Showing your face pictures

[Meaghan McLeod 179664]

I am looking to find out how people feel about face pics. More important, for those that choose not to show their face, is this a deal breaker?

 

I don't show my face on the internet or otherwise - ever. Even a selfie I send from my phone. There are many reasons, firstly is that I love going to the States, and they use facial recognition. If they are able to show that I am an escort, they will deny entry and ban me from entering ever again. I also have family that I choose not to let them know what I do.

 

I have worried about everything from my pic being blasted all over the internet, to my own personal safety. I don't live in a large city, people know everyone where I live, and if they saw my face on an ad or website, they would know right away what I do, but I wouldn't know that they know what I do, until they do something.

 

I have no problems with those that show their face. They are amazingly beautiful and brave in my opinion.

 

What is your opinion?

[roamingguy 300292]

Absolutely not a deal breaker by any stretch of the imagination. For some ladies they are comfortable showing photos of their face, and those ladies should be respected for doing so

But there are many ladies who chose not to show their faces and they too should be respected for that decision. Many enter this profession just for a short time. Many hold other jobs. Some have families And a lot do not want photos of their faces or knowledge that they were in this lifestyle to come out publically.

There is an old adage, once a picture is posted on the internet, it is there for good. And some ladies don't want a picture of their face (associated with this lifestyle) to come back at a future date to haunt them, like maybe when they are no longer involved with this lifestyle.

So my opinion, a lady should do what she is comfortable doing, and whatever decision she comes to, it needs to be respected

A rambling

RG

[Brad 49548]

What a lady shows in her pictures is her choice--and rightfully so!--and there should be no pressure to show any more (or less) than she likes and is comfortable with.

 

Speaking personally, do I like seeing face pics? Sure. There's so much more expression and personality that can be seen from a face. And how many times do we compliment someone on their eyes or smiles? It's hard not to admire or be drawn to a face.

 

But is not seeing a face picture a deal-breaker? Absolutely not! As has been pointed out, there are simply too many reasons why it is understandable someone would choose not to.

 

Moreover, there are just so many factors--many non-physical I might add--which can attract. Plus, think of the flip side: not seeing someone's face can add an enticing air of mystery. Our imaginations are such that sometimes what you don't see can be as exciting as what you do, and leaving a little unknown appeals to many.

 

So yeah, I guess that could mean it's a win-win. :) In any event, each person has their boundaries and should only do what they are comfortable with.

[fortunateone 156618]

I hope it isn't a deal breaker, since I think the majority of clients would soon find themselves out of sps to see. I haven't seen a significant increase of legit (as in not using fake pics) sps using face pics, and there has always been both a combination of sps who are new to the biz and doing it without understanding the consequences in the future along with the higher end type escorts where this is actually the norm rather than the exception.

 

For most of us, it isn't an option to even consider. I'd certainly never agree to send over the internet a photo of myself to a potential client. I find the main reason guys even ask for any pics is they are up to no good, picture collectors, not legit callers, etc.

 

 

I suggested to someone else once who is OK with face pics but had the same cross border concerns you have to put the pics into a private gallery on her site, and then the only ones who gain access to the face photos have to go thru her first, register on her site, or whatever they would have to do. That would keep her face pic from just being out there easily accessible to border security or even family members doing some kind of tin eye search (i don't know why they would do this, people are strange, especially when they are family, it is just an example of what's the worst that could happen lol)

[Brad 49548]

I hope it isn't a deal breaker, since I think the majority of clients would soon find themselves out of sps to see.

 

That made me think of something else: can you imagine if turn-about was fair play and there was an expectation that clients were expected to post their face pictures online too?

[Guest realnicehat]

That made me think of something else: can you imagine if turn-about was fair play and there was an expectation that clients were expected to post their face pictures online too?

 

To be honest, I think I'd feel more comfortable posting a face pic that a half naked body pic.......really gotta get to the gym.

 

In regards to the original question, not even remotely a deal breaker.

[Gregallen 120]

I was just about to suggest that. Kind of a show me yours I will show you mine.

 

I never thought about facial recognition and border crossing... I feel like such a noob.

