act fake. I am not tiny or deformed, but I seriously doubt the sight of my cock is going to inspire instant orgasms just from looking at it.. :lol:

 

I had a massage done to me at an oriental massage parlour and the small asian MA said after I removed my robe that I was like a horse down there. This is only IMHO because these girls body are not intended to take normal size penis.

Ever since that time my friends call me horse and it's not because I run fast.LOL

[Guest C*****tte]

I find it a little funny to compliment something that you are basically born with, or rather, have developed naturally.

 

Compliments on things we acquire through hard work and commitment or positive personality traits such as kindness and empathy make more sense to me.

[caveman 147]

I find it a little funny to compliment something that you are basically born with, or rather, have developed naturally.

 

Compliments on things we acquire through hard work and commitment or positive personality traits such as kindness and empathy make more sense to me.

 

I don't know, would it be weird to compliment someone on their beautiful blue eyes?

 

Of course, my eyes are brown, so I could just be full of shit... :-)

[Guest C*****tte]

I see what you are saying. There are compliments that work for one's appearance. Nice eyes, nice smile... but with genitals it seems to be pushing it a bit much. Especially when there is such focus on certain penis shapes and sizes in porn and certain standard genital looks in women.

 

They are all pretty to me.