 

To me it's ok for the faces to be covered, or blurred or blacked out across the eyes I find I can get a feel for a lady based on how she presents herself in the photo so not seeing her face is ok.

[Sweet Emily J 172062]

Interesting topic.

 

I completely understand all the reasons why ladies choose not to show their faces and I respect everyone's own choices to live and operate as they see fit for their own situation, since everyone's circumstances are different.

 

For me, I am completely "out" about what I do. Everyone in my life who matters, knows what I do. And I don't hide it from people I meet. My face was already "out there" from some amateur adult stuff I did when I was younger, so when I first started this, I didn't really feel a real need to hide my identity. I know that what goes on the internet is there for life, but it really doesn't bother me. Since my family knows, and respects my choices and love me for me, and I don't have children, and don't want any ever, I am free to live my life any way I want.

 

I don't really understand about the facial recognition thing or how it relates to this. I mean, I understand the technology, but don't really get why US border services would do that to random innocent people crossing the border, however it doesn't surprise me at all. But in any event, I was already banned from the states several years ago for something completely unrelated to this (a really stupid thing when I was 19). I even bought an all-inclusive trip to Vegas last winter, thinking that after all these years, my federal pardon would be enough to allow me to cross, but nope, it wasn't. So fuck them. I have no interest in going to the United States ever again in my life, so that is not a concern at all for me, personally.

 

I also feel like being 100% open with people about my profession, and not hiding my face, this is my small personal contribution to the fight against "stigma" we face. At this point, I have no interest in attending rallies, protests or meetings, but I do think that it is important for us to be heard and give an identity to the modern day prostitute. We are not the creepy skanky diseased, drug addicted scumbags that the media often portrays us as; we are normal people. By me being open with family, friends, and especially strangers, it shows a range of people that we are just regular women. We are mothers, daughters, nieces, friends, and we don't look any different than they do. We have just chosen a different type of work! I really like this job, and plan to be in it for as long as I do enjoy it, so I am putting everything I have into it, no holds barred. If the day came that for some reason I wanted to leave this profession, I could quite seamlessly slip back into my previous career at any time, and because of the type of work I used to do, I am lucky enough that being an SP would have no effect over my ability to be successful at it.

 

One of my best friends from my teenage years, who I haven't spoken to in a few years texted me out of the blue the other day, with just the words "Emily J?". My heart skipped a beat and I laughed to myself. I guess he saw me online somewhere. I didn't know how he would react but it was a great conversation and the last thing he said was "If anyone messes with you, let me know and I'll set them straight!". :) LOL. So, I have come to accept and just assume that everyone knows. And that's fine because I heard a saying once that stuck with me.. "Those who mind, don't matter, and those who matter, don't mind." And I really believe in that.

 

I only have one life, and I am not going to live it on other people's terms. I've always strived to live a completely honest existence and it's a good feeling. :)

[Cute0aza0Button 21399]

I show my face in my pictures. I guess to me it's a pride thing. I'm not ashamed of what I do. I don't go around telling everyone what I do however, I don't hide it either. I'm hoping to see a day where it is legal. Until then showing my face is my way of owning what I do. It might help that I've done all sorts of modelling in the past (including fetish stuff). This isn't a huge leap for me lol

 

I understand why others don't and I respect that too. Everyone has different reasons and motivating factors. Personal choices should be respected - especially when so much is at stake

[lolaswift 287]

I think some does not show face because of family or does not want to be recognized when they are out.They could have a regular life out of this business , for transsexual is more easier because We are more brave and also we change from male to female or female to male AND our past is hiding somewhere.

Me, my self dont do any porn movies because of respect to my self and have to be careful for my future husband.

But some they do , its their choice and life.I hope everyone is happy any way

[SmartnSexy 2089]

I completely understand and respect the reasoning behind ladies not wanting to reveals their face. I know that some ladies don't mind privately sharing such a picture and so I will sometimes politely ask them directly, but won't push it if they refuse.

 

As for if its a deal breaker... Obviously not, FO's point is valid, there aren't enough SPs out there that show their faces for that to really be a viable option, especially where I am. However I do find that adding the face pics to be immensely helpful to my decision making process. If I'm being completely honest, face pics have helped sway me in both directions when I was stuck making a decision. Sometimes I would have otherwise arranged a meeting, but decided against it due to the face pics not being to my liking and other times when a girl whom I wouldn't have seen normally adds face pics I become enchanted and book something.

 

In general, from a purely customer perspective, I think face pics are a good thing as it allows me to make a more informed decision. Even when I decide against seeing someone in the end it will have saved me some money and her a potentially awkward session she could have spent with someone who does appreciate her look. Thinking on it, it does make one look rather shallow, but ultimately, I'm the one spending my hard earned money and so I think I'm entitled to my decision making process ;).

 

Brad, as soon as a lady offers to pay me for my time I'll start considering adding pics :P.

[Guest]

Good topic.

 

I am proud of what I do, however, I want to keep some privacy to myself. Although, everyone where I live now knows who I am and what I do, I am not interested in going into details about what I do with family and childhood friends. Do I live a little bit of a double life, sure but I am not ashamed of this. I take care of myself and do not burden the ones I care about the most. I have opportunities to better my life in this industry and I consider myself lucky to be able to take advantage of those opportunities, whether it be a better finical standing or better standing in society for example school, credit, ect, ect.

 

I want to separate my escorting life from my real life, to do this I leave my face out. Although, I have fun doing this right now, I might not want to do this forever. Once pictures/videos are online they can never really fully be taken off. This is so much fun and so beneficial, however, I do not want it to be a future hindrance for me for example not being able to get a job. Maybe in ten years or so we can use our escort business as a resume to prove how reliable we are as workers, however, there's still a stigma we still face and when I'm still uncertain on how long I would like to take part in this industry, I still have to be cautious.

 

This is just how I feel about this and I am talking for myself and not any other escort on this topic.

[1963Kennedy 10698]

face pictures are not a deal breaker for me altho I do like to see a ladies hair.

[CristyCurves 169032]

Thank you Meghan for this thread as I didn't know about the border issues. Good to know as I've considered being a driver/transporter for some of the rescue groups who bring dogs in from the states. I'd like to be completely open about this lifestyle as I certainly am not ashamed of it but I have people in my life that I love and know would be hurt to know I'm doing this, sadly enough, and don't want to involve them so I keep some anonymity. There are some smart asses out there who'll say you must be ugly if you don't show your face but one can't live on others opinions or expectations. We all have to do what we are comfortable with and I am comfortable showing my naked body, anyways, by the time I finish with this it'll probably be unrecognizable anyways, lol!!

[Malika Fantasy 144625]

I show my face on my pictures, well mostly.

I don't have any shame about what I do, and anyways it's not like I am not easy recognize with bright blue and pink hair and rather unique tattoos.

If people recognize me online...well they were actually looking for it.

Plus I already do some nude modelling, so this is not much more of a stretch

[Guest Miss Jane TG]

For t-girls it is almost the norm rather that the exception to show their face. But once a person chose to cross the gender line, then all the boundaries of the society are broken! There is a legitimate reason why they do this as they have to prove their case first. With genetic girls there is an assumption which makes a difference between the two cases.

 

You will be surprised how many men out there who are surfing the net and looking around. At times, it is actually flattering, but at others it could be very stressful for someone with a thin skin.

 

There is one trick that you can do where you can show a face pic and very few would actually recognize you in real life! A very professional artist can Photoshop the pictures in a way that slightly obscure the facial features yet at the same time the potential client can get an idea of how you look!

[shutterclick 566]

Meaghan from the quy's perspective and also having photographed some of the beautiful ladies of CERB I understand the very valid reasons for not showing the face. Missing the face would not stop me from checking out a potential SP. I rely on both recommendations and more importantly chat sessions to get an understanding if we will be compatible together. A well composed photograph does not have to show the face to be erotic.

[nntsci 11076]

I totally understand the need for privacy and understand why you gals cover you face or hide it. I prefer to be able to see a gals face, but its not a deal breaker. Anyway, Its kind of fun to meet a gal for the first time and finally see what she really looks like.

 

Its funny I showed a picture of a escort to a friend and she reacted negatively to the missing head -- something along the line of interpreting it as dehumanizing the gal or objectifying her. It was funny. I explained the missing head is entirely for privacy (and safety).

[steveyK 4311]

Gentlemen, do not ask somone to reveal their face if they do not advertise with face pics! Simple as that! The previous posts have all indicated good reasons for not doing so. YMMV goes for just about anything on your date, including the face of the person. The best advice is research, so do your research, book, see her, and if you like her, book again, if not ?

[Guest]

I think that is really brave for some women to go online with their face. I think it is giving a lot out. I also wonder how people feel about pictures and videos of a sexual nature. I'm sorry but I'm a little on the fence about these. Although, I'm all for a woman being liberal with their sexuality, I wonder if this can hurt the woman if she wants to get a job or even her personal private life. I guess I would like to read about the opinion of those who have chosen to do this. As fortunate one has expressed, all I hope for is that those who do this are happy about their choices and are fully aware that once these videos/pictures are online they can not be taken down.

[olderguy 5797]

Nice to see your pretty face if that works for you, but certainly not a deterrent to contacting you if you don't :)

[nntsci 11076]

I do prefer to see a gals face, but respect her privacy.

 

I prefer to see a picture where the face is hidden by her hair, a hat, her arm, or in shadows. I'm not fond of fuzzy pictures where the face is blurred. My eyes will keep trying to focus and I'll get a head ache.

 

Here some examples of images I really like where her head is vsible, but the face is not shown. Her privacy is protected, but you get a better sense of the ladies overall appearance. This lady uses a hat to hide her face. So the viewer sees her beautiful hair, but no details of her head.

 

http://www.torontopassions.com/spdir/opensp/id/1283453233e6ec826fbb854e06be1bc4938421fa43.

 

This image of Grace Miller from GOE uses shadows to hide her face.

 

 

 

This photo of Sophie, also from GOE uses her hair to hide her face. I can still she those kissable lips, but not enough of her face to recognize her from her photograph.

 

 

That's my view anyway.

[Studio 110 by Sophia 150333]

I am looking to find out how people feel about face pics. More important, for those that choose not to show their face, is this a deal breaker?

 

I don't show my face on the internet or otherwise - ever. Even a self I send from my phone. There are many reasons, firstly is that I love going to the States, and they use facial recognition. If they are able to show that I am an escort, they will deny entry and ban me from entering ever again. I also have family that I choose not to let them know what I do.

 

I have worried about everything from my pic being blasted all over the internet, to my own personal safety. I don't live in a large city, people know everyone where I live, and if they saw my face on an ad or website, they would know right away what I do, but I wouldn't know that they know what I do, until they do something.

 

I have no problems with those that show their face. They are amazingly beautiful and brave in my opinion.

 

What is your opinion?

 

It is all about your OWN predicament and what you are intending to do with your choice as an SP.

 

I have represented many nice, honest and lovely women that just need require more discretion and privacy then some of the other ladies.

Women that are in transition. Like changing cities, or leaving a relationship behind, your home, your job. This sometimes is WHY we wont show face pics.

 

Also, why not to getting to know us more by learning about what kind of girl we are, what do really have to offer? Are you attracted with my personality...or just a body, then a face?

 

 

At times, we need to have our identity more protected then others.

 

I CHOOSE to show my face, as I have myself open to the people in my life that need to know my lifestyle. I have also legitimately established my business. I do not have a secrete life to protect.

[Guest webothscore]

Great topic. While it could very well be a bonus, certainly not a deal breaker as I respect people's choices. To varying degrees, everyone has their reasons.

[Strokin' 696]

By no means a deal maker or breaker for me.

 

I understand a ladies choice for descretion. For some its a short term job while going to school or some other reason. Once a face photo hits the internet it could follow the lady around for long time after her career as a SP comes to an end. Remember there are a lot of people out there who are much more closed minded when it comes to hobbying. I would hate to think a lady posted a face picture today and 5 years down the road she is over looked for a job because of her time as a SP.

 

Its a personal choice.